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26 Simple Things You Have To Stop Doing To Move Closer To Success

26 Simple Things You Have To Stop Doing To Move Closer To Success

Are you looking for success? Many people want a successful life but they believe they don’t have what it takes. Everyone has the ability to be extremely successful – check out 27 simple things that might be holding you back.

1. Making Empty Promises

Only say things you know are true, and people will trust and respect you. A big part of success is being honest and reliable.

2. Blaming Others

Your life is in your hands – accept responsibility  for your mistakes, and you will be forced to work on improving them.

3. Looking for Others’ Approval

Unless you work for them, you don’t need their approval. Do what makes you happy and don’t worry too much about other opinions.

4. Aiming Small

You have one life – aim bigger! If you try to achieve more, it is very likely you will succeed and have a successful life.

5. Living in The Past

As the saying goes: “Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future, but today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present.”

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Take advantage of the present, and make your time count.

6. Trying to Be Perfect

No one is perfect. Trying to be is a waste of time. Instead, learn to love your flaws and focus on overall self-improvement.

7. Trying to Do Everything Alone

For some tasks in life, you need more than one person. Don’t sell yourself short by refusing to accept help from others.

8. Waiting for Luck

Don’t wait for luck to come around – it may never arrive. Start making your own luck today.

9. Waiting in General

Try not to rely on other people or life when it comes to your own success. Take matters into your own hands whenever necessary.

10. Forgetting About Small Achievements

Small goals are important too – pat yourself on the back every time you do something you’re proud of.

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11. Being Scared of Making Mistakes

Everyone makes mistakes, including you. Acceptance of that fact, and forgiving yourself, are vital pieces to achieving success.

But make sure you learn from your mistakes.

12. Being Scared of Change

Don’t fear the unknown – you can’t improve without change.

13. Not Realizing Your Potential

You are smart and motivated – embrace these traits and see what you can achieve.

14. Giving Up

Life will have ups and downs – don’t let the bad parts stop you working towards the good parts.

15. Holding Onto Grudges

If someone hurt you in the past, they can no longer change that. Let your anger go – it’s not helping anyone, including yourself.

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16. Not Having a Positive Attitude

With a negative attitude, you will see the worst parts of the world. Keep a positive attitude, and you will see all of the opportunities the world has to offer.

17. Trash Talking

If you don’t like someone, don’t talk about them and avoid associating with them. Gossiping about others is more likely to reflect badly on you than them.

18. Not Focusing on Being Happy

Happiness doesn’t just happen; it takes work, so try to do at least one thing every day that puts a smile on your face.

19. Not Having a Career Plan

Your work takes up 40 hours (or more) of your week. Make sure you find something you enjoy and feel proud of.

20. Not Having a Life Plan

Fail to plan and life will pass you by. So, make sure you think of the future as well as enjoying the present.

21. Missing Out on Opportunities to Learn

Education doesn’t finish with school – the whole world is full of life lessons that will help you to gain success and happiness.

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22. Spending Time with Negative People

Your friends should lift you up and motivate you to achieve more – if they don’t, you don’t need them in your life.

23. Not Being Happy for Others

If someone else gains success, they don’t take your success away. Remember this and be happy for anyone you know who is enjoying a successful life.

24. Not Listening

If you only talk and don’t listen, you can miss many great opportunities for success. Don’t let this happen to you – keep your ears open!

25. Not Allowing Yourself to Relax

The most successful people make sure they take breaks to relax and unwind. Without a chance to relax, you will struggle to work effectively. So, remember to put your feet up when you can.

26. Settling

You can always achieve more and gain greater success – don’t settle if you’re not 100% happy with your lot.

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Published on March 19, 2019

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success


Do you remember the last time you faced a major setback–when you felt so low, that nothing seemed to make you happy? No matter how hard you tried, you just felt like the world was against you. Perhaps it was a bad relationship, or the loss of a loved one… maybe something bad happened at work? Whatever it may be, could you recall how your attitude was towards that situation?

Often when we’re caught in an unhappy situation, we feel limited and sometimes trapped. We want to get out of it as quickly as we can, but it’s never quite that simple.

Unfortunately, some people can remain in that terrible situation for weeks, months or even years; while others may come out strong and ready to start over–or continue from where they left off–fairly quickly.

So what sets these two groups apart?

The answer is their attitude.

Attitude is everything when it comes to achieving a goal, and tackling a setback or problem. 

When you’re able to have a positive mindset, you’ll be able to break free of your limitations that are holding you back.

A positive attitude also goes a long way in ensuring you come out victorious from whatever limitations that were holding you back before. It transforms not just your mental state, but your physical and emotional well being. It is the key to lasting total transformation.

Positive Attitude Brings About Positive Health 

When you’re stuck in a rut, often the first thoughts that run through your head are negative, thus your outlook likely becomes pessimistic. But, if you can transform those thoughts into more positive ones, then you’re on your way to talking yourself out of that rut, which allows you to move forward.

Of course, positive thinking doesn’t mean ignoring all the bad or unpleasant feelings altogether. It just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way–instead of taking everything as a victim to negative circumstances, you see it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Be aware of self talk!

