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This Is How Successful People See Themselves As

This Is How Successful People See Themselves As

Successful people are successful because they produce great results more often than they fail. They find new ways to do things and it seems like whatever they touch turns into gold.

Though their results are always seen by others what is not always so obvious is their thinking, the way they look at things and even more importantly the way they look at themselves. This inner part of them is actually the most important thing which makes them successful.

So, how successful people look at themselves?

1. They think they must have fun at whatever they do

It is impossible to do something successfully while being bored by it. It just doesn’t work that way. Having fun at work takes out all the stress from even the most difficult tasks.

One of the greatest ambassadors of fun at work and always enjoying at whatever he is doing is a business wizard, Richard Branson. He is an epitome of a mixer of success and pure enjoyment.

 “Fun is one of the most important – and underrated – ingredients of any business.” – Richard Branson

2. They think there is always something new they have to learn

Successful people never stop learning from the others and also from their failures. They know that in order to find new ways of doing things they have to be open for the new knowledge.

So they think of themselves as constant learners.

“Stay hungry, stay foolish.” – Steve Jobs

3. They consider themselves as very disciplined

In order to reach their goals, successful people know they have to discipline their lives. They do things which others don’t like doing it and cancel things which distract their focus.

Successful people don’t spend hours watching TV or spend hours drinking in a pub chatting about the weather and politics. They rather spend their time productively, like focusing on their present job or taking care of their body.

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments” – Jim Rohn

 4. They think they have to leave a mark in this life

Successful people have the inner urge to think not just how to improve their own life but also how to improve other’s people lives. They know that they are here because they have to make some improvements by doing new products which make other people’s life easier or by changing old patterns of thinking.

A good example of such successful person is Nelson Mandela who despite being imprisoned for 27 years have stopped the apartheid in South Africa and improved the lives of millions of people.

5. They never think of themselves as failures (even if they fail)

“Our greatest glory is not in never failing but in rising every time we fail” Confucius

Successful people never take a failure personally.
If they are selling something they know that when people say to them “no” they just mean “not yet”. So they go ahead with no bad feelings.
If they fail sometimes in their life or in business they take it just as a part of the process and they use a failure to learn something from.

Henry Ford failed and went broke five times before he succeeded.

 6. They see themselves as great fighters

Successful people know life is full of challenges so they don’t stop at the first obstacle which comes on their way. They don’t accept any circumstances for not succeeding. Their second nature is being great fighters for their ideals.

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One of the most prominent examples of a great fighter is Oprah Winfrey. She was born in poverty. She was sexually abused as a child by her relative so she would have enough reasons for pitying herself – if she wasn’t thinking she can fight her way against all the odds right to the top.

7. They think they are very passionate

Passion is the fuel of any successful man or woman. They are addicted to it. They put all their feelings in the thing they do. Their passion helps them cross all the obstacles on their way to success no matter how big the obstacle is. Their passion is always bigger than the barrier in front of them.

“You have to have a lot of passion for what you are doing because it is so hard… if you don’t any rational person would give up” – Steve Jobs

8. They think of themselves as risk takers (and never regret it)

Every successful person knows that sometimes you just have to cross the line when nobody else wishes to do so. They know that risk-taking is part of success and if they fail, they never regret it. They trust so much their risk-taking nature that they know there will be always more wins than failures in their life.

9. They see themselves as very spiritual people

Successful people are concessions that there is more in life than only their physical presence. They feel they need some guidance on their way to success and that the best guidance always comes from within.

They take great care of their spiritual life by reading motivational books, attending self-development seminars, meditating and constantly practicing their gratitude.

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10. They see themselves as resourceful

Successful people always look for the solutions. They don’t accept answers like “It can’t be done” or “It is too hard to do it.”

Because successful people think of themselves as being resourceful they naturally look for new ways to do things. They know there is always a solution for just any problem.

A good example of a very resourceful and successful person is Elon Musk, founder of PayPal, Tesla cars and SpaceX. While other big companies like Toyota were concerned just how to make good enough electrical cars he concentrated on finding the solutions how to make fast electrical cars.

11. They think of themselves as givers

Successful people know that the more you give more you receive so they are usually great philanthropists.

Successful rapper 50′ Cent and well-known motivational speaker Anthony Robbins joined their forces with Feeding America to help providing meals for families across America in order to solve domestic hunger.

