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20 Things You Have To Know If You Want To Be Successful In Life

20 Things You Have To Know If You Want To Be Successful In Life

I know plenty of very successful people, but they all have different definitions of what success means to them. For some, success is money. For others, it means just being happy. No matter what your definition of success is, here are 20 things you need to know before you can live a fulfilling and successful life.

1. Money doesn’t buy everything.

“There are people who have money and people who are rich.”

Coco Chanel

Sure, you can purchase fast cars, large TVs and all of the amenities you could want in life, from shoes to gold watches; however, you can’t buy friendship, love, trust and faith. Trying to arrange your life around money won’t bring you happiness.

Instead of centering your life on how much you owe, how much you’ll make, and how much you’ll give, be rich and full in the world around you. If you don’t, life will pass by too quickly and all you’ll have to show for it is wasted time and energy.

2. Honor the code of responsibility.

“You will ever remember that all the end of study is to make you a good man and a useful citizen.”

John Adams

In life, we are always striving to be the best. We want to be better than our competition. We want to know it all and have it all. On the contrary, we have the principle that you have a responsibility to everyone and a responsibility for only yourself. Your life is multi-faceted.

Prioritize your life and see how you can contribute to your community. In return, gain insight, wisdom and skills that can help foster you as a person. Join a volunteer group, participate in a charity, or help someone in need.

3. Expect the unexpected.

“To expect the unexpected shows a thoroughly modern intellect.”

Oscar Wilde

Be proactive and always think ahead. Like in any good game of chess, you want to anticipate any variation or move that may occur. With life, prepare for the unexpected. If you are waiting to hear whether or not you got the job, don’t set yourself up for failure and place it in an out-of-reach box. Also, don’t put all of your eggs in one basket.

Life is all about curveballs, twists and turns. Let’s be honest: if everything was expected, we’d be bored. Stay ahead of the curve and be prepared for any outcome.

4. Never let others define you.

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

Bernard M. Baruch

Why would we ever want to live in a world where we are like everyone else? Could you imagine never getting the choice of the clothes you wear, the music you listen to or the hobbies you love? We are all unique.

Yes, we all have our quirks, but at the end of the day, you can’t let others define you. Never let anyone tell you who to be or what to do. They can dictate their own life, not yours. If they try to, they are not worth your time. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are.

5. Go big or go home.

“I live by ‘Go big or go home.’ That’s with everything. It’s like either commit and go for it or don’t do it at all. I apply that to everything. I apply that to relationships, I apply that to like sports, I apply that to everything. That’s what I live by. That’s how I like it.”

Paul Walker

Embrace your talents and strengths, and go beyond what is required. If you need to turn in a paper for your boss by Friday, have it edited, reviewed, and submitted on Thursday. If you want to bake for a picnic, try a new recipe and commit. If you want to land that big promotion, work hard and prove that you deserve it.

Aspire to be successful, and you will not fail. Maybe you won’t meet your goal or win, but at least you tried. You showed gumption, and that is a great feeling that cannot be duplicated.

6. Be present at all times.

“The past is a ghost, the future a dream and all we ever have is now.”

Bill Cosby

When we live in the present, we will keep our focus. We cannot change what has happened, and we cannot control everything that will happen. Therefore, enjoy the time you have and don’t fixate on what may be, what could be, or what could have been.

Live in the moment and love every minute of it. Capture memories with cameras, whether it’s your first skydive, first love, or first job.

7. Take risks.

“A ship is always safe at the shore—but that is NOT what it is built for.”

Albert Einstein

Don’t be afraid to get your feet wet and try new things. Think to yourself, “what is the worst that can happen?” For example, maybe you are not a fan of seafood. Your friend offers you sushi, but you are afraid to try it. Maybe this sushi is covered with fresh strawberries and lemon poppy seed glaze over white tuna. You love strawberries.

How would you know you hated sushi if you didn’t try it? What’s the worst that can happen? You spit it out. Life is about risks. You’ll never know until you try.

8. Don’t worry; be happy.

“Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.”

