Advertising
Advertising

Why Being Sensitive Is A Double-Edged Sword

Why Being Sensitive Is A Double-Edged Sword

Sensitivity is, for the most part, seen as an overall positive human characteristic. But it’s not necessarily always beneficial to an individual. While there are certainly times that being sensitive can be advantageous, there are other times in which being overly sensitive can be absolutely draining on a person. As with all other aspects of life, sensitivity seems to be most effective and beneficial when practiced in moderation. Here are a few of the things that go along with being sensitive.

You understand people’s problems

Sensitive people are able to see from a variety of perspectives. They almost live vicariously through other people’s emotions, especially when dealing with people they truly care about. This leads to deeper human connections, as their loved ones will see how much the sensitive person really cares by how they react in a given situation. The reinforcement a sensitive person gives a loved one just by their response makes it clear that the person genuinely enjoys seeing others happy.

Advertising

You take on other people’s problems as your own

When things aren’t going so well for your friends, you’ll feel the weight of the world on your shoulders. Being a sensitive person means you often take on other people’s struggles without even realizing it. Obviously, you just want everyone around you to be happy—but that won’t always be the case. While it’s obviously justifiable to be upset when your friend is feeling down and you’re doing your best to help them out of a funk, overly sensitive people are unable to separate themselves from the situation and realize the sadness of their loved ones is not their sadness. Obviously, if both parties are upset, it becomes increasingly difficult for either of them to snap out of it.

You’re in tune with overall mood

Sensitive people pick up on the overall mood of a place or event immediately and instantly find themselves in that same mood, regardless of how they felt when they walked in. This allows them to fit into a variety of social situations, as they understand the appropriate way to act wherever they find themselves.

Advertising

You’re too in tune with overall mood

Of course, sometimes the way a sensitive person is acting is simply that: an act. But the longer the act goes on, the more likely it is to actually hijack a person’s mood. For example, obviously a funeral is a somber occasion, so regardless of whether or not you were close to the deceased, you still feel sad or upset when paying your respects. An overly sensitive person might become overwhelmed and anxious in such a situation, even if they weren’t very close with the dearly departed. Despite not having many personal feelings for the person who has passed, the idea that this passing has deeply affected others is enough to send the sensitive person into a downward spiral.

You experience the world on a deeper level

As we’ve discussed, sensitive people are incredibly in tune with the world around them. But this goes beyond being aware of the mood of a certain person or group. In the most literal sense of the word, a sensitive person will actually experience heightened sensual feelings. When they taste their favorite dessert or hear their favorite song, they immediately become enraptured by the moment. They become Zen-like, and are able to let all else fade away while they focus on the absolute pleasure they are currently experiencing.

Advertising

You become too invested in events around you

But sometimes, this is not a good thing. When a sensitive person experiences pain, it’s almost impossible for them to let it fall away. They’re incredibly in tune with minor fluctuations in a place’s aura, so something as simple as a change in volume or brightness in an area can have a negative effect on a sensitive person. Busy city streets can be overwhelming, as they can potentially send a person into sensual overdrive, leaving them too anxious to function normally.

Featured photo credit: Emotional… / Sean Meets via farm7.staticflickr.com

Advertising

More by this author

7 Public Speaking Techniques To Help Connect With Your Audience 20 Little Signs You’ve Found The One 8 Signs of a Man Who Will Never Ever Stop Loving You 8 Things To Remember When Dating Someone With A Guarded Heart 14 Signs You’re Not Drinking Enough Water

Trending in Communication

1 7 Ways To Deal With Negative People 2 How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward 3 What Are Interpersonal Skills? Master Them for Better Relationships 4 How To Stop Negative Thoughts from Killing Your Confidence 5 This 4-Year Old Girl’s Explanation On the Problem with New Year’s Resolutions Is Everything You Need

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

Advertising

In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

Advertising

But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

Advertising

5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

Advertising

You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

Read Next