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Things That Only Successful People Know To Be Important

Things That Only Successful People Know To Be Important

Being successful means you are able to achieve personal goals, as well as goals that are set by the community. Sometimes these goals are aligned, whereas sometimes these goals contradict each other. However, each and every one is capable is distinguishing whether someone is less successful or more successful. This is the difference between a small business and big business, or between fast and slow business expansion. It occurs due to a variation in leadership, and the mindsets of employees.

Someone who is not ambitions may not be bothered with the fact that he or she is less successful, and that person might just be working on other personal goals. Perhaps someone nurtures modesty as a primary virtue. However, the definition of successful person that I’ll use in this article is someone who manages to climb high on the social leader, who has a reputable career, and who still works on perfecting his or her business model.

It is not implied that these people are guided by avarice, quite the contrary, successful people can be extremely generous. These are people who thrive on being successful, being the at the very top of their niche, and simply being among the best at what they do. So, here are some traits that set apart common employees and employers from true professionals.

Less successful people do their job, successful people improve their performance

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    We all love to leave an impression of a diligent worker, someone who acknowledges and respects the authority of higher-ups. The problem arises when we continue to behave like an eager cadet for a prolonged period of time. Sure, you will develop a routine and increase your performance as you go along, but that is not what improving performance is all about. You need to display additional interest, speak your mind during business meetings, and give ideas on how to improve the overall performance of the firm. A company is more likely to succeed, and you are more likely to advance in the ranks, if you are fully invested and share the same vision as your employer.

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    Clearly, your life should not solely revolve around business, but if you put in the extra work during weekends, and if you stay an hour longer every now and then, there will be positive results. You’ll give the company’s engine a kick start surge required for lift off. Of course, this is not universal advice – in some lines of work you may not benefit from over-productivity (manufacturing goods for example), but if you are, let’s say a salesmen, and everyone manages to sell an extra product, you will only reap the fruits of your labour.

    Less successful people are discouraged by failure, successful people treat it as a lesson

    Truth be told, failure is never a comfortable experience. You invest both efforts and resources and despite your hard work, everything is made null and void. It happens – you might have had a good idea, or were inspired by a good idea, yet somewhere along the line the entire project went south. Well, for starters, if something inspires you do not try to mimic it completely, try to improve the model, but make sure the product is, at its core, your own unique take on a concept. The best example is DC and Marvel comics – even though Marvel mimicked some concepts from DC, the characters are fundamentally different when it comes to perspectives and background stories, so you can’t really call them a rip off.

    Back to the topic at hand, when you fail, never abandon an idea completely, especially if someone already managed to tap into its prolific potential. Closely scrutinize your situation, isolate the mistakes, retrace your steps, and avoid making the same mistakes in the future. If you are looking for something that will be successful on a first attempt you are looking for a miracle. Additionally, if you feel something is not working out, shut it down on time, and start over again, it’s the best way to hasten the success curve.

    Less successful people work hard, successful people take some time off to attain clarity

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      This may sound contradictory to the suggestions given previously, but if your hard works yields little positive results, maybe you are not going in the right direction. You cannot re-examine the steps adequately if you are constantly focused on your work. This is why you need to take some time off, and even if you are not constantly thinking about your work, a solution may appear to you out of the blue. This is not a miracle, it’s how our brains work.

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      When we face a dead end while trying to find a solution to a particular problem, the best thing to do is focus on something else. It gives our brains time to engage the subconscious to work on the problem. Think about it, how many times did you have trouble remembering something, regardless of how hard you tried, yet simply after doing something completely unrelated, the answer dawned on you. The truth is that if you are too eager to find the answer, the likelihood of that happening actually decreases.

      Less successful people only make a website, whereas successful people invest in quality design and development

      Websites have become one of the main business assets, and you cannot find successful companies without a well-designed website. A well-designed website means it is optimized for all platforms: PC, smartphones and tablets. It means the aesthetics and pages are perfectly arranged, and it has a natural call to action. Such a website should have high responsiveness, and visitors can intuitively find what they are after. You will also need insightful content, in order to generate relevant leads. So, more or less, this is a definition of well-designed website.

