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7 life lessons I have learnt from Jim Rohn which greatly improved my life

7 life lessons I have learnt from Jim Rohn which greatly improved my life

One of the best ways to improve your life in a most effective way is to find a mentor, learn from his teachings and then take action. In that way you don’t need to invent hot water again, you can avoid some mistakes and yes, a good mentor can inspire you to take action.

A good thing today is that you don’t need to look for your mentor in person. You can find your mentor in books, videos or audios. So it won’t cost you a fortune but it can bring you a fortune.

Jim Rohn was one of the best America’s business and life philosophers. Learning from him is a real blessing, no matter what you want to do: improve your personal relationship, your financial situation, your communication skills or even your health.

Read these 7 great life lessons I have learnt from Jim Rohn, which have raised my life to another level – and I am quite sure it can raise your life, too.

1. It all starts with you

For things to change, you have to change. – Jim Rohn

The economy might be bad, you might be coming from a disordered family, the politicians may be corrupted but all that don’t count much… because you can’t do much about it there is no point of complaining about it (as I am sure you are not complaining about the gravity though some planes are falling down because of it!).

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What I have learned from Jim Rohn is that I am the one who can improve my life: I can improve my financial situation by learning new skills. I can improve my health by doing sports and making better choices in my diet. I can improve my relationship with my spouse by openly talking about the problems. So, what changes are you going to do today?

2. Never stop learning

Formal education will make you a living, self-education will make you a fortune. – Jim Rohn

Once you stop learning, you fall in a pool of mediocrity. It’s ok to have a formal education, but it is just okay – and it doesn’t matter what a degree you have.
What I have learnt from Jim Rohn is that it doesn’t matter where you stand. What matters is where you want to go.

So if you want to move forward in this fast moving world take courses for self-development, read motivational books, learn some essential Internet skills. Start thinking as an entrepreneur (even if you don’t have your own business), that means constantly learning new things in order to improve a life around you.
Learning is an oxygen for your success.

3. Stop procrastinating

What is easy to do is also easy not to do. – Jim Rohn

When starting a new thing, like learning new skills on the Internet (this is almost a must if you don’t want to feel like you are from another planet) or learning a new language, you might feel overwhelmed at the beginning. But everything is easy as long as you break it down. Make one step at a time.

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Remember how you have learned to ride a bicycle? You have done it not by watching it but by doing it. And learning a new language or some new Internet skills won’t even cost you some scratches on your knees as was the case when learning to ride a bicycle.

But what is easy to do is also easy not to do.
It is easy to say I am too old or too young to start a business. It is easy to say I don’t have time to do some sports. Stop procrastinating! Make just the first step… then the second… the third one… and then just keep going.

4. Take care of yourself

Take care of your body. It’s the only place where you have to live. – Jim Rohn

Jim Rohn taught me that in order to enjoy life and success you have to feel good in your body, you have to be in a good shape. So, go to the gym today (yes, today, not tomorrow because that would be the beginning of procrastination). Take care what you put in your mouth. Make your body strong. It is the most precious place to carry your mind through your life.

5. Constantly work on your mind

Work harder on yourself than you do on your job. – Jim Rohn

I don’t afford one day not to work on myself.

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Doing affirmations, reading motivational books, watching webinars – that is the food for your mind. Your mind will take you from where you are to where you want to be. So, never allow your mind to starve.

6. Express your feelings

Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. – Jim Rohn

Even if you are not a good speaker (though it’s worth working on improvements) if you are talking with a feeling you will win the audience, you will convince people.

As I am not a native English speaker, when I speak on video, you clearly notice my English is far from perfect. But what I always do is express all my feelings about the thing I am talking about.

Express your feelings and people will always want to hear what you have to say.

7. Start making good habits

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. -Jim Rohn

Success is made of a selection of good habits. Doing them every day. Taking action every day.

One good habit I have learned from Jim Rohn is starting my working day always with the most difficult task of that day. That means that after I finish it everything else gets easier.

Create habits that can improve your life, like making “to-do” list or taking half an hour for focusing your thoughts or doing your sports at least3 times per week.

A TIP: Always start with only one habit at a time and when you master it, move on.

OK. You have just read some of Jim Rohn’s life lessons which can drastically improve your life. The most important thing to do now is to take action. If learning is an oxygen of your success, taking action is the blood of it.
Educate yourself, stop making excuses, learn new skills, make one new habit and you will be on a fast track to your success.

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What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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