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Want To Be Successful? Follow These 13 Things Truly Confident People Do

Want To Be Successful?  Follow These 13 Things Truly Confident People Do

“If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your consciousness.” Les Brown

Confidence is something that a person has that once you see them you can tell they’ve got it. It can range from being arrogant like some of our sports heroes or very quiet persona of a Bill Gates or Oprah Winfrey.

Have you ever noticed that some people are just able to get what they want from anyone at any time? These are the confident people. Confident people are always at the forefront of everything great. They make things happen compared to the others who are afraid and skittish. Confident people do things that can and is changing the world. Their names are the names we all remember, they think outside the box.

On the other hand, there are the others who either fake confidence or have none at all. The ones who try to get the attention of everyone in the room by being loud, boisterous and always ready for a fight. The ones without, are always hiding in a corner hoping that no one will notice they are there or draw attention to them.

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Confident people are more likely to be great inventors, make impressions on the world at large and they think much larger than people who aren’t. They are the ones who are being promoted and earning more money. Confident people are the ones who get the girl or guy while everyone else sits around and wonder how they did it.

You too can learn to become more confident and self-assured. Your life doesn’t have to be perfect for you to be confident. You only have to imitate what the truly confident people do. Learn from them and your confidence will grow as well.

1. They do not need external forces to be happy

People who are confident are happy with who they are. They know that to be happy with what you are doing you must also be happy with who you are. They may not be the brightest, best looking, etc. but one thing for sure they do not need anyone telling them otherwise because they are happy in their skin.

Confident people get their strength and confidence in the things they accomplish and not what others perception of them are. They couldn’t care less about what insecure critiques have to say about them. Confident people know that detractors will never achieve their greatness because they lack one of the main ingredients to success.

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2. They are not judgmental

People who are confident do not have the time to be trying to tear others down. They see people as people and know that everyone is very special and have something special to offer. They are so confident that they do not need to tear people down to feel good about themselves. Insecure people who lack confidence does that to others. Confident people do not get any gratification in making other people unhappy or insecure.

3. They make their “yes” means “yes” 

Confident people only say “yes” when they are sure they mean “yes”. They love to challenge themselves and will never back down from a challenge. They want to be pushed so they can grow. They are eager to say yes to self-development and self-improvement initiative. They know that their confidence only increases with every challenge they overcome and every test they have passed. If they are not convinced in their ability to get the job done right, they will easily say no with conviction. There is no room for second guessing what their answers are.

4. They listen attentively

Confident people listen very attentively and speak less than others. Since they have nothing to prove, they do not need to convince anyone that they know what they are talking about. They let their work speak for them. They are that confident. They are also fully aware that listening is a great way to learn, and confident people make an effort to learn something new constantly.

5. They are not uncertain when they speak

Confident people seldom leave room for misunderstanding. There isn’t any second guessing them. There isn’t any half-heartedness when they communicate with others. They are fully aware that it is difficult to get people to listen to you, so they know their message has to be forthcoming and very clear.

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6. They take care of themselves

Confident people take very good care of themselves both mentally and physically. They not only want to succeed in their business life but also in their personal life and more so in their physical appearance. They know that when you look good you also feel much better about yourself. Confident people know you cannot be representing a business to people and expect them to put their trust in you when you are not confident.

7. They are not attention seekers

Individuals who are comfortable with who they are don’t crave being the center of attention. They realize early that there is no need to draw attention to themselves, especially attention that isn’t productive. Confident people always bring the right attitude to the table. They are better at leading, closing deals and making deals. They are more inclined to do things to uplift and progression of the human race as a whole.

8. They are givers rather than takers

People who are confident are more inclined to be givers than takers. They are always eager to help others who are in a lesser position. They want others to feel good about themselves as well and so tend to be more motivating and are great at writing great motivational and inspiring books and quotes. The live to inspire and motivate people to be the best they can be.

9. They aren’t afraid to say they were wrong

Individuals who are very confident are not afraid to accept that they can be incorrect at times. They put their thoughts out there so they can be challenged and for others to prove them wrong. This is how they learn and grow. They see it as a two-way learning method. They do not get insulted or feel badly because someone prove their theories wrong. Confident people see correction as an opportunity to become better.

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10. They celebrate other people’s success

When you are confident, you will rejoice when others succeed. You see it as an amazing feat. They are not jealous or envious of others and so can honestly be as happy for others as they are for themselves. People who are insecure tend to doubt themselves and try to criticize and downplay others success. Confident people know that their strengths come from within them and have no time for feeling insecure.

11. They aren’t afraid to take risks

Confident people are never afraid to take risks. They are eager to take on a challenge and are eager to go after an opportunity when it arises. They do not see things like “can’t”. Everything is always a possibility and a test they enjoy undertaking. They do not allow their fear to keep them back. They know that if they do not take a chance they will never know if they would be successful.

12. They enjoy team work

When you are confident in yourself, you want to share your knowledge with others and learn from them and what better way to do so than to work with other people. Confident people are fully aware of their strengths and weaknesses and so want to be around people who will complement them and challenge them at the same time. They do not see it as a weakness to ask for help from others who are more knowledgeable than they are.

13. They take time to be happy

Confident people love to have fun and choose the things that truly give them a fun time. Most confident people would rather be surrounded by friends and families than others. Their type of fun is more about the things that truly matter. They are not trying to prove anything to anyone, but they will make sure that their families are their number one priority.

