How To Overcome Jealousy

September 7 by | 9 comments | Lifestyle | Tags:
How To Overcome Jealousy

Jealousy, like many negative emotions, is a waste of your time and you should keep your involvement with it to a minimum.

Can you think of a positive outcome from jealous thinking? You could say being envious of someone else’s financial success could motivate you to work for your own. However, that wouldn’t be a healthy reason to want success would it?

In my opinion jealousy is a side-effect of a mindset that’s rooted in scarcity. Jealousy is the emotion resulting from the notion that another person’s success or happiness somehow diminishes your own. If you look at the world from the lens of abundance instead of scarcity, it’s very difficult to become jealous.

Overcoming Jealousy – [StevePavlina]

  • http://NA Brett

    Yeah but what about relationship jealousy? His point is others’ success is his happiness as well but that’s like saying if some other guy bones my girl, it doesn’t piss me off, it inspires me!

  • Tim

    I agree with Brett. This is an uncharacteristically bad Lifehack column. Maybe it reinforces that if you don’t experience the problem yourself, you shouldn’t write about it, although I recognize that the author was prodded to write about overcoming jealousy. Also, what is with the “larger consciousness” and personal accomplishment in NOT personally climbing Mt. Everest? That idea is really out there and probably has no relation to the ideas of most people.

  • Robert

    Sure, Brett, you will be pissed off if someone bones your girl, but you can let that pissiness ruin your relationship or you can use it for something constructive, like, learn more about sex, explore other sex forms (i.e. bone other girls), engage in group sex, etc. In that way, when you will be able to give your girl the best sex of her life and she’ll be totally satisfied.

    Failing that you can call the guys from Cheaters and at least you can be on TV chasing a pantless guy around your backyard.

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  • http://bol.sf.net Chanio

    Yes,

    I guess that strong feelings are always saying some truth that we don’t want to accept or develop. That is why those feelings are strong. :)

    They are not bad, they are beyond our contience.

  • http://home.online.no/~kafox/ Keera

    Pavlina means _envy_, not jealousy. His lack of knowledge of the difference ruined an otherwise readable article for me.

    My definitions:

    Envy: Resenting someone for having something you’d like to have, or resenting them for getting it first
    Jealousy: Insecurity about a loved one’s affection for you because of a sense of competition for said loved one’s attention

  • Craig Childs

    as vague as the meaning of jealousy is, I think Keera is right in this instance.

  • Gerard

    Well, Keera already has said this, but I felt the same way. I was shocked to read the article and realize that Pavlina doesn’t know the difference between jealousy and envy. The “green-eyed monster” has nothing to do with envy. They are two very different emotions and, like Keera, knowing HE didn’t know the difference ruined the article for me.

  • Green-Eyed

    The article was wrong I agree , and jealousy is something that will greet everyone , it’s not something that you can shake off . As much as I have read it can be softened with reason but I have come to a conclusion by own experience that you will make lot of regretable things so there is no turning back you have to live with it :) it all depends on how jealous you can get …