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I’ve Tried Everything But My Baby Is Still Upset. Should I Let My Baby Cry It Out?

I’ve Tried Everything But My Baby Is Still Upset. Should I Let My Baby Cry It Out?

Dealing with newborns is a challenge — and that’s an understatement. It’s true what they say about the lack of social life, and all other aspects of life in general: The only thing that matters now is your baby. Young parents are extraordinarily cautious, which isn’t a bad thing. As a parent today, you’ll hear and read a bunch of tips, and it will be really difficult to sort out the false ones from the ones that actually work.

An especially frequent dilemma most young parents have is whether or not it’s a good thing to leave their baby to cry it out.

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Falling Asleep Is a Skill

close-up portrait of a beautiful sleeping baby on white

    What most young parents don’t really understand is that falling asleep is a nothing more than a skill. Whether you’re young or old, learning and developing a new skill takes time and effort. The fact is everything about our world is new to newborns, and you need to be patient and objective. I know how hard that can be, especially for the parent who is new to all of this — but viewing things in this way will make a world of difference.

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    Crying-It-Out Is a Method

    Consider things from this angle: When you encounter something new and unfamiliar, you try to master it in a way that seems most effective to you. However, if that doesn’t work, you try something else. You don’t give up and you don’t ask from someone to comfort you, right?

    Crying-it-out is a sleeping method, like many others, that can be tried out. When babies are that young, they depend on your care and your capability to make smart decisions. Rushing in to offer comfort every time your baby makes a sound will naturally condition your baby to expect you to appear. This expectation remains when he or she cries a month later, a year later and ten years later.

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    Of course, this doesn’t mean you should allow your baby to cry for hours and hours. Upon feeding them, changing them, placing them comfortably in their crib and consulting your baby’s pediatrician, who ensured you that absolutely everything is in perfect order, you can leave your baby and let them fall asleep on their own.

    You are not the only one who has trouble listening to a crying baby — all parents struggle with this. If you consider this to be a method you simply can’t conduct, you should try different ones. For example, my experience has shown that babies react positively to music, so if you played them something while they were still in the womb, replaying those tunes could be more than helpful.

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    There Is No Rule Book

    Parenting is difficult, and this is just the beginning. You’ll pick up everything in time, so take things slow. Of course, any time you are thinking of implementing a new method or taking someone’s piece of advice, you should definitely consult your baby’s doctor first — and only then go through with your plans. However, if something isn’t directly affecting the health of your child, you should know that there’s not just one right way.

    That being said, crying-it-out is only one method. Whether you decide to try it or not, you should know that it may or may not work. Even though your baby is still very young, things you do now will definitely reflect on their behavior later. Every baby is unique, and you need to realize that even at a young age each has his or her own character that yet needs to develop. The fact is you lack experience, so you shouldn’t feel guilty if one of the things you tried doesn’t work.

    It’s quite important to stay open-minded when it comes to finding the best method for your baby.

    Featured photo credit: Eric Fleming via flickr.com

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    Published on November 7, 2018

    How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

    How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

    In 2016, it was estimated that 1.7 million children were being homeschooled in the U.S, roughly 3.3% of all school-aged children.[1] Although this may not sound like a big portion of the population, the growth rate of homeschooling has been 7 to15% per year for the last two decades.

    The burgeoning numbers are not a coincidence. There are tremendous benefits to homeschooling, including one-on-one teaching, adaptability to individual needs and learning styles, a safe learning environment, encouraging learning for knowledge rather than grades, and tailoring a curriculum to the child’s interests.

    Is homeschooling something that you have been considering for your family? With all of the tools and resources available for homeschoolers in the 21st century, it may be easier than you think.

    How to Homeschool (Getting Started)

    After thinking it through, you’ve decided that homeschooling is the right step for you and your family. Now what? Here are the first things you should do to get your homeschooling journey started on the right track.

    Figure Out the Laws

    Homeschooling is regulated by the state, not the federal government. The first step is to find the current and accurate legal requirements mandated by your state in order to educate your child legally.[2]

    The regulations can vary widely, from strict guidelines to no guidelines at all. However, don’t be overwhelmed by the legal jargon. There are many resources and local communities for homeschooling families that can help you figure out the logistics.

    Decide on an Approach

    Every child’s needs are different. This is your chance to choose the homeschooling style or combination of styles that best fits your child’s learning style and interests. A brief description of seven different homeschooling methods are listed below.

    Supplies/Resources

    Often times, purchasing a homeschooling curriculum is done too early in the planning process, resulting in buyer’s remorse.

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    A curriculum is not always needed for homeschooling, and other types of free or less structured resources are readily available.

    Find a Community

    Getting connected with a community of homeschoolers is one of the most important parts of building a successful and thriving homeschool environment for your kids.

