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7 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People

7 Habits of Exceptionally Likeable People

When it comes to someone being seen as “likeable” by the public, it can be very easy to fall into the stereotype that they have some very specific trait or aura about them that makes them so great to be around. However, anyone can learn certain characteristics or habits to make themselves likeable. It can be hard work to change someone’s mentality, but it pays off in the long run.

Here are just some of the reasons that make someone exceptionally likeable people – they tend to have traits such as the following including within their personality at all times:

1. They Focus on You.

The most important thing that you will find when talking to a likeable person is that they give you all the time in the world when you’re talking. They don’t spend their time looking around the room trying to find something else to concentrate on, and they don’t start using their phones while you are speaking. Likeable people are liked because they give you confidence and belief in yourself above anything else. This makes a massive difference to your overall levels of confidence in yourself, and in the subject that you were talking about.

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2. They Are Genuine People. 

Someone being able to be seen as genuine is, in the modern world, incredibly important. The world is full of people we meet on a daily basis who simply cannot be trusted. A likeable person can actually be trusted when you talk to them or when you spend time with them. A genuine person will be so much easier to talk to as they’ll actually give you the honest response – positive or negative.

3. They Start Debate.

When you are talking, nothing is more annoying than someone just acknowledging you and never adding anything to the conversation. When this happens, it can be very frustrating, and the best way to get around this problem is to simply ensure that they are able to add to the debate. Do they give you suggestions or ideas for what you could be doing? Or are they just going along with the conversation? The best thing about likeable people is that they offer you a nice, fresh perspective. They’ll ask questions and inherently add to the debate as it goes.

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4. They Aren’t Judgemental.

Nothing can be more annoying than watching someone pass judgement on you or someone else – and this is something that likeable people won’t do. Whether you eat too many fatty foods, smoke, take drugs… you will find that a likeable person won’t be the one to stand there and make snap judgements about your character or your personality. Instead, they are likely to want to know more about your circumstances.

5. They Don’t Court Attention.

Nothing is more irritating than someone just constantly trying to get attention all the time. Whether it’s through conversation or their actions, a likeable person doesn’t have this inherent need to be seen and be recognised by everyone else. Looking for a way to ensure that you stay as a memorable and friendly person, or as a likeable individual? Then you need to consider if being the centre of attention is the best way to do that.

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6. They Leave An Impression.

Some people command respect as soon as they walk into a room – with a likeable person, they will do this in abundance. Simply follow the way that they enter a room and see the kind of response they get. It’s likely that when they talk, the others in the room will stop what they were doing and actually listen to what is being said.

7. They Are Positive.

Most importantly, though, likeable people are positive. Nobody likes a doomsayer. If you are with someone who is constantly putting the world and everything on it down, it can start to grate on you quite quickly. Avoid this problem with relative ease by looking at the attributes of a likeable person. Are they able to see any negative situation in a more positive light? This is a hugely desirable trait.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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