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15 Warning Signs You’re Working for the Wrong Leader

15 Warning Signs You’re Working for the Wrong Leader

In life, there are leaders, and there are followers. If you’re not leading, you need to figure out who you’re following. Take a look at your leader and be honest, because if they match too many of these traits, you’re following the wrong leader. Be careful when judging, however, because it’s always possible the problem is actually you.

1. Your Leader Is Always Negative

Every day, you’re given nothing but bad news. Instead of starting every morning and week focusing on your team’s accomplishments, a bad leader focuses on the failures. You don’t need to be told 20 times a day about your every mistake. If you are, it’s time to move on.

2. You Receive No Encouragement

Criticism is fine every so often, but a leader should be providing encouragement to followers. If you feel like you’re constantly working as hard as possible but only end up with mundane projects that insult your intelligence, you may be working for the wrong leader.

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3. You’re Never Thanked

It’s not that recognition should be a driving force in your career, but it’s nice when people show common courtesy. I thank people for getting my order right, holding a door open, giving me food, etc. This leads to a lot of thanking throughout the day. You don’t need an Oscars ceremony, but if you’re not being thanked at work, your boss lacks proper manners.

4. Your Leader Can’t See the Future

Does it feel like nothing ever changes? If you’re still following Draconian rules, your leader is likely looking backward. You can’t move forward while looking back, so move on.

5. You’re Not Trusted

At the beginning of your career, it’s natural for the boss to hold your hand. You’re new, nobody knows you, and you don’t really know what you’re doing, no matter what you think you learned in school. If you’ve been there five years, and you still aren’t trusted to do your job unsupervised, you have the wrong leader.

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6. Your Workplace Is Disorganized

Things change every day, and that’s just the way life works, whether we like it or not. This chaos has to be caged in a solid foundation of habits and schedules. If your team isn’t a well-oiled machine, it’s time to fire the leader.

7. You Have No Freedom

In the military, everything is regimented. You’re told how, when, and where to eat, sleep, and use the bathroom. Even in that environment, you’re given the freedom to take a break when you need to or accomplish a task by any means. If you’re stuck to a script, you’re following the wrong leader.

8. Your Leader Doesn’t Make Decisions

Delegation is important – it’s how a leader guides a small team to accomplish the work of a large army. In order for a body to work, it needs a brain. If your leader needs you to make decisions for them, you’re the leader.

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9. Your Leader’s Decisions Are Uninformed

The only thing worse than someone indecisive is someone who makes terrible decisions. The losing general in a battle is the one who underestimates the value of enemy intelligence. If you’re behind someone who just throws out any answer, you probably shouldn’t follow them.

10. You’re Constantly Ignored

Some organizations have a suggestion box; others have an open-door policy. Either way, they need a way for you to voice your opinions and be heard. If nobody’s listening, why are you still following?

11. You Lack Consistent Guidance

Not every order needs to come with a syllabus and training manual, but the way you’re provided instructions and feedback should remain consistent. If you’re in trouble one day for talking too much and the next for not talking enough, you have the wrong leader.

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12. You’re Kept in the Dark

It doesn’t matter who you work for, you need to know what’s going on. The reason the banks get away with financial fraud is because they don’t tell people what they’re doing – they only do their one part of the job, never getting a full picture of the loan. If you’re following blindly, there’s a reason, and it usually ain’t good.

13. Your Leader Is Behind You

Now that he’s finally dead, we can all discuss how terrible a leader Joffrey Baratheon is. His worst trait is he never led from the front lines – instead he chose to hide behind his power. If you work for a Joffrey, play the game of thrones.

14. You Take the Blame

It’s cute when your significant other blames you to get out of attending pretty much anything, but your boss should never be blaming you. If you find yourself taking the fall for your leader, stop following your leader.

15. You’re Following the Leader…The Leader…The Leader…

The absolute worst leader is the unknown leader. Nobody knows who’s in charge, and everyone absolves themselves from blame. This is a great scenario when you’re a terrible leader, but for everyone else, it completely sucks having no avenue of recourse. These leaders need to stop blaming “corporate” or “management,” and take responsibility for their actions.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

If you’re going to spend 1/3 of our life at work, you should enjoy it, right?

Trust me, I know that’s easier said than done. Difficult coworkers, less-than-desirable tasks, or even just being in the wrong position can all lead to a lack of enjoyment and fulfillment in your work.

But what if I told you it doesn’t have to be this way? Or better yet, if you struggle with all of the above (and then some), what if I told you that enjoying your work and finding fulfillment regardless of those obstacles is possible?

Don’t believe me? I don’t blame you because I was there too. Before implementing the tips below, I struggled to get through each day, much less find real fulfillment, in the office. Now, even after the toughest days on the job, I still come away with feelings of pride, accomplishment, and fulfillment. The best news is, so can you.

If you’re ready to make those hours count and find happiness and fulfillment in the office, then read on to find out how to be happy at work and find fulfillment in your career:

1. Discover the root(s) of the problem

For this first step, we’ll need to think back to 8th-grade physics (humor me). We all know Newton’s 3rd law, “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” When you think about it, the same can be said outside of physics, and we see this law play out in our daily lives, day after day.

Simply put, all the issues we deal with in the office (and life in general) affect us in a noticeable way.

If you’re appreciated at work, like the work you do and receive frequent praise, promotions, or raises, then this will probably have an altogether positive effect on your life in the office.

