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Top 8 Reasons Why You SHOULD Get Angry

Top 8 Reasons Why You SHOULD Get Angry

People often like to seek advice for how they can be happy. While I think being happy is great, there are times when we need to recognize WHY we should get angry.  I don’t mean force yourself to be angry, or become an angry person, but to release it when you need to. No Guru or teacher should ever tell you that getting angry is wrong. Read on to find out why.

Have you ever been told to stay calm, respond instead of reacting, or to turn the other cheek only to be slapped again? For a short time I thought this was OK, but that’s not the case. Anger is necessary; it’s an emotion that should be used and not suppressed.

Let us look closely at 8 reasons why you should get angry.

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1. When someone you love dies.

There are some people who would tell you that it is OK, that it was their time to go, so be happy that they lived a great life. I know—let’s celebrate.  No. In my opinion, you should be angry—very angry—that you have lost someone dear to you that you will never see again.  Ever.

2. Because your life sucks.

Or at least, you think it does. You may have people come up to you and say “cheer up, it can’t be that bad” or “it will get better” or even something like, “isn’t life just great?” where at that point, you want to do something you may regret. Your life sucks right now, and guess what? Be angry if you want; you have the right to be.

3. Someone hurts you.

People can cause you harm intentionally or not. When this happens to you, often it will be natural for you to get a little “ticked” off, maybe a little angry of course, depending on the situation. The fact still remains that you’re hurt, and it is all right to be angry about it.

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4. You’re broke.

So picture this—unforeseen circumstances (and other worldly factors) have left you broke, you’re barely scraping through to be able to feed your family, but at the same time, you have dreams and goals you hope to someday (soon) be able to achieve. You want to travel and see the world, help other people and make a difference. But it’s impossible (right now). The frustration!

It’s normal that at some point you get angry.

5. Someone takes you for a fool.

You’re a good person, right? You’re always helping other people out. You’re kind, bubbly, and happy most of the time, and you would do anything to see others be happy. Then someone abuses you; they take advantage and use your kindness as a weakness. What are you going to do? Well, maybe you’ll warn them not to take advantage of you. But they carry on, so what do you do now? You can’t walk away because they’ll do it again. Use your anger to let them know you are not someone who allows others to walk all over them.

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6. Your lover cheats on you.

I think this goes without explanation.

7. The system sucks.

Why are some people in the world so rich they could house, feed and clothe every person on the planet, while on the other hand, people are starving and dying of hunger. Do you think this is normal? When you wake up and realize that this is part of a plan, you will be angry—very angry. Think about it and ask yourself, “why are people starving all over the world, living below the poverty line in 2014?” Wake up! Begin living on a conscious level and question everything that is going on around you.

8. Someone steals from you.

This is downright wrong! Plain and simple. Anyone who lets someone take anything away from them physically or emotionally is being abused. This SHOULD make you angry. Period.

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In the Bible, Jesus got angry in the temple. Remember?  Anger is a release mechanism that allows you to deal with things that are not right. Anger is a necessary part of life, even if no one talks about it. The incredible hulk got angry. Why? Because he wanted to be left alone, but wasn’t.

Anger is temporary—temporary, but useful.  It’s useful because it’s a release of an emotion and also because it can guide you to take action on the things you don’t like. For example, if you don’t like something in your life that does make you angry, it can allow you to make changes to improve your life. I hope this “unconventional” way of looking at anger improves your life. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

Featured photo credit: Abi Skipp via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Reinvent Yourself and Change Your Life

How to Reinvent Yourself and Change Your Life

There will always be times in your life when you may need to learn how to reinvent yourself. This could come when you experience a big change, such as leaving your job, moving on from a relationship, transferring to a new home, or losing a loved one. If you are going through a major shift in your life, you may have to find new ways of thinking or doing things, or risk failing to reach your full potential.

“When something bad happens, you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you.”

Many people who dared to leave their old unhappy lives enabled themselves to pursue their passions and find a renewed zest for living. You can also achieve the same if you take a leap of faith and make things happen for yourself.

To help you always be at your best wherever you may be in your life, here are some practical tips on how to reinvent yourself.

The Reinvention Checklist

Before embarking on a journey of self-reinvention, you need to make sure that you have everything that you need to make the trip bump-proof. These things include:

Resilience

Problems and obstacles are guaranteed to happen. Some of them will be difficult and may knock you off course; the important thing, however, is that you learn from these difficulties, never lose focus, and always get back up. This requires building resilience to get through the tough times.