So if you want to improve results you have in your life right now and become (even more) successful think of the way you see yourself and try to improve some thought patterns which might hold you back.

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All the best on your way to your success!

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Last Updated on March 21, 2019

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

11 Important Things to Remember When Changing Habits

Most gurus talk about habits in a way that doesn’t help you:

You need to push yourself more. You can’t be lazy. You need to wake up at 5 am. You need more motivation. You can never fail…blah blah “insert more gibberish here.”

But let me share with you the unconventional truths I found out:

To build and change habits, you don’t need motivation or wake up at 5 am. Heck, you can fail multiple times, be lazy, have no motivation and still pull it off with ease.

It’s quite simple and easy to do, especially with the following list I’m going to show to you. But remember, Jim Rohn used to say,

“What is simple and easy to do is also simple and easy not to do.”

The important things to remember when changing your habits are both simple and easy, just don’t think that they don’t make any difference because they do.

In fact, they are the only things that make a difference.

Let’s see what those small things are, shall we?

1. Start Small

The biggest mistake I see people doing with habits is by going big. You don’t go big…ever. You start small with your habits.

Want to grow a book reading habit? Don’t start reading a book a day. Start with 10 pages a day.

Want to become a writer? Don’t start writing 10,000 words a day. Start with 300 words.

Want to lose weight? Don’t stop eating ice cream. Eat one less ball of it.

Whatever it is, you need to start small. Starting big always leads to failure. It has to, because it’s not sustainable.

Start small. How small? The amount needs to be in your comfort zone. So if you think that reading 20 pages of a book is a bit too much, start with 10 or 5.

It needs to appear easy and be easy to do.

Do less today to do more in a year.

2. Stay Small

There is a notion of Kaizen which means continuous improvement. They use this notion in habits where they tell you to start with reading 1 page of a book a day and then gradually increase the amount you do over time.

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But the problem with this approach is the end line — where the “improvement” stops.

If I go from reading 1 page of a book a day and gradually reach 75 and 100, when do I stop? When I reach 1 book a day? That is just absurd.

When you start a habit, stay at it in the intensity you have decided. Don’t push yourself for more.

I started reading 20 pages of a book a day. It’s been more than 2 years now and I’ve read 101 books in that period. There is no way I will increase the number in the future.

Why?

Because reading 40 to 50 books a year is enough.

The same thing applies to every other habit out there.

Pick a (small) number and stay at it.

3. Bad Days Are 100 Percent Occurrence

No matter how great you are, you will have bad days where you won’t do your habit. Period.

There is no way of going around this. So it’s better to prepare yourself for when that happens instead of thinking that it won’t ever happen.

What I do when I miss a day of my habit(s) is that I try to bounce back the next day while trying to do habits for both of those days.

Example for that is if I read 20 pages of a book a day and I miss a day, the next day I will have to read 40 pages of a book. If I miss writing 500 words, the next day I need to write 1000.

This is a really important point we will discuss later on rewards and punishments.

This is how I prepare for the bad days when I skip my habit(s) and it’s a model you should take as well.

4. Those Who Track It, Hack It

When you track an activity, you can objectively tell what you did in the past days, weeks, months, and years. If you don’t track, you will for sure forget everything you did.

There are many different ways you can track your activities today, from Habitica to a simple Excel sheet that I use, to even a Whatsapp Tracker.

Peter Drucker said,

“What you track is what you do.”

So track it to do it — it really helps.

But tracking is accompanied by one more easy activity — measuring.

5. Measure Once, Do Twice

Peter Drucker also said,

“What you measure is what you improve.”

So alongside my tracker, I have numbers with which I measure doses of daily activities:

For reading, it’s 20 pages.
For writing, it’s 500 words.
For the gym, it’s 1 (I went) or 0 (didn’t go).
For budgeting, it’s writing down the incomes and expenses.

Tracking and measuring go hand in hand, they take less than 20 seconds a day but they create so much momentum that it’s unbelievable.

6. All Days Make a Difference

Will one day in the gym make you fit? It won’t.

Will two? They won’t.

Will three? They won’t.

Which means that a single gym session won’t make you fit. But after 100 gym sessions, you will look and feel fit.

What happened? Which one made you fit?

The answer to this (Sorites paradox)[1] is that no single gym session made you fit, they all did.

No single day makes a difference, but when combined, they all do. So trust the process and keep on going (small).

