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7 Rules Leaders Impose On Themselves

7 Rules Leaders Impose On Themselves

At the core of leadership are boundaries and borderlines. It is easy to cross the lines from being a leader to a follower but it can be so difficult crossing from being a follower to a leader. Here are some rules every leader will strictly enforce on themselves.

1. They will listen more than they speak

“There is a difference between being a leader and being a boss. Both are based on authority. A boss demands blind obedience; a leader earns his authority through understanding and trust.”Klaus Balkenhol

This is a sacred code of being a leader, to listen and absorb details. Such shows wisdom and leadership over folly and followership. By paying attention and listening, more leaders can be rationale and act decisively rather than impulsively.

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2. They will show courage rather than cower

“Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others.” ― Robert Louis Stevenson

Leaders are not afraid of delving into new territories or taking risks. They are afraid but they do not show it. Rather, they hide their trembling in bravado and courage. They know that their courage and bravery could be the underlying factor in achieving success and attaining a goal.

3. They will always be made of outstanding character

My own definition of leadership is this: The capacity and the will to rally men and women to a common purpose and the character which inspires confidence. —General Montgomery

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At the end of the day, it really is not about the strategy or the technique they have used to achieve their goals, it is the character they showed in the process. Every leader lives on the sacred rule of being ruled by an outstanding character that is enviable not only to their followers but also to persons of an opposing faction. Character is at the core of leadership.

4. They will always be committed to their objectives

Wisdom equals knowledge plus courage. You have to not only know what to do and when to do it, but you have to also be brave enough to follow through.” – Jarod Kintz

Leaders do not sit on the fence. It is either they are in or out. They are always committed to their goals and will put their energy only into a cause they believe in. Even if they do not see the fruition of their cause, they will follow through with the process of execution and actualizing their goals to the very end.

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5. They will not be average

“Average leaders raise the bar on themselves; good leaders raise the bar for others; great leaders inspire others to raise their own bar.” – Orrin Woodward

One sacred rule of leadership is to focus on excellence. Mediocrity has nothing to do in the rule books of leaders. They are always striving to be better and be pacesetters. They want to be excellent and want to be models others will follow.

6. They will always learn

Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others. —Jack Welch

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This goes beyond gaining a formal education. Leaders know that learning is endless and knowing through their experience and the experience of others makes them more knowledgeable and be better seasoned as leaders. They dedicate themselves to reading and learning through unconventional methods if they have to. The goal is to attain wisdom and to satisfy their curious minds.

7. They will act accordingly rather than procrastinate

“If you would convince a man that he does wrong, do right. But do not care to convince him. Men will believe what they see. Let them see.” —Henry David Thoreau

Leaders do not hesitate or simply dreamers. They act. In reality, their actions motivates others to act. They are willing to be the one to set an example and show the way. Leadership is not about simple talk, it is also about walking the walk and acting right.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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