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10 Things Only Step-Siblings Can Relate To

10 Things Only Step-Siblings Can Relate To

When your parents first remarried, you could never imagine sharing your life with a step-sibling. Now, you can’t imagine life without them. Here are a few things that only individuals with step-siblings can relate to:

You know what it is like to not share the same childhood

Acquiring a new sibling means that you have a lot of catching up to do, since you did not share a childhood. Photos help a lot and so do home videos. It’s surprising, but after a while you get to know each others’ pasts so well that you often forget that you did not grow up under the same roof.

You understand the hardship of constantly having to explain your blended family to everyone

Introducing your new family can be no easy matter. You hate having to explain that your parents remarried and that you have step-siblings now, because to you they simply feel like your biological family. It gets even harder if both parents remarry. It often involves drawing diagrams and using nearby objects to describe your current family situation.

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You deal with a constantly changing number of people at your house

The number of people in your house is always in flux, since all the children rotate between different sets of parents. When you’re at your mom’s house you have three siblings, but when you are at your dad’s it is back down to only you and your sister. It’s confusing to constantly switch family dynamics, but on the plus side it always keeps life interesting.

You get to have the older/younger sibling you’ve always wanted

Deep down you always wanted to have an older sister to steal clothes from and ask all your boy questions. Your wish came true when your mom remarried and you acquired a wise older sister that you would not trade for the world.

Your holidays are a bit more complicated

The holidays will never be simple, but then again when are they ever? Dividing your time between two families can be anything but calm, but on the bright side at least you get double the presents and two holiday feasts.

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You make alliances with your parents during their fights

Fights between your mom and dad are bound to happen, and it’s hard for step-children to not take sides with their own parent. Your mom is used to doing something one way, but your step-dad does not always agree. You feel automatically inclined to defend your mom, even if you do not completely agree with her.

Your birth order gets thrown out the window

You have been the oldest sister to your younger brother for as long as you can remember. That is, until your dad remarried. Now you’re the middle child, and that’s taken a long time to come to terms with.

Your chores became a whole lot more complex

Chores are never an easy thing to assign, but doling out who does what in a blended family what can be a chore in itself. On top of everything else, there’s also the task of combining two different families’ ideas of how chores need to be carried out.

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You know evil step-sisters (and brothers) only exist in fairy tales

Blame it on Cinderella, but step-siblings have a bad rap. The reality is that your new siblings are a whole new support team that has your back no matter what.

You know it takes some time getting used to sharing your mom or dad

One of the hardest parts about having a blended family is learning to share your own mom or dad with your new step-siblings. Over the years it gets easier as you become closer and you could not imagine anyone else as your family.

Step-siblings can create a complex family dynamic, but you know that in the end there is no one you would rather have as your sisters and brothers. After all, you know that family is not defined by blood, but rather those who you could not live without.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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