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5 Positive Truths Only Plus-Sized People Would Understand

5 Positive Truths Only Plus-Sized People Would Understand

As someone who has spent the first 25 years of my own life as a plus-sized person, and then losing over 125 pounds – I can tell you that there are many appalling things I figured out from living on both sides, but there are also certain positive truths that only a plus-sized person would really understand and appreciate about being heavier than the average person.

1. They don’t notice and aren’t generally bothered by a 5 pound weight loss or gain.

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    Sure, they think about going on a diet from time to time, but an unexpected five pound loss or gain does not physically show on the outside of a plus-sized person’s body. Unless they are constantly monitoring their weight on a bathroom scale, they usually have no idea and don’t care about a minimal loss or gain. Many body-image obsessed people are filled with anxiety every single day over any change in their weight, but plus-sized people generally aren’t troubled about it. They look in the mirror each day and see the same person every time. Five pounds is not a big deal that they freak over out and compulsively worry about.

    2. They use their minds and hard work to earn the respect of others.

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      It’s no lie that having good looks has it’s advantages, but those of us who were not so fortunate had to work hard and use our brains to achieve any sort of success. This determination and sense of responsibility shaped us into stronger individuals. Successful plus-sized individuals are some of the most passionate, diligent people you will ever encounter. Despite popular believe, overweight people are not lazy just because they are a bigger size. Their bigger size only means that they often have to work twice as hard to get what their slimmer counterparts get at an easier price. This can be a good thing because it builds character that many average-sized folks probably lack.

      3. They have a thick skin.

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        Let’s face it, if they grew-up overweight like I did, they got bullied and pick on by kids and adults alike. They grew used to the name calling and farm animal sounds being made in their direction. They learn early that not everyone is going to like them, and they accept it. It’s not that they expected to be insulted at any given moment – it’s just that when it happens, it is not a surprise that shocks and hurts them as much as an average-sized person might be hurt by it.

        4. They have a great sense of humor.

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          For many plus-sized people, the only way to get positive attention and make people happy is to be the funny guy or gal. And they tend to be the funniest people that you’ll ever know. They are so incredibly talented with their skill to make others laugh, they should seriously have their own prime time comedy sitcom. Everyone loves someone who can make them laugh until they cry or pee their pants. Plus-sized people own this skill better than most normal sized people.

          5. They aren’t bothered by going out to eat in public.

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            They can eat whatever they want and not be bother by what other people think. They are used to people frequently giving them looks of judgement anyways. If they make an attempt to eat healthfully, onlookers gawk; if they eat terribly, people continue to think they’re slowly killing themselves. Damned if they do and damned if they don’t – they may as well enjoy that all-you-can-eat buffet. They also aren’t looking at calorie counts on menus and doing math in their mind to determine if their meal is going to make them gain half of a pound or not. They simply just don’t care.

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            Last Updated on January 3, 2020

            The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

            The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

            Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

            The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

            1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

            Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

             I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

            To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

            And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

             2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

            Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

            3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

            Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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            4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

            The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

            5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

            Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

            6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

            Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

            7. Positive people smile a lot!

            When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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            8. People who are positive are great communicators.

            They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

            9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

            One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

            10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

            Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

            How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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            I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

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