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13 Tricks People Good At Impressing Anyone Would Know

13 Tricks People Good At Impressing Anyone Would Know

First impressions last a lifetime, especially when it comes to impressing anyone. Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and Influence People once said, “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.” Impress anyone with these 12 tricks up your sleeve.

1. They aren’t afraid to be themselves

Most of us know when someone is being disingenuous. The people who are comfortable in their own skin are able to communicate authentically and create a comfortable atmosphere during any conversation.

2. They have a firm handshake

A study was done at the University of Alabama where 112 students were evaluated over a nine-month period based on their personality and handshake. Researchers said that “a person’s handshake is consistent over time and is related to some aspects of his or her personality. Those with a firm handshake were more extroverted, open to new experience, less neurotic and shy than those with a less firm handshake.”

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3. They make eye contact

The eyes are the windows to the soul.  When communicating with someone the best way to tell whether or not they are paying attention is if their eyes wander. In ancient tantric practices, yogis use what is called “transfiguration” to look deep into the eyes of another to recognise their higher, divine qualities.

4. They remember a person’s name

Carnegie writes, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” The best way to remember someone’s name is to repeat it three times when you first meet them.

5. They ask questions

Asking questions lets the other person know you are engaged in the conversation, and you’re genuinely interested in what they have to say. You may also find out things you never knew.

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6. They listen

It’s impossible to listen when thinking about a response. In the loud world we live in, people are losing the ability to listen. Sixty-percent of our communication is listening and we only retain twenty-five percent. Talk less, and you’ll find yourself hearing more.

7. They speak the way the other person would like to be spoken to

You might be speaking to someone who is shy and quiet or loud and outgoing. From personal experience, it takes work to learn how to speak to an introvert when you are an extrovert, and vice versa.

8. They remain positive

People like to spend time with those who are positive and who smile. We all have our bad days, but when it comes to impressing others, leave your baggage at the door. A smile can be found right under your nose.

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9.They understand body language

Physiology creates psychology. As social psychologist Amy Cuddy explains in her TED talk, “Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are,” our body language affects how not only how others see us, but how we see ourselves.

10. They make the other person feel important

Conversations are a two-way street. By stepping back and not making the conversation about you, you allow the other person to feel that you really care about what they have to say.

11. They dress to impress

You don’t have to wear designer clothes to impress others. Caring about your appearance also means having good hygiene and wearing clean clothes.

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12. They don’t look at their phone

In this day and age we are glued to our smart phones. The less attached we are to our phones, the more we will impress the people we are engaging with.

13. They don’t take themselves too seriously

Make someone laugh, and you’ll be friends for life.

“Knock-knock. Who’s there? Boo. Boo-who? Aw, don’t cry, you aren’t supposed to take yourself too seriously!”

Featured photo credit: Group of happy business people clapping their hands/tec_estromberg via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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