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8 Signs You’ll Be Successful In Life (Though The Time Hasn’t Come Yet)

8 Signs You’ll Be Successful In Life (Though The Time Hasn’t Come Yet)

Do you ever wonder whether you’ll achieve your goals and manage to build the life of your dreams? Do you catch yourself wondering whether your efforts are worthwhile? When we encounter setbacks, it can be hard to believe that we’ll ever get what we most want or need. However, sometimes it can help to slow down and look for signs that you are on the right track to success, even if these indications are not always obvious. Take a look at the list below and you’ll probably discover that you already have the key ingredients for a happy, successful life.

1. You know what you want in life

You can’t reach your destination unless you know where it is you wish to go. The most successful people can readily identify their core goals and key values. If you are not sure what you want to achieve, take a few hours to sit down with a pen and piece of paper and list your goals. This simple step can save you from wasting time and energy in chasing goals that will not fulfil you.

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2. You always look for improvement

Truly exceptional people know that they can never afford to become complacent. They know that in order to stay ahead of their competition and to develop as individuals they need to continually seek out the areas in which they can improve. If you don’t look for new ways to improve yourself you risk wasting your talents and may experience a slump in motivation.

3. You learn from your failures

If you have the ability to take an honest look at what has gone wrong in your life and apply the lessons learned to your future endeavors, you are certainly on the right track. Success may be sweet but failure is a wonderful teacher. Those who learn from failure will soon find themselves making rapid progress.

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4. You can say no to things that are not your priority

Successful people are keenly aware that our time on earth is limited, and could end at any point. This means that they are adept at focusing only on important tasks, taking care to make time for fun and relaxation as well. Allowing yourself to take on other responsibilities and people that are not really any of your concern simply wastes your time. People who know how to say “no” have more space in their lives to chase success.

5. You stay positive

A positive mindset is one of the most precious assets you can have, and the best news is that developing an optimistic outlook is completely free! Of course it takes time and effort to adopt a more upbeat approach to life, and making the choice to see the best in even the bleakest of situations does not come naturally to many of us. However, remaining positive even when everything appears to be going wrong is vital in maintaining the momentum required for long-term success.

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6. You don’t care much about what others think

Asking for the opinions of friends, family and colleagues can be a valuable exercise, as it can provide you with new perspectives and ideas. However, successful people have enough self-confidence and faith in their own decisions that they do not allow what others think of them to dictate their actions or mood. This allows them to blaze new trails and become innovators in their fields.

7. You’re aware of your little progress

People who have achieved great things will often tell you that celebrating minor successes is just as important as striving for the end result. If you want to boost your motivation levels and scale new heights in life, break your largest goals down into small steps and celebrate every milestone.

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8. You’re confident but not arrogant

Much like positivity, confidence is vital. Confident people identify what they want and then take every possible step to make it happen. However, it is important to squash any tendency you may have towards arrogance. A self-important, arrogant attitude is detrimental as it means you will be reluctant to acknowledge and learn from your mistakes.

Don’t worry if you do not have all of the above eight qualities. They take time to develop and often come with maturity and experience. However, you can certainly hasten your own progress! Over the next few days, carefully monitor your thoughts. Ask yourself whether the messages you send yourself support the mindset described above. If not, it may be time to work on your self-esteem and re-evaluate what it is you are hoping to achieve in life.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

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Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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