      Never view success and a well-designed website like the chicken and egg paradox. The website must come first, in order for people to take you seriously and view you as a professional. Poorly designed websites are pushed far back in the search results, and Google made sure of that. There is no easy way or a scam you can pull to become successful. As a society, we must all learn to appreciate and deliver quality work and products.

      A great number of business owners simply make a website just for the sake of having one, and try to get a deal that is as budget-friendly as possible. Clearly, it is a not the way to go. You do not need to spend a fortune for a website to fulfill all the above mentioned criteria. WordPress is the most user-friendly platform out there, and you can have a quality website that is easy to maintain. As you progress you can create a better one, using Joomla or Drupal.

      Less successful people wait for the opportunity, successful people make their own opportunities

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        It is a mistake to wait for a moment to shine, or to wait for higher-ups to notice you. You need to be on the lookout for opportunities, but never allow that to be your plan A. You have no idea just how many things you can do and have solid earnings, only if you are determined enough. When you are unemployed don’t wait, look for jobs online. There are platforms like, e-lance and upwork. You can earn a small profit from iWriter, but it is an opportunity to hone your skills. Doing online surveys is another way to make profit. Sure, these are not jobs that scream success, but you need to be resourceful, and show the ability to work around the problem, not just passively wait for a solution to fall on your lap. Every single company and self-made business owner started small, therefore, you should not be bothered by your humble beginnings – it’s way better than feeling helpless.

        Less successful people recoil from criticism, successful people welcome it

        As a provider, you do not need to pamper every specific need of your consumer, but if you receive a similar complaint from number of consumers, then you’d better listen. Even if you are a sole provider without competition in your area, you should work on improving your products and services. By no means are you to become cocky and allow the complaints to fall on deaf ears. Because they rarely do – someone can easily use your product, and work on the requested improvements. Not only will you then have competition, you will have a big problem on your hands.

        Truly successful people take great pride in their work, and strive to deliver the best user experience possible, constructive criticism is just another tool that helps them achieve their goal. This can be perfectly combined with the aforementioned website design features. Create a forum section for users to exchange experiences, and for you to interact with them. Be open to suggestions and discuss your service, and you will be able to improve your product and create a strong bond with consumers.

        You should not try to ignore them, nor should they try to extort you, a healthy producer-consumer relationship can exist only if you want to help each other. Work on that bond, it is essential for a successful career.

        Less successful people stay within the comfort zone, successful people take on new challenges

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          Everyone has an ideal job and workplace in their mind, but these rarely become reality, and when they do, it may not turn out the way you expected. However, it is reasonable thinking – why try doing something you have no idea how to do, when you can do a perfectly fine job operating on familiar terrain.

          However, in order to be successful, you need to expand your horizons, and become a person of many talents. To be a reliable worker who can advance, you need to rely on versatility, and be able to step in for someone who is prevented from doing their job. It’s how you show that you can keep the company going, it’s how you become irreplaceable.

          We live in the age of internet, information has never been more accessible, and whenever you find yourself puzzled by a problem, you can usually find a solution online. Anything you wondered how to do or fix, there is probably a tutorial text or video for it. In other words, you have everything you need to work on yourself and broaden your skill set. This is also a good way to test your own competence – if you are confident you know how to do something, create a tutorial and see if you can efficiently transfer your knowledge.

          Do not back off from new challenges and from the possibility to put more expertise on your CV. Do not rely on others to solve your problems if you can do it yourself. Learning new skills can never be a bad thing or a waste of time, it can only enhance your overall performance.

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          Last Updated on December 2, 2019

          How to Develop Mental Toughness And Stay Strong

          How to Develop Mental Toughness And Stay Strong

          Are you the kind of person who wants to achieve massive success in your life? Do you have the mental toughness to make that happen?

          I think we can all agree that no matter your ambitions, achieving success can be difficult; and over time, the daily grind can take a toll on your physical, mental, and emotional energy.

          Achievers and high performers from all walks of life face ups and downs along the path to success—they face failure, burnout, discouragement, fatigue, self-limiting beliefs, stress, and so much more.