Anne Frank

Find the good things around you even in tough situations. Anne Frank, the young girl who chronicled her experiences while hiding from Nazi Germany during the Holocaust, saw beauty in little things. She never dwelled on the negatives, about dying, about being captured.

She endured so much at a young age. She focused her thoughts on her first crush, her first kiss, herself changing into a woman. Focus all of your attention on the things you have and the experiences you take with you. Cherish the good and leave your dark storm cloud behind.

9. Always seek a greater purpose.

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”

Dalai Lama

Along the lines of responsibility, always seek a greater purpose in life. Know that you are one person and that there is a world full of people who can relate to you and feel compassion. Help others and see that we are all connected in some way to bring out the good in each other.

10. Keep your fire burning.

“The true soldier fights not because he hates what is in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him.”

G.K. Chesterton

No matter where your life takes you—your career path, your interests, the people in your life—always be passionate about what you do. Avoid exhausting yourself over complaining about what is going wrong with life, and always do what makes you happy.

Keep your fire burning and ignite your inner spark to see what makes you feel and fall in love with what you do. If you’re a teacher, maybe seeing your students succeed is your reason for teaching. If you are a firefighter, maybe you’re saving lives. Find your passion and harness it.

11. Smell the roses.

“Rest and be thankful.”

William Wordsworth

Take a break every once in a while and stop to appreciate the world around you. You’ll be surprised at how the little things, like budding flowers, cracks in a sidewalk, and even the smell of rain, can inspire, encourage, and uplift. Never take these moments for granted and enjoy solace every once in a while. You will exercise your mind and body.

12. Exercise your mind.

“Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow.”

Anthony J. D’Angelo

Become a life-long learner and expand your mind. Pick up a book, read a newspaper, or go to a library. Watch the news and talk about what you’ve learned. Expanding your mind can open yourself up to not only gained wisdom, but new skills and opportunities.

If you want to change your career path, you can find something that peaks your interest. Just don’t be afraid to learn about something that normally wouldn’t interest you.

13. Cherish your body.

“Growing into your future requires a dedication to caring for yourself as if you were rare and precious, which you are, and regarding all life around you as equally so, which it is.”

Victoria Moran

You have one life to live, so you should treat your body with respect. As the old saying goes, “your body is a temple, cherish it.” Eat healthy, sleep well, and exercise your mind and body. Take care of yourself first. Find your priorities and make them count.

14. Say “hello.”

“Sometimes just when I say hello the right way, I’m like, ‘Whoa, I’m so cool.'”

Robert Pattinson

Kindness is contagious and guess what? It feels good too. Be the first person to say “hello.” Greet your neighbors, a stranger on the street, your co-worker three cubicles down to the right. Spread happiness and make someone’s day. Believe it or not, it will make your day as well.

15. Be alone.

“The best part about being alone is that you really don’t have to answer to anybody. You do what you want.”

Justin Timberlake

Make time for yourself. Turn off the TV, step away from the computer, put down the phone. Embrace your “me time” and think about what  made you happy today. Or, do not think at all. That’s the beauty of being alone. The choice is yours.

Savor the moments where you don’t have an obligation or a place to go. Put a blanket outside on a sunny day and lay down and bask in the healthy glow. Remember that each moment is precious.

16.Establish a routine.

“The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.”

Mike Murdock

Try waking up at the same time each morning. Enjoy breakfast and plan your day. Instead of feeling stressed or frazzled, find comfort in knowing you can control some things in your life. When you have your bearings, it’s easier to take on new challenges and kinks in the system.

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17. Put you and your family first.

“The love of family and the admiration of friends is much more important than wealth and privilege.”

Charles Kuralt

Sure, we all have deadlines and pressures at work and in our daily lives. However, they should never be put in front of your own health and your family’s wellness. You only have one family and they should always be a top priority.

Make a phone call and catch up. Have dinner or invite family over for a game night. If someone you love is in the hospital, go visit them. Cherish every moment you have with them.

18. Keep dreaming.

“Keep on dreaming even if it breaks your heart.”

