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Only Scatterbrained People Would Relate To These 11 Things

Only Scatterbrained People Would Relate To These 11 Things

I personally experience all these typical things, scatterbrained people will understand and go through on a daily basis. Some of them aren’t “normal” to other people but oh well! You know you’re scatterbrained when:

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    1. You’ve got to-do-list everywhere.

    This is usually the result of a Pinterest orFacebook post with awesome ideas, or photos of awesome foods you need to make on your Instagram. So, your brain runs a million miles a minute making to-do-lists for the week, month and year! We all know though, those to-do-lists will never be finished because someone sent you a message about dinner and tacos do sound better than planning your meals for the entire week!

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      2. There are multiple parts of your brain and soul trying to be a part of the one conversation.

      You usually get two different reactions to the way you hold conversations. The first is a look of awe when the person you are talking to sees that you can have a conversation all by yourself and realize that you don’t need them for it. But in realitiy it’s usually a hidden look of concern as if they need to find the contact information for the closest hospital that can give you something to make you focus on one thing.

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      The other reaction is something amazing all in itself. If the other person you are talking to has bit of a scatter brain themselves, you both are having multiple conversations between each part of your brains jumping from topic to topic yet still remaining in sync. Observers are usually in the background watching with their jaw to the floor wondering how two people can be making plans, discussing Harry Potter, talking about different kinds of wine, and their dogs, with every other sentence being a different subject all in one conversation.

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        3. You receive “Hello…?” texts all the time.

        Ususally you receive a message and respond to it mentally. Usually this mental response is an entire paragraph, however, in reality you did not send it. Your friends know it is better to just call you or send you a message online in groups so that you actually respond and don’t excpect them to read your mind!

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          4. You’ve made multiple trips to the store because you got … ooh! Candy!

          There have been several times you have needed an onion or something for some dumb recipe you saw on Facebook, so you went to the store…hungry. You walk into the store, determined to get this onion and get out so you can check at least one thing off of your one out of one thousand to-do-list. Then you see that there is a bunch of candy in one aisle, and OH! POPCORN! Then you are trying to see if you can get some friends together and get a movie night going.

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          In goes Snickers, Rice Crispy Treats, popcorn, soda and don’t forget the Sour Patch kids. Then you find yourself looking at the magazines, then the cards remembering that it was someones birthday about a week ago. This is why you don’t go to Target, because by the time you’re in your car with your bags in your trunk, you remember that you forgot the dang onion. Oh well, drive through tacos it is before movie night!

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            5. People who don’t know you think you’re a flake and people who do, write down their plans in your planner.

            Planning things that are in advance requires a ton of effort from you. You constantly have conversations planning so many awesome things but don’t really go through with it until it’s written in stone. When I say stone, I mean your daily planner that gives you some sort of order in your chaotic spontaneous life. If there is someone that makes verbal plans with you, well that was a mistake!

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              6. While reading this in this tab, you likely have 5,637,372 different other tabs and programs open and running!

              Don’t even try to deny, you have Facebook open, you’re shopping for something online, you’ve got homework you are trying to do (but not really) and you’re reading this article. In addition to that, you’ve got some sort of music going on in the backgound and probably watching something on the television. Am I wrong? If I am, then maybe you’ve found yourself reading an article that isn’t about you (no offense).

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                7. You do not classify the first hour or so before your caffine dose as “being awake”.

                This is the hour that you can be considered one of the extras of the Walking Dead. Nothing will register, you can almost be classified as sleep walking until a cup of coffee is poured or a monster is cracked open. Anyone that tries to make plans, ask you anything important, or get you to do something for them is utterly out of their minds if they attempt to do it in the first hour.

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                  8. Lights, noise, smells and anything else that moves are your kryptonite.

                  As much as you try to focus, usually anything will distract your busy mind. Homework takes you about eight hours compared to the “normal” three.

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                    9. The only reason your pet is alive is because it tells you what it needs.

                    Seriously, every single plant you have had decided to own in the spur of the moment has died. The only reason your dog or whatever is alive, is because it reminds you by either being extremely annoying or loud that it is hungry, thirsty, or needs to pee.

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                      10. You have about 16,000 different types of handwriting depending on what is going on in your brain.

                      Usually when you are writing something down, it depends on how fast your brain is moving, how you’re feeling, what you are writing about and who you are writing to that affects the way it looks. For example, if you are taking notes in class, your writing shows up in the form of doodles or chicken scratch, but your handwriting on a note to a significant other looks very different.

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                        11. Your only form of calm is multi-tasking.

                        There is never any type of calm in your brain if you are just sitting there watching television. You either must have your computer out, a drawing pad, folding some laundry or playing on your phone. It is simply the only way to calm your busy and scattered mind. It’s okay though, you’re not the only one!

                        Featured photo credit: Longleat Maze- Jon Candy via flickr.com

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                        7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                        7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

                        The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

                        Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

                        Posture

                        First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

                        • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
                        • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
                        • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
                        • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

                        All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

                        Facial Expressions

                        Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

                        • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
                        • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
                        • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

                        If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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                        1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

                        A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

                        The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

                        This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

                        2. Relax Your Face

                        New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

                        The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

                        To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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                        3. Improve Your Eye Contact

                        Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

                        The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

                        To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

                        3. Smile More

                        There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

                        Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

                        4. Hand Gestures

                        Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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                        It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

                        5. Enhance Your Handshake

                        In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

                        “Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

                        It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

                        6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

                        As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

                        Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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                        Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

                        Final Takeaways

                        Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

                        If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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