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13 Tricks People Good At Impressing Anyone Would Know

13 Tricks People Good At Impressing Anyone Would Know

First impressions last a lifetime, especially when it comes to impressing anyone. Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and Influence People once said, “When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion.” Impress anyone with these 12 tricks up your sleeve.

1. They aren’t afraid to be themselves

Most of us know when someone is being disingenuous. The people who are comfortable in their own skin are able to communicate authentically and create a comfortable atmosphere during any conversation.

2. They have a firm handshake

A study was done at the University of Alabama where 112 students were evaluated over a nine-month period based on their personality and handshake. Researchers said that “a person’s handshake is consistent over time and is related to some aspects of his or her personality. Those with a firm handshake were more extroverted, open to new experience, less neurotic and shy than those with a less firm handshake.”

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3. They make eye contact

The eyes are the windows to the soul.  When communicating with someone the best way to tell whether or not they are paying attention is if their eyes wander. In ancient tantric practices, yogis use what is called “transfiguration” to look deep into the eyes of another to recognise their higher, divine qualities.

4. They remember a person’s name

Carnegie writes, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” The best way to remember someone’s name is to repeat it three times when you first meet them.

5. They ask questions

Asking questions lets the other person know you are engaged in the conversation, and you’re genuinely interested in what they have to say. You may also find out things you never knew.

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6. They listen

It’s impossible to listen when thinking about a response. In the loud world we live in, people are losing the ability to listen. Sixty-percent of our communication is listening and we only retain twenty-five percent. Talk less, and you’ll find yourself hearing more.

7. They speak the way the other person would like to be spoken to

You might be speaking to someone who is shy and quiet or loud and outgoing. From personal experience, it takes work to learn how to speak to an introvert when you are an extrovert, and vice versa.

8. They remain positive

People like to spend time with those who are positive and who smile. We all have our bad days, but when it comes to impressing others, leave your baggage at the door. A smile can be found right under your nose.

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9.They understand body language

Physiology creates psychology. As social psychologist Amy Cuddy explains in her TED talk, “Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are,” our body language affects how not only how others see us, but how we see ourselves.

10. They make the other person feel important

Conversations are a two-way street. By stepping back and not making the conversation about you, you allow the other person to feel that you really care about what they have to say.

11. They dress to impress

You don’t have to wear designer clothes to impress others. Caring about your appearance also means having good hygiene and wearing clean clothes.

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12. They don’t look at their phone

In this day and age we are glued to our smart phones. The less attached we are to our phones, the more we will impress the people we are engaging with.

13. They don’t take themselves too seriously

Make someone laugh, and you’ll be friends for life.

“Knock-knock. Who’s there? Boo. Boo-who? Aw, don’t cry, you aren’t supposed to take yourself too seriously!”

Featured photo credit: Group of happy business people clapping their hands/tec_estromberg via flickr.com

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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