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The 15 Best Compliments You Could Ever Give/Receive

The 15 Best Compliments You Could Ever Give/Receive

You probably have received them and given them as well. They are compliments: expressions of praise or admiration.

Often compliments are centered around one’s physical appearance, body, clothing, hair, makeup, style. You might compliment a male co-worker on his new suit or a friend on the fragrance of her perfume. And while receiving these physical compliments can give you a quick ego boost, the most resounding and heartfelt compliments tend to focus on your character or the innate inner qualities you possess which make you unique!

Receiving a compliment which is spoken with sincerity always ramps up your “feel good” meter.  It demonstrates that another person values your qualities and ideas. But did you know that giving a compliment to someone else can be just as (or even more) powerful to you and create wonderful energy? The pure act of giving a compliment which is genuine boosts your own positivity. Why? Because you will make someone else feel good! That positive energy you just created will most likely be met with a smile or a “thank you”. Then you smile back.  Like attracts like. What a wonderful way to uplift someone’s day !

Here are 15 wonderful compliments to give or to receive:

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1. You are nothing less than special.

This compliment is one of my favorites and was spoken to me long ago  by a dear friend who holds my heart.  It implies that you are adored, loved and admired. Its simply beautiful.

2. You are one of a kind.

These words, when spoken in a positive light, imply that you are very unique, special and unlike others in one or many ways. You are being recognized exactly for that because you possess a noticeable good quality which many others do not. Your uniqueness is being recognized and honored.

3. You always make people smile.

A smile always seems to help in even some of the most despairing situations. These kind words shine your happy-go-lucky attitude and genuine desire to make others feel good. Smiles are contagious, so practice them often.

4. You are always there for me.

If you ever want to express your trust in someone and let her know she can count on you, then this compliment is the one to say. Offering dependability, accountability and a shoulder to lean on during challenges is always a good thing.

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5. You always see the bright side (of things).

Ah, this compliment is a telltale sign about your perspective and how you view and respond to circumstances which may not always be under your control.  Namely, you see the glass as “half full”. You exhibit a positive spirit and can always see the upside (benefits) in any situation.

6. You would make/you are a beautiful mother/father.

Partners often say this to one another when they are contemplating having a family or already have children.  It expresses the acknowledgment that they see kind, caring and loving “parenting” qualities in the other. It honors the giving spirit of a parent.

7. You always throw a great party.

Hosting a party entails a great deal of time, energy and work. If your friend consistently throws a wonderful gathering time and time again, then tell him so.  You are acknowledging his time, expense, social skills, and his uncanny ability to make his guests feel comfortable and allow them to enjoy themselves.

8. You are the best friend/mother/father/wife/husband/partner anyone could ask for.

This compliment could be said to almost anyone as long as its spoken with sincerity. It embodies friendship, care, trust and closeness. Being the “best” in anything means you rank #1!

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9. You never cease to amaze me (spoken in a positive light).

When you give this compliment to another, you are sharing your thoughts about his ability to persever, to be adventurous, or to be unique and consistent  in his actions. Perhaps he justs bowls you over with kindness. Whatever it is he does, he keeps finding ways to impress or astonish you.

10. You set such a great example for others.

If you are told this, be proud. You are exhibiting leadership qualities which others notice and for which you are commended. Not all people are great leaders so revel in someone taking notice of your values and your ability to motivate, inspire and guide others.

11. You raise the bar.

When you raise the bar, you are setting new (and higher) standards. If someone pays you this compliment, she is  implying that you are a high achiever not only able to do your best, but you set new (higher) levels of achievement for others to follow.

12. You always go the extra mile.

Say this to someone to express your acknowledgement that he exceeds the standards. He won’t accept doing “average”. He will go above and beyond what is required of him.

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13. You are always willing to lend a hand.

Express this compliment to friends, family or co-workers who are especially helpful. People who embrace this philothropic nature will go out of their way and perhaps accept personal sacrifices just in order to help someone in need. With their genuine desire to be accomodating and supporting,  they often do so unconditionally.

14. You walk the talk.

Yes, many people like to “talk the talk” but never “walk it”. This compliment signifies your “down to earth” attitude between your words/intentions and your actions. You say what you do and you do what you say. You have grit. You don’t pay lip service. You act in alignment with your intentions and your words.  Those who pay you this compliment believe you  are usually very dependable and have the ability to create much success in your life because you stand behind your words.

15. You have a heart of gold.

This is an oldie but goodie. Having a heart of gold (a precious metal) indicates you are kind, understanding, supportive and giving. Since gold is a rare metal, these words imply that the kindness you possess is rare like gold.

Know that the power of the intention and compliments you give is strong. Highlight other’s strengths, forgive their weaknesses. Accept others’ compliments with grace.

In the words of Dr. Steve Maraboli, “….I will sprinkle compliments and uplifting words wherever I go. I will do this knowing that my words are like seeds, and when they fall on fertile soil, a reflection of those seeds will grow into something greater.”

Featured photo credit: Carlos ZGZ via flickr.com

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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