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Only Scatterbrained People Would Relate To These 11 Things

Only Scatterbrained People Would Relate To These 11 Things

I personally experience all these typical things, scatterbrained people will understand and go through on a daily basis. Some of them aren’t “normal” to other people but oh well! You know you’re scatterbrained when:

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    1. You’ve got to-do-list everywhere.

    This is usually the result of a Pinterest orFacebook post with awesome ideas, or photos of awesome foods you need to make on your Instagram. So, your brain runs a million miles a minute making to-do-lists for the week, month and year! We all know though, those to-do-lists will never be finished because someone sent you a message about dinner and tacos do sound better than planning your meals for the entire week!

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      2. There are multiple parts of your brain and soul trying to be a part of the one conversation.

      You usually get two different reactions to the way you hold conversations. The first is a look of awe when the person you are talking to sees that you can have a conversation all by yourself and realize that you don’t need them for it. But in realitiy it’s usually a hidden look of concern as if they need to find the contact information for the closest hospital that can give you something to make you focus on one thing.

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      The other reaction is something amazing all in itself. If the other person you are talking to has bit of a scatter brain themselves, you both are having multiple conversations between each part of your brains jumping from topic to topic yet still remaining in sync. Observers are usually in the background watching with their jaw to the floor wondering how two people can be making plans, discussing Harry Potter, talking about different kinds of wine, and their dogs, with every other sentence being a different subject all in one conversation.

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        3. You receive “Hello…?” texts all the time.

        Ususally you receive a message and respond to it mentally. Usually this mental response is an entire paragraph, however, in reality you did not send it. Your friends know it is better to just call you or send you a message online in groups so that you actually respond and don’t excpect them to read your mind!

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          4. You’ve made multiple trips to the store because you got … ooh! Candy!

          There have been several times you have needed an onion or something for some dumb recipe you saw on Facebook, so you went to the store…hungry. You walk into the store, determined to get this onion and get out so you can check at least one thing off of your one out of one thousand to-do-list. Then you see that there is a bunch of candy in one aisle, and OH! POPCORN! Then you are trying to see if you can get some friends together and get a movie night going.

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          In goes Snickers, Rice Crispy Treats, popcorn, soda and don’t forget the Sour Patch kids. Then you find yourself looking at the magazines, then the cards remembering that it was someones birthday about a week ago. This is why you don’t go to Target, because by the time you’re in your car with your bags in your trunk, you remember that you forgot the dang onion. Oh well, drive through tacos it is before movie night!

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            5. People who don’t know you think you’re a flake and people who do, write down their plans in your planner.

            Planning things that are in advance requires a ton of effort from you. You constantly have conversations planning so many awesome things but don’t really go through with it until it’s written in stone. When I say stone, I mean your daily planner that gives you some sort of order in your chaotic spontaneous life. If there is someone that makes verbal plans with you, well that was a mistake!

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              6. While reading this in this tab, you likely have 5,637,372 different other tabs and programs open and running!

              Don’t even try to deny, you have Facebook open, you’re shopping for something online, you’ve got homework you are trying to do (but not really) and you’re reading this article. In addition to that, you’ve got some sort of music going on in the backgound and probably watching something on the television. Am I wrong? If I am, then maybe you’ve found yourself reading an article that isn’t about you (no offense).

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                7. You do not classify the first hour or so before your caffine dose as “being awake”.

                This is the hour that you can be considered one of the extras of the Walking Dead. Nothing will register, you can almost be classified as sleep walking until a cup of coffee is poured or a monster is cracked open. Anyone that tries to make plans, ask you anything important, or get you to do something for them is utterly out of their minds if they attempt to do it in the first hour.

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                  8. Lights, noise, smells and anything else that moves are your kryptonite.

                  As much as you try to focus, usually anything will distract your busy mind. Homework takes you about eight hours compared to the “normal” three.

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                    9. The only reason your pet is alive is because it tells you what it needs.

                    Seriously, every single plant you have had decided to own in the spur of the moment has died. The only reason your dog or whatever is alive, is because it reminds you by either being extremely annoying or loud that it is hungry, thirsty, or needs to pee.

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                      10. You have about 16,000 different types of handwriting depending on what is going on in your brain.

                      Usually when you are writing something down, it depends on how fast your brain is moving, how you’re feeling, what you are writing about and who you are writing to that affects the way it looks. For example, if you are taking notes in class, your writing shows up in the form of doodles or chicken scratch, but your handwriting on a note to a significant other looks very different.

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                        11. Your only form of calm is multi-tasking.

                        There is never any type of calm in your brain if you are just sitting there watching television. You either must have your computer out, a drawing pad, folding some laundry or playing on your phone. It is simply the only way to calm your busy and scattered mind. It’s okay though, you’re not the only one!

                        Featured photo credit: Longleat Maze- Jon Candy via flickr.com

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                        How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

                        How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

                        Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

                        For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

                        But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

                        It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

                        The Importance of Saying No

                        When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

                        In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

                        Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

                        Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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                        Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

                        “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

                        When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

                        How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

                        It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

                        From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

                        We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

                        And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

                        The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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                        How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

                        Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

                        The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

                        1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

                        Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

                        2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

                        Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

                        3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

                        When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

                        6 Ways to Start Saying No

                        Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

                        1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

                        One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

                        Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

                        2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

                        Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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                        Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

                        3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

                        Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

                        Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

                        4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

                        Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

                        Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

                        5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

                        When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

                        Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

                        A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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                        6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

                        If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

                        Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

                        Final Thoughts

                        Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

                        Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

                        Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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