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Experiencing These 10 Little Struggles Like Every Over-Thinker Does? Here’s What To Do

Experiencing These 10 Little Struggles Like Every Over-Thinker Does? Here’s What To Do

We all over-think things at times, though luckily most are able to get over it. Some of us, however, are afflicted in such an unfortunate manner that we’re practically always over-thinking about one thing or another. What does this kind of constant rumination do to us? How does it affect our lives? What can we do to deal with it? Find out below …

1. Imagining worst-case scenarios.

Overthinker#1

    Yeah, this one’s obvious, but it needs to be stated nonetheless. Yesterday I had to drive for six hours, and kept worrying about missing my exits, overheating my engine, running out of gas, etc. Turned out everything went swimmingly, my car ran well, my GPS got me to where I needed to go, and I got some awesome mileage out of my hybrid (impressive seeing as it’s a model from 2003). Over-thinkers are always analyzing everything that could possibly go wrong in any given situation, which can be a real problem since this sort of fear and anxiety can prevent them from doing things that need to get done. It’s not a rational fear, either. Even if an over-thinker does something a thousand times with no issues, it only takes one slip-up for them to no longer feel confident doing whatever it was they were doing just fine a minute ago.

    Here’s what you can do:

    Though I still worry about everything that can go wrong at any given moment, I’ve gotten a bit better simply by forcing myself to go out there and do new things. When you start doing all of the things you’re fearful of, you’ll learn that, at worst, only a couple things will go wrong, and it won’t be nearly as terrifying as you imagined. The truth of the matter is that you’ll find that you’re well equipped to handle most trying situations, even when you assume you can’t.

    2. Ignoring the obvious.

    Overthinker#2

      I once spent several hours picking out the perfect café to go to with my girlfriend. I looked at reviews, checked out the areas they were in, looked at prices, the whole nine yards! Lo and behold, when we got there the place was closed. Moral of the story: over-thinking things can and will lead to you missing details that any normal person would have picked up on fairly quickly.

      Here’s what you can do:

      Try to be more spontaneous. Had I just winged it and picked any old café on the street, I would have saved myself a lot of trouble in terms of prep time and worrying about all of the tiny details, which only prevented me from seeing the big picture (i.e., when they were open).

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      3. Being unable to sleep.

      Overthinker#3

        This is another classic symptom of over-thinking. You’ll be thrashing around in your bed, bruising your pillows, heating up your sheets, and generally causing a ruckus, even when, in actuality, you’re extremely tired and just want to sleep. What causes this? Analyzing every single detail of what went down during the day, as well as mentally prepping for all of the things you’re worried about for tomorrow.

        Here’s what you can do:

        Exercise before bed. It won’t get rid of all of your nagging thoughts, but you’ll expel the majority of the nervous energy that normally prevents you from conking out as soon as your head hits the pillow.

        4. Refusing to let go of minor things.

        Overthinker#4

          Over-thinkers have a tendency to let a single (often minor) event ruin their day. For instance, a rude e-mail from your school or work, or a comment from a complete stranger that rubbed you the wrong way. Over-thinkers often go into rage mode over stuff like this, plotting different ways to get back at people (all imagined of course), conjuring alternate realities (in their minds) in order to explore how they could have avoided said situation, and all in all letting whatever happened to them take control of their lives.

          Here’s what you can do:

          You just need to realize that what’s in the past is in the past. It happened, and you can’t do anything about it now besides move forward into the future. Don’t let minor things upset you; in a week you’ll forget why you were even angry.

          5. Failing tests.

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          Overthinker#5

            OK, so over-thinkers don’t “fail” tests per se, but we have a tendency to chew on questions far more than most people. I’ll use an example from the GRE, which is a test you need to take to apply to most graduate schools. Though I’m pretty good at the verbal portion of the test, there were times I would shoot myself in the foot by assuming that certain questions were trying to trick me, which only led to me thinking things over way too much and getting the wrong answer. This didn’t happen too often (since the GRE is one test where over-thinking is a bit useful), but it was noticeable.

