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The Single Dad’s Guide to Hair Styles for Girls

The Single Dad’s Guide to Hair Styles for Girls

There seems to be a lingering stereotype that single fathers are hopeless when it comes to styling their daughters’ hair for school, and special occasions. However, the truth is that mother’s aren’t the only ones with an artistic flair for beauty. Take Greg Wickherst, for example — a single father in Pueblo, Colorado who turned to a cosmetology department at a college for help when he realized he didn’t have a clue how to manage his daughter’s quickly-growing hair.

His position as an admissions representative at the college made it easier for him to reach out for help mastering the simple and smile-inducing styles that little girls love to wear. Now, he’s a Facebook success — known as “the hair dad” for his creativity in coming up with new styles for his daughter, Izzy. If you want to avoid becoming the clueless dad when it comes to hairstyles for your daughter, the following simple styles and tips could help to make you a hair hero.

1. The Twisted Flip Tail

A wonderfully simple hairstyle for young girls with medium to long hair, the twisted flip tail offers a great look regardless of whether your daughter has straight, curly, or wavy locks. All you’ll need as a paddle brush or comb, and a little patience – as it may take you a couple of tries to get everything right. This elegant look is a twist on the casual flip tail that involves hooking the length of your daughter’s ponytail through a hole in the hair above her scrunchie or hair band.

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Gather your daughter’s hair into a low ponytail (near the nape of her neck) and push the hairband down the ponytail. Make a hole in the hair above the hairband and flip the bottom of the ponytail through – you’re done!

2. The Traditional French Braid

When it comes to pretty and simple hairstyles for little girls, it’s tough to go wrong with the classics. In the nineties, the French braid was the peak of fashion for girls, and it continues to be a popular choice today — particularly for young girls who want a secure and attractive way of keeping their hair out of the way. To start, you’ll need clean, dry, and tangle-free hair, then gather a small chunk of hair at the center top of your child’s head. Separate this chunk into three even strands, and start a traditional braid, taking the right strand and placing it between the two others, then the left, and so on. As you go, you should add more hair from the right side of the hair into the right strand, and the left hand of the hair into the left strand.

This braid is great for anyone with long enough hair to make it work, however if your daughter has layering then the style may not look as smooth. Keep in mind that this is a great style for young athletes, as your daughter won’t have to worry about clips, headbands, or bobby pins to keep her hair in place!

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3. Triple Plait

If the French braid seems a little too complex for you when you’re first starting out as a single-dad stylist, there is a sneaky work around available. The triple braid is a simpler and often easier to accomplish than the French braid. All you need to do is make a braid out of the hairs on the upper part of the head, then fasten it with a tie at the bottom. Then, gather the hair in the middle of the back of the head, place the initial plait in the middle, and weave it together to form another plait. Repeat the process until all of the hair is braided, then unfasten the individual braids and tie them together at the bottom of the larger style.

4. Ballerina Twisted Buns

This style is a little more complicated than some others, and it may take a couple of tries to get it right. Buns are a great way to bring your little girl a quality of sophistication, while keeping their hair out of their face and eyes. However, for a high bun to work well, your daughter will need longer hair. A good tip to follow if you choose to secure the bun with bobby pins, is that the pins should be pushed towards the hair tie, rather than the head. This way, you’ll have a secure style, without hurting your daughter’s scalp.

For a softer look, start by parting the hair into two sections in the middle of the head, front to back, then gather the hair up so that you have two high pony tails. Twist the ponytails together tightly, and spiral the twists down around the hair tie and secure them with pins.

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5. Bow-Shaped Bun

Finally, here’s an especially cute and simple hairstyle for any daughter; the bow-shaped bun involves gathering the hair into a ponytail at the top of the head, and wrapping a hair tie around it once. Twist the hair tie around the ponytail again, and don’t pull the hair all the way through the tie, instead leaving a loop. Separate the resulting bun into half and smooth everything out into a bow shape.

This is one of the simplest ways to create a “special occasion” look for your child, and it’s especially good for little girls with medium to long hair.

Don’t Forget the Rules

Remember, regardless of which styles you choose to try, there are a few simple tips and tricks that can make styling your daughter’s hair simpler. For instance, getting rid of knotted bed hair is the first step, so take a comb or brush and gently remove every tangle before you try to create a braid or bun.

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Another good idea is to have a spray-bottle in hand, as many fathers find it easier to place hair into buns and ponytails when the hair is slightly damp. Just mist the hair lightly though, as you don’t want your daughter trudging to school with a drenched hairdo.

Finally, don’t be afraid to slip in clips and bobby pins where necessary. Just be very gentle when you do so, as your daughter is sure to let you know if you catch her scalp or pull too tight. This will be a learning experience for both of you, so be prepared to grow and improve over time.

Do you have any simple hairstyling tips? Let us know in the comments below!

