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13 Tricks People Good At Impressing Anyone Would Know

13 Tricks People Good At Impressing Anyone Would Know

First impressions last a lifetime, especially when it comes to impressing anyone. Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and Influence People once said, “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.” Impress anyone with these 12 tricks up your sleeve.

1. They aren’t afraid to be themselves

Most of us know when someone is being disingenuous. The people who are comfortable in their own skin are able to communicate authentically and create a comfortable atmosphere during any conversation.

2. They have a firm handshake

A study was done at the University of Alabama where 112 students were evaluated over a nine-month period based on their personality and handshake. Researchers said that “a person’s handshake is consistent over time and is related to some aspects of his or her personality. Those with a firm handshake were more extroverted, open to new experience, less neurotic and shy than those with a less firm handshake.”

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3. They make eye contact

The eyes are the windows to the soul.  When communicating with someone the best way to tell whether or not they are paying attention is if their eyes wander. In ancient tantric practices, yogis use what is called “transfiguration” to look deep into the eyes of another to recognise their higher, divine qualities.

4. They remember a person’s name

Carnegie writes, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” The best way to remember someone’s name is to repeat it three times when you first meet them.

5. They ask questions

Asking questions lets the other person know you are engaged in the conversation, and you’re genuinely interested in what they have to say. You may also find out things you never knew.

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6. They listen

It’s impossible to listen when thinking about a response. In the loud world we live in, people are losing the ability to listen. Sixty-percent of our communication is listening and we only retain twenty-five percent. Talk less, and you’ll find yourself hearing more.

7. They speak the way the other person would like to be spoken to

You might be speaking to someone who is shy and quiet or loud and outgoing. From personal experience, it takes work to learn how to speak to an introvert when you are an extrovert, and vice versa.

8. They remain positive

People like to spend time with those who are positive and who smile. We all have our bad days, but when it comes to impressing others, leave your baggage at the door. A smile can be found right under your nose.

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9.They understand body language

Physiology creates psychology. As social psychologist Amy Cuddy explains in her TED talk, “Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are,” our body language affects how not only how others see us, but how we see ourselves.

10. They make the other person feel important

Conversations are a two-way street. By stepping back and not making the conversation about you, you allow the other person to feel that you really care about what they have to say.

11. They dress to impress

You don’t have to wear designer clothes to impress others. Caring about your appearance also means having good hygiene and wearing clean clothes.

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12. They don’t look at their phone

In this day and age we are glued to our smart phones. The less attached we are to our phones, the more we will impress the people we are engaging with.

13. They don’t take themselves too seriously

Make someone laugh, and you’ll be friends for life.

“Knock-knock. Who’s there? Boo. Boo-who? Aw, don’t cry, you aren’t supposed to take yourself too seriously!”

Featured photo credit: Group of happy business people clapping their hands/tec_estromberg via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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