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10 Life Lessons you Will Only Understand After Failing

10 Life Lessons you Will Only Understand After Failing

One thing that we all need to learn from a young age, is how overrated failing actually is. It’s a big problem for many of us to fail and can seemingly be life changing. However, failure is a key part of developing as a person and will usually require you to go through a suitably challenging experience to get to the stage where you really start to feel the price of failure hitting you.

If you want to keep yourself on the straight and narrow and learn about life, consider the following lessons that only become clear after you’ve failed;

Failing Isn’t THAT Bad

The first lesson that you will learn that failing really isn’t that big of a deal. Sure, it will hurt on the day but you can quickly get over failure and bounce back. It’s all about being able to get into the mindset that failure isn’t that big a deal. You can always pass again in the future, and you will know what mistakes you made. Passing when you had no real right to is far less beneficial to you than failing when you were supposed to – it’ll help you learn more and prepare even better.

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Admit Your Failures

A key life lesson is being able to hold up those hands and admit that you got it wrong. It’s hard to do and many of us aren’t willing to it, but being able to do so is a vital part of becoming a more rounded, engaging person.

You Need To Change, Not The World

Many of us will blame everything else around us that we possibly can for our own failures; the reality is, though, that your failures are caused by yourself and yourself only! You need to be prepared to make serious changes to succeed.

Chase The Dream

The worst thing that you can do is get used to the idea that failure = boredom and mediocrity. Failure should work as the ground floor for your ambitions to take off and have you chasing after the things in life that you seek and desire most.

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Nobody Knows Everything

You might know a few people who claim they do, but nobody on this planet is an expert at everything. What you failed at might just not be for you – there’s no shame in that. Get used to failure and not being the genius, it’s very common!

Learn From Those Mistakes

The main lesson you will learn from failing, though, is that you will need to learn from those mistakes to go again and be a success in another part of the world or at something else entirely. With our help, you can easily forge the kind of path that you need to start today; you just need to be willing to show a bit of humility and accept that you need to learn from your previous mistakes.

Time Is Gold

You will soon learn that running around helping CEO A and MD B isn’t worth your time. If you want to be noticed in this world you need to do it through taking action. Treat your team as a rare commodity that nobody else should have a demand over; time is precious, and is your biggest asset.

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Push The Boundaries

Many of us think we are trying but in reality we are just getting started. To make sure you can push yourself though you need to taste the bruising feeling of defeat first and foremost to understand just what we need to do when we want to succeed.

Never Shut Up

Failure comes from being meek and not being clinical with what you think and what you want to tell people. To get over this problem you need to speak your mind, be forceful, and never let anyone else set the agenda for you. Take the time that you need to learn how to assert yourself; it’s only possible through seeing your meekness cause you various problems.

Enjoy The Ride!

The last thing you need to do in this world is inhibit yourself. Enjoy the ride that you are on regardless; this is something that failure will teach you moving forward, making your life much more comfortable. 

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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