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The Single Dad’s Guide to Hair Styles for Girls

The Single Dad’s Guide to Hair Styles for Girls

There seems to be a lingering stereotype that single fathers are hopeless when it comes to styling their daughters’ hair for school, and special occasions. However, the truth is that mother’s aren’t the only ones with an artistic flair for beauty. Take Greg Wickherst, for example — a single father in Pueblo, Colorado who turned to a cosmetology department at a college for help when he realized he didn’t have a clue how to manage his daughter’s quickly-growing hair.

His position as an admissions representative at the college made it easier for him to reach out for help mastering the simple and smile-inducing styles that little girls love to wear. Now, he’s a Facebook success — known as “the hair dad” for his creativity in coming up with new styles for his daughter, Izzy. If you want to avoid becoming the clueless dad when it comes to hairstyles for your daughter, the following simple styles and tips could help to make you a hair hero.

1. The Twisted Flip Tail

A wonderfully simple hairstyle for young girls with medium to long hair, the twisted flip tail offers a great look regardless of whether your daughter has straight, curly, or wavy locks. All you’ll need as a paddle brush or comb, and a little patience – as it may take you a couple of tries to get everything right. This elegant look is a twist on the casual flip tail that involves hooking the length of your daughter’s ponytail through a hole in the hair above her scrunchie or hair band.

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Gather your daughter’s hair into a low ponytail (near the nape of her neck) and push the hairband down the ponytail. Make a hole in the hair above the hairband and flip the bottom of the ponytail through – you’re done!

2. The Traditional French Braid

When it comes to pretty and simple hairstyles for little girls, it’s tough to go wrong with the classics. In the nineties, the French braid was the peak of fashion for girls, and it continues to be a popular choice today — particularly for young girls who want a secure and attractive way of keeping their hair out of the way. To start, you’ll need clean, dry, and tangle-free hair, then gather a small chunk of hair at the center top of your child’s head. Separate this chunk into three even strands, and start a traditional braid, taking the right strand and placing it between the two others, then the left, and so on. As you go, you should add more hair from the right side of the hair into the right strand, and the left hand of the hair into the left strand.

This braid is great for anyone with long enough hair to make it work, however if your daughter has layering then the style may not look as smooth. Keep in mind that this is a great style for young athletes, as your daughter won’t have to worry about clips, headbands, or bobby pins to keep her hair in place!

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3. Triple Plait

If the French braid seems a little too complex for you when you’re first starting out as a single-dad stylist, there is a sneaky work around available. The triple braid is a simpler and often easier to accomplish than the French braid. All you need to do is make a braid out of the hairs on the upper part of the head, then fasten it with a tie at the bottom. Then, gather the hair in the middle of the back of the head, place the initial plait in the middle, and weave it together to form another plait. Repeat the process until all of the hair is braided, then unfasten the individual braids and tie them together at the bottom of the larger style.

4. Ballerina Twisted Buns

This style is a little more complicated than some others, and it may take a couple of tries to get it right. Buns are a great way to bring your little girl a quality of sophistication, while keeping their hair out of their face and eyes. However, for a high bun to work well, your daughter will need longer hair. A good tip to follow if you choose to secure the bun with bobby pins, is that the pins should be pushed towards the hair tie, rather than the head. This way, you’ll have a secure style, without hurting your daughter’s scalp.

For a softer look, start by parting the hair into two sections in the middle of the head, front to back, then gather the hair up so that you have two high pony tails. Twist the ponytails together tightly, and spiral the twists down around the hair tie and secure them with pins.

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5. Bow-Shaped Bun

Finally, here’s an especially cute and simple hairstyle for any daughter; the bow-shaped bun involves gathering the hair into a ponytail at the top of the head, and wrapping a hair tie around it once. Twist the hair tie around the ponytail again, and don’t pull the hair all the way through the tie, instead leaving a loop. Separate the resulting bun into half and smooth everything out into a bow shape.

This is one of the simplest ways to create a “special occasion” look for your child, and it’s especially good for little girls with medium to long hair.

Don’t Forget the Rules

Remember, regardless of which styles you choose to try, there are a few simple tips and tricks that can make styling your daughter’s hair simpler. For instance, getting rid of knotted bed hair is the first step, so take a comb or brush and gently remove every tangle before you try to create a braid or bun.

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Another good idea is to have a spray-bottle in hand, as many fathers find it easier to place hair into buns and ponytails when the hair is slightly damp. Just mist the hair lightly though, as you don’t want your daughter trudging to school with a drenched hairdo.

Finally, don’t be afraid to slip in clips and bobby pins where necessary. Just be very gentle when you do so, as your daughter is sure to let you know if you catch her scalp or pull too tight. This will be a learning experience for both of you, so be prepared to grow and improve over time.

Do you have any simple hairstyling tips? Let us know in the comments below!

Featured photo credit: Shuttterstock via image.shutterstock.com

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Published on January 30, 2019

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

In roughly 60 percent of two-parent households with children under the age of 18, both parents work full time. But who takes time off work when the kids are sick in your house? And if you are a manager, how do you react when a man says he needs time to take his baby to the pediatrician?

