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Unexpected Benefits to Looking at Your Failed Dating Life Positively

Unexpected Benefits to Looking at Your Failed Dating Life Positively

When you’re single, spending time with your extended family or attending a friend’s wedding can be overwhelming. Everyone wants to know who you are dating or when you think you will find your other half. It’s not hard for all these questions to feel like judgments and ultimately make you feel low. But what happens if you rise above the interrogations and answer every query with an awesome tale of your dating adventures and the hilarity that ensued? Is it possible to go from being pitied to envied by merely shifting how you view your life?

See the Humor in the Situation

It should be no surprise that men are attracted to women who have a bright spirit. Those who smile and give off a positive energy about where they are in their life and what their goals are exude an aura that is attractive. On the contrary women who are miserable, have a grumpy face and only talk about their life’s woes are likely to push away a potential suitor. It is essential to keep this in mind as you date.

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When you meet someone new, instead of being bogged down and assuming this date will be as bad as the last, take humor from the situation. Use your past bad dates to fuel your future meetups. In every bad date there is a funny story. Revel in this fact. You now have something to bond over on your next date! Chances are he has some stories to share as well. Now you have a common ground to connect on. When you are laughing on your dates you are going to be giving off that positive energy and extracting good, genuine qualities from him. It’s how you perceive your past dates that is going to make or break the upcoming ones.

Take Control of Your Own Story

Similarly when it comes to pesky friends and family (we love you, but back off), it’s time to write your life the way you want it to be. People only judge you based on how you tell your life story. So, if you sit around talking about how lonely and miserable you are and how every man you’ve met has been a total loser, you are fueling people to look at your life as a mess. When you present your dating life as the great adventure and journey that it is, you create a reality to be envied. As the saying goes, the grass is always greener, meaning that your married friends and family are going to be envious of your life!

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Don’t Get in a Dating Rut, Mix It Up!

There is excitement that comes with getting all dolled up and meeting new people. Hopefully you are getting to try new restaurants and go to museums or baseball games. Your dating life is as interesting and awesome as you let it be. Many men don’t like having to think up all the plans, so if there is an adventure you want to take, you should suggest it! Not every date needs to be drinks or dinner; experience life, try new things! I guarantee when your attitude changes about your dating life, those around you will change how they talk to you. They will be dying to hear your latest saga instead of pressuring you to go on a blind date with their friend’s friend.

Reality Is How You Perceive It to Be

Lastly, a change in your perception is going to benefit you! You have the choice to be a happy person! The benefits of choosing to see your failed dates as funny little life journeys is good for your soul. Seriously, what good is being miserable? Take the first step to realize that the reason you haven’t met your match is because you simply have not met your match! Thank goodness you are still on your journey and not committed to the wrong person! There is so much you can learn about yourself and what you’re looking for in a mate when you take the time to date and be the best you you can be. Don’t you want to meet someone else who is being their best self? It is so important to put out the best parts of our personality so that we attract a person of that same quality.

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You will be amazed and excited when you start to see how looking at your failed dates in a positive manner has changed your life. Better dates, better friends and family interactions, and an overall better you. It’s alright if your shift in attitude doesn’t come overnight, but start making simple changes. Start by telling a friend the story of your last failed date in an upbeat manner. Find the humor, the adventure and the lesson from that experience. The more effort you put in to changing your attitude, the quicker it will become your reality and the more likely you are to feel great!

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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