          How do some people continually strive towards their personal goals year after year while others give up on them? How do those people stay strong and persevere when there is so much stacked against them?

          Studies now show that mental strength is a critical key to success. If you haven’t read Angela Duckworth’s book Grit, you should. In it, she shows that “the secret to outstanding achievement is not talent but a special blend of passion and persistence she calls ‘grit.’” In other words, mental toughness plays a significant role when it comes to achieving goals.

          Sometimes, our goals wear us down and leave us feeling exhausted. Other times, our goals get difficult, and success seems impossible, so we lose hope, become discouraged, and want to quit.

          At its core, mental toughness is simply the ability to stick to something when the going gets tough. People with high levels of mental toughness can push beyond these obstacles and forge a path towards success while those with lower levels of mental toughness may abandon their dreams.

          Want to know the good news?

          No matter who you are, what you’ve been told, or what you currently believe, you can develop the mental toughness you need to be successful.

          All you need to do is learn to develop a positive mindset, focus on your why, and utilize the people around you for support.

          1. Develop a Positive Mindset

          If you’re going to increase your mental toughness, the first thing you have to do is focus on building a strong, positive mindset.

          According to the Cleveland Clinic, the average person has 60,000 thoughts per day. Of those, 95% of those thoughts repeat each day and, on average, 80% of repeated ideas are negative.[1]

          That’s roughly 45,600 negative thoughts per day!

          Carrying around these negative thoughts is like going on a hike in the mountains with a backpack full of rocks. The hike is hard enough on its own, but having extra junk weighing you down is a recipe for failure.

          Sometimes, building mental toughness isn’t as much about building new strength as it is about saving your strength for the right tasks. Wouldn’t it be easier to dump the rocks out of the backpack instead of trying to get strong enough to carry the extra weight?

          Absolutely!

          But how can we learn to spot those 45,600 negative thoughts and get rid of them? How can we empty our metaphorical backpack?

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          Well, it gets a whole lot easier if you know what you’re looking for. Some of the most prominent types of negative thoughts are self-limiting beliefs, all-or-nothing thinking, and dwelling.

          Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs

          It’s pretty hard to be mentally tough when you’re constantly beating yourself up. Self-limiting beliefs are any beliefs that hold you back in some way. Here are some examples:

          “I’m not smart enough to…”

          “I don’t have enough experience to…”

          “I’ve tried that before, and it didn’t go well, so I must just be bad at…”

          When we allow these self-limiting beliefs to flood our minds, negative self-talk runs rampant, and we crowd out our ability to think positively. We’re effectively working against ourselves.

          If you want to keep your mind strong on your path to success, you have to overcome the self-limiting beliefs that are holding you back by realizing one key truth: self-limiting beliefs are thoughts, not facts.

          When you recognize a self-limiting belief cropping up in your mind, quickly silence it by telling yourself that it’s not true and then back that up with some positive affirmations:

          • “I am smart enough; I may just need to do some more research first.”
          • “I may not have as much experience as someone else, but that’s not going to stop me from trying. I have enough experience to get started. I’ll figure the rest out on the way.”
          • “Just because I failed at this last time doesn’t mean I’m going to fail this time. My past does not dictate my future.”

          Get Rid of the All-or-Nothing Thinking

          Another form of negative thinking that could be preventing you from building mental toughness is all-or-nothing thinking.

          All-or-nothing thinking is the concept of thinking in extremes. You are either a success or a failure. Your performance was totally good or totally awful. If you’re not perfect, then you’re a failure.

          But this isn’t true!

          If you’re trying to lose 30 pounds and only lost 28, isn’t that still better than not losing any weight at all? I’d say so!

          If you allow all-or-nothing thinking to rule your mind, you’ll be on cloud nine when you succeed, but you’ll beat yourself up when you “fail.” Acknowledging the shades of gray in between will allow you to see success more often and it will help you celebrate your smaller wins.

          When you recognize an all-or-nothing thought, remember to look for the positive in the situation. What did you gain by trying? What would you have missed out on had you not tried? Could you do better if you were to try again?

