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How To Lead The Quality Life You’ve Always Wanted

How To Lead The Quality Life You’ve Always Wanted

When it comes to the quality of life you lead, it all starts with your philosophy. How you view yourself and your life will determine the quality of life you experience. You can either have a negative philosophy or a positive philosophy: it’s up to you.

With so much stress and frustration in modern life, it’s easy to get into this dull and boring routine of “wake up, go to work, come home, go to bed, and repeat” from Monday through Friday. Who wants to live a dull and boring life? I know I don’t, and I certainty don’t want you to experience this. I want you to live each day filled with love, passion and purpose. I want you to experience a fulfilling and rewarding life.

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Here are five ways to lead the quality life you’ve always wanted:  

1. Accept where you are

Before we even start on living the quality life you’ve always wanted, you must accept where you currently are. It may not be where you ultimately want to be, but first acknowledging that this is only temporary will allow you to move forward rather than backwards. Accept where you are and understand that this is not permanent. When you are able to do this and know that you are moving in the direction you want to go, you are more likely to be motivated to take action.

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2. Be confident

Have confidence in living the quality life you’ve always wanted. Believe that you deserve to live a life that is filled with peace, love and happiness. It’s important for you to be confident and know how to overcome uncertainties. Despite the stresses of life, no matter what happens, you’ll know how to handle any situation. Where does confidence come from? It all comes from within you. Confidence starts with believing in who you are and what you stand for. Practice being confident every day.

3. Know your priorities

If you want to live a life truly worth living, you must know your priorities and make sure that you live by them every single day. It’s all about living in alignment with your deepest values and beliefs. This, would have to be my #1 secret to having the quality life that you’ve always wanted. Take the time to write down what you most value in your life—be it your family, spouse or having a job to support yourself. When you are consciously aware of what you value and what your top priorities are, you are able to schedule your time around what matters to you the most.

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4. Passion!

Have passion for what you do. Don’t just go through the motions, find out why you do what you do. This is important because when you wake up in the morning you will have a purpose rather than just starting your day being grumpy. When you understand why you do what you do, passion enters your life. My definition of passion is having a deep and driving desire to fulfill a purpose that is based on reason. Take the time to reflect on this, and find your purpose and the reason behind it. Leading the quality life you’ve always wanted all starts with finding your purpose.

5. Get organized and take action

When you implement these first four ways to lead the quality life you’ve always wanted, then it’s time to get your priorities in order and take the necessary steps that will allow you to follow through to achieve it. I find it really helpful to write down all my short- and long-term goals and to have an agenda every week listing what needs to get done. Time is so precious so use yours wisely!

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Tiffany is a life coach empowering women to unleash their feminine essence & design a meaningful life & marriage.

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Last Updated on July 23, 2019

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

In the journey of growth, there are times when we grow and excel. We are endlessly driven and hyped up, motivated to get our goals.

Then there are times when we stagnate. We feel uninspired and unmotivated. We keep procrastinating on our plans. More often than not, we get out of a rut, only to get back into another one.

How do you know if you are stagnating? Here are some tell-tale signs:

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  • If you have been experiencing chronic procrastination on your goals
  • If you don’t ever feel like doing anything
  • If you keep turning to sleep, eating, games, mindless activities and entertainment for comfort
  • If you know you should be doing something, but yet you keep avoiding it
  • If you have not achieved anything new or significant now relative to 1 month, 2 months or 3 months ago
  • If you have a deep sense of feeling that you are living under your potential

When we face stagnation in life, it’s a sign of deeper issues. Stagnation, just like procrastination, is a symptom of a problem. It’s easy to beat ourselves over it, but this approach is not going to help. Here, I will share 5 steps to help you move out of this stagnation. They won’t magically transform your life in 1 night (such changes are never permanent because the foundations are not built), but they will help you get the momentum going and help you get back on track.