These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self talk comes from logic and reason, while other self talk may arise from misconceptions that you create. Others could come from external sources such as negative people around you, or messages from the media.

The key is to surround yourself with positive influences that can help turn those negative thoughts into positive, more productive actions.You’ll not only feel better about the situation, but in the long run, positive thinking can lower your levels of distress and depression and give you better coping skills during hardships.

Researchers studying the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health have also found that positive thinking may provide increased life span, better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and even greater resistance to the common cold!

It’s unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits, but one theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body.

It’s also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

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Suffering is Inevitable, So It’s Best to Accept It 

Now, one thing that everyone goes through at some point, is suffering. It’s a harsh reality, yet you can’t actually avoid it. We experience suffering as the result of unhappiness, fear, anger, loss or frustration. In fact, it would be hard to even imagine the feeling of happiness if we never experienced suffering! How would we ever compare it?

So instead of wallowing in sorrow about the suffering you have endured, take the suffering as an opportunity for change. Did you get laid off from your job? Perhaps this would be a good time to re-assess your career goals.

Rather than feeling negative and stuck, use your time and energy to find opportunities which will put you ahead. With the right attitude, anything can seem possible.

This may sound crazy, but suffering is the secret to being successful! 

Here’s what I mean. It’s impossible to think of new ideas or understand new experiences without stepping outside of your comfort zone. Anyone who has met great successes has also faced many failures, as nobody wins on every try.

To propel you toward success, find a way to track your progress and to set and celebrate small benchmarks. It may be helpful to conduct a weekly review to assess where you are and acknowledge all of the small wins of the week. Every accomplishment, no matter how small, is an achievement; so, be sure to take note of them.

Tracking your progress is also a great way to find and mitigate triggers and hindrances that impede your progress. The point is, you’re making progress; even if it feels like suffering, you can see that it’s leading you to joy.

Remember, don’t compare yourself to others. Only compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Each step you make towards progress is making you a better version of you.

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Gratitude Goes a Long Way in Shaping Attitude 

Now, this may seem difficult to do when you’re already feeling down, but having gratitude is a very useful when you’re trying to navigate your way out of a setback. Being grateful for existing accomplishments and the supports in your life will help you see them more clearly, build your own confidence, and give you a better overall outlook on what your limitations really are and what you have to do to overcome them.

With a grateful attitude, you limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Being grateful, even during the toughest of times, steers your attitude towards a more positive one, allowing you to get back on your feet much more quickly. Many studies done on gratitude have shown positive results for people who practice regularly, such as improvement in relationships and in mental health. There’s even studies that show higher motivation in work settings due to a simple ‘thank you’ from managers to their subordinates.

Believe in Yourself and Your Truth

This is often easier said than done, but is also the most empowering truth to overcoming your setbacks and limitations in life.

Many people find it hard to keep a positive attitude during tough times because they lack inner confidence. They doubt their abilities because of the ‘failure’ that they’re experiencing, and don’t think that they can rise above again.

But, confidence doesn’t just come from talent, luck or easy opportunity. Confidence comes from overcoming difficulties and facing your fears head on. 

Confidence is a result of getting out of your comfort zone. The more you do this, the more confident you’ll be, and the more positive your attitude will be. Confidence will help you see your goals more clearly, find your strengths within, reach your goals and overcome your limitations much more quickly.

Here’s a quick story about my own struggles helping me get ahead:

When I first started Lifehack, it took a long time to gain a solid readership. Just getting 100 visitors was a challenge and took a good bit of time. I had great ambitions for this site, yet it seemed like I was doomed to fail. I received plenty of criticism, too. Some people thought that the world didn’t need yet another self help site, others offered the opinion that there was something wrong with the idea itself and I was making a mistake.

It was hard for me not to listen to them and, at some times, agree. But, persistence is key, and in the end I chose to believe in my truth.

I worked tirelessly changing the site layout, restructuring articles, and making the site more user friendly. Slowly, I expanded to a team with the hiring of some extremely dynamic and talented people. With each determined effort, the site grew in popularity, and a few years later, we had influenced millions–and continue to do so.

Pushing myself out of my comfort zone and facing every challenge head on were the greatest contributing factors to increasing my confidence. So welcome the challenges that come; don’t avoid them, as they’re all opportunities in disguise to feed your growth.

Your Attitude Sets the Tone for Success 

Do you see the importance of having a positive attitude? It is so much more than a mindset or state of mind. Your attitude sets the tone for every action and behavior that follows after, and that will determine how long it takes for you to break free from your current circumstance.

So if you’re currently in an unhappy situation, why not give it a try and look at things from a more positive outlook? As mentioned, not only does having a positive attitude bring about favorable outcomes, it also brings about positive health in the long run.

Embracing hardship as it is, and using it as a learning experience to grow, will also make you stronger. And, whether you’re going through good or bad times, practicing gratitude will no doubt help to limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Lastly, in any circumstance, you are your greatest barrier to success, which is why it’s important to always believe in yourself!

You will always have the power to be in control of your situation because your attitude is determined by you. So start harnessing all that positive thinking to turn those limitations into strengths!

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