7. They Are Never Fully Automated

Gurus tell you that habits become automatic. And yes, some of them do, like showering a certain way of brushing your teeth.

But some habits don’t become automatic, they become a lifestyle.

What I mean by that is that you won’t automatically “wake up” in the gym and wonder how you got there.

It will just become a part of your lifestyle.

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The difference is that you do the first one automatically, without conscious thought, while the other is a part of how you live your life.

It’s not automatic, but it’s a decision you don’t ponder on or think about — you simply do it.

It will become easy at a certain point, but they will never become fully automated.

8. What Got You Here Won’t Get You There

Marshall Goldsmith has a great book with the same title to it. The phrase means that sometimes, you will need to ditch certain habits to make room for other ones which will bring you to the next step.

Don’t be afraid to evolve your habits when you sense that they don’t bring you where you want to go.

When I started reading, it was about reading business and tactic books. But two years into it, I switched to philosophy books which don’t teach me anything “applicable,” but instead teach me how to think.

The most important ability of the 21st century is the ability to learn, unlearn, and relearn. The strongest tree is the willow tree – not because it has the strongest root or biggest trunk, but because it is flexible enough to endure and sustain anything.

Be like a willow, adapting to the new ways of doing things.

9. Set a Goal and Then Forget It

The most successful of us know what they want to achieve, but they don’t focus on it.

Sounds paradoxical? You’re right, it does. But here is the logic behind it.

You need to have a goal of doing something – “I want to become a healthy individual” – and then, you need to reverse engineer how to get there with your habits- “I will go to the gym four times a week.”

But once you have your goal, you need to “forget” about it and only focus on the process. Because you are working on the process of becoming healthy and it’s always in the making. You will only be as healthy as you take care of your body.

So you have a goal which isn’t static but keeps on moving.

If you went to the gym 150 times year and you hit your goal, what would you do then? You would stop going to the gym.

This is why goal-oriented people experience yo-yo effect[2] and why process-oriented people don’t.

The difference between process-oriented and goal-oriented people is that the first focus on daily actions while others only focus on the reward at the finish line.

Set a goal but then forget about it and reap massive awards.

10. Punish Yourself

Last two sections are pure Pavlovian – you need to punish bad behavior and reward good behavior. You are the only person who decides what is good and what is bad for you, but when you do, you need to rigorously follow that.

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I’ve told you in point #3 about bad days and how after one occurs, I do double the work on the next day. That is one of my forms of punishments.

It’s the need to tell your brain that certain behaviors are unacceptable and that they lead to bad outcomes. That’s what punishments are for.

You want to tell your brain that there are real consequences to missing your daily habits.[3]

No favorite food to eat or favorite show to watch or going to the cinema for a new Marvel movie- none, zero, zilch.

The brain will remember these bad feelings and will try to avoid the behaviors that led to them as much as possible.

But don’t forget the other side of the same coin.

11. Reward Yourself

When you follow and execute on your plan, reward yourself. It’s how the brain knows that you did something good.

Whenever I finish one of my habits for the day, I open my tracker (who am I kidding, I always keep it open on my desktop) and fill it with a number. As soon as I finish reading 20 pages of a book a day (or a bit more), I open the tracker and write the number down.

The cell becomes green and gives me an instant boost of endorphin – a great success for the day. Then, it becomes all about not breaking the chain and having as many green fields as possible.

After 100 days, I crunch some numbers and see how I did.

If I have less than 10 cheat days, I reward myself with a great meal in a restaurant. You can create your own rewards and they can be daily, weekly, monthly or any arbitrary time table that you create.

Primoz Bozic, a productivity coach, has gold, silver, and bronze medals as his reward system.[4]

If you’re having problems creating a system which works for you, contact me via email and we can discuss specifics.

In the End, It Matters

What you do matters not only to you but to the people around you.

When you increase the quality of your life, you indirectly increase the quality of life of people around you. And sometimes, that is all the “motivation” we need to start.

And that’s the best quote for the end of this article:

“Motivation gets you started, but habits keep you going.”

Keep going.

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Reference

[1] Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy: Sorites paradox
[2] Muscle Zone: What causes yo-yo effect and how to avoid it?
[3] Growth Habits: 5 Missteps That Cause You To Quit Building A Habit
[4] Primoz Bozic: The Lean Review: How to Plan Your 2019 in 20 Minutes

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