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7 life lessons I have learnt from Jim Rohn which greatly improved my life

7 life lessons I have learnt from Jim Rohn which greatly improved my life

One of the best ways to improve your life in a most effective way is to find a mentor, learn from his teachings and then take action. In that way you don’t need to invent hot water again, you can avoid some mistakes and yes, a good mentor can inspire you to take action.

A good thing today is that you don’t need to look for your mentor in person. You can find your mentor in books, videos or audios. So it won’t cost you a fortune but it can bring you a fortune.

Jim Rohn was one of the best America’s business and life philosophers. Learning from him is a real blessing, no matter what you want to do: improve your personal relationship, your financial situation, your communication skills or even your health.

Read these 7 great life lessons I have learnt from Jim Rohn, which have raised my life to another level – and I am quite sure it can raise your life, too.

1. It all starts with you

For things to change, you have to change. – Jim Rohn

The economy might be bad, you might be coming from a disordered family, the politicians may be corrupted but all that don’t count much… because you can’t do much about it there is no point of complaining about it (as I am sure you are not complaining about the gravity though some planes are falling down because of it!).

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What I have learned from Jim Rohn is that I am the one who can improve my life: I can improve my financial situation by learning new skills. I can improve my health by doing sports and making better choices in my diet. I can improve my relationship with my spouse by openly talking about the problems. So, what changes are you going to do today?

2. Never stop learning

Formal education will make you a living, self-education will make you a fortune. – Jim Rohn

Once you stop learning, you fall in a pool of mediocrity. It’s ok to have a formal education, but it is just okay – and it doesn’t matter what a degree you have.
What I have learnt from Jim Rohn is that it doesn’t matter where you stand. What matters is where you want to go.

So if you want to move forward in this fast moving world take courses for self-development, read motivational books, learn some essential Internet skills. Start thinking as an entrepreneur (even if you don’t have your own business), that means constantly learning new things in order to improve a life around you.
Learning is an oxygen for your success.

3. Stop procrastinating

What is easy to do is also easy not to do. – Jim Rohn

When starting a new thing, like learning new skills on the Internet (this is almost a must if you don’t want to feel like you are from another planet) or learning a new language, you might feel overwhelmed at the beginning. But everything is easy as long as you break it down. Make one step at a time.

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Remember how you have learned to ride a bicycle? You have done it not by watching it but by doing it. And learning a new language or some new Internet skills won’t even cost you some scratches on your knees as was the case when learning to ride a bicycle.

But what is easy to do is also easy not to do.
It is easy to say I am too old or too young to start a business. It is easy to say I don’t have time to do some sports. Stop procrastinating! Make just the first step… then the second… the third one… and then just keep going.

4. Take care of yourself

Take care of your body. It’s the only place where you have to live. – Jim Rohn

Jim Rohn taught me that in order to enjoy life and success you have to feel good in your body, you have to be in a good shape. So, go to the gym today (yes, today, not tomorrow because that would be the beginning of procrastination). Take care what you put in your mouth. Make your body strong. It is the most precious place to carry your mind through your life.

5. Constantly work on your mind

Work harder on yourself than you do on your job. – Jim Rohn

I don’t afford one day not to work on myself.

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Doing affirmations, reading motivational books, watching webinars – that is the food for your mind. Your mind will take you from where you are to where you want to be. So, never allow your mind to starve.

6. Express your feelings

Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. – Jim Rohn

Even if you are not a good speaker (though it’s worth working on improvements) if you are talking with a feeling you will win the audience, you will convince people.

As I am not a native English speaker, when I speak on video, you clearly notice my English is far from perfect. But what I always do is express all my feelings about the thing I am talking about.

Express your feelings and people will always want to hear what you have to say.

7. Start making good habits

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. -Jim Rohn

Success is made of a selection of good habits. Doing them every day. Taking action every day.

One good habit I have learned from Jim Rohn is starting my working day always with the most difficult task of that day. That means that after I finish it everything else gets easier.

Create habits that can improve your life, like making “to-do” list or taking half an hour for focusing your thoughts or doing your sports at least3 times per week.

A TIP: Always start with only one habit at a time and when you master it, move on.

OK. You have just read some of Jim Rohn’s life lessons which can drastically improve your life. The most important thing to do now is to take action. If learning is an oxygen of your success, taking action is the blood of it.
Educate yourself, stop making excuses, learn new skills, make one new habit and you will be on a fast track to your success.

Featured photo credit: Unsplash via pixabay.com

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Last Updated on January 15, 2021

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

7 Ways To Have More Confident Body Language

The popular idiomatic saying that “actions speak louder than words” has been around for centuries, but even to this day, most people struggle with at least one area of nonverbal communication. Consequently, many of us aspire to have more confident body language but don’t have the knowledge and tools necessary to change what are largely unconscious behaviors.

Given that others’ perceptions of our competence and confidence are predominantly influenced by what we do with our faces and bodies, it’s important to develop greater self-awareness and consciously practice better posture, stance, eye contact, facial expressions, hand movements, and other aspects of body language.

Posture

First things first: how is your posture? Let’s start with a quick self-assessment of your body.

  • Are your shoulders slumped over or rolled back in an upright posture?
  • When you stand up, do you evenly distribute your weight or lean excessively to one side?
  • Does your natural stance place your feet relatively shoulder-width apart or are your feet and legs close together in a closed-off position?
  • When you sit, does your lower back protrude out in a slumped position or maintain a straight, spine-friendly posture in your seat?

All of these are important considerations to make when evaluating and improving your posture and stance, which will lead to more confident body language over time. If you routinely struggle with maintaining good posture, consider buying a posture trainer/corrector, consulting a chiropractor or physical therapist, stretching daily, and strengthening both your core and back muscles.

