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9 Ways To Meditate Anywhere And Anytime You Want

9 Ways To Meditate Anywhere And Anytime You Want

Meditation means more than sitting in a room and repeating “Om.” It’s easy to find yourself mindfully aware of the present, which is, in a sense, what meditation is. With these 9 tips you can meditate anywhere and anytime you want.

1. Meditate on your commute

Sometimes the most banal parts of your day are best for meditation. This is when your mind normally drifts into daydreams, so refocus and use your attention for good. Put yourself in perspective as one of hundreds who are on the train or the highway or the streets, as just another person living and working. Understanding your cosmic insignificance is a great way to begin or end your day.

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2. Meditate while you exercise

Your body is a beautiful machine. Maintaining its function is crucial to living a long, healthy life. While doing cardiovascular exercise, think of your legs moving and your heart pumping. While lifting weights, focus on each contraction and the blood that flows into your muscles as a result. You’re alive.

3. Meditate at work

Hopefully you spend your days doing something that you love. Even if you don’t, your work can be a crucial part of a company that helps people, even in the simplest ways. This is a great segue into focusing on doing the best job you can.

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4. Meditate on the sky

You don’t have to be looking at the sky to meditate on it. Too often in our age of information we find distractions. But focusing on the mental image of a blue sky with cottony puff-clouds can help clear and relax the mind. Train yourself to imagine the stress-free moments of staring at the sky from your youth. That way, when you recall blue sky, you can recall those blissful times.

5. Meditate on a fixed point

To observers it will look like you’re daydreaming, but if you focus on a point on the wall, the table or the floor, and feel mindful of your body, that counts as meditation. When you feel your mind wandering, bring it back to the object in focus. It’s just you and that thing.

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6. Meditate on your mind

This is a more advanced technique. Close your eyes and think about things, but don’t get involved in the thoughts of them. Pretend your mind is a movie and you are watching it play. Whenever you do find yourself becoming involved, hit pause, remove yourself again and prepare to distance yourself again before you hit play.

7. Meditate on your breath

Sit erect and breathe in through your mouth and out through your nose. Keep your eyes open or you may risk losing concentration; just soften your gaze and focus on one point. After three breaths you will be more aware of your body and your life. Start over from one. This way, ‘one’ is your mantra, and a key word to prevent your mind wandering.

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8. Meditate on silence

In a quiet place it’s easy to think about your body and awareness. But even in a louder area you can find silence. Isolate each element of noise and separate it from the other noises around you. This will allow you to see the parts within the whole.

9. Meditate on time

Time is like a river, except it can’t be dammed. While meditating, think about how long this meditation will last, and consider that the interval of thirty seconds or thirty minutes you spent focused is a mere part of your life that may be repeated a hundred thousand times before you die, and will be repeated ad infinitum until the end of the universe. This period of meditation is a tiny fraction of time in your life and in the history of time. Heady, huh?

Featured photo credit: Byodo-in Temple, Center of Meditation via Bigstock Photos

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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