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Only Scatterbrained People Would Relate To These 11 Things

Only Scatterbrained People Would Relate To These 11 Things

I personally experience all these typical things, scatterbrained people will understand and go through on a daily basis. Some of them aren’t “normal” to other people but oh well! You know you’re scatterbrained when:

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    1. You’ve got to-do-list everywhere.

    This is usually the result of a Pinterest orFacebook post with awesome ideas, or photos of awesome foods you need to make on your Instagram. So, your brain runs a million miles a minute making to-do-lists for the week, month and year! We all know though, those to-do-lists will never be finished because someone sent you a message about dinner and tacos do sound better than planning your meals for the entire week!

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      2. There are multiple parts of your brain and soul trying to be a part of the one conversation.

      You usually get two different reactions to the way you hold conversations. The first is a look of awe when the person you are talking to sees that you can have a conversation all by yourself and realize that you don’t need them for it. But in realitiy it’s usually a hidden look of concern as if they need to find the contact information for the closest hospital that can give you something to make you focus on one thing.

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      The other reaction is something amazing all in itself. If the other person you are talking to has bit of a scatter brain themselves, you both are having multiple conversations between each part of your brains jumping from topic to topic yet still remaining in sync. Observers are usually in the background watching with their jaw to the floor wondering how two people can be making plans, discussing Harry Potter, talking about different kinds of wine, and their dogs, with every other sentence being a different subject all in one conversation.

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        3. You receive “Hello…?” texts all the time.

        Ususally you receive a message and respond to it mentally. Usually this mental response is an entire paragraph, however, in reality you did not send it. Your friends know it is better to just call you or send you a message online in groups so that you actually respond and don’t excpect them to read your mind!

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          4. You’ve made multiple trips to the store because you got … ooh! Candy!

          There have been several times you have needed an onion or something for some dumb recipe you saw on Facebook, so you went to the store…hungry. You walk into the store, determined to get this onion and get out so you can check at least one thing off of your one out of one thousand to-do-list. Then you see that there is a bunch of candy in one aisle, and OH! POPCORN! Then you are trying to see if you can get some friends together and get a movie night going.

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          In goes Snickers, Rice Crispy Treats, popcorn, soda and don’t forget the Sour Patch kids. Then you find yourself looking at the magazines, then the cards remembering that it was someones birthday about a week ago. This is why you don’t go to Target, because by the time you’re in your car with your bags in your trunk, you remember that you forgot the dang onion. Oh well, drive through tacos it is before movie night!

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            5. People who don’t know you think you’re a flake and people who do, write down their plans in your planner.

            Planning things that are in advance requires a ton of effort from you. You constantly have conversations planning so many awesome things but don’t really go through with it until it’s written in stone. When I say stone, I mean your daily planner that gives you some sort of order in your chaotic spontaneous life. If there is someone that makes verbal plans with you, well that was a mistake!

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              6. While reading this in this tab, you likely have 5,637,372 different other tabs and programs open and running!

              Don’t even try to deny, you have Facebook open, you’re shopping for something online, you’ve got homework you are trying to do (but not really) and you’re reading this article. In addition to that, you’ve got some sort of music going on in the backgound and probably watching something on the television. Am I wrong? If I am, then maybe you’ve found yourself reading an article that isn’t about you (no offense).

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                7. You do not classify the first hour or so before your caffine dose as “being awake”.

                This is the hour that you can be considered one of the extras of the Walking Dead. Nothing will register, you can almost be classified as sleep walking until a cup of coffee is poured or a monster is cracked open. Anyone that tries to make plans, ask you anything important, or get you to do something for them is utterly out of their minds if they attempt to do it in the first hour.

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                  8. Lights, noise, smells and anything else that moves are your kryptonite.

                  As much as you try to focus, usually anything will distract your busy mind. Homework takes you about eight hours compared to the “normal” three.

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                    9. The only reason your pet is alive is because it tells you what it needs.

