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15 Signs You Have The Coolest Grandparents Ever

15 Signs You Have The Coolest Grandparents Ever

My grandmother is turning ninety-seven this year. She wears leopard pants, she likes off-colored jokes, and she has been known to split a beer with anyone who cares to join her. Some of my best memories are of her diving into the pool fully clothed to celebrate her 80th birthday, or at a funeral when she was in her mid 80’s she leaned over and said “I like this church, next time I get married I will do it here”. She has been a source of joy, inspiration, and support throughout my life in a way that prompted me to think about what it is that makes grandparents so cool.

They Rock Their Style

Whether it’s a kitty cat sweatshirt that came with matching socks or a leopard print dress by Betsey Johnson, one thing cool grandparents know is that they are not subject to fashion rules or trends. They are comfortable enough in their own skin to wear what feels good and this comfort makes them look good too.

They Aren’t Afraid To Show Emotion

My grandmother cries every time she sees me. Joy when I arrive and sadness when I leave. I love how with age, emotions surface.We spend much of our lives suppressing emotions. Seeing emotions expressed with ease and comfort is inspiring.

They Still Learn New Things

Really cool grandparents are up for paddle-boarding or traveling to exotic locations. They see the third act of life as an opportunity to tick off the to-do list that got put aside when they were busy parenting. When you hear the phrase “never too old” you totally think of them.

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They Aren’t Waiting to Die – Cool Grandparents Are Too Busy Living

I am inspired when I see people like Harlan Sanders who started KFC when he was 62. Most people think that the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s are the years to be wrapping stuff up. Instead the really cool grans are seeking opportunities for new beginnings. According to Bill Zinke, founder of the Center for Productive Longevity  “Older people possess something younger people lack: namely experience, expertise, judgment, and performance.”

They Have Better Stories than TV

Having a rich personal history is proven to be a trait of a happy people. Reminiscing about how they overcame hardships, how they persevered, or how they remained optimistic in tough times helps to keep them positive and it shares this positivity with their loved ones.

Rules Don’t Apply To Them

Grandparents think you should follow the rules but they are happy to sneak an extra piece of pie or to cut the cue at the movies. They understand making lemonade from lemons. And why not? There have to be some benefits to aging!

They Have Candy in Their Purse or Pocket

Grandparents recognize that a little bit of sugar or gluten isn’t the end of the world. Sure moderation is a virtue but they enjoy being the source of their grandchild’s special treats. They always look for opportunities (even tiny ones) to spread joy.

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They Don’t Dwell on the Past

They live in the now. Sure their rich personal history has shaped them, but they discuss current events and want to hear your dreams. They lived the past but think about the future..

They Listen

Good conversation is a delicate balance of speaking and listening. They have mastered listening and know that a great communicator listens more than he speaks.

They Hold The Family Together

Even when you aren’t together, the family tree projects that come home from school remind you that they are the roots. If it weren’t for them, you wouldn’t be here, after all.

They Are Generous With Their Time & Money

They remember what it was like parenting and they offer to hang out with their grandchildren so their children can recharge. They know that $20 in a card and an extra $5 slipped into your pocket as they leave really make you smile.

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They Have a Passion

They might be environmentalists or politically inclined. They use their time doing something valuable and making a difference.

They Know How to Text

This doesn’t mean they spend a lot of time on devices, but they can respond to you and use technology to keep connected.

They Are On Facebook

Having a news feed filled with the people and projects they are passionate about gives them a sense of connection. Sure they may need you to explain the difference between a post and a private message a few times but once they get it, watch out or your baby photos might go viral!

They Spend Time Outside

Some like to garden, others hike. Cool grandparents recognize that spending time in nature is the best way to recharge.

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If your grandparents are even one thing from this list, go give them a hug and thank them! If they are all fifteen, forward this to them and feel blessed that you have the coolest grandparents ever.

Love you Grandma! xo

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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