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15 Warning Signs You’re Working for the Wrong Leader

15 Warning Signs You’re Working for the Wrong Leader

In life, there are leaders, and there are followers. If you’re not leading, you need to figure out who you’re following. Take a look at your leader and be honest, because if they match too many of these traits, you’re following the wrong leader. Be careful when judging, however, because it’s always possible the problem is actually you.

1. Your Leader Is Always Negative

Every day, you’re given nothing but bad news. Instead of starting every morning and week focusing on your team’s accomplishments, a bad leader focuses on the failures. You don’t need to be told 20 times a day about your every mistake. If you are, it’s time to move on.

2. You Receive No Encouragement

Criticism is fine every so often, but a leader should be providing encouragement to followers. If you feel like you’re constantly working as hard as possible but only end up with mundane projects that insult your intelligence, you may be working for the wrong leader.

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3. You’re Never Thanked

It’s not that recognition should be a driving force in your career, but it’s nice when people show common courtesy. I thank people for getting my order right, holding a door open, giving me food, etc. This leads to a lot of thanking throughout the day. You don’t need an Oscars ceremony, but if you’re not being thanked at work, your boss lacks proper manners.

4. Your Leader Can’t See the Future

Does it feel like nothing ever changes? If you’re still following Draconian rules, your leader is likely looking backward. You can’t move forward while looking back, so move on.

5. You’re Not Trusted

At the beginning of your career, it’s natural for the boss to hold your hand. You’re new, nobody knows you, and you don’t really know what you’re doing, no matter what you think you learned in school. If you’ve been there five years, and you still aren’t trusted to do your job unsupervised, you have the wrong leader.

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6. Your Workplace Is Disorganized

Things change every day, and that’s just the way life works, whether we like it or not. This chaos has to be caged in a solid foundation of habits and schedules. If your team isn’t a well-oiled machine, it’s time to fire the leader.

7. You Have No Freedom

In the military, everything is regimented. You’re told how, when, and where to eat, sleep, and use the bathroom. Even in that environment, you’re given the freedom to take a break when you need to or accomplish a task by any means. If you’re stuck to a script, you’re following the wrong leader.

8. Your Leader Doesn’t Make Decisions

Delegation is important – it’s how a leader guides a small team to accomplish the work of a large army. In order for a body to work, it needs a brain. If your leader needs you to make decisions for them, you’re the leader.

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9. Your Leader’s Decisions Are Uninformed

The only thing worse than someone indecisive is someone who makes terrible decisions. The losing general in a battle is the one who underestimates the value of enemy intelligence. If you’re behind someone who just throws out any answer, you probably shouldn’t follow them.

10. You’re Constantly Ignored

Some organizations have a suggestion box; others have an open-door policy. Either way, they need a way for you to voice your opinions and be heard. If nobody’s listening, why are you still following?

11. You Lack Consistent Guidance

Not every order needs to come with a syllabus and training manual, but the way you’re provided instructions and feedback should remain consistent. If you’re in trouble one day for talking too much and the next for not talking enough, you have the wrong leader.

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12. You’re Kept in the Dark

It doesn’t matter who you work for, you need to know what’s going on. The reason the banks get away with financial fraud is because they don’t tell people what they’re doing – they only do their one part of the job, never getting a full picture of the loan. If you’re following blindly, there’s a reason, and it usually ain’t good.

13. Your Leader Is Behind You

Now that he’s finally dead, we can all discuss how terrible a leader Joffrey Baratheon is. His worst trait is he never led from the front lines – instead he chose to hide behind his power. If you work for a Joffrey, play the game of thrones.

14. You Take the Blame

It’s cute when your significant other blames you to get out of attending pretty much anything, but your boss should never be blaming you. If you find yourself taking the fall for your leader, stop following your leader.

15. You’re Following the Leader…The Leader…The Leader…

The absolute worst leader is the unknown leader. Nobody knows who’s in charge, and everyone absolves themselves from blame. This is a great scenario when you’re a terrible leader, but for everyone else, it completely sucks having no avenue of recourse. These leaders need to stop blaming “corporate” or “management,” and take responsibility for their actions.

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Last Updated on November 26, 2020

How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success

As playwright Wilson Mizner supposedly said all the way back in the 1930s,

“Be kind to everyone on the way up; you will meet the same people on the way down.”

The adage is the perfect prototype for relationship building in 2020, although we may want to expand Mizner’s definition of “kind” to include being helpful, respectful, grateful, and above all, crediting your colleagues along the way.

5 Ways to Switch on Your Relationship Building Magnetism

Relationship building does not come easily to all. Today’s computer culture makes us more insular and less likely to reach out—not to mention our new work-from-home situation in which we are only able to interact virtually. Still, relationship building remains an important part of career engagement and success, and it gets better with practice.

Here are five ways you can strengthen your relationships:

1. Advocate for Other’s Ideas

Take the initiative to speak up in support of other team members’ good ideas. Doing so lets others know that the team’s success takes precedence over your needs for personal success. Get behind any colleague’s innovative approach or clever solution and offer whatever help you can give to see it through. Teammates will value your vote of confidence and your support.

