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7 life lessons I have learnt from Jim Rohn which greatly improved my life

7 life lessons I have learnt from Jim Rohn which greatly improved my life

One of the best ways to improve your life in a most effective way is to find a mentor, learn from his teachings and then take action. In that way you don’t need to invent hot water again, you can avoid some mistakes and yes, a good mentor can inspire you to take action.

A good thing today is that you don’t need to look for your mentor in person. You can find your mentor in books, videos or audios. So it won’t cost you a fortune but it can bring you a fortune.

Jim Rohn was one of the best America’s business and life philosophers. Learning from him is a real blessing, no matter what you want to do: improve your personal relationship, your financial situation, your communication skills or even your health.

Read these 7 great life lessons I have learnt from Jim Rohn, which have raised my life to another level – and I am quite sure it can raise your life, too.

1. It all starts with you

For things to change, you have to change. – Jim Rohn

The economy might be bad, you might be coming from a disordered family, the politicians may be corrupted but all that don’t count much… because you can’t do much about it there is no point of complaining about it (as I am sure you are not complaining about the gravity though some planes are falling down because of it!).

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What I have learned from Jim Rohn is that I am the one who can improve my life: I can improve my financial situation by learning new skills. I can improve my health by doing sports and making better choices in my diet. I can improve my relationship with my spouse by openly talking about the problems. So, what changes are you going to do today?

2. Never stop learning

Formal education will make you a living, self-education will make you a fortune. – Jim Rohn

Once you stop learning, you fall in a pool of mediocrity. It’s ok to have a formal education, but it is just okay – and it doesn’t matter what a degree you have.
What I have learnt from Jim Rohn is that it doesn’t matter where you stand. What matters is where you want to go.

So if you want to move forward in this fast moving world take courses for self-development, read motivational books, learn some essential Internet skills. Start thinking as an entrepreneur (even if you don’t have your own business), that means constantly learning new things in order to improve a life around you.
Learning is an oxygen for your success.

3. Stop procrastinating

What is easy to do is also easy not to do. – Jim Rohn

When starting a new thing, like learning new skills on the Internet (this is almost a must if you don’t want to feel like you are from another planet) or learning a new language, you might feel overwhelmed at the beginning. But everything is easy as long as you break it down. Make one step at a time.

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Remember how you have learned to ride a bicycle? You have done it not by watching it but by doing it. And learning a new language or some new Internet skills won’t even cost you some scratches on your knees as was the case when learning to ride a bicycle.

But what is easy to do is also easy not to do.
It is easy to say I am too old or too young to start a business. It is easy to say I don’t have time to do some sports. Stop procrastinating! Make just the first step… then the second… the third one… and then just keep going.

4. Take care of yourself

Take care of your body. It’s the only place where you have to live. – Jim Rohn

Jim Rohn taught me that in order to enjoy life and success you have to feel good in your body, you have to be in a good shape. So, go to the gym today (yes, today, not tomorrow because that would be the beginning of procrastination). Take care what you put in your mouth. Make your body strong. It is the most precious place to carry your mind through your life.

5. Constantly work on your mind

Work harder on yourself than you do on your job. – Jim Rohn

I don’t afford one day not to work on myself.

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Doing affirmations, reading motivational books, watching webinars – that is the food for your mind. Your mind will take you from where you are to where you want to be. So, never allow your mind to starve.

6. Express your feelings

Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know. – Jim Rohn

Even if you are not a good speaker (though it’s worth working on improvements) if you are talking with a feeling you will win the audience, you will convince people.

As I am not a native English speaker, when I speak on video, you clearly notice my English is far from perfect. But what I always do is express all my feelings about the thing I am talking about.

Express your feelings and people will always want to hear what you have to say.

7. Start making good habits

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. -Jim Rohn

Success is made of a selection of good habits. Doing them every day. Taking action every day.

One good habit I have learned from Jim Rohn is starting my working day always with the most difficult task of that day. That means that after I finish it everything else gets easier.

Create habits that can improve your life, like making “to-do” list or taking half an hour for focusing your thoughts or doing your sports at least3 times per week.

A TIP: Always start with only one habit at a time and when you master it, move on.

OK. You have just read some of Jim Rohn’s life lessons which can drastically improve your life. The most important thing to do now is to take action. If learning is an oxygen of your success, taking action is the blood of it.
Educate yourself, stop making excuses, learn new skills, make one new habit and you will be on a fast track to your success.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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