            Here’s what you can do:

            That old saying “go with your first instinct” holds up well here. Most of the time, when I over-think my answer to a question, I end up going with my second instinct, when in reality my gut had it right all along.

            6. Experiencing the “time anxiety paradox.”

            Overthinker#6

              This is a neat little phrase I made up to describe when you’re wasting time during the day and wishing you weren’t, though you are too distracted by poisonous thoughts to do anything about it. So for instance, you’ll be sitting in your chair, wishing you were doing something productive. You’ll think to yourself, “Hmm, well I could read a book, play a game, write something, apply to jobs, apply to colleges, clean my room,” etc. All the while, you’ll be looking at your clock, your anxiety rising as the minutes and hours tick by while you sit there being generally unproductive.

              It’s a bit of a paradox really. You’re anxious and over-thinking things because you feel like you’re wasting a day, but the only reason you’re wasting the day is because you’re too busy worrying about what to do instead of actually doing something.

              Here’s what you can do:

              This is a toughie. The only way out of this trap is to pick something, anything to do, even if you have no motivation to do it. Give yourself five minutes to do said task or activity. I guarantee that after those five minutes you’ll start having fun, and you’ll be released from the time anxiety paradox.

              7. The menu conundrum.

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              Overthinker#7

                I hate menus, same as other over-thinkers. It’s not like I don’t know what I want, it’s that I keep imagining all of the other possibilities, weighing whether if, in the end, I’d enjoy a salad over a burger, or chicken over beef, or iced tea over water, or curly fries instead of regular. No matter what an over-thinker chooses, there will be a few minutes of doubt after the fact as they imagine what could have been.

                Here’s what you can do:

                At the very least, do your menu research before you get to the restaurant so that you go in with a plan (though that in itself is a form of over-thinking). Or, pick a type food you’ll stick to when you go out, as a sort of “safety.” Mine happens to be the good old-fashioned burger. If a menu is freaking me out and I’m starting to get anxious, I usually have that to turn to and it generally always turns out pretty well!

                8. You have no problem finishing things; starting them is the issue.

                Overthinker#8

                  This is a problem for me mainly when it comes to videogames. I’ll buy a game and want to finish it, but I’ll be prevented from doing so thanks to thoughts that sound a bit like this: “Well, even if I play it for two hours today, at that pace there’s no way I’ll be finished before next month, and by then I’ll be working more and have schoolwork and have that test, oh, and a dentist’s appointment … yeah, might as well not start at all since I won’t even be able to really enjoy it.”

                  Here’s what you can do:

                  As with the time anxiety paradox, the key is to just start. You’ll have fun, and regardless of whether or not it’ll conflict with events that happen in the future, there’s no reason to cut yourself down before you even start. Give it a try and go with the flow!

                  9. You are accused of being too “silent.”

                  Overthinker#9

                    Over-thinkers hate being accused of adding little to nothing to a conversation. Much to their chagrin, however, this happens often, mainly because they’ll chew over what they want to say for a decent period of time, perfecting it, waiting for the right moment to speak.

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                    Here’s what you can do:

                    Show people that, while you don’t have as much to say as the social butterflies in your group, what you do say is more thoughtful, impactful, and significant. Soon enough, people will quit calling out your silence because they’ll realize that there’s a good reason for it.

                    10. The stutter effect.

                    Overthinker#10

                      Oh, how I hate dealing with drive-thru operators and other cashiers. Not because I dislike them personally; I just can’t remember the last time I spoke to one of them without mangling the English language. This happens to me at Starbucks a lot. I’ll be thinking in my head, “OK, don’t forget, triple grande vanilla latte hot, don’t forget!” While reciting that line in my head, I’ll also be worrying about something else, like making sure to speak clearly.

