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15 Signs You Have The Coolest Grandparents Ever

15 Signs You Have The Coolest Grandparents Ever

My grandmother is turning ninety-seven this year. She wears leopard pants, she likes off-colored jokes, and she has been known to split a beer with anyone who cares to join her. Some of my best memories are of her diving into the pool fully clothed to celebrate her 80th birthday, or at a funeral when she was in her mid 80’s she leaned over and said “I like this church, next time I get married I will do it here”. She has been a source of joy, inspiration, and support throughout my life in a way that prompted me to think about what it is that makes grandparents so cool.

They Rock Their Style

Whether it’s a kitty cat sweatshirt that came with matching socks or a leopard print dress by Betsey Johnson, one thing cool grandparents know is that they are not subject to fashion rules or trends. They are comfortable enough in their own skin to wear what feels good and this comfort makes them look good too.

They Aren’t Afraid To Show Emotion

My grandmother cries every time she sees me. Joy when I arrive and sadness when I leave. I love how with age, emotions surface.We spend much of our lives suppressing emotions. Seeing emotions expressed with ease and comfort is inspiring.

They Still Learn New Things

Really cool grandparents are up for paddle-boarding or traveling to exotic locations. They see the third act of life as an opportunity to tick off the to-do list that got put aside when they were busy parenting. When you hear the phrase “never too old” you totally think of them.

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They Aren’t Waiting to Die – Cool Grandparents Are Too Busy Living

I am inspired when I see people like Harlan Sanders who started KFC when he was 62. Most people think that the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s are the years to be wrapping stuff up. Instead the really cool grans are seeking opportunities for new beginnings. According to Bill Zinke, founder of the Center for Productive Longevity  “Older people possess something younger people lack: namely experience, expertise, judgment, and performance.”

They Have Better Stories than TV

Having a rich personal history is proven to be a trait of a happy people. Reminiscing about how they overcame hardships, how they persevered, or how they remained optimistic in tough times helps to keep them positive and it shares this positivity with their loved ones.

Rules Don’t Apply To Them

Grandparents think you should follow the rules but they are happy to sneak an extra piece of pie or to cut the cue at the movies. They understand making lemonade from lemons. And why not? There have to be some benefits to aging!

They Have Candy in Their Purse or Pocket

Grandparents recognize that a little bit of sugar or gluten isn’t the end of the world. Sure moderation is a virtue but they enjoy being the source of their grandchild’s special treats. They always look for opportunities (even tiny ones) to spread joy.

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They Don’t Dwell on the Past

They live in the now. Sure their rich personal history has shaped them, but they discuss current events and want to hear your dreams. They lived the past but think about the future..

They Listen

Good conversation is a delicate balance of speaking and listening. They have mastered listening and know that a great communicator listens more than he speaks.

They Hold The Family Together

Even when you aren’t together, the family tree projects that come home from school remind you that they are the roots. If it weren’t for them, you wouldn’t be here, after all.

They Are Generous With Their Time & Money

They remember what it was like parenting and they offer to hang out with their grandchildren so their children can recharge. They know that $20 in a card and an extra $5 slipped into your pocket as they leave really make you smile.

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They Have a Passion

They might be environmentalists or politically inclined. They use their time doing something valuable and making a difference.

They Know How to Text

This doesn’t mean they spend a lot of time on devices, but they can respond to you and use technology to keep connected.

They Are On Facebook

Having a news feed filled with the people and projects they are passionate about gives them a sense of connection. Sure they may need you to explain the difference between a post and a private message a few times but once they get it, watch out or your baby photos might go viral!

They Spend Time Outside

Some like to garden, others hike. Cool grandparents recognize that spending time in nature is the best way to recharge.

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If your grandparents are even one thing from this list, go give them a hug and thank them! If they are all fifteen, forward this to them and feel blessed that you have the coolest grandparents ever.

Love you Grandma! xo

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

    Featured photo credit: Matt Noble via unsplash.com

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