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Why Being Sensitive Is A Double-Edged Sword

Why Being Sensitive Is A Double-Edged Sword

Sensitivity is, for the most part, seen as an overall positive human characteristic. But it’s not necessarily always beneficial to an individual. While there are certainly times that being sensitive can be advantageous, there are other times in which being overly sensitive can be absolutely draining on a person. As with all other aspects of life, sensitivity seems to be most effective and beneficial when practiced in moderation. Here are a few of the things that go along with being sensitive.

You understand people’s problems

Sensitive people are able to see from a variety of perspectives. They almost live vicariously through other people’s emotions, especially when dealing with people they truly care about. This leads to deeper human connections, as their loved ones will see how much the sensitive person really cares by how they react in a given situation. The reinforcement a sensitive person gives a loved one just by their response makes it clear that the person genuinely enjoys seeing others happy.

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You take on other people’s problems as your own

When things aren’t going so well for your friends, you’ll feel the weight of the world on your shoulders. Being a sensitive person means you often take on other people’s struggles without even realizing it. Obviously, you just want everyone around you to be happy—but that won’t always be the case. While it’s obviously justifiable to be upset when your friend is feeling down and you’re doing your best to help them out of a funk, overly sensitive people are unable to separate themselves from the situation and realize the sadness of their loved ones is not their sadness. Obviously, if both parties are upset, it becomes increasingly difficult for either of them to snap out of it.

You’re in tune with overall mood

Sensitive people pick up on the overall mood of a place or event immediately and instantly find themselves in that same mood, regardless of how they felt when they walked in. This allows them to fit into a variety of social situations, as they understand the appropriate way to act wherever they find themselves.

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You’re too in tune with overall mood

Of course, sometimes the way a sensitive person is acting is simply that: an act. But the longer the act goes on, the more likely it is to actually hijack a person’s mood. For example, obviously a funeral is a somber occasion, so regardless of whether or not you were close to the deceased, you still feel sad or upset when paying your respects. An overly sensitive person might become overwhelmed and anxious in such a situation, even if they weren’t very close with the dearly departed. Despite not having many personal feelings for the person who has passed, the idea that this passing has deeply affected others is enough to send the sensitive person into a downward spiral.

You experience the world on a deeper level

As we’ve discussed, sensitive people are incredibly in tune with the world around them. But this goes beyond being aware of the mood of a certain person or group. In the most literal sense of the word, a sensitive person will actually experience heightened sensual feelings. When they taste their favorite dessert or hear their favorite song, they immediately become enraptured by the moment. They become Zen-like, and are able to let all else fade away while they focus on the absolute pleasure they are currently experiencing.

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You become too invested in events around you

But sometimes, this is not a good thing. When a sensitive person experiences pain, it’s almost impossible for them to let it fall away. They’re incredibly in tune with minor fluctuations in a place’s aura, so something as simple as a change in volume or brightness in an area can have a negative effect on a sensitive person. Busy city streets can be overwhelming, as they can potentially send a person into sensual overdrive, leaving them too anxious to function normally.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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