                      The result is usually something like this: “Hi, I’ll have a triple g-g-grande vanilla(?) latte … uh … oh and can you make it h-hot?” Nine time out of ten, the Starbucks drive-thru person will scoff at me and say, “Can you please say that again, sir,” which only makes it worse.

                      Here’s what you can do:

                      Try to clear your head before you speak to a cashier, drive-thru operator, etc. When you aren’t worrying about every word you need to deliver, your subconscious takes over and will make you sound like the confident human being you are. I’m still working on this, but I think I’ve at least gotten over the stuttering. Now it’s just a matter of speaking clearly enough for them to understand what I’m saying!

                      I hope you enjoyed this list. To all my fellow over-thinkers: we’re all going to make it!

                      Featured photo credit: Anxiety/ Mariana Zanatta via flickr.com

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                      50 Ways to Increase Productivity and Achieve More in Less Time

                      50 Ways to Increase Productivity and Achieve More in Less Time

                      If you feel like you don’t have enough time to do everything you want to do, maybe it’s time to check-in with your time management skills.

                      No one is born to be very good at time management, so that’s okay if you think you’re bad in it. But everyone can learn to boost their productivity and achieve more!

                      Here are 50 ways to increase productivity and add hours to your day.

                      1. Set a Timer

                      Estimate the time you need to tackle different tasks and set a timer for each of your tasks. How you go about this is up to you as there are many different ways. There is the Pomodoro technique where you focus on a task for 25 minutes followed by a five minute break afterwards.

                      In the event that you have a task that will take much longer than that, you can consider one of the many timer-based apps. One that comes to mind is Clockify. It’s used for freelancers and entrepreneurs alike, however it’s a good way to be setting yourself a timer. It provides reports and you can serve as a project manager of sorts too. Best of all, it’s free.

                      2. Eliminate All Distractions

                      Distractions include the phone, email notifications and having multiple web browsers open on the desktop. Just as it’s important to be organized offline, it’s key to have things organized online as well. This free guide End Distractions And Find Your Focus is a good tool to help you. With this guide, you’ll learn how to get rid of distractions and boost productivity. Grab your free guide here.

                      You can also learn more on how to get rid of all distractions in this guide: How to Focus and Maximize Your Productivity (the Definitive Guide)

                      3. Listen to Music That Boosts Productivity

                      Distractions should be avoided, but sometimes a bit of music in the background can help you focus.

                      Of course, it doesn’t need to be heavy rock music, but a bit of Beethoven may do you some good.

                      Here’s a complete guide to help you pick the right music for better productivity: How To Maximize Your Productivity With Music: A Complete Guide

                      4. Find Meaning in What You Do (And Love What You Do)

                      Enjoying what you do is the ultimate way to increase your productivity.

                      If you aren’t sure what you love doing yet, don’t worry. Leo Babauta has some unique ways to help you: How to Find Your Passion

                      5. Prioritize your tasks ahead of time.

                      By listing your tasks in order of importance, you can make sure that you finish all of your most important tasks during the day.

                      Learn a unique technique to Prioritize Right in 10 Minutes and Work 10X Faster.

                      6. Batch Similar Tasks into a Single Batch.

                      Tasks like blog writing, phone calls, email and errands can be grouped into a single batch. You will save time by completing similar tasks in one session. One way to help you with organizing all of those things is through the app Todoist. It’s an easy and simple way for you to plan out your day, set reminders, and group all of your most important tasks in a convenient spot.

                      7. Complete Your Most Dreaded Tasks First Thing in the Morning.

                      Whichever activity you are dreading the most is probably the one you need to complete first thing in the morning.

                      Many people tend to check emails in the morning because after checking a list of emails, they feel fulfilled. But that’s just an illusion of having achieved more.

                      Doing simple tasks like checking emails first in the morning is bad for you. Instead, do the difficult tasks because you have more energy in the morning to tackle them!

                      8. Reward Yourself for Finishing a Big Task

                      To stay motivated for whatever you do, reward yourself every now and then.

                      Keep track of your small wins and milestones and celebrate them. So whenever you struggle about your progress, you see how far you’ve come!

