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Want To Be Successful? Follow These 13 Things Truly Confident People Do

Want To Be Successful?  Follow These 13 Things Truly Confident People Do

“If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your consciousness.” Les Brown

Confidence is something that a person has that once you see them you can tell they’ve got it. It can range from being arrogant like some of our sports heroes or very quiet persona of a Bill Gates or Oprah Winfrey.

Have you ever noticed that some people are just able to get what they want from anyone at any time? These are the confident people. Confident people are always at the forefront of everything great. They make things happen compared to the others who are afraid and skittish. Confident people do things that can and is changing the world. Their names are the names we all remember, they think outside the box.

On the other hand, there are the others who either fake confidence or have none at all. The ones who try to get the attention of everyone in the room by being loud, boisterous and always ready for a fight. The ones without, are always hiding in a corner hoping that no one will notice they are there or draw attention to them.

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Confident people are more likely to be great inventors, make impressions on the world at large and they think much larger than people who aren’t. They are the ones who are being promoted and earning more money. Confident people are the ones who get the girl or guy while everyone else sits around and wonder how they did it.

You too can learn to become more confident and self-assured. Your life doesn’t have to be perfect for you to be confident. You only have to imitate what the truly confident people do. Learn from them and your confidence will grow as well.

1. They do not need external forces to be happy

People who are confident are happy with who they are. They know that to be happy with what you are doing you must also be happy with who you are. They may not be the brightest, best looking, etc. but one thing for sure they do not need anyone telling them otherwise because they are happy in their skin.

Confident people get their strength and confidence in the things they accomplish and not what others perception of them are. They couldn’t care less about what insecure critiques have to say about them. Confident people know that detractors will never achieve their greatness because they lack one of the main ingredients to success.

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2. They are not judgmental

People who are confident do not have the time to be trying to tear others down. They see people as people and know that everyone is very special and have something special to offer. They are so confident that they do not need to tear people down to feel good about themselves. Insecure people who lack confidence does that to others. Confident people do not get any gratification in making other people unhappy or insecure.

3. They make their “yes” means “yes” 

Confident people only say “yes” when they are sure they mean “yes”. They love to challenge themselves and will never back down from a challenge. They want to be pushed so they can grow. They are eager to say yes to self-development and self-improvement initiative. They know that their confidence only increases with every challenge they overcome and every test they have passed. If they are not convinced in their ability to get the job done right, they will easily say no with conviction. There is no room for second guessing what their answers are.

4. They listen attentively

Confident people listen very attentively and speak less than others. Since they have nothing to prove, they do not need to convince anyone that they know what they are talking about. They let their work speak for them. They are that confident. They are also fully aware that listening is a great way to learn, and confident people make an effort to learn something new constantly.

5. They are not uncertain when they speak

Confident people seldom leave room for misunderstanding. There isn’t any second guessing them. There isn’t any half-heartedness when they communicate with others. They are fully aware that it is difficult to get people to listen to you, so they know their message has to be forthcoming and very clear.

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6. They take care of themselves

Confident people take very good care of themselves both mentally and physically. They not only want to succeed in their business life but also in their personal life and more so in their physical appearance. They know that when you look good you also feel much better about yourself. Confident people know you cannot be representing a business to people and expect them to put their trust in you when you are not confident.

7. They are not attention seekers

Individuals who are comfortable with who they are don’t crave being the center of attention. They realize early that there is no need to draw attention to themselves, especially attention that isn’t productive. Confident people always bring the right attitude to the table. They are better at leading, closing deals and making deals. They are more inclined to do things to uplift and progression of the human race as a whole.

8. They are givers rather than takers

People who are confident are more inclined to be givers than takers. They are always eager to help others who are in a lesser position. They want others to feel good about themselves as well and so tend to be more motivating and are great at writing great motivational and inspiring books and quotes. The live to inspire and motivate people to be the best they can be.

9. They aren’t afraid to say they were wrong

Individuals who are very confident are not afraid to accept that they can be incorrect at times. They put their thoughts out there so they can be challenged and for others to prove them wrong. This is how they learn and grow. They see it as a two-way learning method. They do not get insulted or feel badly because someone prove their theories wrong. Confident people see correction as an opportunity to become better.

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10. They celebrate other people’s success

When you are confident, you will rejoice when others succeed. You see it as an amazing feat. They are not jealous or envious of others and so can honestly be as happy for others as they are for themselves. People who are insecure tend to doubt themselves and try to criticize and downplay others success. Confident people know that their strengths come from within them and have no time for feeling insecure.

11. They aren’t afraid to take risks

Confident people are never afraid to take risks. They are eager to take on a challenge and are eager to go after an opportunity when it arises. They do not see things like “can’t”. Everything is always a possibility and a test they enjoy undertaking. They do not allow their fear to keep them back. They know that if they do not take a chance they will never know if they would be successful.

12. They enjoy team work

When you are confident in yourself, you want to share your knowledge with others and learn from them and what better way to do so than to work with other people. Confident people are fully aware of their strengths and weaknesses and so want to be around people who will complement them and challenge them at the same time. They do not see it as a weakness to ask for help from others who are more knowledgeable than they are.

13. They take time to be happy

Confident people love to have fun and choose the things that truly give them a fun time. Most confident people would rather be surrounded by friends and families than others. Their type of fun is more about the things that truly matter. They are not trying to prove anything to anyone, but they will make sure that their families are their number one priority.

Confidence is something that we all can develop and build. Although building one’s confidence takes time it is imperative that we all spend time improving our self-confidence so we can become better individuals. Practice makes improvement and so will your confidence if you work on it regularly.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

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7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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