    Look for communities online for virtual support or a local group that you and your kids can interact with. Partnering with others fosters better socialization skills for the students and provides opportunities for field trips, classes, and outings that wouldn’t have otherwise been a part of the homeschooling experience.

    7 Different Homeschooling Methods

    1. School-At-Home

    Also known as Traditional homeschool, School-At-Home uses essentially the same curriculum as the local private or public school but at home.

    The lessons can be completed independently, but more commonly, they are administered by a parent or a teacher-facilitated online school.

    • Benefits: formal standards, wide selection of curricula, same pace as peers, short-term friendly
    • Drawbacks: expensive, inflexible, time consuming, parent can get easily burnt out
    • Resources: K12, Time4Learning, Abeka

    2. Classical

    One of the most popular homeschooling methods used, it borrows educational practices from Ancient Greece and Rome. Subject areas are studied chronologically so that students can understand the consequence of ideas over time.

    Socratic dialogue fosters effective discussions and debate to achieve beyond mere comprehension. There is often a strong emphasis on Great Books[3] as well as Greek and Latin.

    3. Unit Studies

    Rather than breaking up education into subjects, unit studies approach each topic as a whole, studying it from the perspective of each subject area.

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    For example, a unit study about animals could include reading books about animals, learning about the classification of animals, figuring out which animals live on which continents, etc. This method is often used as a technique in other more comprehensive educational methodologies.

    • Benefits: promotes thinking about concepts as a whole, not monotonous or redundant, student-directed, bolsters weaker subject areas, beneficial for teaching multi-age students
    • Drawbacks: incomplete, knowledge gaps, curriculum-dependent
    • Resources: Unit Study, Unit Studies, Unit Studies Made Easy, Konos

    4. Charlotte Mason

    This Christian homeschooling style utilizes shorts periods of study (15-20 minute max for elementary, 45 minute max for high school), along with nature walks and history portfolios.

    Students are encouraged to practice observation, memorization, and narration often. With a focus on “living books” (stories with heroes, life lessons, socio-ethical implications), reading plays a big role in this student-paced teaching style.

    5. Montessori

    Maria Montessori developed this method through working with special needs children in the early 20th century.

    With a primary focus on the student setting the pace and indirect instruction from the teacher, this approach includes free movement, large unstructured time blocks (up to 3 hours), multi-grade classes, and individualized learning plans based on interests.

    6. Unschooling

    Unschooling is a learning model largely based on the work of John Holt.[4] The teaching style focuses mainly on the students’ interests, putting priority on experiential, activity-based, and learn as you go approaches.

    For basic skills such as reading, writing, and math, a systematic technique is employed, but testing and evaluations are typically not utilized. Teachers, in general, play more of a facilitator role.

    7. Eclectic/Relaxed

    As the most popular method of homeschool, eclectic homeschooling is child-directed, resourceful, and non-curriculum based.

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    Parents can sample any combination of homeschooling methods and styles or resources. One growing sector of eclectic homeschooling combines part homeschooling with part traditional schooling.

    How to Facilitate Homeschooling with Technology

    One of the reasons homeschooling is more feasible than ever before is due to the accessibility of tools and resources to enhance the learning process.

    Email

    Email is a tool that has really stood the test of time. Invented in 1972, it is still used today as a primary means of communicating on the Internet.

    It is a great way to share assignments, links, and videos between parent and student.

    Google Drive/Calendar

    Google Drive offers a multitude of essential programs that can come in handy for homeschoolers, such as Docs, Sheets, Slides, and more.

    With its sharing capabilities, easy accessibility, and auto-save ability, it’s easier than ever to organize and complete assignments. It will improve students’ writing and typing skills, as well as eliminate the need for paper.

    Google Calendar is an excellent tool for tracking assignment due dates, planning field trips and activities, and developing time management skills.

    Ebooks

    Rather than invest in physical copies of books, ebooks are a wonderful option for saving money and space. There are plenty of places that offer a free or paid subscription to a wide selection of ebooks:

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    E-Courses

    When a structured curriculum is necessary for teaching a certain topic, an e-course is the way to go.

    From watercolors to calculus, there are e-courses available about almost everything. Including different teaching styles that vary from the parents will encourage students to learn in different ways.

    The visual and auditory stimulation will also be beneficial in helping students understand and retain the concepts being taught.

    Some recommendations:

    Youtube

    Youtube is not just a platform for music videos and cats doing funny things. There are a number of Youtube channels that produce quality educational videos, free of charge.

    Creating a playlist of videos for various topics is a great way to supplement a homeschool education.

    Some recommendations:

    Final Thoughts

    Homeschooling in the current age looks much different than it did ten years ago. There are more options and more flexibility when it comes to educating kids at home.

    Don’t be overwhelmed by the idea of homeschooling your children if it could make a positive impact on your family.

    Featured photo credit: Hal Gatewood via unsplash.com

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