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The 15 Best Compliments You Could Ever Give/Receive

The 15 Best Compliments You Could Ever Give/Receive

You probably have received them and given them as well. They are compliments: expressions of praise or admiration.

Often compliments are centered around one’s physical appearance, body, clothing, hair, makeup, style. You might compliment a male co-worker on his new suit or a friend on the fragrance of her perfume. And while receiving these physical compliments can give you a quick ego boost, the most resounding and heartfelt compliments tend to focus on your character or the innate inner qualities you possess which make you unique!

Receiving a compliment which is spoken with sincerity always ramps up your “feel good” meter.  It demonstrates that another person values your qualities and ideas. But did you know that giving a compliment to someone else can be just as (or even more) powerful to you and create wonderful energy? The pure act of giving a compliment which is genuine boosts your own positivity. Why? Because you will make someone else feel good! That positive energy you just created will most likely be met with a smile or a “thank you”. Then you smile back.  Like attracts like. What a wonderful way to uplift someone’s day !

Here are 15 wonderful compliments to give or to receive:

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1. You are nothing less than special.

This compliment is one of my favorites and was spoken to me long ago  by a dear friend who holds my heart.  It implies that you are adored, loved and admired. Its simply beautiful.

2. You are one of a kind.

These words, when spoken in a positive light, imply that you are very unique, special and unlike others in one or many ways. You are being recognized exactly for that because you possess a noticeable good quality which many others do not. Your uniqueness is being recognized and honored.

3. You always make people smile.

A smile always seems to help in even some of the most despairing situations. These kind words shine your happy-go-lucky attitude and genuine desire to make others feel good. Smiles are contagious, so practice them often.

4. You are always there for me.

If you ever want to express your trust in someone and let her know she can count on you, then this compliment is the one to say. Offering dependability, accountability and a shoulder to lean on during challenges is always a good thing.

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5. You always see the bright side (of things).

Ah, this compliment is a telltale sign about your perspective and how you view and respond to circumstances which may not always be under your control.  Namely, you see the glass as “half full”. You exhibit a positive spirit and can always see the upside (benefits) in any situation.

6. You would make/you are a beautiful mother/father.

Partners often say this to one another when they are contemplating having a family or already have children.  It expresses the acknowledgment that they see kind, caring and loving “parenting” qualities in the other. It honors the giving spirit of a parent.

7. You always throw a great party.

Hosting a party entails a great deal of time, energy and work. If your friend consistently throws a wonderful gathering time and time again, then tell him so.  You are acknowledging his time, expense, social skills, and his uncanny ability to make his guests feel comfortable and allow them to enjoy themselves.

8. You are the best friend/mother/father/wife/husband/partner anyone could ask for.

This compliment could be said to almost anyone as long as its spoken with sincerity. It embodies friendship, care, trust and closeness. Being the “best” in anything means you rank #1!

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9. You never cease to amaze me (spoken in a positive light).

When you give this compliment to another, you are sharing your thoughts about his ability to persever, to be adventurous, or to be unique and consistent  in his actions. Perhaps he justs bowls you over with kindness. Whatever it is he does, he keeps finding ways to impress or astonish you.

10. You set such a great example for others.

If you are told this, be proud. You are exhibiting leadership qualities which others notice and for which you are commended. Not all people are great leaders so revel in someone taking notice of your values and your ability to motivate, inspire and guide others.

11. You raise the bar.

When you raise the bar, you are setting new (and higher) standards. If someone pays you this compliment, she is  implying that you are a high achiever not only able to do your best, but you set new (higher) levels of achievement for others to follow.

12. You always go the extra mile.

Say this to someone to express your acknowledgement that he exceeds the standards. He won’t accept doing “average”. He will go above and beyond what is required of him.

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13. You are always willing to lend a hand.

Express this compliment to friends, family or co-workers who are especially helpful. People who embrace this philothropic nature will go out of their way and perhaps accept personal sacrifices just in order to help someone in need. With their genuine desire to be accomodating and supporting,  they often do so unconditionally.

