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Why Is Staying Awake At Night Isn’t So Bad

Why Is Staying Awake At Night Isn’t So Bad

While it can be very unnatural for some people, staying awake at night is alright for you at time. Just like some people are morning birds, some a night owls. Don’t feel like you are missing out on what happens during the day when you can experience all of the great effects of staying up at night. Here are five reasons why staying awake at night isn’t so bad.

1. The Best Ideas Occur at Night

Sometimes, the best ideas and innovations arrive at night. I have many experiences with this. During the day, when I had to write an essay, especially for school, I noticed that my mind wouldn’t work. I kept getting writer’s block until the night came around.  During the night, I had a totally different experience. I could do whatever I wanted to do. I would have wonderful ideas come to mind. Sometimes the best ideas occur at night.

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2. Time Alone Without Noise Or Talking

Late night happens to be a time when most people are asleep unless they work the night shift. I happen to think this is the most peaceful time of all. I get time to read, eat, and pray without any kind of distractions or constant talking or yelling. It helps me be at peace with myself and surroundings. This can be difficult throughout the day when everyone is busy with working and getting things done. Late night works for me. I get time to quietly unwind at the end of a long day and gather my thoughts effectively. That is why I think staying up late is not a bad thing at all. The fact of the matter is how you end up using the time. I know that I use it wisely. I know you too can use your time wisely at night.

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3. Accomplishing More Is Easier Without Background Noise

Because you are the only one awake, you can focus on whatever it is you are doing. When I was in college and in high school, I used to stay up late studying and doing assignments. It was easier than working throughout the day because there were all types of conversation going on around me. It just made things easier for me to focus without all of the background noise that happens during the day. By working at night, I was able to not only accomplish more, but remember things I couldn’t have done if I had studied at another time. So, I greatly benefitted from it. It just be thing that you are looking for. Just try and time will only tell.

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4. Enjoying Time For Yourself

The time at night is something that enables you to enjoy yourself. You can simply turn on the television without anyone telling you that they do not want to watch a certain channel that you would like to. Now, it is simply the television and you. Turn on your favorite episode of “Modern Family,” “Big Bang Theory,” “Mom,” or watch movies and documentaries from Netflix. If that is not on your bucket list, you can go ahead, check the DVR, and see if you have any interesting things to watch there. The list is pretty much endless. However, if you would like to do something else besides watching television, you can take out a photo album, and look at your favorite memories. I know I do that when I feel lonely. I feel much better after having looked at my childhood pictures. Maybe, this can help you too. Remember, the point is to enjoy yourself. It is okay to stay up late. But, if you get tired, go to sleep. There is nothing wrong with you except that you are tired. If you aren’t then that is fine also. It depends on your needs. We are all different. No need to be someone you are not.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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