Facial Expressions

Are you prone to any of the following in personal or professional settings?

  • Bruxism (tight, clenched jaw or grinding teeth)
  • Frowning and/or furrowing brows
  • Avoiding direct eye contact and/or staring at the ground

If you answered “yes” to any of these, then let’s start by examining various ways in which you can project confident body language through your facial expressions.

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1. Understand How Others Perceive Your Facial Expressions

A December 2020 study by UC Berkeley and Google researchers utilized a deep neural network to analyze facial expressions in six million YouTube clips representing people from over 140 countries. The study found that, despite socio-cultural differences, people around the world tended to use about 70% of the same facial expressions in response to different emotional stimuli and situations.[1]

The study’s researchers also published a fascinating interactive map to demonstrate how their machine learning technology assessed various facial expressions and determined subtle differences in emotional responses.

This study highlights the social importance of facial expressions because whether or not we’re consciously aware of them—by gazing into a mirror or your screen on a video conferencing platform—how we present our faces to others can have tremendous impacts on their perceptions of us, our confidence, and our emotional states. This awareness is the essential first step towards

2. Relax Your Face

New research on bruxism and facial tension found the stresses and anxieties of Covid-19 lockdowns led to considerable increases in orofacial pain, jaw-clenching, and teeth grinding, particularly among women.[2]

The National Institute of Dental and Craniofacial Research estimates that more than 10 million Americans alone have temporomandibular joint dysfunction (TMJ syndrome), and facial tension can lead to other complications such as insomnia, wrinkles, dry skin, and dark, puffy bags under your eyes.[3])

To avoid these unpleasant outcomes, start practicing progressive muscle relaxation techniques and taking breaks more frequently throughout the day to moderate facial tension.[4] You should also try out some biofeedback techniques to enhance your awareness of involuntary bodily processes like facial tension and achieve more confident body language as a result.[5]

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3. Improve Your Eye Contact

Did you know there’s an entire subfield of kinesic communication research dedicated to eye movements and behaviors called oculesics?[6] It refers to various communication behaviors including direct eye contact, averting one’s gaze, pupil dilation/constriction, and even frequency of blinking. All of these qualities can shape how other people perceive you, which means that eye contact is yet another area of nonverbal body language that we should be more mindful of in social interactions.

The ideal type (direct/indirect) and duration of eye contact depends on a variety of factors, such as cultural setting, differences in power/authority/age between the parties involved, and communication context. Research has shown that differences in the effects of eye contact are particularly prominent when comparing East Asian and Western European/North American cultures.[7]

To improve your eye contact with others, strive to maintain consistent contact for at least 3 to 4 seconds at a time, consciously consider where you’re looking while listening to someone else, and practice eye contact as much as possible (as strange as this may seem in the beginning, it’s the best way to improve).

3. Smile More

There are many benefits to smiling and laughing, and when it comes to working on more confident body language, this is an area that should be fun, low-stakes, and relatively stress-free.

Smiling is associated with the “happiness chemical” dopamine and the mood-stabilizing hormone, serotonin. Many empirical studies have shown that smiling generally leads to positive outcomes for the person smiling, and further research has shown that smiling can influence listeners’ perceptions of our confidence and trustworthiness as well.

4. Hand Gestures

Similar to facial expressions and posture, what you do with your hands while speaking or listening in a conversation can significantly influence others’ perceptions of you in positive or negative ways.

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It’s undoubtedly challenging to consciously account for all of your nonverbal signals while simultaneously trying to stay engaged with the verbal part of the discussion, but putting in the effort to develop more bodily awareness now will make it much easier to unconsciously project more confident body language later on.

5. Enhance Your Handshake

In the article, “An Anthropology of the Handshake,” University of Copenhagen social anthropology professor Bjarke Oxlund assessed the future of handshaking in wake of the Covid-19 pandemic:[8]

“Handshakes not only vary in function and meaning but do so according to social context, situation and scale. . . a public discussion should ensue on the advantages and disadvantages of holding on to the tradition of shaking hands as the conventional gesture of greeting and leave-taking in a variety of circumstances.”

It’s too early to determine some of the ways in which Covid-19 has permanently changed our social norms and professional etiquette standards, but it’s reasonable to assume that handshaking may retain its importance in American society even after this pandemic. To practice more confident body language in the meantime, the video on the science of the perfect handshake below explains what you need to know.

6. Complement Your Verbals With Hand Gestures

As you know by now, confident communication involves so much more than simply smiling more or sounding like you know what you’re talking about. What you do with your hands can be particularly influential in how others perceive you, whether you’re fidgeting with an object, clenching your fists, hiding your hands in your pockets, or calmly gesturing to emphasize important points you’re discussing.

Social psychology researchers have found that “iconic gestures”—hand movements that appear to be meaningfully related to the speaker’s verbal content—can have profound impacts on listeners’ information retention. In other words, people are more likely to engage with you and remember more of what you said when you speak with complementary hand gestures instead of just your voice.[9]

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Further research on hand gestures has shown that even your choice of the left or right hand for gesturing can influence your ability to clearly convey information to listeners, which supports the notion that more confident body language is readily achievable through greater self-awareness and deliberate nonverbal actions.[10]

Final Takeaways

Developing better posture, enhancing your facial expressiveness, and practicing hand gestures can vastly improve your communication with other people. At first, it will be challenging to consciously practice nonverbal behaviors that many of us are accustomed to performing daily without thinking about them.

If you ever feel discouraged, however, remember that there’s no downside to consistently putting in just a little more time and effort to increase your bodily awareness. With the tips and strategies above, you’ll be well on your way to embracing more confident body language and amplifying others’ perceptions of you in no time.

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