14. You walk the talk.

Yes, many people like to “talk the talk” but never “walk it”. This compliment signifies your “down to earth” attitude between your words/intentions and your actions. You say what you do and you do what you say. You have grit. You don’t pay lip service. You act in alignment with your intentions and your words.  Those who pay you this compliment believe you  are usually very dependable and have the ability to create much success in your life because you stand behind your words.

15. You have a heart of gold.

This is an oldie but goodie. Having a heart of gold (a precious metal) indicates you are kind, understanding, supportive and giving. Since gold is a rare metal, these words imply that the kindness you possess is rare like gold.

Know that the power of the intention and compliments you give is strong. Highlight other’s strengths, forgive their weaknesses. Accept others’ compliments with grace.

In the words of Dr. Steve Maraboli, “….I will sprinkle compliments and uplifting words wherever I go. I will do this knowing that my words are like seeds, and when they fall on fertile soil, a reflection of those seeds will grow into something greater.”

Featured photo credit: Carlos ZGZ via flickr.com

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Last Updated on April 11, 2019

How to Improve Communication Skills for Workplace Success

How to Improve Communication Skills for Workplace Success

Possessing strong communication skills will help you in every phase of your life. This is especially true in the workplace.

I have personally worked with several leaders who were masters of communication. A few were wonderful speakers who could tell a great story and get everyone in the room engaged. Those of us in attendance would walk away feeling inspired and eager to help with what came next. Others were very skilled at sharing a clear direction and job expectations.

I knew exactly what was expected of me and how to achieve my goals. This was the foundation of an energized and vibrant role I was in. What I have found is strong communication skills are incredibly helpful and sometimes critical in how well we perform at work.

Here we will take a look at how to improve communication skills for workplace success.

How Communication Skills Help Your Success

Strong communication skills pave the way for success in many ways. Let’s look at a few of the big ones.

Create a Positive Experience

Here are two examples of how well developed communication skills helps create a positive experience:

When I first moved to the city I now live in, I began a job search. Prior to my first live interview, I was told an address to go to. Upon arriving at the address provided, I drove around and around attempting to find the location. After 15 minutes of circling and looking for the address, I finally grabbed a parking spot and set out on foot.

What I discovered was the address was actually down an alley and only had the number over the door. No sign for the actual company. The person that gave me those very unclear directions provided a bad experience for me.

Had they communicated the directions to get there in a clear manner, my experience would have been much better. Instead the entire experience started off poorly and colored the entire meeting.

As a recruiter, I frequently provide potential candidates with information about a job I’m speaking to them about. In order to do this, I also provide a picture of the overall company, the group they might be joining, and how their role fits in and impacts the entire company.

Time and time again I have been told by candidates that I have provided the clearest picture of a company and role they have ever heard. They have a positive experience when I clearly communicate to them. Even when the position does not work out for them, often times they will want to stay in touch with me due to the open communication and beneficial experience they had during the interviewing process.

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Strong communication skills will provide a positive experience in virtually any interaction you have with someone.

Help Leadership Skills

It’s certainly a skill all its own to be able to lead others.

Being a mentor and guiding others towards success is a major hallmark of great leaders. Another characteristic of effective leaders is the ability to communicate clearly.

As I referenced above, having a leader who can plainly articulate the company’s mission and direction goes a really long way towards being the Captain of the boat that others want to follow. It’s like saying “here’s our destination and this is how we are going to get there” in a way that everyone can get on board with.

Another critical component of everyone helping to sail the boat in the right direction is knowing what your portion is all about. How are you helping the boat move towards its destination in the manner than is consistent with the leaders’ vision?

If you have a boss or a manager that can show you what it takes for not only you to be successful, but also how your performance helps the company’s success then you’ve got a winner. A boss with superior communication skills.

Build Better Teams

Most of us work in teams of some sort or another. During the course of my career, I have led teams up to 80 and also been an individual contributor.

In my individual contributor roles, I have been part of a larger team. Even if you are in business for yourself, you have to interact with others in one manner or another.

If you have strong communication skills, it helps to build better teams. This is true whether you are in an IT department with 100 other fellow programmers or if you own your own business and have customers or vendors you communicate with.