1. Realize You’re Not Alone

Everyone stagnates at some point or another. You are not alone in this and more importantly, it’s normal. In fact, it’s amazing how many of my clients actually face the same predicament, even though all of them come from different walks of life, are of different ages, and have never crossed paths. Realizing you are not alone in this will make it much easier to deal with this period. By trying to “fight it”, you’re only fighting yourself. Accept this situation, acknowledge it, and tell yourself it’s okay. That way, you can then focus on the constructive steps that will really help you.

2. Find What Inspires You

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Stagnation comes because there isn’t anything that excites you enough to take action. If you don’t have a habit of setting goals, and instead just leave yourself to daily mundanes, it’s not surprising you are experiencing stagnation. What do you want to do if there are no limitations? If you can have whatever you want, what will it be? The answers to these questions will provide the fuel that will drive you forward.

On the other hand, even if you are an experienced goal setter, there are times when the goals you set in the past lose their appeal now. It’s normal and it happens to me too. Sometimes we lose touch with our goals, since we are in a different emotional state compared to when we first set them. Sometimes our priorities change and we no longer want to work on those goals anymore. However, we don’t consciously realize this, and what happens is we procrastinate on our goals until it compounds into a serious problem. If that’s the case for you, it’s time to relook into your goals. There’s no point in pursuing goals that no longer inspire you. Trash away your old goals (or just put them aside) and ask yourself what you really want now. Then go for them.

3. Give Yourself a Break

When’s the last time you took a real break for yourself? 3 months? 6 months? 1 year? Never? Perhaps it’s time to take a time-out. Prolonged working can cause someone to become disillusioned as they lose sight of who they are and what they want.

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Go take some extended leave from work. A few days at bare minimum; a few weeks or months will be great. Some of my ex-colleagues have quit their jobs and took months out to do some self-reflection. Of course, some of us might not have that luxury, so we can stick to a few weeks of leave. Go on a trip elsewhere and get away from your work and your life. Use this chance to get a renewed perspective of life. Think about your life purpose, what you want and what you want to create for your life in the future. These are big questions that require deep thinking over them. It’s not about finding the answers at one go, but about taking the first step to finding the answers.

4. Shake up Your Routines

Being in the same environment, doing the same things over and over again and meeting the same people can make us stagnant. This is especially if the people you spend the most time with are stagnant themselves.

Change things around. Start with simple things, like taking a different route to work and eating something different for breakfast. Have your lunch with different colleagues, colleagues you never talked much with. Work in a different cubicle if your work has free and easy seating. Do something different than your usual for weekday evenings and weekends. Cultivate different habits, like exercising every day, listening to a new series of podcasts every morning to work, reading a book, etc (here’s 6 Proven Ways To Make New Habits Stick). The different contexts will give you different stimulus, which will trigger off different thoughts and actions in you.

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When I’m in a state of stagnancy, I’ll get a sense of what’s making me stagnate. Sometimes it’s the environment I’m in, sometimes it’s the people I’ve been hanging out with, sometimes it’s my lifestyle. Most of the times it’s a combination of all these. Changing them up helps to stir myself out of the stagnant mode.

5. Start with a Small Step

Stagnation also comes from being frozen in fear. Maybe you do want this certain goal, but you aren’t taking action. Are you overwhelmed by the amount of work needed? Are you afraid you will make mistakes? Is the perfectionist in you taking over and paralyzing you?

Let go of the belief that it has to be perfect. Such a belief is a bane, not a boon. It’s precisely from being open to mistakes and errors that you move forward. Break down what’s before you into very very small steps, then take those small steps, a little step at a time. I had a client who had been stagnating for a long period because he was afraid of failing. He didn’t want to make another move where he would make a mistake. However, not wanting to make a mistake has led him to do absolutely nothing for 2-3 years. On the other hand, by doing just something, you would already be making progress, whether it’s a mistake or not. Even if you make a supposed “mistake”,  you get feedback to do things differently in the next step. That’s something you would never have known if you never made a move.

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