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Find Out How Not To Be Late Again With These Simple Steps

Find Out How Not To Be Late Again With These Simple Steps

Why does it seem like we are running around like chickens without a head? We fill up our schedules with to-do lists, events, meetings, and everything else in between. With such a busy schedule and a limited amount of time throughout the day, it’s easy to be late. Why does it seem like there aren’t enough hours in the day? If you want to find out how not to be late again, you need to take these steps!

Be Organized and Plan

First things first: you need to be organized with your schedule and plan! I highly suggest that you plan your week every Sunday evening. If you are determined to be on time, you must first know what is on your schedule and at what times. Give yourself time in between meetings to unwind and get refocused for the next meeting. It will be important for you to pace yourself throughout your day so that you don’t get overwhelmed and burnt out.

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Arrive at Least 10 Minutes Early

When you organize and plan out your week every Sunday evening, it will be important for you to leave enough room in between meetings/events to arrive at the location at least 10 minutes early. That way you won’t feel stressed about being late. Personally, I would rather be waiting instead of being the one walking in late. When you come early, it shows that you care. Be prepared with what you need to bring and be 100% there.

Set an Alarm

Whether it be your phone or a watch, set an alarm for when you need to leave and get to the location. Give yourself time to get ready and drive to where you need to be. Keep in mind to always arrive at the location at least 10 minutes early. You can even have an alarm on your calendar and be notified via phone and/or email. Be creative and do what works for you.

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Prepare the Night Before

When it comes to being on time, what helps me is to figure out what I want to wear the night before and have it ready to go in the morning.  Prepare the coffee machine the night before and have it set for when you want it to be ready in the morning. Prepare and organize the night before what you need in the morning. For everything that needs to happen in the morning, try to prepare as much as possible the night before. This helps you will feel much more relaxed when you wake up.

Value Yourself and Your Time

“Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you” -Carl Sandburg

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When it comes to being on time, it’s all about valuing your time. When you value your time, you value how you spend it. If you are constantly running around and being late to events, it’s important for you to evaluate how much you value your time. Time is precious, and how you spend it all depends on you. When you are able to value your time, you will start to appreciate how you spend your time. We experience so many distractions every day that we can easily be pulled away from what we need to do. Other people or noise from the outside world can take away your precious time if you allow it to happen. Start valuing yourself and your time.

Habits

“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken” -Warren Buffett

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When it comes to being on time, it’s all about creating good habits. Get rid of bad habits and start focusing on habits that helps you. Implement these steps by creating habits that will eventually become second nature for you. Plan out your week every single Sunday. Always arrive 10 minutes early. Set an alarm for all of your meetings and events. Prepare everything the night before. Start valuing yourself and how you spend your time. It takes about 21 days to create a habit. Focus on the habits you want to start establishing, and make sure you are consistent every day when creating them.

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Tiffany is a life coach empowering women to unleash their feminine essence & design a meaningful life & marriage.

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Last Updated on July 17, 2019

The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

The Science of Setting Goals (And How It Affects Your Brain)

What happens in our heads when we set goals?

Apparently a lot more than you’d think.

Goal setting isn’t quite so simple as deciding on the things you’d like to accomplish and working towards them.

According to the research of psychologists, neurologists, and other scientists, setting a goal invests ourselves into the target as if we’d already accomplished it. That is, by setting something as a goal, however small or large, however near or far in the future, a part of our brain believes that desired outcome is an essential part of who we are – setting up the conditions that drive us to work towards the goals to fulfill the brain’s self-image.

Apparently, the brain cannot distinguish between things we want and things we have. Neurologically, then, our brains treat the failure to achieve our goal the same way as it treats the loss of a valued possession. And up until the moment, the goal is achieved, we have failed to achieve it, setting up a constant tension that the brain seeks to resolve.

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Ideally, this tension is resolved by driving us towards accomplishment. In many cases, though, the brain simply responds to the loss, causing us to feel fear, anxiety, even anguish, depending on the value of the as-yet-unattained goal.

