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How Depression Can Actually Be A Good Thing

How Depression Can Actually Be A Good Thing

Depression is a mood disorder that causes persistent feelings of sadness and loss of interest. This affects how you think, how you feel, and how you behave. It leads to a majority of physical and emotional changes in your body. However, it isn’t something you can just snap out of. Depression still requires treatment and this is no way undermines depression and its complications. It still brings into light its positives that may give those suffering from its hands some hope. Although depression may occur only one time during your life, many people have multiple episodes of depression. There are different types of depression, some vary from anxious distress, melancholic features, atypical features, and seasonal patterns. However, it is not all bleak and dark. Depression can also be a good thing — not that it is great or anything. Here is how. You might be able to surprisingly relate or even be surprised. I hope this article gives you relief from the pain and stigma that depression ends up giving its patients.

Remember, you are not alone. We are with you and your endeavors to come out of it and land back on your feet. Here are some surprisingly positive outlooks on depression.

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    1. IT UNLOCKS CREATIVITY

    It is notable that depression unleashes your creative sides. Depression can actually get the creative juices flowing throughout the body, mind, and soul spectacularly well. Though you may feel you are getting nowhere, depression creates a lot of thinking patterns in you. You start thinking deeper. You might be able to focus more on life. You try to unfold the mysteries of life. It is beautiful if you think about it. You start living out of the norm. It is beneficial. You start living life on new terms. It makes you a much better person. You start understanding things better.

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      2. IT MAKES YOU A BETTER PERSON

      When you have depression, you can tell when others are frustrated, depressed, and feeling unusual. You become a better judge of character. This quality is unlike anything else. I have gotten through depression and can completely understand this feeling. You can relate to people on a much deeper level. You become more grounded. An individual that is down to earth is beautiful to behold, if I say so myself. There are very few people that are like that, so take pleasure in knowing that you are one of those few chosen gems. You are rare, take it from me!

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        3. MAKES YOU REACH OUT

        Trying to unlock the mysteries of depression is impossible. However, when I had depression I would read a lot. I would grab anything that came my way, in order to understand the happenings of the illness and possibly find some sort of cure. So, depression makes you reach out and makes you smarter in the long run. Reading is a great way to engage all the senses. It also gives you a good night’s rest. When you start reaching out to people, you uncover so many new things about yourself that you never may have known if you weren’t in depression. It helps you become a better person, more aware of your surroundings — which will help you in the long run. You’ll start socializing because you don’t take things for granted anymore.

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          4. YOU BECOME LESS PASSIVE AND MORE PASSIONATE

          During this crisis, you start finding out what your true passions are. Because everything seems so dull and bleak, you start to search for things that touch your heart and soul, and make you feel alive. In many ways, you start doing, instead of thinking. So, this (in relativity) is depression, for those who don’t know much about it.

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            5. YOU UNLOCK THE MYSTERIES OF LIFE

            When you are in depression, you begin to wonder a lot of things. Your mind goes from one topic to another in an instant. Hence, you start a path in curiosity that leads you to unlock several of life’s mysteries, like how the body works, etc. So, it can actually be a good thing. You can come to several conclusions about life, or just keep on wondering! The choice is your’s. Because you reach out to more people, you start discovering so many new things, ideas, innovations, as well as inventions. It is truly a beautiful sight to behold.

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              How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

              How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

              We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

              We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

              So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

              Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

              What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

              Boundaries are limits

              —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

              Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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              Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

              Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

              Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

              How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

              Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

              1. Self-Awareness Comes First

              Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

              You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

              To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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              You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

              • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
              • When do you feel disrespected?
              • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
              • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
              • When do you want to be alone?
              • How much space do you need?

              You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

              2. Clear Communication Is Essential

              Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

              Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

              3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

              Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

              That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

              Sample language:

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              • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
              • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
              • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
              • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
              • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
              • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
              • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

              Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

              4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

              Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

              Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

              Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

              We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

              It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

              It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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              Final Thoughts

              Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

              Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

              Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

              The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

              Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

              Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

              They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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