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7 Reasons Why Truly Generous People Are Better Partners

7 Reasons Why Truly Generous People Are Better Partners

Today’s world is dominated with stories of selfishness and greed, but that’s only because these are the stories that grab headlines. The truth is, generosity is all around us, but generous people simply don’t make a big deal over their efforts. When dating a generous person, you can be assured that your partner is a genuine, giving person who will always think of others regardless of the situation.

1. They’re altruistic

Generous people actively look for ways to give back to the world community, regardless of whether or not they get anything in return. Altruistic people actually become more fulfilled the more they give of themselves. They give in every way, whether monetarily, materialistically, or emotionally. When dating an altruistic person, you may need to actually make sure they don’t burn themselves out by being too giving.

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2. They’re optimistic

Generous people always see the good in others, and look on the bright side of every situation. Because of this optimistic outlook, they always act with the best intentions. They’ll always be there to pick you up when you’re feeling down, and will give you the perspective needed to snap yourself out of your funk. And remember: they’ll do anything to help you out of it, too.

3. They’re grateful

By nature, being optimistic means generous people are also grateful. They know there are people who are much less fortunate than they are, so they don’t spend time dwelling on what they don’t have. They’re happy with who they are, what they have, and the people they have around them. Because of this, generous people will never look to others to improve their life, but will always appreciate you for who you are and what you have already done for them.

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4. They’re energetic

Generous people aren’t stagnant whatsoever. They want to make the most out of life, and they usually do so by including others in their exciting plans. When they have something exciting planned, it most likely involves being productive or experiencing something new, rather than the same old routine. If you’re dating a generous person, be prepared to try new activities and truly experience everything the world has to offer.

5. They’re born leaders

Being the energetic people they are, generous people are also born leaders. They’ll be the ones coming up with ideas and making big plans. They also act as role models to all around them. Their energetic optimism is absolutely infectious, and they will make everyone around them want to get up and live life to its fullest. Dating a generous person, you’ll feel like every moment spent sitting around is a moment wasted that could have been spent living life.

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6. They’re introspective

Generous people never look at how others can improve, or how others can treat them better. Instead, they focus on how they can better themselves, and how they can improve the lives of people around them. They don’t play the “blame game” in relationships, and will always look past silly fights and arguments toward how they can change their ways to become a better mate. And they certainly never just blame themselves and have a pity party; they actively want to change, and will work hard to make sure the mistake they made in the past never reoccur.

7. Their generosity is never ending

Generous people really don’t burn out. They’re motivated by others’ happiness, so if you’re dating a generous person, be prepared to get flowers on a random Tuesday night, or be taken out to dinner “just because.” Well, I’m not saying you should need these things to happen, because you definitely shouldn’t take advantage of their generosity. But know that when they do special things for you, it’s because your happiness makes them happy as well. Generous people always have others in mind, because they want to spread the optimism they have for life to the people they care about the most.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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