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8 Reasons You Should Make Friends With Blunt People

8 Reasons You Should Make Friends With Blunt People

There is a piece of bluntness in every one of us. The truth is that many of us do know what is right and wrong, but many do prefer to mask how they feel or who they are because of societal perceptions, sentiments or because they are simply afraid. What distinguishes this in regards to blunt people, though, is that blunt people are expressive and are not pretentious about who they are.

They are not consumed or subjugated by what others think of them, rather about a clear perception about what should be right and wrong. Having such a person as a friend means purity, honesty and clarity. You are not afraid to look over your shoulder because you know that they would tell you what is behind before you ask about it.

1. They don’t flatter you; they just tell you the way it is

They are the best people to give you an honest opinion about anything you ask them. They really wouldn’t sugarcoat a fact just to appease you, because they’re blunt. And they really are not worried about the consequences of telling you the truth.

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The most important thing to them or to their identity is being blunt and telling you a direct and honest truth.

2. They are not afraid

They are bold. They are courageous and fearless. And these noble qualities are qualities you should not only admire in others but would want to have around you. If such a person is in your life, it will certainly instill some confidence and inner strength in you to face your fears.

3. They do not want to hurt a relationship with you

There is nothing devious about them, although many may consider being blunt as being rude. This is not the case though, as blunt people are not mischievous or purposely critical. They are actually looking out for your own interest. And if they find that they have crossed the line in a relationship, they are willing to take responsibility, step up and accept their errors.

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4. They are blunt enough to tell you they are sorry

Not every friend is quick to offer apologies or acknowledge their mistakes. Blunt people know that they are susceptible to being considered wrong others because of their bluntness. And they are willing to apologize if at any time they know that they have hurt your feelings.

5. They know what right and wrong means

Blunt people have high moral standards. They know what should be done and what should not be done. They are not pretentious about it, but instead they simply want to do what is right and hold no guilt over it.

They wouldn’t allow such sentiments of being acceptable to everyone cloud their judgments or the decisions they make.

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6. They are fun to be with

Blunt people like to make you laugh and they’re interesting and exciting. Somehow, being blunt gives them a sense of humor and a reason to make others laugh about their errors and mistakes. They can define their world and yours with all bluntness, and let you see that the way things are should not be taken too seriously after all.

7. They can forgive

Just as much as they can apologize for their misdeeds, they can also forgive too. Blunt individuals don’t hold grudges for too long and are pretty honest about how they feel and if they do not feel right about how a relationship is going, they will let you know.

However they do not have so many reasons to hold resentments or grudges.

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8. They respect your views

Because they are blunt doesn’t mean they would impose their views or way of life on you. They do know the grey areas and after they have given you a piece of their mind they will likely step back for you to make your own decisions.

They are only there to tell you the way it is – straight and simple. And at least you’ll know where they stand and where you stand with them.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here’s how to master the Gentle Art of Saying No:

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1. Value Your Time

Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”

2. Know Your Priorities

Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?

For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.

3. Practice Saying No

Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.

4. Don’t Apologize

A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.

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5. Stop Being Nice

Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets.

Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

6. Say No to Your Boss

Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no,” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning.

But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.

7. Pre-Empting

It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting,

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“Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”

8. Get Back to You

Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them:

“After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”

At least you gave it some consideration.

9. Maybe Later

If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say,

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“This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].”

Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.

10. It’s Not You, It’s Me

This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often, the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time.

Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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