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Last Updated on October 30, 2018

You Will Never Be Ready. Do It Anyway!

You Will Never Be Ready. Do It Anyway!

You are never going to be prepared enough for your first concert. You could have practiced more, memorized the veering structure of the songs one more time or reviewed every single step of your performance before the show.

You are never going to be one hundred percent ready for a final exam. You could have studied more, read one last page before entering the classroom or taken one more practice test to enhance your knowledge.

You are never going to be prepared enough to start an ambitious project. You could have asked for more opinions, attended different preparation courses or made a deeper research taking into consideration hundreds of possible variables and scenarios.

“Don’t wait for extraordinary opportunities. Seize common occasions and make them great. Weak people wait for opportunities; strong people make them.” – Orison Swett Marden

The truth is that you are never going to be prepared enough to take the train. But if you don’t do it, you may be losing one of the best opportunities that will come your way. You won’t get unlimited chances to have what you want and nothing is worse than regretting the opportunities you didn’t seize.

Start before you are ready

As André Gile said: A man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.

Opportunities require courage, and this only depends on us.

We often miss great opportunities because we believe that we are not prepared for them, that it is not the right moment. We think that we lack knowledge or experience to face new challenges and we lay back in our perfectly ergonomic chairs without even trying. We are scared, afraid of failing or running without knowing where to go and what to expect on our way.

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The truth is that we are never going to feel fully prepared when we get a great chance. And that’s OK.

Great people do things before they are ready. They do things before they know they can do them. That’s how people and organizations grow, by taking risks.

Jump on and don’t look back!

Say ‘Yes’ and then figure out how to do it.

By definition, an opportunity is a challenge. Opportunities force us to take one more step, to reinvent ourselves, to run into the unknown and to leave the comfort zone in which we are used to live.

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An opportunity involves difficulties and implies uncertainty. It doesn’t come with a guarantee of success or the promise of a better future. But one thing is for sure, you will develop and grow from the experience. You will improve and get better for the next time and, if you fail, you will learn from your mistakes and won’t repeat them again.

You will never know if you can succeed unless you try and push your boundaries.

If it scares you, then it might be a good thing to try. Trust your gut and go for it. Taking chances requires some blind trust in most cases.

Here is my advice: Say ‘Yes’ and then figure out how to do it.

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As Paulo Coelho wrote: When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back.

Many times we realize that we missed an opportunity when we cannot do anything about it.

Do not miss the train. Opportunities are often late, but they always go away fast.

Featured photo credit: In transition via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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