Love, Loss, Dopamine, and Our Dreams

The brains functions are carried out by a stew of chemicals called neurotransmitters. You’ve probably heard of serotonin, which plays a key role in our emotional life – most of the effective anti-depressant medications on the market are serotonin reuptake inhibitors, meaning they regulate serotonin levels in the brain leading to more stable moods.

Somewhat less well-known is another neurotransmitter, dopamine. Among other things, dopamine acts as a motivator, creating a sensation of pleasure when the brain is stimulated by achievement. Dopamine is also involved in maintaining attention – some forms of ADHD are linked to irregular responses to dopamine.[1]

So dopamine plays a key role in keeping us focused on our goals and motivating us to attain them, rewarding our attention and achievement by elevating our mood. That is, we feel good when we work towards our goals.

Dopamine is related to wanting – to desire. The attainment of the object of our desire releases dopamine into our brains and we feel good. Conversely, the frustration of our desires starves us of dopamine, causing anxiety and fear.

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One of the greatest desires is romantic love – the long-lasting, “till death do us part” kind. It’s no surprise, then, that romantic love is sustained, at least in part, through the constant flow of dopamine released in the presence – real or imagined – of our true love. Loss of romantic love cuts off that supply of dopamine, which is why it feels like you’re dying – your brain responds by triggering all sorts of anxiety-related responses.

Herein lies obsession, as we go to ever-increasing lengths in search of that dopamine reward. Stalking specialists warn against any kind of contact with a stalker, positive or negative, because any response at all triggers that reward mechanism. If you let the phone ring 50 times and finally pick up on the 51st ring to tell your stalker off, your stalker gets his or her reward, and learns that all s/he has to do is wait for the phone to ring 51 times.

Romantic love isn’t the only kind of desire that can create this kind of dopamine addiction, though – as Captain Ahab (from Moby Dick) knew well, any suitably important goal can become an obsession once the mind has established ownership.

The Neurology of Ownership

Ownership turns out to be about a lot more than just legal rights. When we own something, we invest a part of ourselves into it – it becomes an extension of ourselves.

In a famous experiment at Cornell University, researchers gave students school logo coffee mugs, and then offered to trade them chocolate bars for the mugs. Very few were willing to make the trade, no matter how much they professed to like chocolate. Big deal, right? Maybe they just really liked those mugs![2]

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But when they reversed the experiment, handing out chocolate and then offering to trade mugs for the candy, they found that now, few students were all that interested in the mugs. Apparently the key thing about the mugs or the chocolate wasn’t whether students valued whatever they had in their possession, but simply that they had it in their possession.

This phenomenon is called the “endowment effect”. In a nutshell, the endowment effect occurs when we take ownership of an object (or idea, or person); in becoming “ours” it becomes integrated with our sense of identity, making us reluctant to part with it (losing it is seen as a loss, which triggers that dopamine shut-off I discussed above).

Interestingly, researchers have found that the endowment effect doesn’t require actual ownership or even possession to come into play. In fact, it’s enough to have a reasonable expectation of future possession for us to start thinking of something as a part of us – as jilted lovers, gambling losers, and 7-year olds denied a toy at the store have all experienced.

The Upshot for Goal-Setters

So what does all this mean for would-be achievers?

On one hand, it’s a warning against setting unreasonable goals. The bigger the potential for positive growth a goal has, the more anxiety and stress your brain is going to create around it’s non-achievement.

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It also suggests that the common wisdom to limit your goals to a small number of reasonable, attainable objectives is good advice. The more goals you have, the more ends your brain thinks it “owns” and therefore the more grief and fear the absence of those ends is going to cause you.

On a more positive note, the fact that the brain rewards our attentiveness by releasing dopamine means that our brain is working with us to direct us to achievement. Paying attention to your goals feels good, encouraging us to spend more time doing it. This may be why outcome visualization — a favorite technique of self-help gurus involving imagining yourself having completed your objectives — has such a poor track record in clinical studies. It effectively tricks our brain into rewarding us for achieving our goals even though we haven’t done it yet!

But ultimately, our brain wants us to achieve our goals, so that it’s a sense of who we are that can be fulfilled. And that’s pretty good news!

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