But what if we reverse this? What if you feel under appreciated, get passed up for promotions, or get denied raises? This is sure to affect the way you feel at work on a negative level.

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So, before you can implement the steps of feeling happy and fulfilled at work, we first have to discover the reasons why you don’t feel that way already.

Think about it, write a list, or make a mental note. Run through all the reasons you’re dissatisfied in the office, and don’t hold back. Knowing the exact obstacles you’re facing will make overcoming them that much easier.

In fact, as a side-challenge to this article, I recommend picking the top three reasons contributing to your dissatisfaction at work and using the following tips to tackle them.

2. Practice gratitude for an instant uplift

Did you know the simple act of feeling grateful can increase your happiness and make you more fulfilled at work?[1]

Well, it’s true, and it’s scientifically proven.

Dr. Lisa Firestone notes that practicing gratitude “reminds us of what we lacked in the past.” Meaning, it serves as both a boost to happiness and a bit of a wake-up call that things have been or could be, much worse.

Trying to conjure up feelings of gratitude can seem almost impossible when your work situation seems bleak, but hear me out: There are incredibly easy ways to get started and it doesn’t involve trying to “force” yourself to feel grateful about things that stress you out.

For an instant pick-me-up, try this:

Find a loose piece of paper, a blank sticky note, or anything you can write on, be it physical or digital. List just three things that you are absolutely without-a-doubt thankful for in your life.

Now here’s the trick: Don’t just list what you’re grateful for, you have to list why you’re grateful for them, too.

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For example, simply saying “I’m grateful for my kids” will probably make you feel good, sure, but what if we could amplify the warm, fuzzy feeling into real, lasting motivation?

Instead, write the reason you’re so thankful for your children. Is it because they make you laugh and forget about other stressors? Or maybe they help to remind you of why you go to work every day in the first place?

Whatever your reasons may be, jot them down and keep your list somewhere you can see it while you work. A quick glance at your gratitude list throughout the day can provide powerful, positive motivation to keep going.

Bonus:

If you can find just three things to be thankful for that specifically relate to your job, and list why those things make you grateful, your list can also help you find fulfillment in your work itself which can give you an even bigger boost of positivity throughout the day.

3. Take meaningful time for yourself

We all know creating a strong work-life balance can be crucial to feeling satisfied in our jobs, but rarely do we ever address how we’re spending our time outside of work.

Many of us survive a 9-hour work day and commute home only to find ourselves busy with our personal to-do lists, running a household, and taking care of a child (or 2 or 3, and so on).

If you spend all your time working, whether in the office or within your household, you’re going to feel drained at some point. This is why setting meaningful time for yourself every day is highly important.

Look, I get it: I don’t know anyone in the working world who can shun all responsibility for a 3-movie marathon or happy hour with friends whenever they feel like it. But finding time for yourself, be it just 30 minutes to an hour, can really make a difference in how you feel at work.

This works because you’ll have time to actually relax and let the day’s stress melt away while you enjoy something just for you. The to-do lists and stressors will still be there after you’re refreshed and ready to tackle them.

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No time for me-time? Try this:

If you have a busy household, you’ll need to capitalize on a block of time you know will be completely uninterrupted. The easiest way to do this: try waking up 30 minutes to an hour earlier than usual (or push bedtime back an hour if you’re a night owl, like me) and take time to do something you enjoy.

This could be reading with a cup of tea, catching up on Facebook, spending time on a passion project—anything! As long as it’s meaningful to you, it works!

Bonus:

Starting your day with meaningful time for yourself can set you up to have a positive mood that lasts well into office hours, and having your me-time in the evening can give you something positive to look forward to during the day.

4. Get productive and feel accomplished

Don’t you just love the feeling of checking the last item off of a hefty to-do list? That’s because self-motivation can be a huge driver of positivity and success.

When we accomplish something, no matter how small, it makes us feel good, plain and simple. Applying this tactic to your daily work can be the motivator you need to find fulfillment during the daily office grind.

While there are tons of steps to get more done at work, I’ll share my personal favorite: Prioritizing.

Now, many people handle prioritizing differently. Some like to tackle the little tasks first so they can spend focused time on the big to-dos. Others like to knock out the big items first and get to the smaller ones when they can.

No matter which camp you’re in, you may be missing one crucial step: Time management.

So how’s this work? When you factor in the amount of time your priorities will take, it can transform your productivity ten-fold.

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Say you have three top priorities for the day. You might jump into the smaller ones or the bigger ones depending on your preferred method, and then find yourself out of time and bringing work home with you at the end of the day.

This is prevented when you factor in time. Knowing how long each item will take, or deliberately setting specific blocks of time for your priorities can help you accomplish more in the same 8-9 (or 12) hours that you typically spend at work.

Try this:

Take a look at your priorities and consider how long they should take. Pop into your Google calendar (or Filofax, whatever works for you) and schedule time to work on your priority items around any important meetings or events of the day.

The most important thing to remember is to stick to your dedicated time.

Often, when we know exactly how long we have to work on something (and honor this time limit), we’re motivated to get more done on time to avoid taking work home at the end of the day.

The bottom line

There’s no need to waste 1/3 of our lives feeling unsatisfied at work. Luckily, you now have the tools to get started, take back your time, and become happy and fulfilled at work again.

The only question is — which tip will you try first?

Featured photo credit: Ellyot via unsplash.com

Reference

[1]Psychology Today: The Healing Power of Gratitude

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