Confidence is something that we all can develop and build. Although building one’s confidence takes time it is imperative that we all spend time improving our self-confidence so we can become better individuals. Practice makes improvement and so will your confidence if you work on it regularly.

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15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

15 Positive Thinking Books You Need for a Happy Life

Books give us the opportunity to live vicariously through the lives of people with greater wisdom than ourselves. They stimulate our brains and help us not only solve the problems we struggle with, but also motivate and inspire us with new ideas.

One of the great things about people who think positively and live happy lives is that they love to help others do the same. There are countless positive-thinking books and these 15 are a great way to help you start living a happy life.

1. Man’s Search For Meaning by Victor E. Frankl

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    This book goes through the horrific struggle of Viktor Frankl who survived holocaust concentration camps. The only thing that kept him going was his idea that everything, even the worst of human suffering, had to have meaning. If you’re struggling through anything in your life, I guarantee the words of Viktor will give you courage to press on and find happiness.

    2. Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

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      What is life’s greatest lesson? Morrie, a retired professor with a fatal disease, opts to use his predicament to share that message as opposed to just giving up and dying. Following the last few months of Morrie’s life will help you realize what is truly important in life.

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      3. The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch

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        Similar to Tuesdays with Morrie, Randy is a college professor who finds he has a fatal disease with only a few months to live. It is customary for professors at his university (Carnegie Mellon) to give a final lecture with the basis of ‘what wisdom would you impart to a large group of people if it was your last chance?’ Randy stays incredibly positive throughout and even keeps the lecture humorous and entertaining. Amidst it all, his wisdom is a powerful reminder about how to live a happy, full life.

        4. Earning Freedom by Michael Santos

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          Michael Santos was sentenced to 45 years is prison for selling drugs. During his term he fought hard to earn a masters degree and half of a doctorate (halted by the warden) while writing numerous books educating students about the criminal justice system. This book provides a fascinating window into his entire sentence (released in 2012) and how a positive attitude and strong work ethic got him through it. If he found happiness in prison through positive thinking, we can do it anywhere.

          If you don’t have the attention span to finish a long book, the following quick reads are shorter but just as powerful.

          5. The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper

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            This book has shaped childrens’ minds for years. It illustrates the undeniable fact that when you think positively and believe in yourself, you can accomplish extraordinary things.

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            6. The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein

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              Happiness is found in giving. What does it mean to love someone? What would you sacrifice for someone you love? This children’s book teaches a valuable lesson about unconditional love and what it truly means to be happy.

              7. The Dash by Linda Ellis and Mac Anderson

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                “When your life is over, everything you did will be represented by a single dash between two dates—what will that dash mean for the people you have known and loved?” (Linda Ellis) We don’t choose a lot of things about our life – parents, birthplace, etc. – but we can choose what that dash between those two dates means. This short book will give you a great perspective on making your life worthwhile.

                8. As a Man Thinketh by James Allen

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                  “The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state… Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.” (James Allen) This book might be short, but it is jam-packed with statements that will make you stop and think. We truly become what we think we are. Negative thoughts affect us more than we know. Positive thinking = happy life.

                  9. A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald  Miller

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                    You are the author of your story. No matter how boring or dull your life has been, you can always turn it around. Donald was in a rut in his life. He had no desire to get out of bed and found himself questioning the meaning of life. Eventually he realized he wasn’t a slave to a pre-written script. He used that mindset to turn around his thoughts, actions, and life. When the closing credits roll on the story of your life, what will people say? Never forget that you have the power to push your limits and live an interesting, happy life.

                    10. The Traveler’s Gift by Andy Andrews

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                      The Traveler’s Gift is a fictional story about a man who is overwhelmed with life and finds himself thrown into numerous true events from history – including Abraham Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address. He interacts and learns important life lessons from seven different experiences. The book is full of ways to think more positively and find more success in life.

                      11. David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell

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                        Malcolm Gladwell motivates you to challenge your preconceptions of underdogs and misfits in this thought-provoking book. When you break down the facts in the story of David and Goliath from the Bible, you find that David really wasn’t an underdog at all – he was the one with the advantage. This book outlines story after story after story of people who were at a disadvantage and learned to find the strength in their weakness.

                        12. How Will You Measure Your Life by Clayton M. Christensen

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                          How would you feel if you got to the end of your life only to realize you had been measuring success wrong? Clayton provides a mass amount of wisdom and advice on how to live a life you won’t regret.

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                          13. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

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                            The small things we worry about every day may not seem like a big deal, but they wear us down slowly and stop us from living up to our full potential. Learn how to get rid of those worries and negative thoughts and live a happier life.

                            14. Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis

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                              C.S. Lewis, who used to be an Atheist, explains how he came to find meaning in life through Christianity. He breaks down all the reasons we doubt and falter in life and how living the principles of Christianity fixes our weaknesses. Lewis is famous for his deep, thought-provoking quotes and this book is no exception.

                              15. Bushido: The Way of the Samurai by Tsunetomo Yamamoto

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                                Bushido is based on the Hagakure, a document that served as the basis for samurai warrior behavior. The document’s purpose was to shape the mind and the spirit of the samurai warrior.

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