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8 Signs You’ll Be Successful In Life (Though The Time Hasn’t Come Yet)

8 Signs You’ll Be Successful In Life (Though The Time Hasn’t Come Yet)

Do you ever wonder whether you’ll achieve your goals and manage to build the life of your dreams? Do you catch yourself wondering whether your efforts are worthwhile? When we encounter setbacks, it can be hard to believe that we’ll ever get what we most want or need. However, sometimes it can help to slow down and look for signs that you are on the right track to success, even if these indications are not always obvious. Take a look at the list below and you’ll probably discover that you already have the key ingredients for a happy, successful life.

1. You know what you want in life

You can’t reach your destination unless you know where it is you wish to go. The most successful people can readily identify their core goals and key values. If you are not sure what you want to achieve, take a few hours to sit down with a pen and piece of paper and list your goals. This simple step can save you from wasting time and energy in chasing goals that will not fulfil you.

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2. You always look for improvement

Truly exceptional people know that they can never afford to become complacent. They know that in order to stay ahead of their competition and to develop as individuals they need to continually seek out the areas in which they can improve. If you don’t look for new ways to improve yourself you risk wasting your talents and may experience a slump in motivation.

3. You learn from your failures

If you have the ability to take an honest look at what has gone wrong in your life and apply the lessons learned to your future endeavors, you are certainly on the right track. Success may be sweet but failure is a wonderful teacher. Those who learn from failure will soon find themselves making rapid progress.

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4. You can say no to things that are not your priority

Successful people are keenly aware that our time on earth is limited, and could end at any point. This means that they are adept at focusing only on important tasks, taking care to make time for fun and relaxation as well. Allowing yourself to take on other responsibilities and people that are not really any of your concern simply wastes your time. People who know how to say “no” have more space in their lives to chase success.

5. You stay positive

A positive mindset is one of the most precious assets you can have, and the best news is that developing an optimistic outlook is completely free! Of course it takes time and effort to adopt a more upbeat approach to life, and making the choice to see the best in even the bleakest of situations does not come naturally to many of us. However, remaining positive even when everything appears to be going wrong is vital in maintaining the momentum required for long-term success.

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6. You don’t care much about what others think

Asking for the opinions of friends, family and colleagues can be a valuable exercise, as it can provide you with new perspectives and ideas. However, successful people have enough self-confidence and faith in their own decisions that they do not allow what others think of them to dictate their actions or mood. This allows them to blaze new trails and become innovators in their fields.

7. You’re aware of your little progress

People who have achieved great things will often tell you that celebrating minor successes is just as important as striving for the end result. If you want to boost your motivation levels and scale new heights in life, break your largest goals down into small steps and celebrate every milestone.

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8. You’re confident but not arrogant

Much like positivity, confidence is vital. Confident people identify what they want and then take every possible step to make it happen. However, it is important to squash any tendency you may have towards arrogance. A self-important, arrogant attitude is detrimental as it means you will be reluctant to acknowledge and learn from your mistakes.

Don’t worry if you do not have all of the above eight qualities. They take time to develop and often come with maturity and experience. However, you can certainly hasten your own progress! Over the next few days, carefully monitor your thoughts. Ask yourself whether the messages you send yourself support the mindset described above. If not, it may be time to work on your self-esteem and re-evaluate what it is you are hoping to achieve in life.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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