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10 Things Only People Who Grew Up In Metropolitan Cities Would Understand

10 Things Only People Who Grew Up In Metropolitan Cities Would Understand

Metropolitan cities can be among the happiest or the loneliest places to grow up. It all depends on the way you see things. To most people, it can be a combination of both.

Among other things, you’re raised in a culture that encourages you to both work and play hard. And it is this very bifurcated lifestyle that makes you so different from the rest.

Having been born and raised in a metropolitan city myself, here is a list I have compiled of 10 things only people who grew up in metropolitan cities would understand.

1. You were raised playing a sport of some sort.

If you grew up in a metropolitan city, it’s highly likely that you grew up supporting a local sports team.

And in hopes of one day being among your heroes, you probably spent a lot of your days playing the sport either with your friends or better yet, as a part of an amateur team.

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So at some point in your life, if not for a prolonged period, you’ve virtually been fixated with the sport.

2. You have loyalty to certain local brands.

Big metropolitan cities may be a major market for large international companies but there are plenty of local brands as well. It doesn’t matter if they have established themselves globally or not, you have a soft corner for them.

You never cease to love these brands and they are parts of your connection to the city. You feel attached to the city when you use something that came out your local enterprise, in a distant land.

3. You have lived behind doors with multiple locks.

Life in big cities is loud. It’s not to mean that life in big cities is scary all the time. But more than once you must have lived behind doors with multiple locks. Remember that time when gang wars broke out around the corner?

Big cities are full of hustle and tussle and sometimes circumstances get crazy. For safety concerns, you and your family might have spent some nights inside a house with multiple locks on the door.

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4. You feel that being different is good.

“You laugh at me because I’m different, I laugh at you because you’re all the same.” You must have lived by this Jonathan Davis quote as someone who grew up in a big city.You want to stand apart from others in the crowd.

The love for something different extends beyond personal motivation as well. You don’t want resort yourself to same sort of routine all the time. You always want to explore things new and march into the unknown.

5. You grew up really fast.

Kids in big cities seem to grow really fast. With so many people living around you as you grew up, it was very easy for you to be exposed to many of the ways and adversity of adult life. And with your parents busy in their vocations, you might also have needed to act like a grownup from the early stages of life.

Whether it be in the form of learning to drive, getting a taste of alcohol or going on a first date, you must have experienced the stuff of grown-ups at a pretty early age compared to kids from smaller cities.

6. You have seen the evolution of advanced technologies.

Metropolitan life is always in demand of change. It always wants to experience something new. And it’s served in that manner pretty aptly as well. The newest of technologies make their presence first known in these big cities as son as the are invented.

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Over the years, you must have seen the advancement of technologies at your city and in your life. You have lived through the early years of the internet, the growth of e-commerce, the emergence of social media and rise of smart phones. Things always keep changing in your cities.

7. You have read at schools with racial diversity.

The populace of metropolitan cities are generally diverse. People from different ancestries, races and cultures gather in such cities from all around the world. So as a student, you must have read at schools with racial diversity.

Having grown up in a racially diverse environment, you’re positive towards people of different cultures. Your friend circle is highly likely to be diverse in nature. Such is not the case in small towns where certain races are dominant.

8. You learned to use public transportation at a very young age.

Your folks were off to work and couldn’t always drive you to your destination. In those circumstances, you learned to use public transportation from a very tender age.

Whether it was going to school every day or visiting a relative or going to some fun event, you had to take public transportation at a very tender age. You should have plenty of vivid memories on buses as a child.

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9. You never had a legitimate reason to feel bored.

Boredom in a metropolitan city is very rare or almost doesn’t happen. There are too many things you can participate in. Feeling bored? There are plenty of fun things to do in these cities.

Visiting fun parks, discos, gaming parlors and late night parties are some of the common things people do to avoid boredom.

In those times you felt bored, you have visited malls, taken a free outdoor yoga classes, visited a stadium and cheered for your favorite football team or enjoyed street food.

10. You never had to wait long for your favorite band to come to town.

This is the most joyful reason to grow up in metropolitan cities. Whether you are a fan of international bands like AC/DC, Green Day, Metallica or local bands in your country, prepare yourself, they may visit your city anytime.

You may also get the chance to get an autograph or even to take pictures with them if you are lucky enough. Different bands frequently visit metropolitan cities enlarging your joy of being part of the city. Of course, you may have to struggle and skip work or school though to get a ticket.

Featured photo credit: Metropolitan City (Wikipedia) via upload.wikimedia.org

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Last Updated on November 9, 2020

10 Real Reasons Why Breaking Bad Habits Is So Difficult

10 Real Reasons Why Breaking Bad Habits Is So Difficult

Bad habits expose us to suffering that is entirely avoidable. Unfortunately, breaking bad habits is difficult because they are 100% dependent on our mental and emotional state.

Anything we do that can prove harmful to us is a bad habit – drinking, drugs, smoking, procrastination, poor communication are all examples of bad habits. These habits have negative effects on our physical, mental, and emotional health.

Humans are hardwired to respond to stimuli and to expect a consequence of any action. This is how habits are acquired: the brain expects to be rewarded a certain way under certain circumstances. How you initially responded to certain stimuli is how your brain will always remind you to behave when the same stimuli are experienced.

If you visited the bar close to your office with colleagues every Friday, your brain will learn to send you a signal to stop there even when you are alone and eventually not just on Fridays. It will expect the reward of a drink after work every day, which can potentially lead to a drinking problem.