          Ditch the Dwelling

          Self-Limiting Beliefs and All-or-Nothing Thinking can lead to a bad case of dwelling on the negative. If you want to build some mental toughness and keep your mind strong, you have to ditch the dwelling.

          Every day, bad things happen to each of us, and while there’s nothing we can do to prevent that, we can control how we react to these situations.

          When we dwell on our misfortunes, we waste massive amounts of energy that we could be using to achieve our goals. When this happens, we’re more likely to quit altogether.

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          But that doesn’t mean you’re not mentally tough; it just means you’re misusing your energy.

          The next time something bad happens, it’s important to allow yourself to feel the disappointment and frustration, but work on reducing the amount of time you dwell on the situation.

          Easier said than done, right? Try these:

          1. Call a friend or mentor and talk it through with them. Get some outside perspective on your situation.
          2. Time block your dwelling by allowing yourself to dwell for no more than one hour.
          3. Then, tell yourself to move on, that you’re human, and you’re allowed to make mistakes or experience setbacks.
          4. If all else fails, find a good way to distract yourself until you can calm down and reexamine things with a clear mind.

          The faster you can focus on the positives and move past the problem, the quicker you can get back to achieving success in your life.

          Be Patient about the Process

          No matter which negative thoughts tend to run around your mind, working to replace them with positive thoughts can take time.

          Learning to spot self-limiting beliefs, all-or-nothing thinking, or dwelling is one thing, but learning to quiet those thoughts is another thing entirely.

          If at first you don’t succeed, don’t fret. Instead, take a deep breath and try again. As you work towards improving your mindfulness and your mental toughness, remember that you’re going to get better with time.

          To make things a little easier, it helps to connect with your purpose.

          2. Connect with Your Purpose

          One of the most critical elements to building mental toughness and keeping a strong and focused mind is having a strong ‘why’ for everything you want to do.

          If you set out to achieve a huge goal that you don’t have a ‘why’ for, you’re going to find yourself distracted, discouraged, or disengaged as soon as you experience your first setback.

          Think about the last time you were working on a goal or resolution and things weren’t going well, maybe you even wanted to quit. Perhaps you thought you didn’t have enough willpower. Maybe you told yourself that you didn’t have enough discipline.

          Here’s the truth: you just didn’t have a strong enough why.

          Simon Sinek has been spreading his message “Start with Why” across the globe.[2] In short, he says that:

          “Your ‘why’ is the purpose, cause or belief that inspires you.”

          One of the biggest drains on your mental energy is pursuing a goal or a task that you don’t have a ‘why’ for. This is when we tend to look for external motivation or question our willpower, but those aren’t the issues.

          Often, we set goals because we like the idea of the goal, not the reality of the goal. Without connecting to our why, we can’t intrinsically motivate ourselves to achieve our most challenging goals.

          Find Intrinsic Motivation

          Intrinsic motivation is our innate desire to do something and it comes when we work towards something that satisfies ourselves above all else—not our parents or our bosses or our teachers.

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          Let’s say you think you want to quit smoking because you know it’s bad for you, but you really enjoy smoking. If you don’t truly want to quit smoking, it’s going to be nearly impossible, regardless of your willpower or mental toughness.

          But if you want to quit smoking because you just had a baby, and you don’t want your baby growing up around smoke, then that ‘why’ is going to give you intrinsic motivation. Intrinsic motivation is far more powerful than sheer stubborn willpower, and it’s far easier to maintain over the long haul.

          If you’re trying to develop mental toughness, connecting a why to everything you want to achieve will reduce the effort and energy it will take to achieve those things. Once you’ve found a strong why for all of your goals, you’ll find that you’ll have significantly more energy to pursue your more difficult challenges.

          3. Find Strength in Unity

          The final aspect of developing mental toughness is embracing the idea that you’re not in this alone. It’s a fact, anyone who’s ever achieved success in anything didn’t do so alone.

          Bill Gates didn’t build Microsoft alone. Oprah didn’t build her network by herself. Steve Jobs didn’t invent the iPhone without a team. Michelle Obama didn’t implement the “Let’s Move” campaign on her own.

          Behind all of these successful people were countless other people who were there offering support, mentorship, guidance, and encouragement.

