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12 Things You Understand If Your Mom Is Your Best Friend

12 Things You Understand If Your Mom Is Your Best Friend

How do you value your mom? How do you see her every day? I bet you will have sweet answers to these questions if your mom was your best friend. Yes, you will treat her like a treasure. And you must understand certain things about this relationship that no one else would.

1. She surprises you with gifts

They shop for you. They would buy you a shirt, pants, bra or a makeup kit just because they felt it would look nice on you. They are so good with you that you actually prefer them to shop for you, because really they do know so much about your body size that they will buy you what fits.

2. She advises you and you take it seriously

If they have an intuition that your new boyfriend or girlfriend is wrong and bad for you, you will take that advice seriously. You don’t want to disappoint them and do not want to hurt them so you are willing to sacrifice certain actions just for them.

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3. She knows what you are thinking at certain times

She can read your mind. You never told her or give her details about anything, yet she can tell you what could be running through your thought. Even when this stuns you, she always has your interest at heart.

4. She can listen to you at any time of the day

There is nothing in the world that is more important than you. If they are busy they will free up time for you. If they are drowsy or just waking up they will still listen to you because whatever you have to say will always be important to them to listen to.

5. She is your best cheerleader

She knows how to fuel the fire in you when you want to give up. She cheers you on as much as you do the same for her too.

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6. She forgives you before you even before you tell her that you are sorry

You will hurt her sometimes. And she will do the same to you. Even when all these happen and there is a divide, she forgives you without looking back your misdeeds.

7. She calls you to know how you are doing

Even when you are far away and you think you are lost, without anyone to check up on you, she will be the first person to reach out to you. You are never distant to her, she will always reach out to you and you to her.

8. She always has your back

When there are challenges and difficulties, when the whole world is against you, she will have your back and see you as right whether you are wrong.

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9. She understands you more than anyone else would

No one understands you better than her. Before you tell her your opinion or give her thoughts on a subject, she knows what you will say. She can relate with you and can always give you a nudge if you need it.

10. She tolerates your flaws no matter what

Whether you are temperamental or too cold for comfort, she loves you for who you are. She doesn’t mind about how awkward or different you are. She just sees you as being the best person the world can give to her.

11. She always has your interest at heart

She may scream at you and be afraid about what you are about to do. What matters is that she doesn’t want anything to go wrong with you. She wants the best for you and she will always have your best interest at heart.

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12. She gives you the best hugs

No one hugs you better than your mom who is your best friend. She offers you all the warmth and a source for encouragement and reuniting forces. It is like she should always be a part of your life, forever. And she will always be.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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