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15 Things People Who Grew Up With a Single Parent Understand

15 Things People Who Grew Up With a Single Parent Understand

In recent times, the numbers of single parent home keep soaring.  It is tough and intense living in the home where a single parent rules. In some ways it makes you stronger and more prepared for your adult life. This is why such situations can remain memorable and indelible with us forever. Here are some things persons who grew up with single parents understand so well.

1. You do not have any middle ground

You are not appeasing two sides to gain advantage and skimming something out to get a deal. You are stuck with one angle, one dimension, and one deal only. And that deal is handed by a single parent. You can’t hide behind the, “But I asked Dad and he said…” excuse when you are in a single parent home.

2. You have to learn fast

There is no room to be pampered or spoon-fed. You have to understand and quickly adapt to your responsibilities in the house, whether you are the middle child, first, or the last child. Every member of the family has their own unique role in the family that could include more responsibilities.

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3. You simply have to be responsible

Yes…if you wanted to you could do a lot of things to bother your parent. But you understand that there is so much on his/her table that you have to learn to appease and act responsibly instead.

4. You don’t have too many options

A single parent is a single parent. There is no good cop and bad cop in between. You have to deal with what you have and complain less. If your mom says “no”, her ruling is most likely to be final.

5. You have income to keep the family going

There is nothing to make any financial balance or to support the income of your single parent. To keep the family going, you have to adjust and know that the money is coming only from one source.

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6. You have to be concerned about their emotional stability

It is not about you who are around her. It is tough to handle things emotionally as a single parent. You have to know this and give them the opportunity to enjoy a piece of their life without you.

7. You end up feeling proud

After growing up with a single parent, you feel proud of the dynamic you have accomplished. Your achievements are shared because the hours you put in as a family are significant. Every celebration is that much more enjoyable after you grow up and look back on both your own and your parent’s accomplishments.

8. You have to be thankful

When you see the sacrifice your single parent is making, it means you have to show appreciation and acknowledge the effort they put in with you every single day. A little bit of thanks goes a long way.

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9. You are mocked for having a single parent

Somehow the news get to fly that you have a single parent, perhaps during those school events when only your dad or your mom showed up. Since the world knows you to have a single parent, it is possible that you were targeted for being different.

10. You are part of the decision making process

Somehow, you become involved in the way the home is run. You are quickly engaged in the important decisions of the day-to-day running of the house. In addition, you may even be asked for decorating advice!

11. You wished you had both parents

You see that there is a gap. And you really want that gap to be filled by someone. You may feel that things can be so overwhelming and you want someone to come into the scene and lighten the burden. Although you may not feel this everyday, it will happen.

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12. You experience that an open line of communication with your single parent

You are given many details and always being talked to, consulted and somehow you see your single parent in a way no other person can. Once you reach a certain level of understanding, it can be refreshing.

13. You are positive

It is disappointing to only have a single parent around. But you are positive that things will change no matter what. And possibly you want to be part of that change and want to help improve the situation. There is always a bright side!

14. You grow up to become protective of your single parent

Growing up doesn’t mean you shy away from what you are supposed to do in the home. Rather you take up the mantle to protect your single parent as they grow older. They raised you and it is your return duty to them!

15. You are tough

The intensity and the rigors of having a single parent makes you tough. If you grew up with a single parent, you are more resilient professionally and personally.

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Last Updated on November 26, 2020

How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

As playwright Wilson Mizner supposedly said all the way back in the 1930s,

“Be kind to everyone on the way up; you will meet the same people on the way down.”

The adage is the perfect prototype for relationship building in 2020, although we may want to expand Mizner’s definition of “kind” to include being helpful, respectful, grateful, and above all, crediting your colleagues along the way.

5 Ways to Switch on Your Relationship Building Magnetism

Relationship building does not come easily to all. Today’s computer culture makes us more insular and less likely to reach out—not to mention our new work-from-home situation in which we are only able to interact virtually. Still, relationship building remains an important part of career engagement and success, and it gets better with practice.

Here are five ways you can strengthen your relationships:

1. Advocate for Other’s Ideas

Take the initiative to speak up in support of other team members’ good ideas. Doing so lets others know that the team’s success takes precedence over your needs for personal success. Get behind any colleague’s innovative approach or clever solution and offer whatever help you can give to see it through. Teammates will value your vote of confidence and your support.

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2. Show Compassion

If you learn that someone whom you work with has encountered difficult times, reach out. If it’s not someone you know well, a hand-written card expressing your sympathy and hopes for better times ahead could be an initial gesture. If it’s someone with whom you interact regularly, the act could involve offering to take on some of the person’s work to provide a needed reprieve or even bringing in a home-cooked dish as a way to offer comfort. The show of compassion will not go unnoticed, and your relationship building will have found a foothold.

3. Communicate Regularly

Make an effort to share any information with team members that will help them do their jobs more effectively. Keeping people in the loop says a lot about your consideration for what others need to deliver their best results.

