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11 Incredible Ways You Should Try Now To Improve Your Body Language

11 Incredible Ways You Should Try Now To Improve Your Body Language

Do you ever wonder how some people seem so cool, calm, and collected, as though a rattle snake won’t even rattle them?

How about people who just give off this air of confidence and masterfulness when they speak? Think Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson or President Obama.

How about individuals who can charm the pants off people? (Do a few names pop into mind?)

Well, one of the reasons these folks are so notable is because they have mastered the art of body language.

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Body language is the gestures, movements, and mannerisms by which people (and animals too) communicate to others.

For most individuals, body language just happens naturally. But others have found a way to elevate themselves using their body language to draw attention to their talents, raise their stature, and enhance their charisma.

Here are 11 incredible ways to improve your body language and upgrade your mojo! (Rrrraaawww!)

1. Look people in the eyes.

When you speak to a person or a group of people, make eye contact. This action conveys a level of trust, creates a connection, and helps them pay attention to what you’re saying.

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2. Turn your body to face the people or person you are talking to.

When you purposely position your body to face your audience or the person you’re communicating with, you expose another level trust. This forward-facing position shows you have nothing to hide. It also exhibits to the person you are talking with that you are engaged and attentive to the conversation.

3. When speaking, use hand gestures that are appropriate to what you are saying.

Hand gestures can give emphasis to what you are talking about, whilst keeping the audience engaged by having their attention directed by your hands. (But don’t make big hand gestures that go above your shoulders because this will appear odd and distracting.)

4. Limit your shoulder movements unless appropriate.

Do you notice how some people talk with their shoulders? It’s as if they’re always saying, “I dunno.” And that is exactly how people will perceive the speaker—as not being very convincing or authoritative.

5. Limit head bobbing, hair flipping, teeth sucking, lip biting, face touching, or other repetitive habits.

It’s very distracting and annoying for folks on the receiving end. (Just sayin’.)

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6. Speak with your eyes.

This is different from making eye contact. When you speak with your eyes you suggest interest, understanding, and enjoyment. You can also stress eye movements to emphasize a part in the conversation or draw someone’s attention by using your eyes to ‘point’ at something you want them to look at.

7. Speak with your eyebrows. (But not too much.)

This body language is gonna take some skill. It’s not for everybody, but it is an eye catcher.

If you can accentuate your dialogue with a little eyebrow hike—well, more power to you. (Hubba-hubba!) But please don’t do weird stuff with your eyebrows—it’s just going to be awkward for everybody.

8. Put your hands on your hips like Wonder Woman or a general.

This is a signature power move. As you have seen, it’s done by superheroes, persons in the military, and people who know they are the ‘boss’!

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This posture expresses authority, masterfulness, and confidence. When done for two minutes or longer, it also increases testosterone production in the body, which decreases stress and makes you feel good. (Learn more about power posing here.)

9. Place your hands behind your head.

Positioning your hands behind your head is another power move. (Unless a cop tells you to do it—then it’s not so powerful.) Think back and remember when you’ve seen this move done (in a cop-free environment), what does it elicit? Thoughts of, He’s the man! (Or she! If you’ve watched Oprah, you know she busts this move often.)

10. When speaking to an audience, walk around.

Slowly moving about as you give a speech implies confidence, an ease about you, and will help you connect with the folks around the room.

11. Genuinely smile.

Smiling connects you to others like no other movement. A sincere smile can break down social divides, improve relations, and boosts confidence on both sides. Smiling gets you by far more yeses.

Implement these tactics and use your body language effectively to be that cool cat!

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Last Updated on March 31, 2020

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How often do you find yourself procrastinating? Do you wish you could procrastinate less? We all know how debilitating procrastination can make us feel, and it seems to be a challenge we all share. Procrastination is one of the biggest hindrances to moving forward and doing the things that we want to in life.

There are many reasons why you might be procrastinating, and sometimes, it is really difficult to pinpoint why. You might be procrastinating because of something related to the past, present, or future (they are all intertwined), or it could be as simple as biological factors. Whatever the reason, most of us follow a cycle when we procrastinate, from the moment we decide to do something to actually getting it done, or in this case, not getting it done.

The Vicious Procrastination Cycle

For some reason, it helps to understand that we all go through the same thing, even though we often feel like the only person in the world who struggles with this. Do you resonate with the cycle below?

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it!

2. Apprehension Starts to Come Up

The beginning stages of optimism are starting to fade. There is still time, but you haven’t done anything yet, and you start to feel uneasy. You realize that you actually have to do something to get it done, and that good intentions are not enough.

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3. Still No Action

More time has passed. You still haven’t taken any action and probably have a lot of excuses why. You start to panic a little and wish you had started sooner. Your panic starts to turn into frustration and perhaps even irritability.

4. Flicker of Hope Left

You can still make it; there is a little time left and you ponder how you are going to get it done. The rush you get from leaving your task until the last minute gives you a flicker of hope. There is still time; you can do this!

5. Fading Quickly

Your hope starts to quickly fade as you try desperately to understand why you just can’t do this. You may feel desperate and have thoughts like, “What is wrong with me?” and “Why do I ALWAYS do this?” You feel discouraged, or perhaps angry and resentful at yourself.

6. Vow to Yourself

Once the feeling of anger or disappointment disappears, you most likely swear to yourself that this will never happen again; that this was the last time and next time will be different.

Does this sound like you? Is the next time different? I understand the devastating effect that procrastination has on many lives, and for some, it is a really serious problem. You also have, on the other hand, those who procrastinate but it doesn’t affect them in any way. You know whether it is affecting you or not and whether it undermines your results.

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How to Break the Procrastination Cycle

Unless you break the cycle, you will keep reinforcing it!

To break the cycle, you need to change the sequence of events. Here is my suggestion on how you can effectively break the vicious cycle you are in!

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it! The first stage is always the same.

2. Plan

Thinking alone will not help; you need to plan your actions. I always put my deadlines one or two days in advance because you know Murphy’s Law! Take into consideration everything that you need to do, how long it will take you, and what you will need to get it done, then plan the individual steps.

3. Resistance

Just because you planned doesn’t mean that this time is guaranteed to be different. You will most likely still feel the resistance so expect this. This stage is key to identifying why you are procrastinating, so when you feel the resistance, try to identify it immediately.

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What is causing you to hesitate in this moment? What do you feel?  Write them down if it helps.

4. Confront Those Feelings

Once you have identified what could possibly be holding you back, for example, fear of failure, lack of motivation, etc. You need to work on lessening the resistance.

Ask yourself, “What do I need to do to move forward? What would make it easier?” If you find that you fear something, overcoming that fear is not something that will happen overnight — keep this in mind.

5. Put Results Before Comfort

You need to keep moving forward and put results before comfort. Take action, even if it is only for 10 minutes. The key is to break the cycle and not reinforce it. You have more control that you think.

6. Repeat

Repeat steps 3-5 until you achieve what you first set out to do.

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Final Thoughts

Change doesn’t happen overnight, and if you have some deeper underlying reasons why you procrastinate, it may take longer to finally break the cycle.

If procrastination is holding you back in life, it is better to deal with it now than to deal with the negative consequences later on. It is not a question of comfort anymore; it is a question of results. What is more important to you?

Learn more about how to stop procrastinating here: What Is Procrastination and How to Stop It (The Complete Guide)

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