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If You’ve Been Doing These 4 Things, You’re Not Far Away From Success

If You’ve Been Doing These 4 Things, You’re Not Far Away From Success

Success is a tricky thing. It is defined differently by every person. Whether you are the richest person on the Forbes list or you are a broke college kid, we are all striving for our definition of success. Often times it seems so distant. Do you ever feel like giving up?

Success can never be bought — it can only be rented. The best part about that is that anyone can be successful if they keep trying and paying the rent. If you are doing the 5 things below, you are closer to success than you might realize.

You are not far away from success if…

1. You have friends who are more successful than you.

Have you ever heard the term “Success by association?” The term was coined by Harvard professor David McClelland. He devoted most of his life to studying the most common characteristics in successful people. He discovered that the single most important factor in determining success or failure is your reference group. Who you associate with is even more important than how hard you try.

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If you are anything like me, you get filled with jealousy when someone else gets the raise you thought you deserved. You get angry when your friend get’s the promotion or they get the bigger deal than you. It’s extremely common to be jealous, but if you continue to surround yourself with those types of people, you will be that much closer to your success.

If your friends are more successful than you, you are in a very good place.

2. You hate to lose.

Everyone loves to win, but not everyone hates to lose.

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Don Yaeger, one of the sports writing greats, penned a book called The 16 characteristics of True Champions . The number one characteristic of champions was that they hate to lose more than they love to win. He studied all the greats — from Michael Jordan to UCLA coach John Wooden — and that was the #1 thing that every single champion had in common.

Do you hate it when your sibling beats you in Monopoly? Do you hate it when your spouse wins in a “friendly” game of pool? If you hate losing in the small parts of life all the way to the big time, you are not from away from success.

3. You read.

President Harry S. Truman said, “Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers.”

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It has been proven over and over that the children who read more than average are more successful in school. They score higher on tests and are more literate. Do you think this carries over once you are out of school? Of course it does. I would take a wild guess that you are reading this article because you strive for success in at least one area of your life.

People who are not looking for success don’t look in books or articles. The single fact that you are reading this article proves you are that much closer to success than you realize.

4. You have failed.

“Failure is success in progress.” –Albert Einstein

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What does success have to do with failure? Everything. The title of Tim Harford’s latest best selling book was called Adapt: Why Success Always Starts with Failure. Failure leads to success because it does a lot of things to you:

  • It makes you change.
  • You learn what doesn’t work.
  • It gives you thick skin.
  • It helps you not fear failure.

Darren Hardy describes failure and success like a pendulum. On one side, you have success, growth and achievement. On the other side, you have failure, rejection and pain. The further you swing the pendulum to the failure side, the further the pendulum will swing to the success side. If you have ever failed, or you have been failing recently, you are not far away from success.

Success is a tricky thing. Sometimes it feels like our success is miles away and headed the other way. But if you are doing these four things, it’s not as far away as you think.

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Last Updated on May 17, 2019

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone

The pursuit of worthwhile goals is a part of what makes life enjoyable. Being able to set a goal, then see yourself progress towards achieving that goal is an amazing feeling.

But do you know the biggest obstacle for most people trying to achieve their goals, the silent dream killer that stops people before they ever even get started? That obstacle is the comfort zone, and getting stuck there is bound to derail any efforts you make towards achieving the goals you’ve set for yourself.

If you want to achieve those goals, you’ll have to break free from your comfort zone. Let’s take a look at how your life will change once you build up the courage to leave your comfort zone.

What Is the Comfort Zone?

The comfort zone is defined as “a behavioural state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.”

What stands out to me the most about that definition is the last part: “using a limited set of behaviours to deliver a steady level of performance.” How many successful people do you know who deliver a steady level of performance?

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The goal in life is to continually challenge yourself, and continually improve yourself. And in order to do that, you have move out of your comfort zone. But once you do, your life will start to change in ways you could never have imagined. I know because it’s happening right now in my own life.

Here’s what I’ve learned.

1. You will be scared

Leaving your comfort zone isn’t easy. In fact, in can be downright terrifying at times, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly normal to feel a little trepidation when you’re embarking on a journey that forces you to try new things.

So don’t freak out or get overwhelmed when you feel yourself getting a little scared. It’s perfectly normal and all part of the process. What’s important is that you don’t let that fear hold you back. You must continue to take action in the face of fear.

That’s what separates winners from losers.

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2. You will fail

Stepping out of your comfort zone means you’re moving into uncharted territory. You’re trying things that you’ve never tried before, and learning things you’ve never learned before.

That steep learning curve means you’re not going to get everything right the first time, and you will eventually fail when you move out of your comfort zone. But as long as the failures aren’t catastrophic, it can actually be a good thing to fail because …

3. You will learn

Failure is the best teacher. I’ve learned more from each one of my failures than I have from each one of my successes. When you fail small, and fail often, you rapidly increase the rate at which you learn new insights and skills. And that new knowledge, if applied correctly, will eventually lead to your success.

4. You will see yourself in a different way

Once you move out of your comfort zone, you immediately prove to yourself that you’re capable of achieving more than you thought was possible. And that will change the way you see yourself.

Moving forward, you’ll have more confidence in yourself whenever you step out of your comfort zone, and that increased confidence will make it more likely that you continue to step outside your comfort zone. And each time you do, you’ll prove to yourself again and again what you’re really capable of.

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5. Your peers will see you in a different way

Whether we want to admit or not, people judge other people. And right now, people view you in a certain way, and they have a certain idea of what you’re capable of. That’s because they’ve become accustomed to seeing you operate in your comfort zone.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you’ll prove to other people, as well, that you’re capable of much more than you’ve shown in the past.

The increased confidence other people place in you will bring about more opportunities than ever before.

6. Your comfort zone will expand

The good thing about the comfort zone is that it’s flexible and malleable. With each action you take outside of your comfort zone, it expands. And once you master that new skill or action, it eventually becomes part of your comfort zone.

This is great news for you because it means that you can constantly increase and improve upon the behaviors that you’re comfortable with. And the more tools and skills you have at your disposal, the easier it will be to achieve your goals.

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7. You will increase your concentration and focus

When you’re living inside of your comfort zone, the bulk of your actions are habitual: automatic, subconscious, and requiring limited focus.

But once you move out of your comfort zone, you no longer rely on those habitual responses. You’re forced to concentrate and focus on the new action in a way you never do in your comfort zone.

8. You will develop new skills

Moving out of your comfort zone requires that you develop new skills. One of the many benefits you’ll experience is that you’ll be stepping away from the “limited set of behaviors” and start to develop your ability and expertise in new areas.

Living inside of your comfort zone only requires a limited skill set, and those skills won’t contribute much to your success. Once you can confidently step outside of your comfort zone and learn a new skill, there’s no limit to how much you can achieve.

9. You will achieve more than before

With everything that happens once you move out of your comfort zone, you’re naturally going to achieve more than ever before.

Your increased concentration and focus will help you develop new skills. Those new skills will change the way you see yourself, encouraging you to step even further out of your comfort zone.

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