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5 Reasons Being Spontaneous Is Such A Great Thing

5 Reasons Being Spontaneous Is Such A Great Thing

Have you ever been so bored you absolutely did not know what to do with yourself? Chances are, if you’re a spontaneous person, the answer to that question was a resounding “NO.” Spontaneous people are always on the go, and always looking for an exciting adventure to start. Aside from never being bored, there are a bunch of other ways being spontaneous is beneficial to a person’s mood and well-being.

1. You stay fresh

Like I said, spontaneous people are always up to try something new. They’re never happy doing the same thing day in, day out. Even if they’re stuck in a job that requires them to sit in an office cubicle all day, they’ll spice up the day any way they can. It could be as simple as ordering something new from a local restaurant for lunch, or putting on a different Pandora station while they get their work done. Spontaneous people also rarely end up sitting on the couch all night watching sitcom reruns. They’ll be the ones always ready to do something rather than just hang out. Because they’re always trying something new, spontaneous people never get bored, and always stay fresh.

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2. You’re more flexible

Spontaneous people are ready to do something new at a moment’s notice. While others might turn down a last-minute invitation to happy hour, spontaneous people will not only accept the invitation, but they’ll start calling others and making even bigger plans for the night. And if plans change, that’s totally fine by them. Spontaneous people don’t feel tied down to one plan, and will be more than happy to accommodate a contingency, as long as it leads to an exciting adventure. This “go with the flow” attitude helps them avoid conflict and confrontation, and allows them to ride the wave of excitement that continuously exists within their life.

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3. You’re more creative

Not only do spontaneous people go with the flow, but they also get lost in their own. Think of artists, writers, and musicians who can sit for hours creating paintings, poems, and songs without stopping to censor or criticize their work. They don’t set boundaries for what they can accomplish, choosing to first get their ideas “out there” before deciding whether to keep them or not. They aren’t constantly stopping and thinking about what to do next – they simply do whatever comes to mind.

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4. You’re less stressed out

Spontaneous people tend to not stress out over much. They understand that life goes on, whether it goes as planned or not. Since their natural instinct is to “play it by ear,” they have no problem dealing with situations they didn’t expect. They’re also less disappointed when things don’t turn out the way they expected, as they will simply move on to whatever life has in store for them next. And, of course, when life does get stressful, spontaneous people know how to shake things up in order to relieve the stress and get over the hurdle they’re currently facing.

5. You’re happier

It may be a bit of conjecture, but it stands to reason that those who are more fresh, flexible, creative, and relaxed than others will ultimately be happier with their life. Spontaneous people make the best of every situation they face, and take full advantage of everything life has to offer. Though happiness is a fleeting concept, having a mindset which allows you to always see the bright side of things certainly will optimize your ability to keep a positive outlook. While everyone in this world faces their fair share of ups and downs, the spontaneous among us remain resilient and press forward to the next big thing life has to offer.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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