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15 Things People Who Grew Up With a Single Parent Understand

15 Things People Who Grew Up With a Single Parent Understand

In recent times, the numbers of single parent home keep soaring.  It is tough and intense living in the home where a single parent rules. In some ways it makes you stronger and more prepared for your adult life. This is why such situations can remain memorable and indelible with us forever. Here are some things persons who grew up with single parents understand so well.

1. You do not have any middle ground

You are not appeasing two sides to gain advantage and skimming something out to get a deal. You are stuck with one angle, one dimension, and one deal only. And that deal is handed by a single parent. You can’t hide behind the, “But I asked Dad and he said…” excuse when you are in a single parent home.

2. You have to learn fast

There is no room to be pampered or spoon-fed. You have to understand and quickly adapt to your responsibilities in the house, whether you are the middle child, first, or the last child. Every member of the family has their own unique role in the family that could include more responsibilities.

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3. You simply have to be responsible

Yes…if you wanted to you could do a lot of things to bother your parent. But you understand that there is so much on his/her table that you have to learn to appease and act responsibly instead.

4. You don’t have too many options

A single parent is a single parent. There is no good cop and bad cop in between. You have to deal with what you have and complain less. If your mom says “no”, her ruling is most likely to be final.

5. You have income to keep the family going

There is nothing to make any financial balance or to support the income of your single parent. To keep the family going, you have to adjust and know that the money is coming only from one source.

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6. You have to be concerned about their emotional stability

It is not about you who are around her. It is tough to handle things emotionally as a single parent. You have to know this and give them the opportunity to enjoy a piece of their life without you.

7. You end up feeling proud

After growing up with a single parent, you feel proud of the dynamic you have accomplished. Your achievements are shared because the hours you put in as a family are significant. Every celebration is that much more enjoyable after you grow up and look back on both your own and your parent’s accomplishments.

8. You have to be thankful

When you see the sacrifice your single parent is making, it means you have to show appreciation and acknowledge the effort they put in with you every single day. A little bit of thanks goes a long way.

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9. You are mocked for having a single parent

Somehow the news get to fly that you have a single parent, perhaps during those school events when only your dad or your mom showed up. Since the world knows you to have a single parent, it is possible that you were targeted for being different.

10. You are part of the decision making process

Somehow, you become involved in the way the home is run. You are quickly engaged in the important decisions of the day-to-day running of the house. In addition, you may even be asked for decorating advice!

11. You wished you had both parents

You see that there is a gap. And you really want that gap to be filled by someone. You may feel that things can be so overwhelming and you want someone to come into the scene and lighten the burden. Although you may not feel this everyday, it will happen.

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12. You experience that an open line of communication with your single parent

You are given many details and always being talked to, consulted and somehow you see your single parent in a way no other person can. Once you reach a certain level of understanding, it can be refreshing.

13. You are positive

It is disappointing to only have a single parent around. But you are positive that things will change no matter what. And possibly you want to be part of that change and want to help improve the situation. There is always a bright side!

14. You grow up to become protective of your single parent

Growing up doesn’t mean you shy away from what you are supposed to do in the home. Rather you take up the mantle to protect your single parent as they grow older. They raised you and it is your return duty to them!

15. You are tough

The intensity and the rigors of having a single parent makes you tough. If you grew up with a single parent, you are more resilient professionally and personally.

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Last Updated on March 5, 2021

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

“It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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