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7 Reasons Why Truly Generous People Are Better Partners

7 Reasons Why Truly Generous People Are Better Partners

Today’s world is dominated with stories of selfishness and greed, but that’s only because these are the stories that grab headlines. The truth is, generosity is all around us, but generous people simply don’t make a big deal over their efforts. When dating a generous person, you can be assured that your partner is a genuine, giving person who will always think of others regardless of the situation.

1. They’re altruistic

Generous people actively look for ways to give back to the world community, regardless of whether or not they get anything in return. Altruistic people actually become more fulfilled the more they give of themselves. They give in every way, whether monetarily, materialistically, or emotionally. When dating an altruistic person, you may need to actually make sure they don’t burn themselves out by being too giving.

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2. They’re optimistic

Generous people always see the good in others, and look on the bright side of every situation. Because of this optimistic outlook, they always act with the best intentions. They’ll always be there to pick you up when you’re feeling down, and will give you the perspective needed to snap yourself out of your funk. And remember: they’ll do anything to help you out of it, too.

3. They’re grateful

By nature, being optimistic means generous people are also grateful. They know there are people who are much less fortunate than they are, so they don’t spend time dwelling on what they don’t have. They’re happy with who they are, what they have, and the people they have around them. Because of this, generous people will never look to others to improve their life, but will always appreciate you for who you are and what you have already done for them.

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4. They’re energetic

Generous people aren’t stagnant whatsoever. They want to make the most out of life, and they usually do so by including others in their exciting plans. When they have something exciting planned, it most likely involves being productive or experiencing something new, rather than the same old routine. If you’re dating a generous person, be prepared to try new activities and truly experience everything the world has to offer.

5. They’re born leaders

Being the energetic people they are, generous people are also born leaders. They’ll be the ones coming up with ideas and making big plans. They also act as role models to all around them. Their energetic optimism is absolutely infectious, and they will make everyone around them want to get up and live life to its fullest. Dating a generous person, you’ll feel like every moment spent sitting around is a moment wasted that could have been spent living life.

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6. They’re introspective

Generous people never look at how others can improve, or how others can treat them better. Instead, they focus on how they can better themselves, and how they can improve the lives of people around them. They don’t play the “blame game” in relationships, and will always look past silly fights and arguments toward how they can change their ways to become a better mate. And they certainly never just blame themselves and have a pity party; they actively want to change, and will work hard to make sure the mistake they made in the past never reoccur.

7. Their generosity is never ending

Generous people really don’t burn out. They’re motivated by others’ happiness, so if you’re dating a generous person, be prepared to get flowers on a random Tuesday night, or be taken out to dinner “just because.” Well, I’m not saying you should need these things to happen, because you definitely shouldn’t take advantage of their generosity. But know that when they do special things for you, it’s because your happiness makes them happy as well. Generous people always have others in mind, because they want to spread the optimism they have for life to the people they care about the most.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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