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5 Positive Truths Only Plus-Sized People Would Understand

5 Positive Truths Only Plus-Sized People Would Understand

As someone who has spent the first 25 years of my own life as a plus-sized person, and then losing over 125 pounds – I can tell you that there are many appalling things I figured out from living on both sides, but there are also certain positive truths that only a plus-sized person would really understand and appreciate about being heavier than the average person.

1. They don’t notice and aren’t generally bothered by a 5 pound weight loss or gain.

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    Sure, they think about going on a diet from time to time, but an unexpected five pound loss or gain does not physically show on the outside of a plus-sized person’s body. Unless they are constantly monitoring their weight on a bathroom scale, they usually have no idea and don’t care about a minimal loss or gain. Many body-image obsessed people are filled with anxiety every single day over any change in their weight, but plus-sized people generally aren’t troubled about it. They look in the mirror each day and see the same person every time. Five pounds is not a big deal that they freak over out and compulsively worry about.

    2. They use their minds and hard work to earn the respect of others.

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      It’s no lie that having good looks has it’s advantages, but those of us who were not so fortunate had to work hard and use our brains to achieve any sort of success. This determination and sense of responsibility shaped us into stronger individuals. Successful plus-sized individuals are some of the most passionate, diligent people you will ever encounter. Despite popular believe, overweight people are not lazy just because they are a bigger size. Their bigger size only means that they often have to work twice as hard to get what their slimmer counterparts get at an easier price. This can be a good thing because it builds character that many average-sized folks probably lack.

      3. They have a thick skin.

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        Let’s face it, if they grew-up overweight like I did, they got bullied and pick on by kids and adults alike. They grew used to the name calling and farm animal sounds being made in their direction. They learn early that not everyone is going to like them, and they accept it. It’s not that they expected to be insulted at any given moment – it’s just that when it happens, it is not a surprise that shocks and hurts them as much as an average-sized person might be hurt by it.

        4. They have a great sense of humor.

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          For many plus-sized people, the only way to get positive attention and make people happy is to be the funny guy or gal. And they tend to be the funniest people that you’ll ever know. They are so incredibly talented with their skill to make others laugh, they should seriously have their own prime time comedy sitcom. Everyone loves someone who can make them laugh until they cry or pee their pants. Plus-sized people own this skill better than most normal sized people.

          5. They aren’t bothered by going out to eat in public.

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            They can eat whatever they want and not be bother by what other people think. They are used to people frequently giving them looks of judgement anyways. If they make an attempt to eat healthfully, onlookers gawk; if they eat terribly, people continue to think they’re slowly killing themselves. Damned if they do and damned if they don’t – they may as well enjoy that all-you-can-eat buffet. They also aren’t looking at calorie counts on menus and doing math in their mind to determine if their meal is going to make them gain half of a pound or not. They simply just don’t care.

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            10 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying and Start Living Today

            10 Powerful Ways to Stop Worrying and Start Living Today

            Plato knew that the body and mind are intimately linked. And in the late 1800s, the Mayo brothers, famous physicians, estimated that over half of all hospital beds are filled with people suffering from frustration, anxiety, worry and despair. Causes of worry are everywhere, in our relationships and our jobs, so it’s key we find ways to take charge of the stress.

            In his classic book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, Dale Carnegie offers tools to ditch excessive worrying that help you make a worry-free environment for your private and professional life.

            These are the top 10 tips to grab worry by the horns and wrestle it to the ground:

            1. Make Your Decision and Never Look Back

            Have you ever made a decision in life only to second-guess it afterwards? Of course you have! It’s hard not to wonder whether you’ve done the right thing and whether there might still be time to take another path.

            But keep this in mind: you’ve already made your decision, so act decisively on it and dismiss all your anxiety about it.

            Don’t stop to hesitate, to reconsider, or to retrace your steps. Once you’ve chosen a course of action, stick to it and never waver.

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            2. Live for Today, Package Things up in “Day-Tight Compartments”

            You know that feeling: tossing, turning and worrying over something that happened or something that might, well into the wee hours. To avoid this pointless worrying, you need “day-tight compartments”. Much as a ship has different watertight compartments, your own “day-tight” ones are a way to limit your attention to the present day.

            The rule is simple: whatever happened in the past or might happen in the future must not intrude upon today. Everything else has to wait its turn for tomorrow’s box or stay stuck in the past.

            3. Embrace the Worst-Case Scenario and Strategize to Offset It

            If you’re worried about something, ask yourself: “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” Could you lose your job? Be jailed? Get killed?

            Whatever the “worst” might be, it’s probably not so world-ending. You could probably even bounce back from it!

            If, for example, you lose your job, you could always find another. Once you accept the worst-case scenario and get thinking about contingency plans, you’ll feel calmer.

            4. Put a Lid on Your Worrying

            Sometimes we stress endlessly about negative experiences when just walking away from them would serve us far better.

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            To make squashing that worry easier, try this strategy, straight from stock traders: it’s called the “stop-loss” order, where shares are bought at a certain price, and then their price development is observed. If things go badly and the share price hits a certain point, they are sold off immediately. This stops the loss from increasing further.

            In the same manner, you can put a stop-loss order on things that cause you stress and grief.

            5. Fake It ‘Til You Make It – Happiness, That Is

            We can’t directly influence how we feel, but we can nudge ourselves to change through how we think and act.

            If you’re feeling sad or low, slap a big grin on your face and whistle a chipper tune. You’ll find it impossible to be blue when acting cheerful. But you don’t necessarily need to act outwardly happy; you can simply think happier thoughts instead.

            Marcus Aurelius summed it up aptly:

            “Our life is what our thoughts make it.”

            6. Give for the Joy of Giving

            When we perform acts of kindness, we often do so with the expectation of gratitude. But harboring such expectations will probably leave you disappointed.

            One person well aware of this fact was the lawyer Samuel Leibowitz. Over the course of his career, Leibowitz saved 78 people from going to the electric chair. Guess how many thanked him? None.

            So stop expecting gratitude when you’re kind to someone. Instead, take joy from the act yourself.

            7. Dump Envy – Enjoy Being Uniquely You

            Your genes are completely unique. Even if someone had the same parents as you, the likelihood of someone identical to you being born is just one in 300,000 billion.

            Despite this amazing fact, many of us long to be someone else, thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. But living your life this way is pointless. Embrace your uniqueness and get comfortable with who you really are: How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want

            8. Haters Will Hate — It Just Means You’re Doing It Right

            When you’re criticized, it often means you’re accomplishing something noteworthy. In fact, let’s take it a step further and consider this: the more you’re criticized, the more influential and important a person you likely are.

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            So the next time somebody talks you down, don’t let it get to you. Take it as a compliment!

            9. Chill Out! Learn to Rest Before You Get Tired

            Scientists agree that emotions are the most common cause of fatigue. And it works the other way around, too: fatigue produces more worries and negative emotions.

            It should be clear, therefore, that you’ve got to relax regularly before you feel tired. Otherwise, worries and fatigue will accumulate on top of each other.

            It’s impossible to worry when you are relaxed, and regular rest helps you maintain your ability to work effectively.

            10. Get Organized and Enjoy Your Work

            There are few greater sources of misery in life than having to work, day in, day out, in a job you despise. It would make sense then that you shouldn’t pick a job you hate, or even just dislike doing.

            But say you already have a job. How can you make it more enjoyable and worry-free? One way is to stay organized: a desk full of unanswered mails and memos is sure to breed worries.

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            Better yet, rethink about the job you’re doing: What to Do When You Hate Your Job but Want a Successful Career

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