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Support

Humans are social beings. Although it is important that you learn to rely on yourself when facing any challenge, it is also important to have a support team that you can lean on to give you a boost when things get too tough and to correct you when you’re making mistakes.

The key is to find the right balance between independence and dependence. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and share the difficulties you’re facing. When you open up, you’ll find the people who are really going to be there for you.

Self-Care

During the process of learning how to reinvent yourself, you will have to pull yourself away from your old comfort zones, habits, roles, and self-perceptions. This can be difficult and cause you to question your self-worth, so it’s important to engage in self-care to maintain a positive outlook and keep your mind and body healthy as you face the challenges that await you. Self-care can include:

  • Participating in a hobby you enjoy
  • Spending time with your support system
  • Taking some time to walk in nature
  • Practicing loving-kindness meditation

Find what works for you and what helps you feel like your true self as you seek a reinvented version of you.

How to Reinvent Yourself

Once you’re sure that you’re equipped with all the tools in the self-reinvention checklist, you can begin your journey of learning how to reinvent yourself.

1. Discover Your Strengths

This step provides valuable information on how you deal with certain situations. If you have this information, you will be able to manage difficulties more efficiently.

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To find out what your strengths are, you can ask your friends and colleagues for feedback, engage in self-reflection, or try these 10 Ways to Find Your Own Personal Strengths.

2. Plan

This step calls for a thorough assessment of your current emotional, psychological, and financial status so that you can develop plans that are realistic and practical.

It’s okay to have ambitious dreams, but your plans have to be realistic. Making use of SMART goals can help you plan your life better.

You can also consult your mentor or life coach for practical tips and advice.

Ultimately, you’ll want to create specific long-term and short-term goals that you can create milestones for. By doing this, you’ll lay out a specific roadmap to your reinvented self.

3. Try Things Out

Sometimes, we don’t know if solutions actually work until we try them out. This is why it is important to experiment whenever possible, especially if you’re dealing with a career change. You may need to simply experiment in order to find the things you like. This can be the same with hobbies. If you’re not sure what you would like doing, accept invitations from friends to join them in their favorite sport or take a class, like pottery or photography.

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By seeing what’s out there in any area of your life, you’ll have a better chance of finding the things you enjoy and the goals you want to create.

4. Manage Your Finances Well

Changes may require a bit of money. If you’re shifting to a new career, you may have to pay for training. If you’re going through a tough divorce or having a hard time dealing with the death of a loved one, you may have to pay for therapy. If you’re moving to a new home, you’ll definitely have to pay a whole lot of expenses.

All of these things are possible, but it will require a bit of money savviness as you learn how to reinvent yourself. If you have that cushion, you’ll feel more comfortable straying from your current path to try new things.

5. Muster Your Courage

Fears and self-doubt may arise when you encounter difficulties and setbacks. Sometimes, they may also come when you’re taking risks. You have to manage these negative emotions well and not allow them to discourage you. Tap into your courage and try doing at least one new thing each week to develop it.

Learn how to deal with your self-doubts to move forward in this article: How Self Doubt Keeps You Stuck (And How to Overcome It)

6. Use Your Support Group

As stated above, you need to build a strong support group before you even start the process of reinventing yourself. Your group will keep you from taking wrong turns and encourage you when you get too weighed down by problems. Don’t be afraid to call them, or even ask them out for coffee if you need to vent about the current difficulties you’re facing.

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7. Remind Yourself Every Day of Your Commitment

Write your goals on different-sized cards and scatter them at home and at work in places where you can easily see them. This way, you will constantly be reminded of where you want to be. Remember, writing down your goals helps them stick[1].

8. Accept Failure, Learn, and Resume Your Journey

Failing is normal, especially when we’re trying out something new. When you fail, simply recognize it, learn from it, and move on. Failure, in the end, is the best way to learn what does and doesn’t work, and you simply won’t be able to learn how to reinvent yourself if you don’t accept the inevitable failures that await you.

Final Thoughts

If you truly want to learn how to reinvent yourself and live the life you desire, take the advice above and start taking action. It will take time, patience, and plenty of effort to make the change you want happen, but it will be all worth it.

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