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Published on November 30, 2018

Signs of Postnatal Depression And What to Do When It Strikes

Signs of Postnatal Depression And What to Do When It Strikes

Postpartum depression (PPD) strikes about 15% of women around childbirth.[1] Moreover, this mood disorder is estimated to affect 1% to 26% of new fathers.[2] The causes of which are thought to be linked to hormonal changes, genetics, previous mental illness and the obvious change in circumstance.

The stigma of mental health – with or without support from family members and health professionals – often deters women from seeking help for their PPD. In this article, I will show you 10 ways to begin overcoming PPD.

Symptoms of Postnatal Depression

Postnatal depression is defined as depressive disorder, beginning anytime within pregnancy up to the first year of the child’s life. The symptoms of post natal depression are the same as those of depression. In order to receive a diagnosis from the doctor, 5 symptoms must be shown over a two week period. The symptoms and criteria are:

  • Feelings of sadness, emptiness, or hopelessness, nearly every day, for most of the day or the observation of a depressed mood made by others
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in activities
  • Weight loss or decreased appetite
  • Changes in sleep patterns
  • Feelings of restlessness
  • Loss of energy
  • Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
  • Loss of concentration or increased indecisiveness
  • Recurrent thoughts of death, with or without plans of suicide
  • Lack of interest or pleasure in usual activities
  • Low libido
  • Fatigue, decreased energy and motivation
  • Poor self-care
  • Social withdrawal
  • Insomnia or excessive sleep
  • Diminished ability to make decisions and think clearly
  • Lack of concentration and poor memory
  • Fear that you can not care for the baby or fear of the baby
  • Worry about harming self, baby, or partner

Should you, a friend or your partner be showing any of these signs, I recommend you to seek medical advice.

Causes of Post Natal Depression

It is worth noting here that there is a difference between what is commonly known as ‘The Baby Blues’ and post natal depression.

Postpartum blues, commonly known as “baby blues,” is a transient postpartum mood disorder characterized by milder depressive symptoms than postpartum depression. This type of depression can occur in up to 80% of all mothers following delivery. The Baby Blues should clear within 14 days, if not it is likely an indicator of something more in depth.

It is not known exactly what causes post natal depression, however there are some correlating factors. These factors have a close correlation and haven’t been shown to cause PPD:

  • Prenatal depression or anxiety
  • A personal or family history of depression
  • Moderate to severe premenstrual symptoms
  • Stressful life events experienced during pregnancy
  • Maternity blues
  • Birth-related psychological trauma
  • Birth-related physical trauma
  • Previous stillbirth or miscarriage
  • Formula-feeding rather than breast-feeding
  • Cigarette smoking
  • Low self-esteem
  • Childcare or life stress
  • Low social support
  • Poor marital relationship or single marital status
  • Low socioeconomic status
  • Infant temperament problems/colic
  • Unplanned/unwanted pregnancy
  • Elevated prolactin levels
  • Oxytocin depletion

One of the strongest predictors of paternal PPD is having a partner who has PPD, with fathers developing PPD 50% of the time when their female partner has PPD. [3]

Ways to Overcome Post Natal Depression

1. Seek Medical Help

As knowledge of PPD grows, more and more physicians are becoming aware of the indicators and risk factors. This means that health care providers are looking for signs as early as their first prenatal care visit.

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If you are at risk, letting your provider know early in your pregnancy means that you’ll be given extra support and care throughout the process. It is best to seek treatment as soon as possible.

If it’s detected late or not at all, the condition may worsen. Experts have also found that children can be affected by a parent’s untreated PPD. Such children may be more prone to sleep disturbances, impaired cognitive development, insecurity, and frequent temper tantrums.

2. Therapy

This is the first line of defence against post natal depression and will commonly be prescribed alongside medication. Around 90% of post natal depression cases in women are treated with a combination of the two treatments.

You don’t need to do anything special to prepare. Your counselor will ask questions about your life, and it’s important you answer honestly. You won’t be judged for what you tell, and whatever you talk about will be just between the two of you. Your counselor will teach you how to look at some things differently, and how to change certain habits to help yourself feel better.

Therapy is personalized for everyone, but women in counselling for postpartum depression often discuss topics including; who you’re feeling, your behaviour, your actions and your life. (If you need immediate support please call the San Diego Access and Crisis Line at (888) 724-7240. The toll-free call is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.)

3. Medication

There have been a few studies of medications for treating PPD, however, the sample sizes were small, thus evidence is generally weak.

Some evidence suggests that mothers with PPD will respond similarly to people with major depressive disorder. There is evidence which suggests that selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are effective treatment for PPD.

However, a recent study has found that adding sertraline, an SSRI, to psychotherapy does not appear to confer any additional benefit. Therefore, it is not completely clear which antidepressants are most effective for treatment of PPD.

