Advertising
Advertising

4 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Rely On Social Media Are More Confident

4 Reasons Why People Who Don’t Rely On Social Media Are More Confident

What’s the first thing you do when you snap a cute photo of you and your BFF? Post it to Instagram, probably. That’s just how social media works. When you have an update to share, it’s hard to find a reason not to tweet or blog about it.

Not everyone is hooked on social media these days, believe it or not. It’s a great way to connect with people you don’t get the chance to see every day, but it doesn’t have to be your lifeline.

There are a few major differences between those who are constantly glued to their social media channels and those who aren’t. Here are five reasons why those who don’t rely on social media to document their lives are more confident than those who do.

Advertising

They make more of an effort to maintain relationships

Social media makes it almost too easy to keep in touch with family and friends. Except, by “keeping touch” we actually mean reading their Facebook statuses and liking their photos. It’s a one-sided interaction. When people go long periods of time without posting anything, we lose touch with them immediately. That’s enough to put a dent in anyone’s confidence.

People who don’t rely so heavily on social media actually make an effort to keep in touch with those they care about. They’re willing to sit across from their best friends at a café, with their phone tucked away in their pocket, and share the details of each others’ lives they don’t care to share online. In their world, “I’ll see you later” actually means, “I’m planning on meeting up with you again next week, okay?”

They are more aware of their surroundings

You might feel like you can reach out and touch every inch of the earth through the articles you read and pictures you see others post online, but as you’re sitting at your desk reading about different current events and cultures around the world, there are hundreds of people walking past your office window who have seen those things in real time for themselves.

Advertising

Stepping away from social media, at least for the majority of your day, gives you the chance to explore the world around you and observe life through your own eyes. Those who do this are more confident because they don’t need to rely on someone else’s viewpoint of the world to form their own.

They don’t hide behind a screen

Have you ever posted a comment or status saying something you never would have been “brave” enough to say in person? It probably made you feel pretty good at first. “Wow! I can’t believe I posted that,” you thought to yourself as you waited for the likes to roll in. What happens when no one responds, though? That façade of bravery shatters instantly.

When you don’t have a screen in front of you, but you have something to say, do you? People who don’t rely on social media have trained themselves to speak up without a protective shield. Their confidence stems from their ability to express their thoughts openly and verbally, where, often, an audience has no choice but to listen.

Advertising

They live in the moment

In this social media-saturated world, an adventure is nothing more than a chance to snap a few pictures to see how many likes and comments they’ll get. You’re not enjoying the concert, really: you’re staring into the screen of your phone to make sure you’re capturing every moment for everyone else to see later. When we’re alone, we scroll through today’s TimeHop memories and secretly cringe at all the things we said back then.

Those who treat social media as a supplement instead of a staple follow their sense of adventure without worrying about how it will look on camera later. They cherish the actual sights and sounds they experienced firsthand. They are also able to leave the unflattering images of their past in the past where they belong. If that’s not enough to boost your confidence, we don’t know what is.

By cutting back on your social media use, you can improve your relationships with loved ones, immerse yourself in the real world again and stop spending so much time looking back on “what used to be.” Like anything, social media won’t hurt you, if you use it in moderation.

Advertising

Featured photo credit: Jason Howie via flickr.com

More by this author

20 Creative Ways to Introduce Yourself Meal Prep For The Week Science Reveals The Truth Behind 15 Common Food Myths Cereal and Grains Are The Secret To A Long And Healthy Life, Science Says Science Has Shown Happiness Comes With Age (No Matter How We’ve Lived Until Then)

Trending in Communication

1 How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them 2 Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Never Get Stuck Again 3 12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life 4 13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently 5 How to Figure Out What Motivates You at Work

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

Advertising

1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

Advertising

“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

Advertising

3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

Advertising

6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

More on Motivation

Featured photo credit: Thought Catalog via unsplash.com

Read Next