                      Find out more about this 2-Step Approach to Self-Motivation: Track Small Wins and Reward Yourself.

                      9. Don’t Multitask

                      Research has shown that multitasking is not productive. If you think you can multitask, think again.

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                      For optimum productivity, focus on one thing at a time.

                      10. Step Away from the Computer

                      The Internet has become one of the number one distraction. To increase your productivity, try to do as much of your work offline as possible.

                      I do this a lot when I try to brainstom new ideas and have found it to be very beneficial to simply unplug.

                      11. Use Focus Tools

                      Make good use of apps and technology to help you remove distractions.

                      Here’re 18 Best Time Management Apps and Tools to help you stay focused. This way, you’re not distracted by the web, e-mail, or IM.

                      Also, join the free Fast-Track Class – Overcoming Distraction, and you’ll learn the one simple method to work even when you’re surrounded by distractions. Join the free session now!

                      12. Just Start

                      Often times, starting is the hardest part. People tend to wait for the perfect time with perfect condition to start. But there’s no perfect condition.

                      Once you get going, you will quickly get into a rhythm that could last for hours.

                      13. Find out Your Productive Hours

                      Everyone has a certain time of the day in which they are more productive than others. For me, it’s the morning.

                      Find out when your prime time is for productivity and optimize your work schedule accordingly.

                      14. Keep a Notebook and Pen on Hand at All Times

                      This way, you can write down your thoughts, to-dos and ideas at any time. The key is to get everything out of your head and onto paper. Your subconscious mind won’t be reminding you about it every other second. Another consideration is getting the app Evernote. Not only does this save you on ink and paper, Evernote is a convenient place for you to jot down notes and thoughts and then share them with the team. In certain circumstances, this can prove useful if you’re the type of person that has a lot of ideas that you want to share.

                      15. Write a Blog to Chronicle Your Own Personal Development and Achievements

                      The blog keeps you accountable and always working towards self improvement and personal growth.

                      When you write down all the small achievements you’ve been having, you’re also more motivated to move forward.

                      And you know what, this is how I started Lifehack too! What also helped me in starting Lifehack is WordPress, which allows people to set up a website for free. WordPress has simplified a lot of the process of building a site to the point that virtually anyone can build a website now.

                      16. Write out a To-Do-List Each Day

                      I like to plan my day the night before. This way, I can get started on my most important tasks as soon as I wake up. The Full Life Planner is a nice tool to help you organize your days and get things that matter done. Check out the planner here and start to plan your day ahead easily!

                      Make sure you don’t make any of these common to-do-list mistakes!

                      17. Write Your Most Important Tasks and To-Dos on a Calendar.

                      The key to good time management is knowing where to be and what to be doing there at any given time. Effective calendar management goes hand in hand with good task list management.

                      Learn here How to Use a Calendar to Create Time and Space.

                      18. Reflect on Your Productivity Constantly

                      As you go throughout your day, repeatedly ask yourself:

                      “Am I currently making the best possible use of my time?”

                      This one simple question can be an excellent boost to your productivity.

                      19. Get up Early Before Anyone Else

                      I know it could be difficult for some to wake up early in the morning but nothing beats a quiet house!

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                      Here’s How to Start Your Day at 5:00 AM and some Simple Things Early Risers Do to make waking up early easier.

                      20. Get Plenty of Sleep

                      When you work online, sleep can become a long lost memory. However, it’s important to get plenty of sleep so that your working hours can be as productive as possible.

                      Try out this night routine which I highly recommend for productivity: The Ultimate Night Routine Guide: Sleep Better and Wake Up Productive

                      21. Exercise

                      Research has shown that midday exercise boosts productivity and morale in the workplace.

                      Take a short walk at lunch or do some simple stretches during your break to maximize your productivity.