The sad truth is, the default in many companies and families is to value the man’s work over the woman’s—even when there is no significant difference in their professional obligations or compensation. This translates into stereotypes in the workplace that women are the primary caregivers, which can negatively impact women’s success on the job and their upward mobility.

According to a Pew Research Center analysis of long-term time-use data (1965–2011), fathers in dual-income couples devote significantly less time than mothers do to child care.[1] Dads are doing more than twice as much housework as they used to (from an average of about four hours per week to about 10 hours), but there is still a significant imbalance.

This is not just an issue between spouses; it’s a workplace culture issue. In many offices, it is still taboo for dads to openly express that they have family obligations that need their attention. In contrast, the assumption that moms will be on the front lines of any family crisis is one that runs deep.

Consider an example from my company. A few years back, one of our team members joined us for an off-site meeting soon after returning from maternity leave. Not even two hours into her trip, her husband called to say that the baby had been crying nonstop. While there was little our colleague could practically do to help with the situation, this call was clearly unsettling, and the result was that her attention was divided for the rest of an important business dinner.

This was her first night away since the baby’s birth, and I know that her spouse had already been on several business trips before this event. Yet, I doubt she called him during his conferences to ask child-care questions. Like so many moms everywhere, she was expected to figure things out on her own.

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The numbers show that this story is far from the exception. In another Pew survey, 47 percent of dual-income parents agreed that the moms take on more of the work when a child gets sick.[2] In addition, 39 percent of working mothers said they had taken a significant amount of time off from work to care for their child compared to just 24 percent of working fathers. Mothers are also more likely than fathers (27 percent to 10 percent) to say they had quit their job at some point for family reasons.

Before any amazing stay-at-home-dads post an angry rebuttal comment, I want to be very clear that I am not judging how families choose to divide and conquer their personal and professional responsibilities; that’s 100 percent their prerogative. Rather, I am taking aim at the culture of inequity that persists even when spouses have similar or identical professional responsibilities. This is an important issue for all of us because we are leaving untapped business and human potential on the table.

What’s more, I think my fellow men can do a lot about this. For those out there who still privately think that being a good dad just means helping out mom, it’s time to man up. Stop expecting working partners—who have similar professional responsibilities—to bear the majority of the child-care responsibilities as well.

Consider these ways to support your working spouse:

1. Have higher expectations for yourself as a father; you are a parent, not a babysitter.

Know who your pediatrician is and how to reach him or her. Have a back-up plan for transportation and emergency coverage.

Don’t simply expect your partner to manage all these invisible tasks on her own. Parenting takes effort and preparation for the unexpected.

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As in other areas of life, the way to build confidence is to learn by doing. Moms aren’t born knowing how to do this stuff any more than dads are.

2. Treat your partner the way you’d want to be treated.

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a man on a business trip say to his wife on a call something to the effect of, “I am in the middle of a meeting. What do you want me to do about it?”

However, when the tables are turned, men often make that same call at the first sign of trouble.

Distractions like this make it difficult to focus and engage with work, which perpetuates the stereotype that working moms aren’t sufficiently committed.

When you’re in charge of the kids, do what she would do: Figure it out.

3. When you need to take care of your kids, don’t make an excuse that revolves around your partner’s availability.

This implies that the children are her first priority and your second.

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I admit I have been guilty in the past of telling clients, “I have the kids today because my wife had something she could not move.” What I should have said was, “I’m taking care of my kids today.”

Why is it so hard for men to admit they have personal responsibilities? Remember that you are setting an example for your sons and daughters, and do the right thing.

4. As a manager, be supportive of both your male and female colleagues when unexpected situations arise at home.

No one likes or wants disruptions, but life happens, and everyone will face a day when the troubling phone call comes from his sitter, her school nurse, or even elderly parents.

Accommodating personal needs is not a sign of weakness as a leader. Employees will be more likely to do great work if they know that you care about their personal obligations and family—and show them that you care about your own.

5. Don’t keep score or track time.

At home, it’s juvenile to get into debates about who last changed a diaper or did the dishes; everyone needs to contribute, but the big picture is what matters. Is everyone healthy and getting enough sleep? Are you enjoying each other’s company?

In business, too, avoid the trap of punching a clock. The focus should be on outcomes and performance rather than effort and inputs. That’s the way to maintain momentum toward overall goals.

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The Bottom Line

To be clear, I recognize that a great many working dads are doing a terrific job both on the home front and in their professional lives. My concern is that these standouts often aren’t visible to their colleagues; they intentionally or inadvertently let their work as parents fly under the radar. Dads need to be open and honest about family responsibilities to change perceptions in the workplace.

The question “How do you balance it all?” should not be something that’s just asked of women. Frankly, no one can answer that question. Juggling a career and parental responsibilities is tough. At times, really tough.

But it’s something that more parents should be doing together, as a team. This can be a real bonus for the couple relationship as well, because nothing gets in the way of good partnership faster than feelings of inequity.

On the plus side, I can tell you that parenting skills really do get better with practice—and that’s great for people of both sexes. I think our cultural expectations that women are the “nurturers” and men are the “providers” needs to evolve. Expanding these definitions will open the doors to richer contributions from everyone, because women can and should be both—and so should men.

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