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9 Behaviors That Will Kill Your Credibility In Meetings

9 Behaviors That Will Kill Your Credibility In Meetings

Whether you view them as essential to productivity or a complete waste of time, in the business world, meetings are here to stay and your behavior when attending them can serve to showcase your worth or undermine your credibility. Here are 9 actions to avoid in all meetings.

1. Using Phrases That Imply Deception

Avoid phrases like “to be honest” or “let me be honest with you” as they imply two rather negative messages to your audience, the first is that you haven’t been honest until this point and the second is that as you are so eager to assure everyone of your honesty, you are probably not being completely truthful. These phrases make you sound disingenuous and can derail your overall message.

2. The Hard Sell

Meetings are a time for open, honest discussion, meant to drive a project forward, they are not an appropriate venue for hard sell techniques. It would be wise to avoid being pushy or trying to force your agenda by distorting the facts or exaggerating the importance of your point.

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3. The Excessive Use of Buzz Words

Every industry has its own unique vocabulary of buzz words, popular jargon that exists within a specific context. These words are typically used as a crutch in business meetings and while some may feel that their use may makes them appear knowledgeable, most listeners see through them clearly.

Try to avoid such overused terms as synergy, proactive, value-added, leverage, agile, growth hacker etc…

4. Being Unnecessarily Vague

Sometimes, to avoid committing to something, it might seem attractive to present your ideas in an overly vague manner. Don’t be afraid to commit yourself in a meeting by outlining the exact, actionable specifics of your plan or idea.

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5. Using Inappropriate Humor

There is no quicker to destroy your credibility than to introduce some inappropriate humor at your next business meeting. We might think that a slightly off-color joke could help to lighten the mood and make us for likable, however, the end result is almost always the exact opposite, the offending of our coworkers and the destroying of our professional image.

Avoid jokes of a racial, sexual or religious nature.

6. Interrupting Others

Allow everyone their opportunity to speak and to completely express their thoughts, uninterrupted. By extending this courtesy to others, they will be more likely to extend it to you and allow you to fully put forth your ideas. Don’t take the attitude that interrupting others makes you appear to your superiors as a dominant worker. Your boss will appreciate your ability to work well in a team environment.

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7. Failure to Take Responsibility

Everyone hates the guy that is first in line when praise is being handed out but nowhere to be found when something goes wrong. Take responsibility for the work that you do, even when that work is subject to criticism.

Avoid putting the blame on others or throwing a team member under the bus. Learn to take responsibility for your actions and accept feedback gracefully, standing behind your work and the other members of your team.

8. Over-promising

Be realistic about exactly what you can deliver and do not over-promise when you are feel that you are under pressure. Even though overstating your abilities may make you look good in the immediate term, it will hurt you in the long run as you fail to deliver on your promises.

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Take an honest evaluation of the work in front of you and give an honest estimate of the time and budget that will be required to deliver.

9. Looking at Your Phone

Keep your phone in your pocket. Everyone in the room is busy, however, the very point of meeting in person is to focus the team’s attention on the tasks at hand. Avoid checking your emails or messages while you are in a meeting or you risk appearing inattentive.

 

Avoid these common meeting pitfalls and maintain your business credibility.

Featured photo credit: le temple du chemisier via flickr.com

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Last Updated on March 29, 2021

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

The Dream Type Of Manager

My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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“Okay…”

That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

The Bully

My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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The Invisible Boss

This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

The Micro Manager

The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

The Over Promoted Boss

The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

The Credit Stealer

The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

1. Keep evidence

Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

2. Hold regular meetings

Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

Good luck!

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