                      Here I have some exercises recommendations for you:

                      22. Outsource as Much as Possible

                      If you want to achieve more in less time, learn to delegate or outsource work. Here are just a few of the companies that will help you outsource your everyday tasks:

                      Also, read this guide to learn how to delegate effectively: How to Delegate Work (the Definitive Guide for Successful Leaders)

                      23. Set Some Exciting Goals

                      Without worthy goals, you will never be motivated to get things done.

                      Set goals that are challenging and achievable. The best goal setting framework is a SMART goal. That said, there are other tools that can help you out as well. For example, The Dreamers’ Guide To Reaching Your Goal is a great guide to help you set and reach goals effectively. Grab your free guide and learn how to make your goals happen this year!

                      24. Tell Other People About Your Goals

                      When you tell others about your goals, you will instantly be held accountable.

                      25. Listen to Podcasts

                      Listen to educational podcasts or audio books while you’re driving to work, cleaning the house, exercising, or cooking dinner.

                      Audio learning has the power to add hours to your day. Not to mention, your cranium is sure to thank you for it.

                      Some recommendations for you: 11 Podcasts To Inspire Yourself

                      26. Read David Allen’s best-selling book Getting Things Done

                      This is one of the most important productivity books you will ever read. Read it, apply the tips in your daily lives and get more things done.

                      Here’re more great books about productivity too: 35 Books on Productivity and Organizational Skills for an Effective Life

                      27. Learn to Speed Read

                      When you can read faster, you will read and learn more! Check out these 10 Ways to Increase Your Reading Speed.

                      You can also make use of the app OutRead to help speed up your reading speed!

                      28. Learn to Skip When You Read

                      When you’re reading a book, just read the parts that you need and skip the rest. But you have to read with a purpose.

                      Learn how to make it work here: How to Read 10X Faster and Retain More

                      29. Focus on Result-Oriented Activities

                      Pareto’s law (also known as the 80 20 rule) states that 80% of the outputs result from 20% of the inputs. This means that 20% of our actions result in 80% of the results.

                      We must find the 20% that is creating the 80% of our desired outcomes and focus solely on those activities.

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                      30. Take a Break

                      You can’t always be working at optimum productivity. Instead, you should shoot for working in short bursts at your most productive times.

                      31. Start a Polyphasic Sleep Schedule

                      What is polyphasic sleep?

                      Polyphasic sleep is a sleep pattern specification intended to compress sleep time to 2-5 hours daily.[1] This is achieved by spreading out sleep into short (around 20-45 minute) naps throughout the day. This allows for more waking hours with relatively high alertness.

                      While you can learn more about it here, you’re recommended to take some naps during the day to recharge your energy too.

                      32. Learn to Say “No”.

                      We can’t do everything and therefore we must learn when to say no in order to save our sanity.

                      Learn the Gentle Art of Saying No from Leo Babauta.

                      33. Go on an Information Diet

                      Most of the world lives on information overload. We must eliminate mindless Internet surfing.

                      Stop reading three different newspapers a day and checking your RSS feeds multiple times a day. Otherwise, you’ll never get anything done.

                      The key is to limit yourself only to information that you can immediately take action on. Here’re some simple tips you can try: 10 Simple Productivity Tricks To Manage Overloaded Information

                      34. Organize Your Office

                      The piles of paper around your desk can be a huge barrier on your productivity. Optimize your time by organizing your office, setting up a system and dumping the junk.

                      Check out these 21 Tips to Organize Your Office and Get More Done and 20 Easy Home Office Organization Ideas to Boost Your Productivity.

                      35. Find a Mentor

                      By modeling after those who have already achieved success, you will save yourself a lot of time and energy.

                      A good mentor is hard to find, so here’s a guide to help you: What to Look for in a Mentor

                      36. Learn Keyboard Shortcuts

                      With technology’s help, you can double your work efficiency. Even better, you learn all the shortcuts when using technology, for example keyboard shortcuts.

                      When you use keyboard shortcut, you gain 64 hours every year!

                      Not sure what shortcuts to lear? Check out these 22 Tricks That Can Make Anyone A Keyboard Ninja.

