“Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely…At some level, power exists in friendship, romance, marriage, and family.” — Guerrero, et al, “Close Encounters: Communications in Relationships”, p. 255
Financial independence among couples is one of the new issue many newly married couples are discussing. Despite the common thought that married couples should share conjugal rights to properties involving assets acquired before marriage, it can be a wise step if the couple remain financially independent. This does not mean encouraging financial secrecy towards each other, but encouraging freedom and autonomy to expenses. This is really important to maintain stability to the family’s expenses and for the future expenses (as the family grows). Here are the reasons why the couples should remain autonomous when it comes to finances:
1. It will allow the couple to adjust to the inter-dependency of expenses, especially if one or both were already financially independent before marriage.
Since marriage is about conjugal rights of both parties’ assets, etc., it is really important to have a smooth transition from single life to married life. In order to achieve that, in the first phase of the married life, the couple should respect the autonomy of one towards his/her expenses and what he/she wishes to spend to it. According to Kelly Long, a CPA at Shephard Schwartz & Harris LLP in Chicago, having separate accounts will allow two people who were independent financially before marriage a sense of autonomy as they slowly adjust to the couplehood.Advertising
2. It will equally divide family expenses.
The couple is highly encouraged to have different bank accounts so as to divide the expenses needs fairly. Each one can re-check if finances are available and still stable and are still able to pay his/her part from the entire family expenses. In this way, the couple can agree with each other fairly to what they should be responsible paying for. In a couple, perhaps the other one has more income than the other or has more stable/fixed income than the other.
3. It will encourage responsibility regarding the wife/husband’s debts.
Since the couple has different bank accounts or separate finances/savings, etc., it will encourage the wife/husband to be responsible of paying her/his own debts. Thus, it also promotes discipline of each other towards the spending habits as well. As a result, it will be a more stable family life in terms of expenses and spending discipline. Moreover John Ulzheimer, President of Consumer Education at Smartcredit.com, says that getting into debt is a choice, not a coincidence/accident.
4. It promotes respect to each other in terms of spending habits.
By having different bank accounts, it can highly respect the differences of the habits of the other. For example, the wife may like Chanel bags or other expensive objects while the husband likes to have tools for carpentry, repairs, etc. In this manner, through having independence financially, they can have what they wish to have without harming the other by spending the partner’s money just for their items which he/she may not be agreeable towards.Advertising
5. It keeps the relationship healthy.
Ideally, the couple married because they love each other. However, if the they have unstable finances, it might affect each other’s relationship which later on develops to a more serious problem – Divorce. One manner which may help to avoid this is couples being highly encouraged to have separate accounts. This is according to Rosemary Frank, a certified Divorce Financial Analyst in Brentwood, Tennessee.
Possible problems if couples are highly dependent financially:
1. One person may lose their identity is such a relationship.
Because one is dependent on the other in terms of finances, it will also affect the way they behave and interrelate.Advertising
2. It promotes inequality in the relationship.
It is really unhealthy for the couples to feel prejudice in some manner. It may be minor or may explode into something major.
3. It will put the wife/husband at high risk when circumstances change.
Loss of job in a single career family, is an example. If both incomes are dependent on one and the other partner doesn’t have resources, they family could be put in a bind during this time.
4. It impairs equal incentive as an individual.
This means that when the other one is financially dependent to his/her wife/husband, it may lessen the incentive of the other to earn and experience confidence and pride from also providing for the family monetarily.Advertising
5. It explicitly shows dominance within relationships.
Because of the fact that the other one is unable to spend or to contribute toward the expenses in the family, the other one can easily show dominance over the other. This can cause one to feel demeaned and the other to feel burdened with responsibility.
A piece of advice to married couples:
Ruth Hayden, a financial educator and author in St. Paul, Minnesota, writes that there are many couples who think that they can be actually fair at all times in terms of finances, yet this is impossible. She advises couples to just be clear to their goals as a married couple and move on from there.
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Last Updated on July 10, 2020
The Definitive Guide to Get out of Debt Fast (and Forever)
Debt can feel crushing, like a weight that is always weighing you down. Looking at those numbers, it can feel as if you’ll never get out from under it. However, if you really want to learn how to get out of debt, it is possible with a great deal of focus and self-control.
