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12 Things You Understand If Your Mom Is Your Best Friend

12 Things You Understand If Your Mom Is Your Best Friend

How do you value your mom? How do you see her every day? I bet you will have sweet answers to these questions if your mom was your best friend. Yes, you will treat her like a treasure. And you must understand certain things about this relationship that no one else would.

1. She surprises you with gifts

They shop for you. They would buy you a shirt, pants, bra or a makeup kit just because they felt it would look nice on you. They are so good with you that you actually prefer them to shop for you, because really they do know so much about your body size that they will buy you what fits.

2. She advises you and you take it seriously

If they have an intuition that your new boyfriend or girlfriend is wrong and bad for you, you will take that advice seriously. You don’t want to disappoint them and do not want to hurt them so you are willing to sacrifice certain actions just for them.

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3. She knows what you are thinking at certain times

She can read your mind. You never told her or give her details about anything, yet she can tell you what could be running through your thought. Even when this stuns you, she always has your interest at heart.

4. She can listen to you at any time of the day

There is nothing in the world that is more important than you. If they are busy they will free up time for you. If they are drowsy or just waking up they will still listen to you because whatever you have to say will always be important to them to listen to.

5. She is your best cheerleader

She knows how to fuel the fire in you when you want to give up. She cheers you on as much as you do the same for her too.

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6. She forgives you before you even before you tell her that you are sorry

You will hurt her sometimes. And she will do the same to you. Even when all these happen and there is a divide, she forgives you without looking back your misdeeds.

7. She calls you to know how you are doing

Even when you are far away and you think you are lost, without anyone to check up on you, she will be the first person to reach out to you. You are never distant to her, she will always reach out to you and you to her.

8. She always has your back

When there are challenges and difficulties, when the whole world is against you, she will have your back and see you as right whether you are wrong.

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9. She understands you more than anyone else would

No one understands you better than her. Before you tell her your opinion or give her thoughts on a subject, she knows what you will say. She can relate with you and can always give you a nudge if you need it.

10. She tolerates your flaws no matter what

Whether you are temperamental or too cold for comfort, she loves you for who you are. She doesn’t mind about how awkward or different you are. She just sees you as being the best person the world can give to her.

11. She always has your interest at heart

She may scream at you and be afraid about what you are about to do. What matters is that she doesn’t want anything to go wrong with you. She wants the best for you and she will always have your best interest at heart.

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12. She gives you the best hugs

No one hugs you better than your mom who is your best friend. She offers you all the warmth and a source for encouragement and reuniting forces. It is like she should always be a part of your life, forever. And she will always be.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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