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2. Show Compassion

If you learn that someone whom you work with has encountered difficult times, reach out. If it’s not someone you know well, a hand-written card expressing your sympathy and hopes for better times ahead could be an initial gesture. If it’s someone with whom you interact regularly, the act could involve offering to take on some of the person’s work to provide a needed reprieve or even bringing in a home-cooked dish as a way to offer comfort. The show of compassion will not go unnoticed, and your relationship building will have found a foothold.

3. Communicate Regularly

Make an effort to share any information with team members that will help them do their jobs more effectively. Keeping people in the loop says a lot about your consideration for what others need to deliver their best results.

Try to discover the preferred mode of communication for each team member. Some people are fine relying on emails; others like to have a phone conversation. And once we can finally return to working together in offices, you may determine that face-to-face updates may be most advantageous for some members.

4. Ask for Feedback

Showing your willingness to reach out for advice and guidance will make a positive impression on your boss. When you make it clear that you welcome and can accept pointers, you display candor and trust in what opinions your superior has to offer. Your proclivity towards considering ways of improving your performance and strengthening any working interactions will signal your strong relationship skills.

If you are in a work environment where you are asked to give feedback, be generous and compassionate. That does not mean being wishy-washy. Try always to give the type of feedback that you wouldn’t mind receiving.

5. Give Credit Where It’s Due

Be the worker who remembers to credit staffers with their contributions. It’s a surprisingly rare talent to credit others, but when you do so, they will remember to credit you, and the collective credit your team will accrue will be well worth the effort.

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How Does Relationship Building Build Careers?

Once you have strengthened and deepened your relationships, here are some of the great benefits:

Work Doesn’t Feel So Much Like Work

According to a Gallup poll, when you have a best friend at work, you are more likely to feel engaged with your job. Work is more fun when you have positive, productive relationships with your colleagues. Instead of spending time and energy overcoming difficult personalities, you can spend time enjoying the camaraderie with colleagues as you work congenially on projects together. When your coworkers are your friends, time goes by quickly and challenges don’t weigh as heavily.

You Can Find Good Help

It’s easier to ask for assistance when you have a good working relationship with a colleague. And with office tasks changing at the speed of technology, chances are that you are going to need some help acclimating—especially now that work has gone remote due to the COVID-19 pandemic.

Much of relationship building rests on your genuine expressions of appreciation toward others. Showing gratitude for another’s help or for their willingness to put in the extra effort will let them know you value them.

Mentors Come Out of the Woodwork

Mentors are proven to advance your professional and career development. A mentor can help you navigate how to approach your work and keep you apprised of industry trends. They have a plethora of experience to draw from that can be invaluable when advising you on achieving career success and advancement.

Mentors flock to those who are skilled at relationship building. So, work on your relationships and keep your eyes peeled for a worthy mentor.

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You Pull Together as a Team

Great teamwork starts with having an “abundance mentality” rather than a scarcity mentality. Too often, workers view all projects through a scarcity mentality lens. This leads to office strife as coworkers compete for their piece of the pie. But in an abundance mentality mode, you focus on the strengths that others bring rather than the possibility that they are potential competitors.

Instead, you can commit relationship building efforts to ensure a positive work environment rather than an adversarial one. When you let others know that you intend to support their efforts and contribute to their success, they will respond in kind. Go, team!

Your Network Expands and So Does Your Paycheck

Expand your relationship building scope beyond your coworkers to include customers, suppliers, and other industry stakeholders. Your extra efforts can lead to extra sales, a more rewarding career, and even speedy professional advancement. And don’t overlook the importance of building warm relationships with assistants, receptionists, or even interns.

Take care to build bridges, not just to your boss and your boss’s boss but with those that work under you as well. You may find that someone who you wouldn’t expect will put in a good word for you with your supervisor.

Building and maintaining good working relationships with everyone you come in contact with can pay off in unforeseen ways. You never know when that underling will turn out to be the company’s “golden child.” Six years from now you may be turning to them for a job. If you have built up a good, trusting work relationship with others along your way, you will more likely be considered for positions that any of these people may be looking to fill.

Your Job Won’t Stress You Out

Study shows that some 83 percent of American workers experience work-related stress.[1] Granted, some of that stress is now likely caused by the new pandemic-triggered workplace adjustments, yet bosses and management, in general, are reportedly the predominant source of stress for more than one-third of workers.

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Having meaningful connections among coworkers is the best way to make work less stressful. Whether it is having others whom to commiserate with, bounce ideas off, or bring out your best performance, friendships strengthen the group’s esprit de corps and lower the stress level of your job.

Your Career Shines Bright

Who would you feel better about approaching to provide a recommendation or ask for promotion: a cold, aloof boss with whom you have only an impersonal relationship or one that knows you as a person and with whom you have built a warm, trusting relationship?

Your career advancement will always excel when you have a mutual bond of friendship and appreciation with those who can recommend you. Consider the plug you could receive from a supervisor who knows you as a friend versus one who remains detached and only notices you in terms of your ability to meet deadlines or attain goals.

When people fully know your skills, strengths, personality, and aspirations, you have promoters who will sing your praises with any opportunity for advancement.

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, it is “who you know” not “what you know.” When you build relationships, you build a pipeline of colleagues, work partners, team members, current bosses, and former bosses who want to help you—who want to see you succeed.

At its core, every business is a people business. Making a point to take the small but meaningful actions that build the foundation of a good relationship can be instrumental in cultivating better relationships at work.

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Reference

[1] The American Institute of Stress: 42 Worrying Workplace Stress Statistics

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