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10 Things You Learn Growing Up As the Eldest Sibling

10 Things You Learn Growing Up As the Eldest Sibling

Are you the eldest sibling in your family? Being the eldest sibling comes with both difficult responsibilities and entertaining advantages, from babysitting for free to having a pass to be as bossy as you like.

Check out 10 funny things you learn growing up as the eldest sibling.

1. You were raised with strict rules.

You were the first child your parents raised, so they wanted to make sure they got it right. You were forced to join clubs, you had early curfews and your parents stressed over every cut and bruise you got. Your parents had relaxed by the time your siblings came along, so their youth was much easier.

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2. All of your toys were brand new.

There were upsides to being the eldest siblings, such as being the only sibling to get brand new toys. You were given brand new clothes, toys and game systems—and when you grew bored of them, they were passed onto your younger siblings. They said it wasn’t fair, but you think you deserved it as a reward for the strict parenting you went through.

3. You hated having to sit at the kids’ table.

When it came to Thanksgiving or family events you were always seated at the kids table, and you were always the oldest one there. You didn’t feel quite right sitting at the kids’ table—the chairs were way too small for you, but the adult’s table looked boring to you as well.

4. You are experienced in being bossy.

If your siblings did something bad, you were just as likely to get shouted at as they were for not stopping them. So whenever your younger siblings tried to draw on the walls or cut their own hair, you shouted at them. Then you got into trouble for making them cry.

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5. Staying out late was more of a problem for you than your siblings.

Due to your parent’s strict rules, you spent your teenage years abiding by a very early curfew. You always made sure you were home in time, whereas your siblings regularly arrived home in the early hours of the morning—and your parents never said anything.

6. You fear losing games to your younger siblings.

After years of being the oldest and the bossiest, you fear losing any games to your younger siblings. From soccer to Jenga, you always have to win.

7. You were a cheap babysitter.

You grew up with a paid babysitter looking after you when your parents went out, but they realized you were a much cheaper alternative for your younger siblings. So you became a babysitter every Friday night, and you wonder why you were paid so little—that is, if you were paid at all.

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8. You can never decide if you want to be the cool one or the responsible one.

You like the idea of drinking with your younger siblings, but if they have too many or puff on a cigarette, you immediately start worrying. It’s a tough struggle wanting to look after your siblings while also wanting to be their best friend.

9. You’re used to taking the blame.

You were supposed to “set a good example” for your siblings, so if they did something wrong, you both got in trouble instead of just them. Even if your sibling was 6 and you were 7.

10. You’re very proud of your siblings.

Despite the added responsibilities, you loved helping raise and shape your younger siblings. You are proud of everything they have achieved, and know you will always be there for your younger siblings.

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What did you think of this list? Share this list with any eldest siblings you know who you know could relate!

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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