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10 Things To Remember If You Love A Stubborn Person

10 Things To Remember If You Love A Stubborn Person

It is tough when you are in a relationship with a stubborn person. Even when he/she is a loved one it is so difficult to make them yield or respond to your demands. It is important one can adjust to a better approach in dealing with them so as to get the best out of a relationship with a loved one. The truth is that being stubborn could sometime mean strength and creates some stability and assurance that may not be common in a fickle world. Here are some things to remember if your loved one is stubborn.

1. They will not change their minds at a whim

There is no point in trying to know if they will change their mind since they are resolute and would stick to an opinion, thought or belief for as long as they want. One thing to remember is that stubborn people are comfortable with being whom they are and they are so slow to change since saying Yes is so hard .

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2. They face a dilemma when they need to work with others

Working with others could cause some strain because this could mean wanting them to make certain compromises they are not used to. They actually could do well when they are working with other team members who are yielding or understanding. Sometimes offering them the space to accomplish their task alone could be what will work best for them.

3. They find it hard to admit their mistakes

They happen to believe they are always right, technically this may be true. But they wouldn’t always be right. There will be mistakes and sometimes actually things could go south. At such points admitting they were wrong is so hard.

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4. They want others to know that they are stubborn

Being stubborn is sort of a trademark for them. They are so happy to let others know how difficult they are as if it was sort of a cool identity to showcase. So don’t be offended or feel uncomfortable if a stubborn person continues to remind you of how stubborn he/she is.

5. They tend to take arguments very passionately

They would take that argument very seriously and make it seem unending. It is more of a circle for them to establish authority or knowledge. Even when they are out rightly wrong they will treat the argument with intensity and passion.

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6. They don’t believe they need help

As much as they want to think and act independently, they find it difficult to seek others opinion or assistance on a subject. Even when they know that the other person can render assistance and provide the help that they need, they will prefer to stick it out alone.

7. They have high standards

They don’t really want to settle for anything that is below a certain expectation. There is nothing wrong with having high standards, yet those standards could be a little too high. And this they have to admit and sometimes own up to.

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8. They will stick to the one way that they know

They prefer to take the one route they are comfortable with. Although this can be beneficial if it continually leads to success, it is always important to adapt and discover other channels. Moreover the stubborn person may never want to choose the easy approach. It is the hard way or nothing.

9. They find it difficult dealing with other stubborn people

It is more of a case of going around in circles. Nothing really gets done or accomplished when you are around other stubborn people. Even when you understand their stubbornness and they understand yours, it will always be difficult to settle for the other person.

10. They are dogged

The great thing about stubborn people is that they will always go after what they want with everything they have got. They won’t stop, but push on even when the odds are against them. Stubborn people are resolute and they will see their desires to fruition.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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