When you showcase your robust ability to communicate well with others while interacting with them, you are building a better team.

Now let’s jump in to how to improve communication skills to help you pave the way for your workplace success.

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How to Improve Communication Skills for Workplace Success

There are many tips, tricks, and techniques to improve communication skills. I don’t want to overwhelm you with too much information, so let’s focus on the things that will provide the biggest return on your time investment.

Most of these tips will be fairly easy to become aware of but will take time and effort to implement. So let’s go!

1. Listen

Ever heard the saying you have two ears and one mouth for a reason? If you haven’t, then here’s the reason:

Being a good listener is half the equation to being a good communicator.

People who have the ability to really listen to someone can then actually answer questions in a meaningful way. If you don’t make the effort to actively listen, then you are really doing yourself and the other person a disservice in the communication department.

Know that person who is chomping at the bit to open his or her mouth the second you stop talking? Don’t be that person. They haven’t listened to at least 1/2 of what you’ve said. Therefore the words that spill out of their mouth are going to be about 1/2 relevant to what you just said.

Listen to someone completely and be comfortable with short periods of silence. Work on your listening skills first and foremost.

2. Know Your Audience

Knowing your audience is another critical component to having strong communication skills. The way you interact with your manager should be different than how you interact with your kids. This isn’t to say you need to be a different person with everyone you interact with. Far from it.

Here is a good way to think about it:

Imagine using your the same choice of words and body language you use with your spouse while interacting with your boss. That puts things in a graphic light!

You want to ensure you are using the type of communication most relevant to your audience.

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3. Minimize

I have lunch with a business associate about 3 times a year. We’ve been talking for several years now about putting a business deal together.

He is one of those people that simply overwhelms others with a lot of words. Sometimes when I ask him a question, I get buried beneath such an avalanche of words that I’m more confused than when I asked the question. Needless to say this is most likely a large portion of why we never put the deal together.

Don’t be like my lunch business associate. The goal of talking to or communicating with someone is to share actual information. The goal is not to confuse someone, it’s to provide clarity in many cases.

State what needs to be stated as succinctly as possible. That doesn’t mean you can’t have some pleasant conversation about the weather too.

The point is to not create such an onslaught of words and information that the other person walks away more confused than when they started.

4. Over Communicate

So this probably sounds completely counter intuitive to what I just wrote about minimizing your communication. It seems like it might be but it’s not.

What I mean by over communicating is ensuring that the other person understands the important parts of what you are sharing with them. This can be done simply yet effectively. Here’s a good example:

Most companies have open enrollment for benefits for the employees in the fall. The company I work for has open enrollment from November 1 to 15. The benefits department will send out a communication to all employees around October 1st, letting them know open enrollment is right around the corner and any major changes that year. There’s also a phone number and email for people to contact them with any questions.

Two weeks later, we all get a follow up email with basically the same information. We get a 3rd communication the week before open enrollment and another one 1 day before it starts.

Finally we get 2 emails during enrollment reminding us when open enrollment ends.

There’s minimal information, it’s more of a reminder. This is effective over communication.

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5. Body Language

The final critical component to how to improve communication skills for workplace success is body language. This is something most of us have heard about before but, a reminder is probably a good idea.

When I am in a meeting with someone I am comfortable with, I tend to kind of slouch down in my chair and cross my arms. When I catch myself doing this, I sit up straight and uncross my arms. I remember that crossing arms can many times be interpreted as a sign of disagreement or conflict.

In general, the best rule of thumb is to work towards having open body language whenever possible at work. This means relaxing your posture, not crossing your arms, and looking people in the eye when speaking with them.

When you are speaking in front of others, stand up straight and speak in a clear voice. This will convey confidence in your words.

Conclusion

Possessing strong communication skills will help you in many facets of your life and most certainly in the workplace.

Good communication helps create better teams, positive experiences with those we interact with, and are critical for leadership.

There are numerous tactics and techniques to be used to improve communication skills. Here we’ve reviewed how to improve communication skills for workplace success.

Now go communicate your way to success.

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