                      Besides learning the shortcuts, you can also create keyboard shortcuts with AutoHotKey.

                      37. Improve Your Typing Speed to Save Time

                      Do you know you can save 21 days per year just by typing fast?

                      You don’t really need to take some serious courses to type faster, try these typing games online:

                      38. Work from Home and Avoid the Daily Commute

                      If your job is a flexible one, consider working from home. This saves you the commute time and you’ll find yourself more energetic throughout the day as you have saved the long ride.

                      Take a look at these tips to help you stay productive while working from home:

                      How to Work from Home and Stay Ultra-Productive

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                      39. Get Rid of Time Wasters

                      Common time wasters include Instant Messenger, video games, Flickr, checking your stats 10 times a day, television and extraneous Internet surfing.

                      Don’t rely on your willpower, make use of some of these useful tools to help you stay focus: 10 Online Apps for Better Focus

                      40. Plan Your Meals in Advance

                      Plan out all of your meals a week ahead and make your grocery list accordingly. This allows you to focus on the necessary – saving you time and money. You can also save yourself even more time through a wide variety of apps. One app that I find helpful is Mealime. It’s an app that provides you with a wide selection of recipes and also a convenient spot for your grocery list as well.

                      Considering the fact that over 4 million users have this app, it goes to show that there is a good selection of meal plans that you can follow and that the app is friendly to use.

                      41. Cook Your Meals in Bulk

                      When you cook your meals in bulk, you will have plenty of leftovers. This can avoid having to cook everyday.

                      Find out more about how to make cooking in bulk works: Once a Month Cooking: Productivity Hack or Overrated Time Suck?

                      42. Protect Yourself from Unnecessary Phone Time with Caller ID

                      The minutes you spend on picking up unnecessary phone calls are time wasted. You can prevent that from happening.

                      Check out this detailed guide how you can deal with those unnecessary phone calls: How To Lose the Useless Items that Weigh Down Your Day – Cellphone Calls

                      43. Take Shorter Showers

                      This one may sound silly but it’s actually something I struggle with. I spend up to 30 minutes in the shower. Think of the time I could save simply by speeding up a bit.

                      44. Save the Trips to Bank by Taking Direct Deposit

                      Many employers now offer direct deposit. If yours does, then be sure and take advantage of it and save yourself from a number of trips to the bank.

                      45. Auto Pay Your Bills

                      How many times have you been worried about whether you missed the bills deadline?

                      Auto paying your bills will save you time and eliminate late fees and increased interest rates.

                      46. Shop Online

                      Whenever possible, avoid going to the store. When you shop online, you can be more focus about what you’re getting.

                      47. Speed up your Internet With a Broadband Connection

                      Many people are aware of the slow speed of internet but aren’t doing anything about it. In fact, this is the number one Internet time-saver!

                      If you must use dial-up, then you can use accelerators like Propel and SlipStream to double or even triple your speed.

                      48. Keep up the Speed of Your Computer

                      If you’re a Windows user, use Windows hibernation feature to avoid the slowdown of exiting and restarting Windows.

                      Or maybe, consider switching to Mac as there’re plenty of Advantages You Probably Don’t Know About Switching To Mac From PC.

                      49. Turn off the TV

                      The average American watches more than 4 hours of television every day. Over a 65-year life, that’s 9 years glued to the tube.

                      For better health and productivity, turn off the TV. Here’re 11 more reasons to tell you to stop watching TV so often.

                      Turn off the TV and you are sure to get more out of life.

                      50. Use a Tivo or DVR

                      This can help you cut an hour-long television show down to just 40 minutes. You can save time while not missing the fun.

                      So, here’s the ultimate list of techniques you should learn to boost productivity. Pick the techniques that work for you and make them your daily habits. As time goes, you’ll find yourself being a lot more productive.

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                      Reference

                      [1] Medical News Today: What is biphasic and polyphasic sleep?

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