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When Feeling Down, These 22 Things Will Put A Smile On Your Face

When Feeling Down, These 22 Things Will Put A Smile On Your Face

When you’re feeling down, it can be hard to turn your mood around. Whether you’re stressed, dealing with professional or personal problems, or just plain in a rut, simple pick-me-ups can make all the difference. Just take a deep breath, and let our favourite smile worthy topics ease the negativity from your mind. No matter why you’re feeling down, these 22 rays of sunshine will help you pick yourself back up. 

 

Anjana The Chimpanzee Raises Tiger Cubs

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    At The Institute of Greatly Endangered and Rare Species (TIGERS) in South Carolina, a two year old chimpanzee is inseparable from her human caretakers. Named Anjana, this adorable chimp has learned how to care for others. Most notably acting as surrogate mother for two white tiger cubs, Anjana’s selfless love will make any day brighter.

     

     This Genius Artist

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       Never underestimate the power of laughter when you’re feeling down.

       

      COMACO Helps People And Animals

      At Community Markets for Conservation (COMACO), conservationists struggled to fight poaching in Zambia. However, in 2001, the group changed tactics. Instead of focusing on how to beat poachers, they tried to understand why people need to poach. What the organization uncovered was villages deeply struggling with poverty. The group changed their approach and started looking at how to employ poachers in other markets. Since 2001, COMACO has helped over 650 poachers train in other industries, mainly farming. This has increased employment and income for the villagers, while drastically decreasing the number of slain endangered animals. A small start, that’s making big waves, towards a brighter future for everyone.

       

      This Guy’s Jig

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        Though it’s short, this little dance gets funnier the longer you watch.

        This Dog’s Jig

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          Don’t forget to do a little dance when you’re feeling down. It’s seems silly, but sometimes silliness is the best antidote for the blues.

           

          This Pig Adopted Tiger Cubs

          At the Chimelong Xiangjiang Safari Park in China, this pig adopted three tiger cubs abandoned by their biological mother. There is nothing like a tiger cub cuddling up to it’s baby pig sibling to make you go “Aww”.

           

          Stylish Matrix Moves

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            This guy’s endless Matrix ollie is one of the better internet edits. Focus on his smug head nod for an instant chuckle.

             

            Neighbors Really Do Care

            In Chesterfield, Virginia, a community rallied together after a local young man delivering pizza was robbed. Stopped at gunpoint, he lost a little over $100 dollars. After hearing about the incident, some neighbors pitched in and ordered a pizza. When he arrived, they gave him a mega tip, more than doubling the amount he lost. More simple proof that humanity shouldn’t always get you feeling down.

             

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            Even When You’re Feeling Down, Little Miracles Happen

            A young girl in San Francisco is a hero after she remembered an important rule during a house fire. When a fire broke out in the kitchen, Galaxy Kong was the only one who woke up. Only 9 years old, Galaxy calmly woke up her dad and led him to safety. The two escaped out of a second story window before the blaze spread upstairs. Most importantly, Galaxy remembered to block the bottom of the door with a towel. This stops smoke from pouring into a room, saving crucial oxygen. In this case, this rule likely allowed Galaxy and her dad enough time to escape.

             

            You’ve Never Been Pranked Like This

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              …Or This

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                …unless you’re the ones in the GIFs, in which case, our condolences.

                 

                Internet On The Moon

                Not only are we now in an age where you can get internet on the moon via a giant laser, this leap in innovation will have important applications. The new means of transmitting data is much faster than our current ways of communicating in space. This means our weather monitoring, storm prediction, and wild fire data will soon reach us much quicker, and be much more advanced. At the very least, giant moon lasers should help you feel better.

                 

                333 People In A Row Pay It Forward

                When you’re feeling down, remember that at a Florida Starbucks, 333 customers in a row paid for a stranger’s coffee. The chain of generosity started when one customer in the Drive-Thru opted to pay their bill, as well as the car’s behind them. The next car received their order for free, so decided to pay for the car behind theirs too. The kindness continued for around nine hours, all between total strangers. No word yet on how the 334th person managed to miss the memo. 

                 

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                The World’s Smoothest Goat

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                  A little proof we can ride out our mistakes.

                   

                  #JewsAndArabsRefuseToBeEnemies

                  No matter how bad things get, it’s an instant mood boost to see unconditional love. Despite conflicts in the Middle East, Jews and Arabs around the world have taken to Twitter to express their love for everyone. The hashtag #JewsAndArabsRefuseToBeEnemies became popular in July this year, showcasing beautiful sentiments and understanding. Watching others come together during troubling times can turn even the toughest day around.

                   

                  Sometimes, The Timing Is Perfect

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                    Even though you’re feeling low now, things in the future might align better.

                     

                    Sometimes, Everything Works Out

                    Despite huge odds, this minor league baseball player’s dad caught his first home run. What is the likelihood the ball would be anywhere near his dad’s side of the field? When feeling down, don’t forget that incredible things do happen.

                     

                    Sometimes, The Stars Do Align

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                    Similarly, don’t forget that lucky breaks do happen.

                     

                    Karma Can Come For The Jerks In Life

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                      When other people have you feeling down, try to remember that what goes around, comes around.

                       

                      Hard Work Pays Off For Formerly Homeless Valedictorian

                      If the challenges you’re facing have you feeling down, don’t forget that your potential is infinite. A high school student in Florida recently showcased this when he overcame homelessness and personal tragedy to graduate top of his class. Not only is he valedictorian, the student gained enough money to attend college debt free through online fund raising efforts. Proof we can all overcome the challenges we face, even if it looks impossible.

                       

                      Selfless People Still Exist

                      When you’re feeling down, it’s easy to paint everything the same negative color. Keep in mind that lovely people just like you are still out there, making the world go round.

                       

                      Selfless Cities Still Exist

                      Last year, tens of thousands of people showed up to make a San Francisco cancer patient’s wish come true. With the help of Batman, the little tyke rescued the city several times over as Batkid. The police, local sports teams and everyday citizens all got involved to make this dream come true. When you’re feeling down, remember that society still has plenty of bright spots.

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                      6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

                      6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

                      Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

                      While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

                      1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

                      Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

                      If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

                      In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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                      2. They Make Everything Transactional

                      Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

                      For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

                      Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

                      A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

                      Some statements to be wary of include:

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                      • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
                      • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
                      • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
                      • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

                      3. They Criticize Everything

                      One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

                      However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

                      Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

                      • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
                      • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
                      • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
                      • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

                      4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

                      We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

                      For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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                      This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

                      5. They Socially Isolate You

                      Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

                      Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

                      This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

                      In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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                      6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

                      It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

                      Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

                      Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

                      • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
                      • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
                      • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
                      • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

                      Final Thoughts

                      It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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