          If you want to develop unmatched mental toughness, you need to understand that you don’t have to go it alone. Even the toughest Navy Seals have a team backing them up.

          If you want to stay strong in your endeavors, you need to build a team of supporters who will step in and back you up when it counts.

          Find a Mentor or Committee of Mentors

          The benefits of having a great mentor are far too many to list, but to boil it down to the basics, a mentor is someone who will help show you the path to success.

          A good mentor will help you discover your greatest strengths, spot and overcome your blind spots, and work through your weaknesses.

          If you’re struggling to deal with your internal negativity or with finding your purpose, talk it through with a mentor. Sometimes we lose the forest for the trees, and a mentor can help us take a step back and see the bigger picture.

          Here’s how to find the right mentor for yourself: How to Find a Mentor That Will Help You Succeed

          Recruit Some Cheerleaders

          If you want to stay strong, it never hurts to have a group of personal cheerleaders. Unlike mentors who are going to jump in and help you address your problems, a group of cheerleaders will help keep your spirits up.

          Even if you have a strong ‘why’ and a positive mindset, it’s nearly impossible to maintain a positive attitude 100% of the time. It doesn’t make you weak to need some help from time to time. Having a group of people cheering you on will make all the difference in the world.

          As you work towards your goals, tell a few close friends about what you’re doing, and when things get tough, tell them about it. And when they give you the pep talk you need, don’t resist their positivity or counter it with your self-limiting beliefs or your all-or-nothing attitude.

          Allow their optimism to refill your energy and use that energy to press on.

          Form an Accountability Group

          Cheerleaders are great, but sometimes we need someone to give us the kick we need to keep going. You might have a strong ‘why’ for running a marathon or losing 30 pounds, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy; and trying to force yourself to follow through is a sure way to tax your mental energy.

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          Why not save some of your mental energy by forming an accountability group?

          Find a person or a few people who have similar goals, or at the very least, the need for an accountability partner. Then, form an agreement within the group to push each other every day.

          Even if your goals aren’t the same, accountability partners are great for giving us the push we need when we need it most.

          Regardless of which relationships you choose, sometimes we have to be able to work through things on our own. Mentors, cheerleaders, and accountability partners are a great way for us to combat our naturally negative mindsets, but occasionally we have to be able to pick ourselves back up.

          4. Learn to Pick Yourself Back Up After Setbacks

          Building a strong mindset and developing mental toughness isn’t easy! Anyone who’s ever achieved massive success knows that obstacles, setbacks, and failure are inevitable, and you’re no different.

          As you work on your goals, you’re going to face many ups and downs, but this doesn’t mean that you don’t have mental toughness, willpower, or discipline.

          We all struggle. We all fail. It’s what we decide to do after we fail that truly counts.

          When you find yourself in a low spot, ask yourself these questions:

          • “Am I being too hard on myself?”
          • “Are negative thoughts such as Self-Limiting Beliefs or All-or-Nothing Thinking distorting my view?”
          • “What’s the positive side of this setback/obstacle/failure?”
          • “Why was this goal important to me? What was my purpose?”
          • “Is this goal still important to me? Do I still have a ‘why’?”
          • “Who can I ask for help? Who can mentor me or cheer me on? Who can help hold me accountable?”

          Asking yourself these questions is a great way to check in on your mindset. When we get lost in negative thinking or lose connection to our purpose, it’s far too easy to become discouraged. When we feel discouraged, we start feeling weak, maybe even a little hopeless.

          Also, this article provides some useful tips to help you get back on track: How to Deal with Failure and Pick Yourself Back Up

          Tying it All Together

          Are you still with me? I know I’ve thrown a lot at you, from developing a positive mindset and combatting your internal voice to connecting with purpose and building a committee of mentors. It’s a lot to take it!

          But here’s the bottom line:

          A crucial part of developing mental toughness is learning to recognize these tendencies and taking action to correct them early on. Developing mental toughness is not about eliminating weakness, but learning how to deal with it and overcome it.

          No one is perfect, but when we focus on the right things, we can develop a mental toughness worthy of life’s biggest challenges.

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