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8 Habits That Make Some Leaders Extraordinarily Likeable

8 Habits That Make Some Leaders Extraordinarily Likeable
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Are you a likable leader? The best leaders are not just wise and intelligent – they are also popular and well-liked by others. Some people are much more likable than others, but this isn’t a natural trait. Anyone can become more likable and pleasant by changing their habits.

Check out these 8 habits that make some leaders extraordinarily likable.

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1. They can read people well

A very important part of being likable is being able to read others well. From body language to facial expressions, a likable leader is always looking out for silent indicators of how others around them are feeling. This means they can often predict the moods and feelings of others, which helps them to make decisions that others are happy with.

2. They form connections with the people they lead

A likable leader doesn’t alienate anyone – instead, they take the time to form connections with the people that they lead. They understand that the people they lead are real humans too – they are emotional, intelligent and important. They can make useful, innovative suggestions that will improve the company. This means people feel like they can bring up important issues with the leader without fear, as their leader sees them as an equal.

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3. They have integrity

Not all leaders are trusted, liked and admired; these qualities need to be earned. Likable leaders earn the trust of their employees through their actions as well as their words. They don’t make promises that they never intend to keep to placate their employees. Instead they follow through with everything they commit to doing, and they aim to be honest rather than charming.

4. They take their accomplishments in their stride

A likable leader is never rattled by the highs and lows of life. They are proud of their accomplishments without bragging, and they don’t lose it when something bad happens. They understand life is full of both successes and failures, and to expect a life without any failures is unreasonable.

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5. They are not arrogant

Most people dislike arrogance – especially when it is their boss who is being arrogant. A likable leader sees their employees as equal, and they would never think that they are better than anyone else. They don’t believe being a leader is a chance to do as they please and make their life easy – they believe being a leader means you have extra responsibility to make sure their employees are both happy and productive.

6. They are positive

A leader has a responsibility to maintain a positive outlook for their employees. This isn’t about being fake or pretending; even in negative situations they are working on finding solutions while staying optimistic. They don’t need to hold countless meetings and presentations to show their passion for the company – it is obvious to anyone who works for them. This shows their passion for their work and their cheer, which helps other employees to be productive and happy while at work.

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7. They have substance

A good leader doesn’t lead because they are charming and loud; a good leader leads because they have essential knowledge and information that others don’t have. A likable leader is intelligent and puts in a lot of effort at work to improve the company for everyone. They don’t pretend to be better than they actually are – instead they win people over with their enthusiasm and commitment to their job.

8. They are generous

A common trait of a likable leader is being generous. Many bad leaders hold back information and resources from their employees because they worry their employees may take advantage of the kindness – or outshine them. A likable leader is happy to help their employees because this gives them the opportunity to shine and improve their skills.

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on July 21, 2021

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)
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No matter how well you set up your todo list and calendar, you aren’t going to get things done unless you have a reliable way of reminding yourself to actually do them.

Anyone who’s spent an hour writing up the perfect grocery list only to realize at the store that they forgot to bring the list understands the importance of reminders.

Reminders of some sort or another are what turn a collection of paper goods or web services into what David Allen calls a “trusted system.”[1]

A lot of people resist getting better organized. No matter what kind of chaotic mess, their lives are on a day-to-day basis because they know themselves well enough to know that there’s after all that work they’ll probably forget to take their lists with them when it matters most.

Fortunately, there are ways to make sure we remember to check our lists — and to remember to do the things we need to do, whether they’re on a list or not.

In most cases, we need a lot of pushing at first, for example by making a reminder, but eventually we build up enough momentum that doing what needs doing becomes a habit — not an exception.

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From Creating Reminders to Building Habits

A habit is any act we engage in automatically without thinking about it.

For example, when you brush your teeth, you don’t have to think about every single step from start to finish; once you stagger up to the sink, habit takes over (and, really, habit got you to the sink in the first place) and you find yourself putting toothpaste on your toothbrush, putting the toothbrush in your mouth (and never your ear!), spitting, rinsing, and so on without any conscious effort at all.

This is a good thing because if you’re anything like me, you’re not even capable of conscious thought when you’re brushing your teeth.

The good news is you already have a whole set of productivity habits you’ve built up over the course of your life. The bad news is, a lot of them aren’t very good habits.

That quick game Frogger to “loosen you up” before you get working, that always ends up being 6 hours of Frogger –– that’s a habit. And as you know, habits like that can be hard to break — which is one of the reasons why habits are so important in the first place.

Once you’ve replaced an unproductive habit with a more productive one, the new habit will be just as hard to break as the old one was. Getting there, though, can be a chore!

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The old saw about anything you do for 21 days becoming a habit has been pretty much discredited, but there is a kernel of truth there — anything you do long enough becomes an ingrained behavior, a habit. Some people pick up habits quickly, others over a longer time span, but eventually, the behaviors become automatic.

Building productive habits, then, is a matter of repeating a desired behavior over a long enough period of time that you start doing it without thinking.

But how do you remember to do that? And what about the things that don’t need to be habits — the one-off events, like taking your paycheck stubs to your mortgage banker or making a particular phone call?

The trick to reminding yourself often enough for something to become a habit, or just that one time that you need to do something, is to interrupt yourself in some way in a way that triggers the desired behavior.

The Wonderful Thing About Triggers — Reminders

A trigger is anything that you put “in your way” to remind you to do something. The best triggers are related in some way to the behavior you want to produce.

For instance, if you want to remember to take something to work that you wouldn’t normally take, you might place it in front of the door so you have to pick it up to get out of your house.

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But anything that catches your attention and reminds you to do something can be a trigger. An alarm clock or kitchen timer is a perfect example — when the bell rings, you know to wake up or take the quiche out of the oven. (Hopefully you remember which trigger goes with which behavior!)

If you want to instill a habit, the thing to do is to place a trigger in your path to remind you to do whatever it is you’re trying to make into a habit — and keep it there until you realize that you’ve already done the thing it’s supposed to remind you of.

For instance, a post-it saying “count your calories” placed on the refrigerator door (or maybe on your favorite sugary snack itself)  can help you remember that you’re supposed to be cutting back — until one day you realize that you don’t need to be reminded anymore.

These triggers all require a lot of forethought, though — you have to remember that you need to remember something in the first place.

For a lot of tasks, the best reminder is one that’s completely automated — you set it up and then forget about it, trusting the trigger to pop up when you need it.

How to Make a Reminder Works for You

Computers and ubiquity of mobile Internet-connected devices make it possible to set up automatic triggers for just about anything.

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Desktop software like Outlook will pop up reminders on your desktop screen, and most online services go an extra step and send reminders via email or SMS text message — just the thing to keep you on track. Sandy, for example, just does automatic reminders.

Automated reminders can help you build habits — but it can also help you remember things that are too important to be trusted even to habit. Diabetics who need to take their insulin, HIV patients whose medication must be taken at an exact time in a precise order, phone calls that have to be made exactly on time, and other crucial events require triggers even when the habit is already in place.

My advice is to set reminders for just about everything — have them sent to your mobile phone in some way (either through a built-in calendar or an online service that sends updates) so you never have to think about it — and never have to worry about forgetting.

Your weekly review is a good time to enter new reminders for the coming weeks or months. I simply don’t want to think about what I’m supposed to be doing; I want to be reminded so I can think just about actually doing it.

I tend to use my calendar for reminders, mostly, though I do like Sandy quite a bit.

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Reference

[1] Getting Things Done: Trusted System

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