Getting out of debt isn’t impossible. Like any big goal, all that it takes is an action plan to identify where you are and creating a plan to zero out your debt.
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Identifying All of Your Debts
The first part of paying off your debt is getting a complete picture of what you owe. When you have everything written out in front of you, it makes it much easier to create an action plan. Depending on how much you owe, it might also help you realize it’s not as bad you might have originally thought.
Here’s how you can get started identifying your debts:
1. Own Your Debt
Before you start identifying all of your debts, take a moment to process that you have debt but want to get out of it.
Forgive yourself for any past mistakes, missed payments, or overspending. It might be painful to accept how much debt you have at first, but you must own it.
2. Make a Debt Tracker
It’s astonishing how few people ever created a tracker to understand their total debts. Most likely, it comes from not wanting to accept the guilt of having debt, but, if avoided, it can make it nearly impossible to get out of debt.
Open up a new Google or Microsoft Excel sheet and list out all of your debts. Start with the name of the creditor, interest rates, total balance, loan term length (if any), and the minimum amount due each payment. This will include student loans, credit cards, and any other type of debt owed.
3. Get Your Debt Number
Once you’ve made your debt tracker and taken the other steps, identify your total payoff number. This is crucial, as you will have a starting point and a clear goal that you are trying to achieve.
Prioritizing Your Debts
All debt is not created equal. It’s imperative to understand that there are different types of debt.
1. Understand Bad and Good Debts
Bad debts are usually paying for things you want instead of always need. While there might be some emergencies that max out your credit cards, often times it’s excessive spending.
There are three main types of bad debt:
- Credit Card Debt: The average American household owes over $16,000 in credit card debt!
- Auto Loan Debt: According to CNBC , the average auto loan in the US is $30,032!
- Consumer Loan Debt: Consumer loan debt isn’t as common as credit card and auto loan debt, but it’s still considered bad as interest rates are usually between 10-28%.
Good debt is identified as investments in your future. Here are three common types of good debt:
- Student Loan Debt
- Mortgage Loan
- Business Loans
2. Decide Which Debt to Pay off First
Once you know each type of debt and their interest rates, you can begin to pay off debt quickly.
Focus on paying off bad debt first, regardless of if it is a credit card or auto loan. Start by paying off the loan with the highest interest rate first.
If you have several credit cards with different interest rates, you want to focus on the one with a higher APR. You will actually save more money by eliminating the card with the highest interest rate.
3. Don’t Pay the Minimum Amount
Paying the minimum amount digs you into a hole as interest rates will offset your payment. Even a small amount more than the minimum can help you pay off debt much faster.
Removing Obstacles to Pay off Debt Quickly
Creating a debt tracker and prioritizing a plan is simple, but avoiding temptation can be difficult.
1. Set a Reminder to Track Your Debt
“If you can’t measure it you can’t manage it.” -Peter Drucker
It’s so important to track your debt to ensure that you get it paid off quickly. Similar to working out and measuring your results, you need to track your debt constantly. Start with a weekly reminder, where you sign on and log your updated number. Did you increase, decrease, or stay the same?
Regularly tracking your student loan balance can be incredibly motivating, as well. You will get a huge confidence boost each time you see your total debt amount decreases.
Set weekly and monthly goals so you can have short term wins and keep the momentum going.
2. Hide Your Credit Cards
If your biggest debt is credit cards, you need to eliminate temptation and remove them from your wallet.
Some people have gone to extreme measures by freezing their credit cards. Why? This would create an ice block around your card, which would require you to chip away at it slowly. This will give you time to think if it’s the best idea to buy that thing you’re about to buy.
3. Automate Everything
Willpower can be a huge downfall to paying off your debt. By automating your bills each month, you will ensure that willpower isn’t involved.
4. Plan Ahead
Getting out of debt will require some sacrifices, but with enough planning, you can make it work.
For example, if you know that you have a friend’s birthday or family dinner coming up, plan ahead for the costs. Whether you need to cut back on spending the week before, pick up a side job, or meet them after dinner, do what is needed.
