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Top 8 Reasons Why You SHOULD Get Angry

Top 8 Reasons Why You SHOULD Get Angry

People often like to seek advice for how they can be happy. While I think being happy is great, there are times when we need to recognize WHY we should get angry.  I don’t mean force yourself to be angry, or become an angry person, but to release it when you need to. No Guru or teacher should ever tell you that getting angry is wrong. Read on to find out why.

Have you ever been told to stay calm, respond instead of reacting, or to turn the other cheek only to be slapped again? For a short time I thought this was OK, but that’s not the case. Anger is necessary; it’s an emotion that should be used and not suppressed.

Let us look closely at 8 reasons why you should get angry.

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1. When someone you love dies.

There are some people who would tell you that it is OK, that it was their time to go, so be happy that they lived a great life. I know—let’s celebrate.  No. In my opinion, you should be angry—very angry—that you have lost someone dear to you that you will never see again.  Ever.

2. Because your life sucks.

Or at least, you think it does. You may have people come up to you and say “cheer up, it can’t be that bad” or “it will get better” or even something like, “isn’t life just great?” where at that point, you want to do something you may regret. Your life sucks right now, and guess what? Be angry if you want; you have the right to be.

3. Someone hurts you.

People can cause you harm intentionally or not. When this happens to you, often it will be natural for you to get a little “ticked” off, maybe a little angry of course, depending on the situation. The fact still remains that you’re hurt, and it is all right to be angry about it.

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4. You’re broke.

So picture this—unforeseen circumstances (and other worldly factors) have left you broke, you’re barely scraping through to be able to feed your family, but at the same time, you have dreams and goals you hope to someday (soon) be able to achieve. You want to travel and see the world, help other people and make a difference. But it’s impossible (right now). The frustration!

It’s normal that at some point you get angry.

5. Someone takes you for a fool.

You’re a good person, right? You’re always helping other people out. You’re kind, bubbly, and happy most of the time, and you would do anything to see others be happy. Then someone abuses you; they take advantage and use your kindness as a weakness. What are you going to do? Well, maybe you’ll warn them not to take advantage of you. But they carry on, so what do you do now? You can’t walk away because they’ll do it again. Use your anger to let them know you are not someone who allows others to walk all over them.

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6. Your lover cheats on you.

I think this goes without explanation.

7. The system sucks.

Why are some people in the world so rich they could house, feed and clothe every person on the planet, while on the other hand, people are starving and dying of hunger. Do you think this is normal? When you wake up and realize that this is part of a plan, you will be angry—very angry. Think about it and ask yourself, “why are people starving all over the world, living below the poverty line in 2014?” Wake up! Begin living on a conscious level and question everything that is going on around you.

8. Someone steals from you.

This is downright wrong! Plain and simple. Anyone who lets someone take anything away from them physically or emotionally is being abused. This SHOULD make you angry. Period.

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In the Bible, Jesus got angry in the temple. Remember?  Anger is a release mechanism that allows you to deal with things that are not right. Anger is a necessary part of life, even if no one talks about it. The incredible hulk got angry. Why? Because he wanted to be left alone, but wasn’t.

Anger is temporary—temporary, but useful.  It’s useful because it’s a release of an emotion and also because it can guide you to take action on the things you don’t like. For example, if you don’t like something in your life that does make you angry, it can allow you to make changes to improve your life. I hope this “unconventional” way of looking at anger improves your life. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

Featured photo credit: Abi Skipp via flickr.com

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Last Updated on December 16, 2018

12 Simple Ways You Can Build A Positive Attitude

12 Simple Ways You Can Build A Positive Attitude

We all look for a better and happier life, but somehow we realize it’s our attitude that makes it hard to lead the life we want. How can we build a positive attitude? Grant Mathews has listed out the things (from the easiest to the hardest) we can do to cultivate this attitude on Quora:

1. Listen to good music.

Music definitely improves your mood, and it’s a really simple thing to do.

2. Don’t watch television passively.

Studies have shown that people who watch TV less are happier, which leads me to my next point…

3. Don’t do anything passively.

Whenever I do something, I like to ask myself if, at the end of the day, I would be content saying that I had spent time doing it. (This is why I block sites I find myself wasting too much time on. I enjoy them, but they’re just not worth it when I could be learning something new, or working on projects I care about.)

Time is incredibly valuable.

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4. Be aware of negativity

A community that considers itself intelligent tends to be negativity because criticizing is seen as a signaling mechanism to indicate that you’re more intelligent than the person you corrected. This was irrationally frustrating for me – it’s one of those things you’ll stay up all night to think about.

5. Make time to be alone.

I initially said “take time just to be alone.” I changed it because if you don’t ensure you can take a break, you’ll surely be interrupted.

Being with other people is something you can do to make you happy, but I don’t include it in this list because nearly everyone finds time to talk with friends. On the other hand, spending time just with yourself is almost considered a taboo.

Take some time to figure out who you are.

6. Exercise.

This is the best way to improve your immediate happiness.

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Exercise probably makes you happy. Try and go on a run. You’ll hate yourself while doing it, but the gratification that you get towards the end vastly outweighs the frustration of the first few attempts. I can’t say enough good things about exercise.

Exercising is also fantastic because it gives you time alone.

7. Have projects.

Having a goal, and moving towards it, is a key to happiness.

You have to realize though that achieving the goal is not necessarily what makes you happy – it’s the process. When I write music, I write it because writing is inherently enjoyable, not because I want to get popular (as if!).

8. Take time to do the things you enjoy.

That’s very general, so let me give you a good example.

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One of the things that has really changed my life was finding small communities centered around activities I enjoy. For instance, I like writing music, so I’m part of a community that meets up to write a song for an hour every week. I love the community. I’ve also written a song every week, 37 weeks in a row, which has gradually moved me towards larger goals and makes me feel very satisfied.

9. Change your definition of happiness.

Another reason I think I’m more happy than other people is because my definition of happiness is a lot more relaxed than most people’s. I don’t seek for some sort of constant euphoria; I don’t think it’s possible to live like that. My happiness is closer to stability.

10. Ignore things that don’t make you happy.

I get varying reactions to this one.

The argument goes “if something is making you unhappy, then you should find out why and improve it, not ignore it.” If you can do that, great. But on the other hand, there’s no reason to mope about a bad score on a test.

There’s another counterargument: perhaps you’re moping because your brain is trying to work out how to improve. In fact, this is the key purpose of depression: Depression’s Upside – NYTimes.com

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I can think of examples that go both ways. I remember, for instance, when I was debating a year or two ago and my partner and I would lose a round, I would mull over what we had done wrong for a long time. In that way, I got immensely better at debate (and public speaking in general – did you know debate has amazing effects on your public speaking ability? But now I really digress).

On the other hand, there’s no way that mulling over how dumb you were for missing that +x term on the left hand side will make you better at math. So stop worrying about it, and go practice math instead.

11. Find a way to measure your progress, and then measure it.

Video games are addictive for a reason: filling up an experience bar and making it to the next level is immensely satisfying. I think that it would be really cool if we could apply this concept to the real world.

I put this near the bottom of the list because, unfortunately, this hasn’t been done too often in the real world – startup idea, anyone? So you would have to do it yourself, which is difficult when you don’t even know how much you’ve progressed.

For a while, I kept a log of the runs I had taken, and my average speed. It was really cool to see my improvement over the weeks. (Also, I was exercising. Combining the two was fantastic for boosting happiness.)

12. Realize that happiness is an evolutionary reward, not an objective truth.

It’s easy to see that this is correct, but this is at the bottom of the list for a reason.

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