                    Seriously, every single plant you have had decided to own in the spur of the moment has died. The only reason your dog or whatever is alive, is because it reminds you by either being extremely annoying or loud that it is hungry, thirsty, or needs to pee.

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                      10. You have about 16,000 different types of handwriting depending on what is going on in your brain.

                      Usually when you are writing something down, it depends on how fast your brain is moving, how you’re feeling, what you are writing about and who you are writing to that affects the way it looks. For example, if you are taking notes in class, your writing shows up in the form of doodles or chicken scratch, but your handwriting on a note to a significant other looks very different.

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                        11. Your only form of calm is multi-tasking.

                        There is never any type of calm in your brain if you are just sitting there watching television. You either must have your computer out, a drawing pad, folding some laundry or playing on your phone. It is simply the only way to calm your busy and scattered mind. It’s okay though, you’re not the only one!

                        Featured photo credit: Longleat Maze- Jon Candy via flickr.com

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                        Last Updated on December 17, 2018

                        Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

                        Why You Think You’re Not Good Enough and How To Believe in Yourself

                        Have you ever wanted to say something at work, but a little voice of doubt crept in and said, “what if you are wrong”?

                        Maybe you wanted to apply for that promotion or ask that special someone on a date, but something kept you from taking action. When you think you’re not good enough, you tend to fear the outcome and lack faith in your abilities. That is why it is vital you discover how to believe in yourself so you can accomplish your goals and create your dream life.

                        Whatever your situation, the fears and self-doubt your false beliefs create will always stop you in your tracks. Identifying the beliefs that cause you to sabotage your life is the first step to removing them.

                        Self-doubt causes inaction, and inaction leads to regret. When you are not following your passion and living your dream life, you are left with a lot of questions:

                        • What if I took a chance on myself?
                        • Could I have had a better life if I took more risks?
                        • Am I be satisfied with the legacy I am leaving behind?
                        • What could I have accomplished if I did not settle for less?

                        So why would you think you’re not good enough?

                        1. Parenting

                        The perception you have of yourself is based on your past experiences. There are studies that show children mimic everything from their parents ability to regulate emotions, to their parents belief about money.[1]

                        I have had clients who did not believe they were good enough because they did not receive any positive reinforcement as a child. When they were young, their parents were extremely overprotective.

                        Think of your childhood challenges like dragons you had to slay. Each obstacle you overcame was another dragon you successfully removed from your life. As you slay more dragons, your self-esteem and confidence increase. When someone has overprotective parents, their parents end up slaying the dragons.

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                        As a result, the child builds more confidence in their parent’s abilities, while still doubting their own.

                        If you are never encouraged to slay your own dragons, you start to doubt whether you can. It is only natural for a child to conclude their parents are always helping them because they think they need it. This child ages into an adult who still believes they are not good enough. They seek the help and confirmation of others, and they rarely stand-up to opposition.

                        Solution: Slay Your Dragons!

                        If you want to believe in yourself, you are going to have to take steps to rebuild your trust in yourself. Start by keeping your word to others and arriving on-time. By showing yourself that others can (and do) trust you, you are going to feel more comfortable trusting yourself.

                        As you move onto larger and more challenging tasks, you have built a foundation of trust in your ability to keep your word. Next, you are going to want to reclaim your sword from others. At first, you may want to confide in whoever it is currently slaying your dragons.

                        Understand if it is your parent or someone who loves you, they want the best for you and mean well. You are simply going to tell them that you want to do the work, and will ask them for their thoughts in the planning phase. Feel free to check in with them and give them updates on your progress, while making sure they understand you are wanting to do the work yourself.

                        Then when the task is completed, let them know so you can celebrate together. Now that you have slayed your own dragon, you can start to reclaim your confidence. By you utilizing them as your guide, you get the added bonus of someone you respect and admire, telling you how amazing you are.

                        Think of it like a symbolic passing of the torch. Now, you are both dragon slayers. Which means all the positive attributes you attributed to them slaying your dragons, now belong to you.

