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Last Updated on December 31, 2019

7 Ways to Define Your Own Success

7 Ways to Define Your Own Success

Wondering what it takes to be successful in life?

That’s a bit of a tricky question, because success means a lot of different things to different people.

The only way to be sure you are truly successful is to define your very own success.

Here are seven steps to help you effectively track your progress against the number one person in your life…yourself!

1. Ask Yourself: “What Does Success Look Like?”

“Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.” – Booker T. Washington

While the above quote might strike a chord with you, it’s important to define what your very own version of success looks like. Take a few minutes to answer the question: “What does being successful mean to you?”

Does success mean making lot of money, having a big house and a flashy car or does it mean happiness, excellent health and bringing beauty into the world? While you’re at, you might also want to visualize the entire scene of your successful future, where you are, who is with you, what are you doing and even how are you are feeling.

2. Forget About What Other People May Think

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu

Want to be successful? Stop wasting your energy on what other people may think, or do or say, and start putting energy towards furthering yourself.

You need every ounce of positive energy, encouragement and self-esteem working for you and you alone if you want to be successful. Say no to the naysayers…even better, just ignore them and go on about your business.

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3. Make a Plan

“I must govern the clock, not be governed by it.” – Golda Meir

How are you going to achieve success? That is, what courses of action are you going to take? Planning is an important part in setting goals and being successful.

For example, if your goal was to open and run a successful restaurant full of happy and well-fed customers, you wouldn’t hire staff or order food before you secured a location for your restaurant or bought cooking equipment and supplies.

Have you thought about all the steps, big and small, that you will need to take to get to where you need to be? Even if you don’t have the details hammered out, having a general plan is better than having no plan at all.

4. Get Specific

“Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible, and suddenly you’re doing the impossible.” – St. Francis of Assisi

Success can seem overwhelming, especially with all the different twists and turns that may come up over the course of time. Even if you’ve made a plan, things can sometimes seem entirely out of hand or unattainable. When things start to get rough, just remember to do what you can, right here, right now.

So what if you’re not five steps ahead in your plan? You’ve got to start somewhere. Get specific about what it is you need to do at this very point in time.

5. Make It Happen

“The most effective way to do it, is to do it.” – Amelia Earhart

Ever wonder how books are written, movie soundtracks are scored, or skyscrapers are built? Long story short, you make a plan, sit down and simply do the work!

While planning is an important part of success, it’s even more important to sit down and make things happen. Stop viewing life from the sidelines and get into action! You’ll be one step closer to success.

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6. Ask Yourself “What Does Success Look Like?”…Again

“Change your thoughts and you change your world.” – Norman Vincent Peale

Once you’re well entrenched in a project or course of action, you might thing you’re in the clear. Yet something funny can sometimes happen: you forget what you initially set out to do!

For example, you might get distracted and lose sight of your goal. This is why it’s so important to regularly check in with yourself to see if you are indeed on course in your goals. What does your idea of success look like now that you’ve got some experience and perspective?

7. Don’t Give up

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas A. Edison

You know the feeling…you’re tired, annoyed and bothered. You’re ready to give up and quit. Unfortunately the one thing that will always stop you from succeeding is if you stop and give up. While it might be painful, bothersome or just plain frustrating to keep pushing on, just continue to push on. You might be at the very brink of a breakthrough!

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Acknowledge the pain and frustration and continue on anyway. Work hard and believe in yourself for success is just around the corner…

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How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How often do you find yourself procrastinating? Do you wish you could procrastinate less? We all know how debilitating procrastination can make us feel, and it seems to be a challenge we all share. Procrastination is one of the biggest hindrances to moving forward and doing the things that we want to in life.

There are many reasons why you might be procrastinating, and sometimes, it is really difficult to pinpoint why. You might be procrastinating because of something related to the past, present, or future (they are all intertwined), or it could be as simple as biological factors. Whatever the reason, most of us follow a cycle when we procrastinate, from the moment we decide to do something to actually getting it done, or in this case, not getting it done.

The Vicious Procrastination Cycle

For some reason, it helps to understand that we all go through the same thing, even though we often feel like the only person in the world who struggles with this. Do you resonate with the cycle below?

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it!

2. Apprehension Starts to Come Up

The beginning stages of optimism are starting to fade. There is still time, but you haven’t done anything yet, and you start to feel uneasy. You realize that you actually have to do something to get it done, and that good intentions are not enough.

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3. Still No Action

More time has passed. You still haven’t taken any action and probably have a lot of excuses why. You start to panic a little and wish you had started sooner. Your panic starts to turn into frustration and perhaps even irritability.

4. Flicker of Hope Left

You can still make it; there is a little time left and you ponder how you are going to get it done. The rush you get from leaving your task until the last minute gives you a flicker of hope. There is still time; you can do this!

5. Fading Quickly

Your hope starts to quickly fade as you try desperately to understand why you just can’t do this. You may feel desperate and have thoughts like, “What is wrong with me?” and “Why do I ALWAYS do this?” You feel discouraged, or perhaps angry and resentful at yourself.

6. Vow to Yourself

Once the feeling of anger or disappointment disappears, you most likely swear to yourself that this will never happen again; that this was the last time and next time will be different.

Does this sound like you? Is the next time different? I understand the devastating effect that procrastination has on many lives, and for some, it is a really serious problem. You also have, on the other hand, those who procrastinate but it doesn’t affect them in any way. You know whether it is affecting you or not and whether it undermines your results.

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How to Break the Procrastination Cycle

Unless you break the cycle, you will keep reinforcing it!

To break the cycle, you need to change the sequence of events. Here is my suggestion on how you can effectively break the vicious cycle you are in!

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it! The first stage is always the same.

2. Plan

Thinking alone will not help; you need to plan your actions. I always put my deadlines one or two days in advance because you know Murphy’s Law! Take into consideration everything that you need to do, how long it will take you, and what you will need to get it done, then plan the individual steps.

3. Resistance

Just because you planned doesn’t mean that this time is guaranteed to be different. You will most likely still feel the resistance so expect this. This stage is key to identifying why you are procrastinating, so when you feel the resistance, try to identify it immediately.

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What is causing you to hesitate in this moment? What do you feel?  Write them down if it helps.

4. Confront Those Feelings

Once you have identified what could possibly be holding you back, for example, fear of failure, lack of motivation, etc. You need to work on lessening the resistance.

Ask yourself, “What do I need to do to move forward? What would make it easier?” If you find that you fear something, overcoming that fear is not something that will happen overnight — keep this in mind.

5. Put Results Before Comfort

You need to keep moving forward and put results before comfort. Take action, even if it is only for 10 minutes. The key is to break the cycle and not reinforce it. You have more control that you think.

6. Repeat

Repeat steps 3-5 until you achieve what you first set out to do.

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Final Thoughts

Change doesn’t happen overnight, and if you have some deeper underlying reasons why you procrastinate, it may take longer to finally break the cycle.

If procrastination is holding you back in life, it is better to deal with it now than to deal with the negative consequences later on. It is not a question of comfort anymore; it is a question of results. What is more important to you?

Learn more about how to stop procrastinating here: What Is Procrastination and How to Stop It (The Complete Guide)

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