Try to discover the preferred mode of communication for each team member. Some people are fine relying on emails; others like to have a phone conversation. And once we can finally return to working together in offices, you may determine that face-to-face updates may be most advantageous for some members.

4. Ask for Feedback

Showing your willingness to reach out for advice and guidance will make a positive impression on your boss. When you make it clear that you welcome and can accept pointers, you display candor and trust in what opinions your superior has to offer. Your proclivity towards considering ways of improving your performance and strengthening any working interactions will signal your strong relationship skills.

If you are in a work environment where you are asked to give feedback, be generous and compassionate. That does not mean being wishy-washy. Try always to give the type of feedback that you wouldn’t mind receiving.

5. Give Credit Where It’s Due

Be the worker who remembers to credit staffers with their contributions. It’s a surprisingly rare talent to credit others, but when you do so, they will remember to credit you, and the collective credit your team will accrue will be well worth the effort.

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How Does Relationship Building Build Careers?

Once you have strengthened and deepened your relationships, here are some of the great benefits:

Work Doesn’t Feel So Much Like Work

According to a Gallup poll, when you have a best friend at work, you are more likely to feel engaged with your job. Work is more fun when you have positive, productive relationships with your colleagues. Instead of spending time and energy overcoming difficult personalities, you can spend time enjoying the camaraderie with colleagues as you work congenially on projects together. When your coworkers are your friends, time goes by quickly and challenges don’t weigh as heavily.

You Can Find Good Help

It’s easier to ask for assistance when you have a good working relationship with a colleague. And with office tasks changing at the speed of technology, chances are that you are going to need some help acclimating—especially now that work has gone remote due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

Much of relationship building rests on your genuine expressions of appreciation toward others. Showing gratitude for another’s help or for their willingness to put in the extra effort will let them know you value them.

Mentors Come Out of the Woodwork

Mentors are proven to advance your professional and career development. A mentor can help you navigate how to approach your work and keep you apprised of industry trends. They have a plethora of experience to draw from that can be invaluable when advising you on achieving career success and advancement.

Mentors flock to those who are skilled at relationship building. So, work on your relationships and keep your eyes peeled for a worthy mentor.

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You Pull Together as a Team

Great teamwork starts with having an “abundance mentality” rather than a scarcity mentality. Too often, workers view all projects through a scarcity mentality lens. This leads to office strife as coworkers compete for their piece of the pie. But in an abundance mentality mode, you focus on the strengths that others bring rather than the possibility that they are potential competitors.

Instead, you can commit relationship building efforts to ensure a positive work environment rather than an adversarial one. When you let others know that you intend to support their efforts and contribute to their success, they will respond in kind. Go, team!

Your Network Expands and So Does Your Paycheck

Expand your relationship building scope beyond your coworkers to include customers, suppliers, and other industry stakeholders. Your extra efforts can lead to extra sales, a more rewarding career, and even speedy professional advancement. And don’t overlook the importance of building warm relationships with assistants, receptionists, or even interns.

Take care to build bridges, not just to your boss and your boss’s boss but with those that work under you as well. You may find that someone who you wouldn’t expect will put in a good word for you with your supervisor.

Building and maintaining good working relationships with everyone you come in contact with can pay off in unforeseen ways. You never know when that underling will turn out to be the company’s “golden child.” Six years from now you may be turning to them for a job. If you have built up a good, trusting work relationship with others along your way, you will more likely be considered for positions that any of these people may be looking to fill.

Your Job Won’t Stress You Out

Study shows that some 83 percent of American workers experience work-related stress.[1] Granted, some of that stress is now likely caused by the new pandemic-triggered workplace adjustments, yet bosses and management, in general, are reportedly the predominant source of stress for more than one-third of workers.

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Having meaningful connections among coworkers is the best way to make work less stressful. Whether it is having others whom to commiserate with, bounce ideas off, or bring out your best performance, friendships strengthen the group’s esprit de corps and lower the stress level of your job.

Your Career Shines Bright

Who would you feel better about approaching to provide a recommendation or ask for promotion: a cold, aloof boss with whom you have only an impersonal relationship or one that knows you as a person and with whom you have built a warm, trusting relationship?

Your career advancement will always excel when you have a mutual bond of friendship and appreciation with those who can recommend you. Consider the plug you could receive from a supervisor who knows you as a friend versus one who remains detached and only notices you in terms of your ability to meet deadlines or attain goals.

When people fully know your skills, strengths, personality, and aspirations, you have promoters who will sing your praises with any opportunity for advancement.

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, it is “who you know” not “what you know.” When you build relationships, you build a pipeline of colleagues, work partners, team members, current bosses, and former bosses who want to help you—who want to see you succeed.

At its core, every business is a people business. Making a point to take the small but meaningful actions that build the foundation of a good relationship can be instrumental in cultivating better relationships at work.

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Reference

[1] The American Institute of Stress: 42 Worrying Workplace Stress Statistics

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