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8 Reasons You Should Make Friends With Blunt People

8 Reasons You Should Make Friends With Blunt People

There is a piece of bluntness in every one of us. The truth is that many of us do know what is right and wrong, but many do prefer to mask how they feel or who they are because of societal perceptions, sentiments or because they are simply afraid. What distinguishes this in regards to blunt people, though, is that blunt people are expressive and are not pretentious about who they are.

They are not consumed or subjugated by what others think of them, rather about a clear perception about what should be right and wrong. Having such a person as a friend means purity, honesty and clarity. You are not afraid to look over your shoulder because you know that they would tell you what is behind before you ask about it.

1. They don’t flatter you; they just tell you the way it is

They are the best people to give you an honest opinion about anything you ask them. They really wouldn’t sugarcoat a fact just to appease you, because they’re blunt. And they really are not worried about the consequences of telling you the truth.

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The most important thing to them or to their identity is being blunt and telling you a direct and honest truth.

2. They are not afraid

They are bold. They are courageous and fearless. And these noble qualities are qualities you should not only admire in others but would want to have around you. If such a person is in your life, it will certainly instill some confidence and inner strength in you to face your fears.

3. They do not want to hurt a relationship with you

There is nothing devious about them, although many may consider being blunt as being rude. This is not the case though, as blunt people are not mischievous or purposely critical. They are actually looking out for your own interest. And if they find that they have crossed the line in a relationship, they are willing to take responsibility, step up and accept their errors.

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4. They are blunt enough to tell you they are sorry

Not every friend is quick to offer apologies or acknowledge their mistakes. Blunt people know that they are susceptible to being considered wrong others because of their bluntness. And they are willing to apologize if at any time they know that they have hurt your feelings.

5. They know what right and wrong means

Blunt people have high moral standards. They know what should be done and what should not be done. They are not pretentious about it, but instead they simply want to do what is right and hold no guilt over it.

They wouldn’t allow such sentiments of being acceptable to everyone cloud their judgments or the decisions they make.

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6. They are fun to be with

Blunt people like to make you laugh and they’re interesting and exciting. Somehow, being blunt gives them a sense of humor and a reason to make others laugh about their errors and mistakes. They can define their world and yours with all bluntness, and let you see that the way things are should not be taken too seriously after all.

7. They can forgive

Just as much as they can apologize for their misdeeds, they can also forgive too. Blunt individuals don’t hold grudges for too long and are pretty honest about how they feel and if they do not feel right about how a relationship is going, they will let you know.

However they do not have so many reasons to hold resentments or grudges.

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8. They respect your views

Because they are blunt doesn’t mean they would impose their views or way of life on you. They do know the grey areas and after they have given you a piece of their mind they will likely step back for you to make your own decisions.

They are only there to tell you the way it is – straight and simple. And at least you’ll know where they stand and where you stand with them.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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