There are currently no antidepressants that are FDA approved for use during lactation. Most antidepressants are excreted in breast milk. However, there are limited studies showing the effects and safety of these antidepressants on breastfed babies.

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4. Communication with Partner

Don’t blame yourself, your partner, close friends or relatives. Life is tough at this time, and tiredness and irritability can lead to quarrels.

‘Having a go’ at your partner can weaken your relationship when it needs to be at its strongest. It can be a huge relief to talk to someone understanding.

By spending time with your partner doing activities that you both enjoy, like going for a walk, can really help. This change of state, from moving location, can significantly elevate mood whilst providing ‘neutral ground’ in which to open up communication.

Be honest with your partner and show ways in which they can support you best through this time, even if it’s just talking or letting you have time to go take a shower.

5. Self Care and Rest

Don’t try to be ‘superwoman’. Try to do less and make sure that you don’t get over-tired. It’s common that women are the experts at ‘being busy’ and ‘doing it all’.

Rest whilst the baby is sleeping, and really take time to prioritise yourself. Throughout life, if you’re constantly giving out energy, you will be left feeling unbalanced. It’s important to become aware of one’s energy and making sure to give yourself energy first, before giving out is imperative.

Your body has just been through the trauma of the birth, which is very stressful. It therefore needs time to recover so taking time to yourself is important. Things as simple as a cup of tea, or shower or listening to music will really help.

6. Supplementation (especially DHA)

St John’s Wort is a herbal remedy available from chemists. There is evidence that it is effective in mild to moderate depression. It seems to work in much the same way as some antidepressants, but some people find that it has fewer side-effects.

One problem is that St John’s Wort can interfere with the way other medications work. If you are taking other medication, you should discuss it with your doctor. This is very important if you are taking the oral contraceptive pill. St John’s Wort might stop your pill working. This can lead to an unplanned pregnancy.

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It is also worth noting that fish oil (containing DHA) is being shown to correlate with lower instances of PPD. DHA consumption during pregnancy — at levels that are reasonably attained from foods — has the potential to decrease symptoms of postpartum depression,” conclude study researchers led by Michelle Price Judge, PhD, RD, a faculty member at the University of Connecticut School of Nursing.

7. Movement

Before starting any exercise program, you should consult with your doctor and find a fully qualified pre and post natal specialist. That being said, there is plenty of movement that can be done prior to ‘hitting the gym’, such as walking.

Not only does being outside positively benefit you by getting some fresh air and vitamin D. The same is said for your baby, who will likely sleep better once they’ve been outside. Exercise gets your endorphins going, which helps alleviate depression symptoms, It can also get you focused on something for yourself. In an analysis of data from 1996 to 2016, researchers discovered that moms who stayed physically active after birth experienced fewer depressive symptoms.[4] In contrast, one study found women who led a more sedentary lifestyle were, in general, more likely to experience postpartum depression in the first place. [5]

The type of workout doesn’t matter much. Yoga for pregnant women, stretching, and cardio are essentially equal in terms of making you feel better.

8. Socializing and Support Groups

Do go to local groups for new mothers or postnatal support groups. Your health visitor can tell you about groups in your area. You may not feel like going to these groups if your are depressed.

See if someone can go with you. You may find the support of other new mothers helpful. You may find some women who feel the same way as you do.

9. Accept Help

Some cultures believe that the symptoms of postpartum depression or similar illnesses can be avoided through protective rituals in the period after birth. Chinese women participate in a ritual that is known as “doing the month” (confinement) in which they spend the first 30 days after giving birth resting in bed, while the mother or mother-in-law takes care of domestic duties and childcare.

Whilst this may seem extreme, it’s worth noting that being able to accept help from your friends, partner and family can be extremely beneficial.

10. Avoid Smoking, Drink and Drugs

Which may seem common sense, however you may be tempted by the short term ‘fix’.

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Don’t use alcohol or drugs. They may make you feel better for a short time, but it doesn’t last. Alcohol and drugs can make depression worse. They are also bad for your physical health.

Final Thoughts

Most women will get better without any treatment within 3 to 6 months. One in four mothers with PND are still depressed when their child is one-year-old. However, this can mean a lot of suffering.

PND can spoil the experience of new motherhood. It can strain your relationship with your baby and partner. You may not look after your baby, or yourself, as well as you would when you are well.

PND can affect your child’s development and behaviour even after the depression has ended. So the shorter it lasts, the better.

Sometimes there is an obvious reason for PND, but not always. You may feel distressed, or guilty for feeling like this, as you expected to be happy about having a baby. However, PND can happen to anyone and it is not your fault.

It’s never too late to seek help. Even if you have been depressed for a while, you can get better. The help you need depends on how severe your illness is. Mild PND can be helped by increased support from family and friends.

Featured photo credit: Derek Thomson via unsplash.com

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