Eli Young Band

Dream big. This means always strive for what you want out of life. Create a bucket list and organize your ideas so you know where to start. Maybe you’ve always wanted to run a 5k. Start out with the end in mind and work hard to reach your goal. If you fail, try again.

19. Reflect and react.

“Sometimes, you have to look back in order to understand the things that lie ahead.”

Yvonne Woon

Think of yourself as moldable. Your past experiences shape who you are. Take some time to think through your trials and errors, your successes. Then, see how they can propel you forward. Strive to improve and be the best version of yourself.

20. Be motivated.

“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”

Harriet Beecher Stowe

Never give up. Keep your drive, your passion and faith in yourself. Know you can accomplish your goals and reach for them. Ask a friend to help encourage you along the way. Whether it’s losing weight, finding a new job, or reconnecting with an old friend, a support system is priceless.

What does it all mean?

By adopting all or even some of these philosophies, you can have a positive outlook on life and a greater sense of where you fit in. Success is not monetary gain. It’s not pleasing others. It’s about making yourself happy in your life. So, go out there and really live it up!

 

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Published on March 19, 2019

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success

How Your Attitude Determines Your Success


Do you remember the last time you faced a major setback–when you felt so low, that nothing seemed to make you happy? No matter how hard you tried, you just felt like the world was against you. Perhaps it was a bad relationship, or the loss of a loved one… maybe something bad happened at work? Whatever it may be, could you recall how your attitude was towards that situation?

Often when we’re caught in an unhappy situation, we feel limited and sometimes trapped. We want to get out of it as quickly as we can, but it’s never quite that simple.

Unfortunately, some people can remain in that terrible situation for weeks, months or even years; while others may come out strong and ready to start over–or continue from where they left off–fairly quickly.

So what sets these two groups apart?

The answer is their attitude.

Attitude is everything when it comes to achieving a goal, and tackling a setback or problem. 

When you’re able to have a positive mindset, you’ll be able to break free of your limitations that are holding you back.

A positive attitude also goes a long way in ensuring you come out victorious from whatever limitations that were holding you back before. It transforms not just your mental state, but your physical and emotional well being. It is the key to lasting total transformation.

Positive Attitude Brings About Positive Health 

When you’re stuck in a rut, often the first thoughts that run through your head are negative, thus your outlook likely becomes pessimistic. But, if you can transform those thoughts into more positive ones, then you’re on your way to talking yourself out of that rut, which allows you to move forward.

Of course, positive thinking doesn’t mean ignoring all the bad or unpleasant feelings altogether. It just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way–instead of taking everything as a victim to negative circumstances, you see it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Be aware of self talk!

These automatic thoughts can be positive or negative. Some of your self talk comes from logic and reason, while other self talk may arise from misconceptions that you create. Others could come from external sources such as negative people around you, or messages from the media.

The key is to surround yourself with positive influences that can help turn those negative thoughts into positive, more productive actions.You’ll not only feel better about the situation, but in the long run, positive thinking can lower your levels of distress and depression and give you better coping skills during hardships.

Researchers studying the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health have also found that positive thinking may provide increased life span, better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and even greater resistance to the common cold!

It’s unclear why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits, but one theory is that having a positive outlook enables you to cope better with stressful situations, which reduces the harmful health effects of stress on your body.

It’s also thought that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

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Suffering is Inevitable, So It’s Best to Accept It 

Now, one thing that everyone goes through at some point, is suffering. It’s a harsh reality, yet you can’t actually avoid it. We experience suffering as the result of unhappiness, fear, anger, loss or frustration. In fact, it would be hard to even imagine the feeling of happiness if we never experienced suffering! How would we ever compare it?

So instead of wallowing in sorrow about the suffering you have endured, take the suffering as an opportunity for change. Did you get laid off from your job? Perhaps this would be a good time to re-assess your career goals.

Rather than feeling negative and stuck, use your time and energy to find opportunities which will put you ahead. With the right attitude, anything can seem possible.

