“Great is the human who has not lost his childlike heart.” -Mencius
Do you ever wonder where the simplicity and joy of your childhood went?
In the growing up process, we have replaced the innate wisdom of who we are with fears and doubts. As children there was no doubt that we were great–even invincible. We were inquisitive, adventurous and fearless. Laughter and tears came and went. We didn’t care if we had tears in our pants or dirt on our shirts because we were on a mission to experience as much of life as we could.
Little by little the “don’t, can’t, mustn’t, shouldn’t” eroded our fearlessness and began to create limitations in our world. Slowly these walls began to silence our innate wisdom.
The great news is that you don’t have to stay trapped in these walls. You can rediscover the wisdom you brought into the world and let it play a greater part in your life again. When you do, life will become happier, more creative, and more productive.Advertising
Let life become fun again!
You are perfect.
You were born perfect and still are perfect. Somewhere along the way you were told that you were not good enough, or were made to feel you were not complete–but you are. You think that something is wrong with you that needs to be fixed, but there is nothing to fix.
What you haven’t been told is that you have to accept and love all of you exactly as you are. The warts and the dimples! In doing this you find the perfection that you are.
You are born to greatness.
In the same way that you were born perfect, you were born to greatness. As a child you knew that you were great. You did not know you had limits until someone told you, and even then you challenged those limits. Eventually it became easier to live within the limits. The greatness was stifled within you.
You can reawaken your greatness by replacing your doubts with the belief you can do anything that you set your mind to.Advertising
You know the answers.
You have an innate intelligence within you that knows what is best for you and what you should do at any time. Remember that uneasy feeling that something wasn’t right and later you discovered your feelings were correct? Or the time you just knew you should do something and did. When you saw the success, you chalked it up to a gut feeling.
As a child you trusted in those feelings, but over time the trust faded as your over active mind took over. It is time to trust that gut feeling–your intuition–again. This is the wisdom you came here with.
Life is an adventure.
As a child you were not afraid to try anything. At the merest suggestion you were off to explore, climb, probe, poke or taste most things. If you were like me, you didn’t hesitate before trying something. If you fell or got hurt you didn’t do it again, but it didn’t stop you from the next experience. Life was an adventure to be explored.
This sense of adventure was killed in you when the adults around you repeated, “No, don’t do that! Be careful!” Bring that sense of adventure into your life again. Don’t be afraid to try things, to experience new things, and to explore.
Be honest in all things.
Children are so honest. They tell it like they see it. They say whatever is on their mind. They don’t guard their words, look for reactions, or have expectations. It is all spontaneous.Advertising
When was the last time you said something honestly, without first weighing your words? You can speak with childlike honesty without being cruel or mean. If you start being totally honest with yourself, it becomes easier to be honest with others. At first this will not be easy, but with time you will see the vast benefits.
Be fully in the moment.
Children can be totally engrossed in something to the extent that they are not aware of anything around them. At moments like this, when they are asked to do something else they can get very upset.
For them, only this time and place are relevant. The instant they are no longer engrossed in what they are doing, they easily move on to the next thing. There is fluidity of movement and complete awareness of the moment.
You can recapture this by being mindful of what you are doing at any given time. If you are engrossed in it, keep doing it. If your attention fades it is time to move on. Mindful people tend to be very productive.
We are all equal.
Watch children play. They don’t discriminate against the opposite sex, physical appearance or age. They come together and before long they are playing like long lost buddies. They trust first and welcome all.Advertising
Look at others with the eye of a child and see that everyone is the same under the skin.
It is okay to show emotion.
Children cry, scream, laugh, dance, hop or pound their fists with abandon. They can be raging with anger one moment, and the next be laughing and playing. They move through emotions as they feel them. They don’t hold a grudge, resentment or agonize over what they are feeling. They let it out.
Adults have been taught to hold back emotions or stuff them down. It is time to be honest about how we are feeling. That doesn’t mean you have to lash out at someone, but you can let them know how you are feeling. Open up a dialogue around those feelings and everyone wins.
By rediscovering the wisdom you came into this life with, your world can be more creative, more productive and happier.
Are you ready to reclaim your natural wisdom?
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Last Updated on November 20, 2018
10 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail
A new year beautifully symbolizes a new chapter opening in the book that is your life. But while so many people like you aspire to achieve ambitious goals, only 12% of you will ever experience the taste of victory. Sound bad? It is. 156 million people (that’s 156,000,000) will probably give up on their resolution before you can say “confetti.” Keep on reading to learn why New Year’s resolutions fail (and how to succeed).
