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5 Reasons Being Spontaneous Is Such A Great Thing

5 Reasons Being Spontaneous Is Such A Great Thing

Have you ever been so bored you absolutely did not know what to do with yourself? Chances are, if you’re a spontaneous person, the answer to that question was a resounding “NO.” Spontaneous people are always on the go, and always looking for an exciting adventure to start. Aside from never being bored, there are a bunch of other ways being spontaneous is beneficial to a person’s mood and well-being.

1. You stay fresh

Like I said, spontaneous people are always up to try something new. They’re never happy doing the same thing day in, day out. Even if they’re stuck in a job that requires them to sit in an office cubicle all day, they’ll spice up the day any way they can. It could be as simple as ordering something new from a local restaurant for lunch, or putting on a different Pandora station while they get their work done. Spontaneous people also rarely end up sitting on the couch all night watching sitcom reruns. They’ll be the ones always ready to do something rather than just hang out. Because they’re always trying something new, spontaneous people never get bored, and always stay fresh.

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2. You’re more flexible

Spontaneous people are ready to do something new at a moment’s notice. While others might turn down a last-minute invitation to happy hour, spontaneous people will not only accept the invitation, but they’ll start calling others and making even bigger plans for the night. And if plans change, that’s totally fine by them. Spontaneous people don’t feel tied down to one plan, and will be more than happy to accommodate a contingency, as long as it leads to an exciting adventure. This “go with the flow” attitude helps them avoid conflict and confrontation, and allows them to ride the wave of excitement that continuously exists within their life.

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3. You’re more creative

Not only do spontaneous people go with the flow, but they also get lost in their own. Think of artists, writers, and musicians who can sit for hours creating paintings, poems, and songs without stopping to censor or criticize their work. They don’t set boundaries for what they can accomplish, choosing to first get their ideas “out there” before deciding whether to keep them or not. They aren’t constantly stopping and thinking about what to do next – they simply do whatever comes to mind.

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4. You’re less stressed out

Spontaneous people tend to not stress out over much. They understand that life goes on, whether it goes as planned or not. Since their natural instinct is to “play it by ear,” they have no problem dealing with situations they didn’t expect. They’re also less disappointed when things don’t turn out the way they expected, as they will simply move on to whatever life has in store for them next. And, of course, when life does get stressful, spontaneous people know how to shake things up in order to relieve the stress and get over the hurdle they’re currently facing.

5. You’re happier

It may be a bit of conjecture, but it stands to reason that those who are more fresh, flexible, creative, and relaxed than others will ultimately be happier with their life. Spontaneous people make the best of every situation they face, and take full advantage of everything life has to offer. Though happiness is a fleeting concept, having a mindset which allows you to always see the bright side of things certainly will optimize your ability to keep a positive outlook. While everyone in this world faces their fair share of ups and downs, the spontaneous among us remain resilient and press forward to the next big thing life has to offer.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

The Gentle Art of Saying No For a Less Stressful Life

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here’s how to master the Gentle Art of Saying No:

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1. Value Your Time

Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”

2. Know Your Priorities

Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time?

For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.

3. Practice Saying No

Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.

4. Don’t Apologize

A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.

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5. Stop Being Nice

Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets.

Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.

6. Say No to Your Boss

Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no,” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning.

But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.

7. Pre-Empting

It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting,

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“Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”

8. Get Back to You

Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them:

“After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.”

At least you gave it some consideration.

9. Maybe Later

If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say,

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“This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].”

Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.

10. It’s Not You, It’s Me

This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often, the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time.

Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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