This may sound crazy, but suffering is the secret to being successful! 

Here’s what I mean. It’s impossible to think of new ideas or understand new experiences without stepping outside of your comfort zone. Anyone who has met great successes has also faced many failures, as nobody wins on every try.

To propel you toward success, find a way to track your progress and to set and celebrate small benchmarks. It may be helpful to conduct a weekly review to assess where you are and acknowledge all of the small wins of the week. Every accomplishment, no matter how small, is an achievement; so, be sure to take note of them.

Tracking your progress is also a great way to find and mitigate triggers and hindrances that impede your progress. The point is, you’re making progress; even if it feels like suffering, you can see that it’s leading you to joy.

Remember, don’t compare yourself to others. Only compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Each step you make towards progress is making you a better version of you.

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Gratitude Goes a Long Way in Shaping Attitude 

Now, this may seem difficult to do when you’re already feeling down, but having gratitude is a very useful when you’re trying to navigate your way out of a setback. Being grateful for existing accomplishments and the supports in your life will help you see them more clearly, build your own confidence, and give you a better overall outlook on what your limitations really are and what you have to do to overcome them.

With a grateful attitude, you limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Being grateful, even during the toughest of times, steers your attitude towards a more positive one, allowing you to get back on your feet much more quickly. Many studies done on gratitude have shown positive results for people who practice regularly, such as improvement in relationships and in mental health. There’s even studies that show higher motivation in work settings due to a simple ‘thank you’ from managers to their subordinates.

Believe in Yourself and Your Truth

This is often easier said than done, but is also the most empowering truth to overcoming your setbacks and limitations in life.

Many people find it hard to keep a positive attitude during tough times because they lack inner confidence. They doubt their abilities because of the ‘failure’ that they’re experiencing, and don’t think that they can rise above again.

But, confidence doesn’t just come from talent, luck or easy opportunity. Confidence comes from overcoming difficulties and facing your fears head on. 

Confidence is a result of getting out of your comfort zone. The more you do this, the more confident you’ll be, and the more positive your attitude will be. Confidence will help you see your goals more clearly, find your strengths within, reach your goals and overcome your limitations much more quickly.

Here’s a quick story about my own struggles helping me get ahead:

When I first started Lifehack, it took a long time to gain a solid readership. Just getting 100 visitors was a challenge and took a good bit of time. I had great ambitions for this site, yet it seemed like I was doomed to fail. I received plenty of criticism, too. Some people thought that the world didn’t need yet another self help site, others offered the opinion that there was something wrong with the idea itself and I was making a mistake.

It was hard for me not to listen to them and, at some times, agree. But, persistence is key, and in the end I chose to believe in my truth.

I worked tirelessly changing the site layout, restructuring articles, and making the site more user friendly. Slowly, I expanded to a team with the hiring of some extremely dynamic and talented people. With each determined effort, the site grew in popularity, and a few years later, we had influenced millions–and continue to do so.

Pushing myself out of my comfort zone and facing every challenge head on were the greatest contributing factors to increasing my confidence. So welcome the challenges that come; don’t avoid them, as they’re all opportunities in disguise to feed your growth.

Your Attitude Sets the Tone for Success 

Do you see the importance of having a positive attitude? It is so much more than a mindset or state of mind. Your attitude sets the tone for every action and behavior that follows after, and that will determine how long it takes for you to break free from your current circumstance.

So if you’re currently in an unhappy situation, why not give it a try and look at things from a more positive outlook? As mentioned, not only does having a positive attitude bring about favorable outcomes, it also brings about positive health in the long run.

Embracing hardship as it is, and using it as a learning experience to grow, will also make you stronger. And, whether you’re going through good or bad times, practicing gratitude will no doubt help to limit the damage of negative influences, and strengthen the impact of positive ones.

Lastly, in any circumstance, you are your greatest barrier to success, which is why it’s important to always believe in yourself!

You will always have the power to be in control of your situation because your attitude is determined by you. So start harnessing all that positive thinking to turn those limitations into strengths!

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