5. Live Cheaply
The only way to get out of debt is to make some sacrifices on your spending habits. Find ways to save money each month so you can apply that amount to your outstanding debts. Here are some ways to save money each month:
- Live with roommates
- Cook dinners and prepare lunches for work instead of eating out
- Cut cable and choose Netflix or Amazon Prime
- Take public transit or bike to work
Finding the Lowest Interest Rates
The higher your interest rates, the harder (and longer) it will take you to pay off any debt.
If possible, you want to find ways to lower your interest rates to help get out of debt quickly. Here’s how you can get started:
1. Maintain a High Credit Score
Your credit score will have a large impact on your ability to refinance your loans and receive a lower interest rate. If you have a low credit score, it’s unlikely you will be able to refinance your loans. Use these credit tips to increase and maintain an excellent score:
- Never miss a payment
- Don’t exceed 30% of your credit limit
- Don’t sign up for more than one card at once
- Limit hard inquires, like auto-loans and new credit cards
- Monitor frequently with free credit-tracking software
2. Find Balance Transfer Offers
Start by opening a free account on credit.com. Credit.com offers you the chance to open a free account and see what type of balance transfer offers you can receive. Some of your existing credit cards might already have 0% or lower APR balance transfer offers available.
Contact each of your credit card providers to ask about lowering your rate for a one-time balance transfer offer.
If you do take advantage of this option, make sure that you use a balance transfer and not a cash advance. Cash advances have a ton of high interest fees (15-25%, depending on your credit card) and will only compound your debt problem.
How to Get Rid of Debt Forever
Setting up a plan, removing temptations, and getting the lowest interest rates is the first step to get out of debt.
1. Keep Monitoring and Adjusting
Once you have a plan, don’t get comfortable. Track your debt payoff plan and make the necessary adjustments when needed.
Monitor your credit scores with a free site like CreditKarma. The higher your credit score climbs, the more likely you will be to secure a new, lower-interest loan.
2. Earn More Money
There are only so many ways to save money. Instead of clipping another coupon or making sacrifices for your morning coffee, find ways to earn more money!
Think about it…it is much easier to find ways to earn an extra $1,000 per month than find $1,000 to cut from your budget.
Here are some examples of ways to earn more money:
Talk to Your Boss
Have a conversation with your boss about current salary and/or commission rates. If you’re not satisfied or want a change, don’t be afraid to look around at other positions. Some of them might even have a student loan debt reimbursement plan!
Start a Side Hustle
This could be coaching students on the weekends, driving for Uber, or taking paid online surveys. There are tons of ways to make money outside your 9-5. Now that you have a clear plan to pay off your debts, you’ll be more motivated than ever to figure out creative new ways to earn money.
Build an Online Business
There are so many websites and blogs that earn money from ads, affiliates, and other online products. Find your niche and get started.
3. Celebrate Your Wins
As you progress in your debt payoff journey, don’t forget to celebrate your wins. You need to always reward yourself for the hard work and discipline that is required to get out of debt.
While you shouldn’t celebrate so big that it increases debt, make sure to factor in little rewards to keep you motivated.
4. Set New Financial Goals
Eventually, with a plan and these steps, you can rid yourself of your debt. Once you do, make sure to celebrate your monumental achievement, but don’t stop there.
Now, you can focus on acquiring wealth and increasing your net worth. Set new financial goals so you have a new target to aim toward. Here’s how to set financial goals and actually meet them.
These could be anything now that you are debt free! Think about where you want to travel, buying your first home, or saving for your future retirement. Just like before, make sure that your goals are specific, measurable, and achievable.
Congrats, you can now set a plan in motion to finally pay off your debt quickly (and hopefully forever)!
Remember, if you want to get out of debt quickly, it’s not always easy. Just like any big goal, there will be sacrifices, challenges, and problems to overcome.
More Tips on Getting out of Debt
- How to Pay off Debt Fast Using the Stack Method (A Step-By-Step Guide)
- Coming Back From the Debt Trench? 5 Ways to Do So
- 14 Important Steps You Should Take To Free Yourself From Debt
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