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5 Reasons Being Spontaneous Is Such A Great Thing

5 Reasons Being Spontaneous Is Such A Great Thing

Have you ever been so bored you absolutely did not know what to do with yourself? Chances are, if you’re a spontaneous person, the answer to that question was a resounding “NO.” Spontaneous people are always on the go, and always looking for an exciting adventure to start. Aside from never being bored, there are a bunch of other ways being spontaneous is beneficial to a person’s mood and well-being.

1. You stay fresh

Like I said, spontaneous people are always up to try something new. They’re never happy doing the same thing day in, day out. Even if they’re stuck in a job that requires them to sit in an office cubicle all day, they’ll spice up the day any way they can. It could be as simple as ordering something new from a local restaurant for lunch, or putting on a different Pandora station while they get their work done. Spontaneous people also rarely end up sitting on the couch all night watching sitcom reruns. They’ll be the ones always ready to do something rather than just hang out. Because they’re always trying something new, spontaneous people never get bored, and always stay fresh.

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2. You’re more flexible

Spontaneous people are ready to do something new at a moment’s notice. While others might turn down a last-minute invitation to happy hour, spontaneous people will not only accept the invitation, but they’ll start calling others and making even bigger plans for the night. And if plans change, that’s totally fine by them. Spontaneous people don’t feel tied down to one plan, and will be more than happy to accommodate a contingency, as long as it leads to an exciting adventure. This “go with the flow” attitude helps them avoid conflict and confrontation, and allows them to ride the wave of excitement that continuously exists within their life.

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3. You’re more creative

Not only do spontaneous people go with the flow, but they also get lost in their own. Think of artists, writers, and musicians who can sit for hours creating paintings, poems, and songs without stopping to censor or criticize their work. They don’t set boundaries for what they can accomplish, choosing to first get their ideas “out there” before deciding whether to keep them or not. They aren’t constantly stopping and thinking about what to do next – they simply do whatever comes to mind.

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4. You’re less stressed out

Spontaneous people tend to not stress out over much. They understand that life goes on, whether it goes as planned or not. Since their natural instinct is to “play it by ear,” they have no problem dealing with situations they didn’t expect. They’re also less disappointed when things don’t turn out the way they expected, as they will simply move on to whatever life has in store for them next. And, of course, when life does get stressful, spontaneous people know how to shake things up in order to relieve the stress and get over the hurdle they’re currently facing.

5. You’re happier

It may be a bit of conjecture, but it stands to reason that those who are more fresh, flexible, creative, and relaxed than others will ultimately be happier with their life. Spontaneous people make the best of every situation they face, and take full advantage of everything life has to offer. Though happiness is a fleeting concept, having a mindset which allows you to always see the bright side of things certainly will optimize your ability to keep a positive outlook. While everyone in this world faces their fair share of ups and downs, the spontaneous among us remain resilient and press forward to the next big thing life has to offer.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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