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8 Motivational Quotes To Remind You To Persist

8 Motivational Quotes To Remind You To Persist

We’ve all been there before, in the deep valley that is the darkest time of our lives. It seems that all hope is gone and we would like to just roll up into a ball on the floor. We label this as a time of adversity.

How do you deal with adversity? What is your mindset when you experience a major setback in your life? It may be an illness, a divorce, the death of a loved one, or the loss of a job. How do you deal with the hardship that is associated with these situations?

Sometimes, all we need are some words of encouragement, something to motivate us through the deep dark valley of despair. Here are eight motivational quotes that will remind you to persist, even when you feel like giving up.

1. Adversity is temporary

Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.” — Marilyn vos Savant

When going through an adverse situation, we must remember that we are going through a dark tunnel. We are not stopping for a burger and fries along the way. We are moving through as quickly and efficiently as possible — it is not permanent. It does not form who we are, what we’ve done, or what we have to potential to become. It’s a time for rest, reflection and rejuvenation.

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Never Give up

    2. Stay focused on the positive

    “It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” — Aristotle Onassis

    We must stay focused on the light at the end of the tunnel. Not giving up and not giving in, but persistently moving our way through to the light. When we understand that this is a temporary setback, our minds will be focused on the positive results.

    Stay Focused On The Positive

      3. Change your attitude, change your life

      “The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes.” ~ William James

      Maintaining a positive attitude while going through traumatic situations can be a very daunting task. However, it is also a tremendous opportunity to create change in our lives. Changing your attitude can change your thinking, which can change your life. This is an excellent time to surround yourself with positive thoughts, positive emotions, and positive people. During this  time, we may also want to purge ourselves of negative thoughts, negative emotions, and negative people that bring us down.

      Change Your Attitude Change Your Life

        4. Understand that obstacles bring opportunity

        “Opportunity often comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat.”  — Napoleon Hill

        Adverse situations can be deceiving. Our first inclination is usually to blame others or ourselves for the misery that we are experiencing. The simple fact is that sometimes there is no one to blame. However, it’s important to remember that adverse situations offer an excellent opportunity for us to learn and grow. It is all about your perception. Positive mindset is a key to personal growth.

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        Obstacles Bring Opportunity

          5. Never give up, you are in good company

          “All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me.”  — Walt Disney

          If you study the lives of highly successful people, you will normally find that they have gone through many adverse situations to get to the point where they are today. They did not quit in the middle of a setback or a tragedy. They pushed through the rough times knowing each step was bringing them closer to their ultimate goal. If we are to get to the next level, we cannot give up in the middle. We should understand that we are in good company — no one who has ever succeeded has done so without going through some great adversity.

          Never Give up

            6. We can choose how we deal with adversity

            “Every tomorrow has two handles. We can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith.”  — Henry Ward Beecher

            In the midst of adversity, we each have a choice. We can choose to have a pity party for ourselves over a misfortune, or we can take the handle of faith, knowing that these hard times will make us stronger.

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            How We Deal With Adversity

              7. Practice positive self-talk

              “Relentless, repetitive self talk is what changes our self-image.” — Denis Waitley

              Adversity provides us with an opportunity to seize the moment for growth. During this time, we must maintain a positive self-image and practice positive self-talk. It must be done relentlessly and repetitively. Don’t miss the opportunity to come out the other side with a stronger self-image.

              Positive Self Talk

                8. Adversity can leave scars

                “Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” — Khalil Gibran

                When going through hard times, you might find yourself thinking, that will leave a mark. That mark or scar could be considered a badge of courage. It will be a reminder of the adversity that you have faced and will actually make you stronger. This is because of the lessons learned on your way through that dark tunnel.

                Adversity Can Leave Scars

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                  How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

                  How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

                  For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

                  If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

                  Example 1

                  You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

                  You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

                  In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

                  Example 2

                  You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

                  People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

                  You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

                  Example 3

                  You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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                  The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

                  Example 4

                  You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

                  Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

                  If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

                  Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

                  • Understand your own communication style
                  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
                  • Communicate with precision and care
                  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

                  1. Understand Your Communication Style

                  To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

                  In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

                  Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

                  2. Learn Others Communication Styles

                  Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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                  If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

                  “How do you prefer to receive information?”

                  This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

                  To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

                  3. Exercise Precision and Care

                  A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

                  On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

                  Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

                  I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

                  I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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                  In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

                  The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

                  Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

                  4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

                  Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

                  In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

                  “Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

                  Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

                  Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

                  It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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                  It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

                  It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

                  Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

                  Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

                  The Bottom Line

                  When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

                  I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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