Kicking negative behavior patterns and steering clear of them requires a lot of willpower, and there are many reasons why breaking bad habits is so difficult.

1. Lack of Awareness or Acceptance

Breaking a bad habit is not possible if the person who has it is not aware that it is a bad one.

Many people will not realize that their communication skills are poor or that their procrastination is affecting them negatively, or even that the drink they had as a nightcap has now increased to three.

Awareness brings acceptance. Unless a person realizes on their own that a habit is bad, or someone manages to convince them of the same, there is very little chance of the habit being kicked.

2. No Motivation

Going through a divorce, not being able to cope with academic pressure, and falling into debt are instances that can bring a profound sense of failure with them. A person going through these times can fall into a cycle of negative thinking where the world is against them and nothing they can do will ever help, so they stop trying altogether.

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This give-up attitude is a bad habit that just keeps coming around. Being in debt could make you feel like you are failing at maintaining your home, family, and life in general.

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3. Underlying Psychological Conditions

Psychological conditions such as depression and ADD can make it difficult to start breaking bad habits.

A depressed person may find it difficult to summon the energy to cook a healthy meal, resulting in food being ordered in or consumption of packaged foods. This could lead to a habit that adversely affects health and is difficult to overcome.

A person with ADD may start to clean their house but get distracted soon after, leaving the task incomplete, eventually leading to a state where it is acceptable to live in a house that is untidy and dirty.

The fear of missing out (FOMO) is very real to some people. Obsessively checking their social media and news sources, they may believe that not knowing of something as soon as it is published can be catastrophic to their social standing.

4. Bad Habits Make Us Feel Good

One of the reasons it is difficult to break habits is that a lot of them make us feel good.[1]

We’ve all been there – the craving for a tub of ice cream after a breakup or a casual drag on a joint, never to be repeated until we miss how good it made us feel. We succumb to the craving for the pleasure felt while indulging in it, cementing it as a habit even while we are aware it isn’t good for us.

Overeating is a very common bad habit. Just another pack of chips, a couple of candies, a large soda… none of these are necessary for survival. We want them because they give us comfort. They’re familiar, they taste good, and we don’t even notice when we progress from just one extra slice of pizza to four.

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5. Upward Comparisons

Comparisons are a bad habit that many of us have been exposed to since we were children. Parents might have compared us to siblings, teachers may have compared us to classmates, and bosses could compare us to past and present employees.

The people who have developed the bad habit of comparing themselves to others have been given incorrect yardsticks for measurement from the start.

These people will always find it difficult to break out of this bad habit because there will always be someone who has it better than they do: a better house, better car, better job, higher income and so on.

Research shows that in the age of social media, social comparisons are much easier and can ultimately harm self-esteem if scrolling becomes a bad habit[2].

6. No Alternative

This is a real and valid reason why breaking bad habits is difficult. These habits could fulfill a need that may not be met any other way.

Someone who has physical or psychological limitations, such as a disability or social anxiety, may find it hard to quit obsessive content consumption for better habits.

Alternately, a perfectly healthy person may be unable to quit smoking because alternates are just not working out.

Similarly, a person who bites their nails when anxious may be unable to relieve stress in any other socially accepted manner.

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7. Stress

As mentioned above, anything that stresses us out can lead to adopting and cementing an unhealthy habit.

When a person is stressed about something, it is easy for bad habits to form because the mental resources required to fight them are not available[3].

We often see a person who had previously managed to kick a bad habit fall back into the old ways because they felt their stress couldn’t be managed any other way.

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8. Sense of Failure

People looking to kick bad habits may feel a strong sense of failure because it’s just that difficult.

Dropping a bad habit usually means changes in lifestyle that people may be unwilling to make, or these changes might not be easy to make in spite of the will to make them.

Overeaters need to empty their house of unhealthy food, resist the urge to order in, and not pick up their standard grocery items from the store. Those who drink too much need to avoid the bars or even people who drink often.

If such people slip even once with a glass of wine, or a smoke, or a bag of chips, they tend to be excessively harsh on themselves and feel like failures.

9. The Need to Be All-New

People who are looking to break bad habits feel they need to re-create themselves in order to break themselves of their bad habits, while the truth is the complete opposite.

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These people actually need to go back to who they were before they developed the bad habit and try to create good habits from there.

10. Force of Habit

Humans are creatures of habit, and having familiar, comforting outcomes for daily triggers helps us maintain a sense of balance in our lives.

Consider people who are used to lighting up a cigarette every time they talk on the phone or eating junk food when watching TV. They will always associate a phone call with a puff on the cigarette and screen time with eating.

These habits, though bad, are a source of comfort to them, as is meeting with those people they indulge in these bad habits with.

Final Thoughts

These are the main reasons why breaking bad habits is difficult, but the good news is that the task is not impossible. Breaking habits takes time, and you’ll need to put long-term goals in place to replace a bad habit with a good one.

There are many compassionate, positive and self-loving techniques to kick bad habits. The internet is rich in information regarding bad habits, their effects and how to overcome them, while professional help is always available for those who feel they need it.

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Reference

[1] After Skool: Why Do Bad Habits Feel SO GOOD?
[2] Psychology of Popular Media Culture: Social comparison, social media, and self-esteem.
[3] Stanford Medicine: Examining how stress affects good and bad habits

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