Advertising
Advertising

7 Exciting Things Will Happen When You Step Out From Your Comfort Zone

7 Exciting Things Will Happen When You Step Out From Your Comfort Zone

Are you at ease in your comfort zone, too scared to step outside even though you’d really like to? Or do you love excitement but need to know what actually can happen if you start something you wouldn’t normally do? Well, this post is for you.

Don’t feel bad because you think this way. Changing your familiar routine is a difficult thing to do. When you can accomplish it, though, the benefits will be huge. Get ready, because after you read these 7 exciting things, you’ll be brave enough to venture outside your ordinary, every-day routine. Why? Because amazing things happen just outside your comfort zone.

First, though, just what or where is that comfort zone?

Each person’s comfort zone is the area of their life where they can function with a minimum of stress and a maximum of security. Anxiety levels are low and contentment levels are high. Here, we know what to expect.

Comfort Zone Diagram

    You feel comfortable in this environment. However, to increase your performance levels and try new experiences, you’ll need to introduce a dose of controlled anxiety and stress into your life. Situations where stress levels rise somewhat, are found just outside the comfort zone. This is where you’ll reach your highest potential and live a life of purpose.

    Your aim should be to stay in the green zone above. If you place yourself under excessive pressure, performance will suffer. Creativity will be stifled.

    There’ll be times, of course, when you’ll want a break from challenging yourself. Simply retreat to where you’re most comfortable.

    Why is it good for you to try new stuff?

    The benefits are huge. Following are just 7 of those exciting benefits.

    Advertising

    1. You’ll grow and blossom.

    “Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” – Brian Tracy

    Maybe you are in a job you enjoy very much. It’s handy to home, hours are flexible and workmates congenial. You’re offered a new position that will extend you and stretch your creativity. But . . . traveling time will increase; remuneration might not be much greater. It’s a dilemma you probably wish you didn’t have to face.

    It’s your choice. Stay in familiar surroundings where you feel comfortable. Or move towards the unknown.

    You find it hard to dash aside the emotional attachment you feel to your current situation. Then you remember Brian Tracy’s words about the necessity to feel awkward and uncomfortable. You take the plunge. It’s scary, but you really want to accomplish some awesome things in your lifetime. So you brace yourself to expect the unexpected.

    Will you regret the decision? Unlikely. You know where you’ll grow and blossom, don’t you? Just outside the comfort zone.

    flying-639522_1280

      2. You’ll release the creativity within you.

      “The comfort zone is the great enemy to creativity.” – Dan Stevens

      Now that you’ve accepted the challenge of the new job, the trip to far-off lands, the University course you’ve just started – or whatever – you’re acquiring a different set of learning skills. New ideas and experiences abound. You’ll find yourself approaching these new experiences with renewed energy  –  an energy that releases the creativity within you in a way you never imagined possible.

      Advertising

      Being creative will fill you with an enormous sense of satisfaction. You’ll be exposing gifts and abilities that until now were hidden from view. Are you ready to discover what you’re really capable of? So where do you find this energy and release of creativity? Just outside the comfort zone.

      steps 640x520

        3. You’ll find the going easier every time you extend yourself.

        “As you move outside of your comfort zone, what was once the unknown and frightening becomes your new normal.”  – Robin Sharma

        Sharma’s words remind me of what I’m doing in my intervals exercise program just now. I’ve found a challenging set of 100 steps that wind up a steep cliff face. I keep climbing until I run out of breath. On my first attempt, I found myself gasping for air at the 50th step. Each week I add another 5 steps. I can feel my comfort zone making adjustments.

        You, too will find that your anxiety levels lessen every time you repeat the stepping out process. Go on. Give it a go. Ease yourself outside your comfort zone. The more you try small things, the more you’ll want to continue to challenge yourself. Success is motivational.

        A very exciting consequence of extending yourself is that your comfort zone adjusts with every success. As Sharma states, the unknown becomes your new normal. How far should you extend yourself? Just outside the comfort zone.

        4. You’ll be in control – not fear and uncertainty.

        “When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.” – Eckhart Tolle

        Being outside the comfort zone enables you to actually acknowledge, then manage, your negative feelings. If starting the business of your dreams, writing a novel or meeting new people is a recurring dream – well, yes, that can be quite scary and uncertain. But if you break your dream into manageable steps, you’ll be in control. You’ll be working towards your dream at your own manageable pace – little by little.

