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Top 8 Reasons Why You SHOULD Get Angry

Top 8 Reasons Why You SHOULD Get Angry

People often like to seek advice for how they can be happy. While I think being happy is great, there are times when we need to recognize WHY we should get angry.  I don’t mean force yourself to be angry, or become an angry person, but to release it when you need to. No Guru or teacher should ever tell you that getting angry is wrong. Read on to find out why.

Have you ever been told to stay calm, respond instead of reacting, or to turn the other cheek only to be slapped again? For a short time I thought this was OK, but that’s not the case. Anger is necessary; it’s an emotion that should be used and not suppressed.

Let us look closely at 8 reasons why you should get angry.

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1. When someone you love dies.

There are some people who would tell you that it is OK, that it was their time to go, so be happy that they lived a great life. I know—let’s celebrate.  No. In my opinion, you should be angry—very angry—that you have lost someone dear to you that you will never see again.  Ever.

2. Because your life sucks.

Or at least, you think it does. You may have people come up to you and say “cheer up, it can’t be that bad” or “it will get better” or even something like, “isn’t life just great?” where at that point, you want to do something you may regret. Your life sucks right now, and guess what? Be angry if you want; you have the right to be.

3. Someone hurts you.

People can cause you harm intentionally or not. When this happens to you, often it will be natural for you to get a little “ticked” off, maybe a little angry of course, depending on the situation. The fact still remains that you’re hurt, and it is all right to be angry about it.

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4. You’re broke.

So picture this—unforeseen circumstances (and other worldly factors) have left you broke, you’re barely scraping through to be able to feed your family, but at the same time, you have dreams and goals you hope to someday (soon) be able to achieve. You want to travel and see the world, help other people and make a difference. But it’s impossible (right now). The frustration!

It’s normal that at some point you get angry.

5. Someone takes you for a fool.

You’re a good person, right? You’re always helping other people out. You’re kind, bubbly, and happy most of the time, and you would do anything to see others be happy. Then someone abuses you; they take advantage and use your kindness as a weakness. What are you going to do? Well, maybe you’ll warn them not to take advantage of you. But they carry on, so what do you do now? You can’t walk away because they’ll do it again. Use your anger to let them know you are not someone who allows others to walk all over them.

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6. Your lover cheats on you.

I think this goes without explanation.

7. The system sucks.

Why are some people in the world so rich they could house, feed and clothe every person on the planet, while on the other hand, people are starving and dying of hunger. Do you think this is normal? When you wake up and realize that this is part of a plan, you will be angry—very angry. Think about it and ask yourself, “why are people starving all over the world, living below the poverty line in 2014?” Wake up! Begin living on a conscious level and question everything that is going on around you.

8. Someone steals from you.

This is downright wrong! Plain and simple. Anyone who lets someone take anything away from them physically or emotionally is being abused. This SHOULD make you angry. Period.

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In the Bible, Jesus got angry in the temple. Remember?  Anger is a release mechanism that allows you to deal with things that are not right. Anger is a necessary part of life, even if no one talks about it. The incredible hulk got angry. Why? Because he wanted to be left alone, but wasn’t.

Anger is temporary—temporary, but useful.  It’s useful because it’s a release of an emotion and also because it can guide you to take action on the things you don’t like. For example, if you don’t like something in your life that does make you angry, it can allow you to make changes to improve your life. I hope this “unconventional” way of looking at anger improves your life. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

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10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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