                        2. Over-Exaggerating and Oversimplifying

                        Your past experiences may involve you or someone close to you failing. When you experience failure, you can lose your desire to continue. This has less to do with whether you are brave or scared, and more to do with the fact that your mind does not like failure.

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                        No one enjoys participating in events in which they under-perform. Outside of the usual reasons of embarrassment, feelings of inadequacy, and fear of failure – it is simply not fun.

                        Who wants to play baseball if they strikeout every time it is their turn? Would you enjoy singing in front of an audience if you were booed off the stage every time you performed? I could go on, but I think you get the point.

                        The thing about those two examples is no one really strikes out “every” at-bat. It is also unlikely someone could be booed off the stage “every time” they performed in-front of an audience.

                        What ends up happening is you oversimplify and exaggerate your past experiences and then your mind believes you. If you believe you are not good enough to ask someone on a date because they “always” tell you no, then do not be surprised you never muster the courage to do so.

                        If you want to overcome these feelings of inadequacy, start by changing your beliefs. This exercise does not need to be complicated. If you believe you strikeout every time it is your turn, I want to you to go to a batting cage and keep swinging until you hit the baseball.

                        When you experience success, I want you to take a mental note, write it down, or have someone video it. This is your proof that you do not always strike out. Then, whenever your belief that you are not good enough resurfaces, you are going to replay that video.

                        Regardless of the situation, you can find a successful experience that you are overlooking.

                        Solution: Read About the Failures of Others

                        It sounds a little crazy, I know, but reading about the failures of other successful people will improve your confidence. In a study conducted by Columbia University, they found that teaching students about the failures of great scientists encouraged them to do better.[2]

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                        When you are battling fear and self-doubt, you tend to over-exaggerate the abilities of others and diminish your own by comparison. You start to believe the successful are successful because they are courageous risk-takers, who do not take no for an answer. You tell yourself, they are meant to succeed, while you on the other hand are not.

                        When you are able to relate to the successful, you start to realize they have the same struggles and challenges you do. The only difference is they kept going.

                        Now it is not a question of whether you can succeed, it is a question of whether you want to succeed.

                        3. Undervalue Yourself

                        What is the main difference between someone who believes they are good enough and someone who does not? The person who believes they are good enough understands they are a person of value.

                        What I mean by this is if you do not believe you are worth being listened to, you will not have anything to say. If you do not believe you are good enough to be respected and treated as such, you will accept and rationalize all kinds of mistreatment.

                        There is an old saying that we are treated as we allow ourselves to be treated. When someone has the confidence and self-esteem that commands respect, they will not accept being treated any kind of way. However, if someone does not see themselves as worthy, they will remain in toxic situations because they do not believe anything better is on the horizon.

                        Dr. Jennifer Crocker, who worked on a series of self-esteem studies, found in her latest research that:[3]

                        “College students who based their self-worth on external sources–including appearance, approval from others and even their academic performance–reported more stress, anger, academic problems, relationship conflicts, and had higher levels of drug and alcohol use and symptoms of eating disorders”

                        Solution: Internalize Your Self-Worth

                        Instead of valuing yourself based on the awards, recognition, and accolades of others, you need to search internally. By basing your perception of yourself on your core values, you can regain control over self-image.

                        Instead of focusing on things that are outside of control, keep your mind on what it is that makes you special. You are not defined by your job, relationships, religion, or education. Rather, you are defined by the manner in which you participate in these things. You may be a creative, hard-working, and compassionate person; and that shows up in every thing you do.

                        Understand that you do not need to be creative, hard-working, and compassionate all the time to consider yourself these things. You are not trying to be perfect, but you are trying to connect with your true self.

                        By understanding the similarities in which you tackle objectives, you will build a consistent and powerful self-worth that stands apart from external confirmation.

                        Final Thoughts

                        Do not allow your past experiences do dictate your future success. You do not want to look back on your life and have a lot of questions and regrets.

                        Build trust in yourself by taking action today. This will help you build the confidence you need to believe in yourself and your ability to become the champion of your life.

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