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3 Sneaky Ways to Make Social Media Less Stressful

3 Sneaky Ways to Make Social Media Less Stressful

If you ever feel overwhelmed by a never-ending stream of Facebook notifications, this article is for you. These three sneaky ways to make social media less stressful will change your Facebook feed into a more peaceful place.

1. Delete Hateful People to Make Facebook a Happier Place

Ain’t nobody got time for negativity. If a person complains 24/7, leaves hateful comments or sends excessive game requests… it’s time to break up.

When making important decisions, it’s smart to consider all variables. But there’s nothing wrong with having a slight case of tunnel vision on social media, where the whole point is to connect with people you care about. Ain’t nobody got time for negative Neds and Nancys.

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Also, ladies – here’s your opportunity to dump all those guys who are leaving creepy comments on your photos, or bothering you with excessive messages. If someone views you as a sexual object and nothing more, then they are unworthy of your friendship. You deserve to be surrounded by true friends who love and accept you for the unique person you are (read: they’re not just in it for the booty).

If you’d like to make your feed a more positive place, follow these steps:

  • Access Facebook via your browser or cellphone
  • Navigate to your profile
  • Click the link to “friends”
  • Scroll all the way to the bottom, because it lists them in order of relevancy (this means the people you actually talk to on a regular basis should be near the top).
  • Start there and work your way up to the top, clicking the “unfriend” button next to the names of people you’re friends with for no good reason

Note: If a picture isn’t displayed, do NOT click that link. If there is no photo, they have deactivated their profile, and clicking “unfriend” will make your screen refresh. I’m not sure why this happens, but it is what it is. If you are obsessive compulsive like me, get a pen and paper and make a list of those people’s names. You can search for and delete them one at a time after you’re done with the rest.

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2. Organize Your Friends into Lists to Connect with the People You Care About

Don’t simply broadcast status updates to everybody you know. Instead, sort your friends into separate “lists” (click here for a tutorial). To illustrate why this would be beneficial, you could create these six categories:

1. Family
2. Co-workers
3. Networking/business contacts
4. Good friends who know a bit about you
5. REALLY good friends who know a lot about you
6. BFFs who know so many of your secrets that they could write your biography

You probably wouldn’t share a juicy detail you told your BFF with your cousin, would you? Different kinds of updates will resonate with different individuals in your life. This is exactly why lists exist. Use them.

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3. Disable Annoying Emails and Notifications that Distract You from What’s Important

Don’t think those brief excursions to Facebook in the middle of the day add up? Allow me to prove you wrong. Let’s assume you open the FB app on your phone twenty times per day to check your notifications. For the sake of example, let’s say you end up browsing for three minutes per log-in:

20 log-ins per day X 3 minutes per log-in = 60 minutes per day

Do that every day for a week, and you would be out seven hours per week. I know it might not feel like a big deal when you check your phone in the middle of the day, but that time can add up if you get carried away with it. If you’d like to remove the temptation of instant notifications, simply follow the instructions at the help articles linked below:

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I hope these three tips help you make social media less stressful. Don’t feel bad for unfriending people and unsubscribing from updates, because the whole point of social media is to connect with people you care about.

Featured photo credit: Intense woman at work/jseliger2 via flickr.com

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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