        Advertising

        Because you’re in control, you’ll be doing things you never thought possible. Now you’re free to work and live on your own terms. Where do you truly believe in yourself and start to take responsibility for your life? Just outside the comfort zone.

        man-748733_1280

          5. You’ll boost your self-confidence, resilience and emotional strength.

          “In this world you’re either growing or you’re dying, so get in motion and grow.” – Lou Holtz

          Living inside your comfort zone strips you of your confidence, because you’re not growing and evolving. You’re simply coping with life as it happens.

          Choose your first small goal to start things in motion and grow. As soon as you experience how competent and powerful you are, your self-confidence will grow. You’ll be inspired to work toward other goals. As you strive, fail, and strive some more, a resilient and emotionally strong you will emerge. You’ll feel amazing.

          Where does all this happen? Yes, of course – just outside your comfort zone.

          6. You’ll replace regrets with satisfaction and accomplishment.

           “We can’t become what we want to be by remaining what we are.” – Max DePree

          Regrets only appear when you ask yourself, “What if I fail?” This question is always followed by inaction, then later, regrets. Have you heard stories of people who, on their death bed, talk about the regrets they have because they didn’t do particular things? They were too scared to have a go. All of a sudden it’s too late.

          Advertising

          Go on. Take action now. Dare to have a go time and time again. Then you’ll look back on your life with satisfaction instead of with regrets, and with excitement about what you’ve accomplished. So never ask that “What if  . . .? ” question. Instead just do it and see what happens. Where do you toss regrets into the rubbish heap? Just outside your comfort zone.

          beauty-354565_1280

            7. You’ll experience a fuller life.

            “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”  – Neale Walsch

            Similar to athletes stretching and preparing for competitive events, just outside your comfort zone is where you can perform at your best. It’s a place where being motivated spurs you to success – a place where you’ll experience a fuller life. So, step outside and unlock your full potential. You haven’t yet discovered just what you are capable of. Experiment, participate, pursue, problem solve, question yourself, improve your skills and develop new ones.

            When you feel confident, happy and optimistic, you will be more willing to live a fuller, more adventurous life. The result? Things you previously thought were unachievable, will become a reality. Now that you’ve blossomed, grown in confidence, released your creativity and managed your fears, you’ll experience a fuller life. You are in control of the kind of life you want to live.

            When you experience this fuller life, instead of just surviving, you’ll find yourself thriving.

            So where do you start?

            “My experience is that you cannot have everything you want but you can have anything you really want. You just need to decide what it is and then plan your exit from the comfort zone.” – Jonathan Farrington

            A great thing to do first of all is to focus on quotations that will give you the excitement and motivation you need to get started. Suitable quotes have been included in this post. You’ll reap the greatest benefits when you write several on sticky notes and place them in prominent places where you’ll read and digest them often.

            Then . . . take Jonathan Farrington’s advice, decide exactly what you want to do, then just do it. Now is your time to exit from the comfort zone.

            Featured photo credit: Pixabay via pixabay.com

            More by this author

            Real Story: “A Simple Act Of Kindness Changed My Life” 17 Signs You Are Stepping Towards Success Even If You Don’t Feel You Are 9 Empowering TED Talks That Will Zoom You Towards Success A Swimming Pool That Belongs To The Sky comfort zone 7 Exciting Things Will Happen When You Step Out From Your Comfort Zone

            Trending in Communication

            1 How to Improve Intimacy in Your Marriage and Rekindle the Passion 2 Why You Feel Lonely In Your Marriage And How To Deal With It 3 6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of 4 How To Spark A Positive Mood When Feeling Dull 5 5 Reasons You Will Never Be a Fighter

            Read Next

            Advertising
            Advertising
            Advertising

            Published on April 7, 2021

            6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

            6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

            Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

            While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

            1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

            Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

            If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

            In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

            Advertising

            2. They Make Everything Transactional

            Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

            For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

            Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

            A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

            Some statements to be wary of include:

            Advertising

            • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
            • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
            • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
            • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

            3. They Criticize Everything

            One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

            However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

            Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

            • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
            • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
            • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
            • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

            4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

            We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

            For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

            Advertising

            This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

            5. They Socially Isolate You

            Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

            Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

            This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

            In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

            Advertising

            6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

            It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

            Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

            Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

            • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
            • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
            • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
            • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

            Final Thoughts

            It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

            More Tips on How To Deal With a Controlling Person

            Featured photo credit: Külli Kittus via unsplash.com

            Read Next