Note: Since losing weight is the most common New Year’s resolution, I chose to focus on weight loss (but these principles can be applied to just about any goal you think of — make it work for you!).
1. You’re treating a marathon like a sprint.
Slow and steady habit change might not be sexy, but it’s a lot more effective than the “I want it ALL and I want it NOW!” mentality. Small changes stick better because they aren’t intimidating (if you do it right, you’ll barely even notice them!).
If you have a lot of bad habits today, the last thing you need to do is remodel your entire life overnight. Want to lose weight? Stop it with the crash diets and excessive exercise plans. Instead of following a super restrictive plan that bans anything fun, add one positive habit per week. For example, you could start with something easy like drinking more water during your first week. The following week, you could move on to eating 3 fruits and veggies every day. And the next week, you could aim to eat a fistful of protein at every meal.
2. You put the cart before the horse.
“Supplementing” a crappy diet is stupid, so don’t even think about it. Focus on the actions that produce the overwhelming amount of results. If it’s not important, don’t worry about it.
3. You don’t believe in yourself.
A failure to act can cripple you before you leave the starting line. If you’ve tried (and failed) to set a New Year’s resolution (or several) in the past, I know it might be hard to believe in yourself. Doubt is a nagging voice in your head that will resist personal growth with every ounce of its being. The only way to defeat doubt is to believe in yourself. Who cares if you’ve failed a time or two? This year, you can try again (but better this time).
4. Too much thinking, not enough doing.
The best self-help book in the world can’t save you if you fail to take action. Yes, seek inspiration and knowledge, but only as much as you can realistically apply to your life. If you can put just one thing you learn from every book or article you read into practice, you’ll be on the fast track to success.
5. You’re in too much of a hurry.
If it was quick-and-easy, everybody would do it, so it’s in your best interest to exercise your patience muscles.
6. You don’t enjoy the process.
Is it any wonder people struggle with their weight when they see eating as a chore and exercise as a dreadful bore? The best fitness plan is one that causes the least interruption to your daily life. The goal isn’t to add stress to your life, but rather to remove it.
The best of us couldn’t bring ourselves to do something we hate consistently, so make getting in shape fun, however you’ve gotta do it. That could be participating in a sport you love, exercising with a good friend or two, joining a group exercise class so you can meet new people, or giving yourself one “free day” per week where you forget about your training plan and exercise in any way you please.
7. You’re trying too hard.
Unless you want to experience some nasty cravings, don’t deprive your body of pleasure. The more you tell yourself you can’t have a food, the more you’re going to want it. As long as you’re making positive choices 80-90% of the time, don’t sweat the occasional indulgence.
8. You don’t track your progress.
Keeping a written record of your training progress will help you sustain an “I CAN do this” attitude. All you need is a notebook and a pen. For every workout, record what exercises you do, the number of repetitions performed, and how much weight you used if applicable. Your goal? Do better next time. Improving your best performance on a regular basis offers positive feedback that will encourage you to keep going.
9. You have no social support.
It can be hard to stay motivated when you feel alone. The good news? You’re not alone: far from it. Post a status on Facebook asking your friends if anybody would like to be your gym or accountability buddy. If you know a co-worker who shares your goal, try to coordinate your lunch time and go out together so you’ll be more likely to make positive decisions. Join a support group of like-minded folks on Facebook, LinkedIn, or elsewhere on the internet. Strength in numbers is powerful, so use it to your advantage.
10. You know your what but not your why.
The biggest reason why most New Year’s resolutions fail: you know what you want but you not why you want it.
Yes: you want to get fit, lose weight, or be healthy… but why is your goal important to you? For example:
Do you want to be fit so you can be a positive example that your children can admire and look up to?
Do you want to lose fat so you’ll feel more confident and sexy in your body than ever before?
Do you want to be healthy so you’ll have increased clarity, energy, and focus that would carry over into every single aspect of your life?
Whether you’re getting in shape because you want to live longer, be a good example, boost your energy, feel confident, have an excuse to buy hot new clothes, or increase your likelihood of getting laid (hey, I’m not here to judge) is up to you. Forget about any preconceived notions and be true to yourself.
- The more specific you can make your goal,
- The more vivid it will be in your imagination,
- The more encouraged you’ll be,
- The more likely it is you will succeed (because yes, you CAN do this!).
I hope this guide to why New Year’s resolutions fail helps you achieve your goals this year. If you found this helpful, please pass it along to some friends so they can be successful just like you. What do you hope to accomplish next year?